On Why Men Who Can't Get Women Should Blame Themselves (18)

2 Name: Anonymous : 2006-12-17 05:12 ID:4MWzV1sB

It basically comes down to this. A woman has nothing to gain by entering a relationship with a man who already cares for her. And hence, it seems that women tend to go for the guys who treat them the worst. They may as well! It's the logical choice. If they need care or attention or affection, there will always be men almost literally lined up to give it to them. Practically every guy they've met since they were 13 has in some way probably been trying to fuck them. It's a woman's goal to capture the guy who has something he won't otherwise give to her. Or hence the saying, nice guys finish last.

But this, too, is nothing all that new.

It's not like we can chance how men or women are, and changing oneself is pretty difficult. It may be worth trying, but real results are rare, and when one does achieve it, they're still little better off. The real question is what can we men, who are just by nature nice to women, do about it? Become jerks? It seems like the logical answer, given that the kind of guy the girls go for are usually the jerks. But unfortunately, they are jerks precisely because they can get away with it and still get women. Jerks who don't have anything to offer realize the error of their ways quickly. (But don't necessarily chance them.)

Well, you have to have something she can't get out of you without being in a relationship. Problem is, if you had something like that in the first place, you would have already attracted a woman. The end result is that it's not personality, or character, or anything like that which really makes a difference. You just have to have something special somebody else wants out of you; there's no two ways about it. Maybe you do have something special, but it's not what she wants. Well, you're probably pretty much out of luck.

You can just accept your lot in life and try to live with it. I myself have more female friends than I do male. None of them are interested in me, but they are very friendly and sociable. It's far more than I had in my youth, and I fare far better than a lot of people in a position similar to mine. In some ways, I figure if I can't have a woman of my own, I can still at least enjoy their company. I'm "the friend." You could fight it, you could try hitting on woman after woman, hopping that somebody will happen to want what you have. If that's the road you travel, so be it. I think it makes you a sleaze, but I honestly and truly understand. You may as well try to find a girl before all the good ones are gone and you end up dating somebody you don't even like out of desperation.

So to sum it all up, if you've read this far, you're probably one of the many of us who wonder why you're still so unlucky with the ladies. Well, in short, you just don't have anything they want. No matter how good a friend you are, you're just not the "boyfriend type." In other words, they have you already, why should they bother doing anything for you when they won't get anything more out of it. You're pretty much stuck; there's nothing you can do. You can try to improve your odds, but keep this in mind. Ultimately, it's HER decision if she wants to date you or not. There's not really much you can do about it.

You're in a lonely situation, but keep in mind, there's not really much you can do about it. Either distract yourself with other things, like sports or games or books or something, or give it all you got and go down in a blaze if you have to.

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