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What's your fetish? (35)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-01-31 18:22 ID:OTGi5qlk

Let's see what kind of perverted sick fucks browse this place

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-01-29 19:49 ID:7sjWfM6I

I've got a lot. Lately it's been impregnation. I really get off imagining knocking a girl up or fucking her when she's pregnant. It's weird.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-02 06:51 ID:pqNT6xIz


28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-06-11 05:39 ID:VkbhneG4

I have a lot of fetishes! This list isn't even complete.

  1. Butts.
  2. Happy sex.
  3. Thigh-highs/hose.
  4. Master/slave situation.
  5. Foot licking.
  6. Diapers.
  7. Armpit licking.
  8. Guro.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-08-01 18:21 ID:ko76WGh8


30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-08-25 11:38 ID:ykBvKADw

fetishes are part of romance?

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-06 09:22 ID:G4FpoCp5

My fetish is to use my body to create the next generation.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-07 20:01 ID:RPcNdKfd

I just like big tits and office uniforms. I'm probably the most normal person you'll ever meet.

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34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-17 01:53 ID:tcgMAF2+


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Finding more time to talk to this girl? (11)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-20 07:18 ID:U0wb/Bhr

I've started college recently. There's this quiet girl in my music theory review class that I'd really like to get to know better. Problem is, I have a very small window of opportunity each week to talk to her--the class only meets on Fridays, and she's usually pretty quick to leave as soon as it finishes.

Any advice on how to find or create more chances to interact with her?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-20 21:08 ID:/OxOu43x

talk to her and get her number/kik/steam/skype i dont know

tell her IMMEDIATELY in real life that you have feelings for her

godspeed OP

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-21 03:12 ID:a5VeM9UQ

I dunno about straight up confessing immediately, but I'll at least give getting a number or something a shot this Friday. Wish me luck, pal

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-24 14:02 ID:V7/4z7gk

How did it go, OP?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-24 19:28 ID:IY/3pF+v

Not bad, I think. I actually ran into her on Wednesday, talked a bit between classes and found out she's apparently a fashion major and music minor. Yesterday I figured it might be a bit early on in the progress of things to be asking for her number so it was more a matter of just talking with her some after class. As it turns out she's sort of shit at the class and I'm really solid with the material, so we struck a deal that I'll help her out with theory if she helps me learn some about fashion design and whatnot.

I think this coming week I'll ask her if she wants to hang out somewhere for a bit, good idea at this point or not really?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-26 13:25 ID:Ot1E/QUf

It's probably a good idea. Meet over coffee or something to discuss that class material. I would ask for her number at this point in case one of you needs to change plans. During your coffee study, feel it out and decide if it would be appropriate to ask her on a more traditional date.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-30 19:59 ID:B1iPf6wy

OP here again, I hit a nearby coffee shop with her after our class today and actually got her number! The way it happened was a little odd though.

Basically we went and chatted, left with our drinks and talked some more. When we were about to head our separate ways I asked for her number, but she was sort of hesitant. After a moment she made up her mind and gave it to me, mentioning it'd be good for when she needs help with the theory class and whatnot.

The whole deal up till this point was going pretty well I think, so I'm a bit confused by the sudden hesitancy. Should I keep on this or is that a sign that she doesn't want that much to do with me?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-01 04:40 ID:W3VuCiiv

As long as you don't do anything to creep her out, you're good to go. The hesitance she shown means she doesn't fully trust you yet, but don't think that her action says that she doesn't want to do anything with you.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-02 00:24 ID:hQ9r0DEo

I am not the OP but am in a similar situation. Once the number is obtained, how,does one go from "hanging out" to dating?

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-02 14:36 ID:V7/4z7gk

It's possible that she doesn't have any desire for a more intimate relationship with you, but regardless I don't think you should consume yourself over a brief moment. If you continue to pick up signals that show she isn't interested you should still have a decent friendship, because she might have cute friends!

You call and ask if she wants to go out on some activity. Lunch and a museum, dinner and a movie, whatever.

11 Name: Bass : 2016-10-06 03:39 ID:M1mMRzYM

OP here, theory class girl is a no-go more or less. I tried feeling out the vibe a bit and didn't get much mutual so I'm not going to try pushing for anything with her.

I figure it'd be unnecessary clutter to put up new threads for other things I might be looking for advice on, so I'll just keep any future dilemmas in here. Just in case I end up being here a while I went ahead and added a name, too.

Moving on though, there's this flute player in the band that I've been contemplating talking to for a bit now. The issue here's not finding more time to do so--we're in a couple of the same bands and share a class--but how to work around her friends. It seems like every time band dismisses or class lets out and I could have a good opportunity to chat with her, she gets surrounded by her buddies and casually approaching her becomes much more difficult. Any advice on how to proceed?
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I've been waiting.... (771)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

762 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-04-12 01:07 ID:nfVpZh+K


EIGA OTOKO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How did it go???? Tell us!

763 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-04-19 11:35 ID:tOnt4+TX

764 Name: 映画男 : 2016-05-04 17:22 ID:xFgyl7WD

sorry havnt updated you guys

<<760 i still make some music whenever i have free time~ but havnt upload anything on youtube for a long time now.

well the next day i prepared some salmon and shrimp pasta, took me about an hour to get it done. i got to her work place and i also prepared one for my friend, i waited for about 15-20 minutes for her cos she was still working. as soon as she ate it she said "wow I'm impressed! its like restaurant quality!" I'm pretty sure my face went red again as i could feel my face was pretty warm. we sat in front of her company while she was eating and chatted, i told her that she should feel special since i havnt cooked for anyone but my ex so far. i felt like i had a chance since shes always saying how nice i was and when I accompanied her home with the three of us, she told me to come sit with her at the back when my friend got off the cab. i dont know why but i just felt really motivated again, ever since my break up i havnt felt that motivated for a very long time. we chatted for a few days through LINE app and she told me she got a fever and didnt feel very well. I was in the hospital that morning for a check up so i thought i'll bring her some medicine, went to the pharmacy and brought her some medicine for her fever. I got to her work place and even got her some orange juice as i looked up on google and it said orange juice helps reduce the fever. she came down from her office and i pressed my hands on her head to see how hot she was, she was really happy that i brought her some medicine and said i was very sweet for doing that. good thing my orange juice and medicine worked as her fever went down in the afternoon and she felt a lot better. on the same day, my friend messaged me saying she had some very bad news, apparently she was talking to her and some how she mentioned "my boyfriend and I".

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765 Name: 映画男 : 2016-05-04 17:23 ID:xFgyl7WD

after a few days, i traveled to japan with my friends for 10 days, only just got back last night. The trip to japan i think really healed me as i feel like im back to normal now. I met up with Miya this afternoon and took the train with her back to her station, we had a nice chat on the train but seeing her made me really miss her. I'm going to see miya again this friday after she finish off work and we're going to go watch Captain America: civil war. I'm pretty sure its a bad idea to see Miya but once i leave taiwan end of this month i wont be able to see her again till maybe next year. I'm still not 100% sure if moving back to melbourne would make it better for me.

766 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-05-16 15:50 ID:r+RopROC


let it go, man

767 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-05-17 17:48 ID:HaS96R9Z

Wow, so many years have passed since I last read this thread and checked your YouTube profile out. You're a trooper. Hang in there. Hope things turn out well for you.

768 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-05-20 09:10 ID:Heaven

its been 10 years and still going, amazing

769 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-07-12 04:42 ID:/LE4BJpy

you're a living legend, eiga otoko

770 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-08-27 05:25 ID:jcIMly5d

Why didn't I discover this thread sooner?!!

771 Name: 映画男 : 2016-10-05 07:11 ID:xFgyl7WD

Sigh I just went through two months of literally hell in June when i moved back to melbourne , will find time to update everyone

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Alrighty then, 4-ch. (27)

1 Name: Ren !JSN8X5.Us. : 2012-03-11 01:00 ID:MEfqoWOy

I'm in high school. I've developed this huge crush on the girl who sits across from me at lunch. She's a (cute!) otaku and may or may not (still not sure) have a crush on me.
What the fuck do I do?

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-06-19 08:29 ID:DeE4vBYj

Update yet from >>1?

19 Name: Ren : 2012-07-18 09:33 ID:MEfqoWOy


Yep. We've been officially together for about 2 months now. :D

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-07-18 13:44 ID:PeaK7U8h


Good! I hope you're both happy.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-11-06 07:29 ID:MEfqoWOy


We broke up just about two months ago. Shit hurts. Damned lesbians.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-11-06 15:27 ID:H7Okz1bu


23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-11-06 22:22 ID:kGzME8jn

Move on

24 Name: Ren (years in the future, but not many) : 2016-09-01 07:37 ID:w8M6FTAZ


Yeah, I did.

It's been about 4 years since I posted this, based on the 2012 tag, I was 16 at the time. That's weird to think about. I'm not surprised that this thread is still around though, time doesn't seem to move here. I guess the eternal September joke on DQN is fitting.

I turned 20 not too long ago, at the beginning of last month.

Between dating and her dumping me, her twin sister - the short and fat to her tall and lanky - came on to me and for about a month, I dated both of them, at the same time. It was pretty rad.

After that, she turned out to be gay, and I dated just her sister for a while. Unlike dating the both of them, this was really awkward, could not recommend it less because there's something along the lines of "am I not good enough for you" that is quite the question to be saddled with. It was awkward and uncomfortable and it took me about 3 months to stop being bitter about it. Honestly? It's because I was fucking stupid. Don't try and be friends with your exes if you're looking for a serious relationship. It just doesn't fucking work. Also, don't look for a serious relationship at 16. That doesn't fucking work either. ( ・∀・)
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25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-01 12:11 ID:N/4tyf36

Congrats, scumbag

26 Name: Ren : 2016-09-01 13:09 ID:w8M6FTAZ


thank you ( ・∀・)

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-04 06:46 ID:HE5Ge7Vp

Thanks for keeping updated friend. please come back with news about your new girl

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Need advice/help. (2)

1 Name: Nipponlonely : 2016-07-26 11:50 ID:VZDgECLK

Hello everyone, this is my first time posting on 4-ch. I really need some advice. Even though I have been in Japan for almost 4 years, I have no real friends here. I know this maybe crazy to ask but I'm looking for a girlfriend and I don't know how to go about it. I have been talking to this one girl on Line, but I don't think it's going anywhere. How do I go about this being the type of person who basically stays at home except for going to work.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-08-01 18:19 ID:ZsAs/8wr

>How do I go about this being the type of person who basically stays at home except for going to work.

You need friends, first and foremost.
Get out of the house. Ask your co-workers out, stick to them, find people out of that group that have thing in common with you, bond and eventually you will met girls.
^be advised, this is advice coming from a total fucking loser

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Happy Valentine's Day (4)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-14 20:42 ID:UKaNbbmB

I'll be your Valentine this year, anon.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-21 20:11 ID://1y6XDC


3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-03-30 08:19 ID:ueEKERFP

This was the first year I didn't have a Valentine. :/

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-04-06 06:54 ID:5NYRn9m1

Don't worry, you're not alone bro.

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How do I get to know a girl (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-01-30 19:57 ID:eoZj7IT6

How do I get to know a girl? Do you just talk some time and then ask her out on a date? Then what?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-02 13:14 ID:0iR+LB9D

When I was younger I had problems with this as well.

Everyone has his/her own charms that they can use in a conversation. I usually tease/fool my victims and give them a challenge to make them feel tested. Girls respond to tests pretty well as they themselves do it all the time.

Or let them do things for you. People apreciate you more if they can do things for you than if you do things for them. Ask them to buy you a drink or something. If they are interested they will. Else walk away.

Never ask for a date. Rather make them suggest it. Also I recommend avoid dating at all, as this is pretty serious. I prefer doing activities. Walking around, feeding ducks, bicycling etc. etc.

But the best advise is, fail, learn and keep learning / failing until you discovered what your way is.

gl & hf

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-03 05:54 ID:eoZj7IT6

That seems complicated.

For example there's like two girls I potentially would have interest in. One is in my school regularly and the other one I see twice a week in class and get to talk to her like once every week. How would I get to know them? Just striking up a conversation, especially when you've ``known" them for so long seems odd. Although you could argue that they hardly know me, too... I think I need to spark interest in them first, then it'll be easier. But even when you're talking for some time with them and you get along quite well, what do you say if you wanna go out with them? Just bring it up causally in a conversation?

Argh, this is so hard!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-05 09:32 ID:eoZj7IT6

Hahaha, I was drunk with a cute girl yesterday. I had my arm around her and kissed her cheek. She didn't say to stop so I felt good about it..

Alcohol is truly a marvelous companion

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-05 11:33 ID:eoZj7IT6

When I think about it... I was constantly grabbing her left tit! Shit I love alcohol

she was so cute

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-10 09:00 ID:eoZj7IT6

Disregard that, I suck cocks.

No, wait, SHE sucks cock! She's a real whore, I'm glad I couldn't seduce her.

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Girls wanting to bring friends? (5)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-29 10:51 ID:UYsA0LCT

What am I supposed to say when a girl asks if she can bring her friends to a get together? It is not explicitly a date so she is not in the wrong, but I am selfish and want the time alone with her, yet also do not wish to seem rude by saying no. Is there any way to win this or will I have to concede?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-11-17 08:19 ID:SGN6E7tN

There is a way to win. Impress her friends and you will impress her.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-20 15:00 ID:auFwJ3vt

If you want alone time with her, then why don't you just ask her out?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-02 13:18 ID:9PFHf8+L

>>2 I like this way.

>>1 Respond enthusiastic. She is probably testing you if she knows you like her. You're probably going to see them more often if your serious. Maybe she just wants to find out if you can get along or will show up only by herself.

Just don't buy any of them anything if it costs more than 1-2 drinks. No need to be greedy, but no need to be stupid and be their cash cow either.

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[Advice] DQN-kun's Advice Column [DQN] (20)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 06:57 ID:36PeWhq1

       /(●)(●)   ask me any question about love and romance!
       | トェェェイ/   I offer only the best advice!
       | /`ニニ´    
       // | |      
      U  .U   
 _,,..-―'"⌒"~ ̄"~⌒゙゙"★                
゙~,,,....-=-‐√"゙゙T"~ ̄Y"゙=ミ
T  |   l,_,,/\ ,,/l  |
,.-r '"l\,,j  /  |/  L,,,/
,,/|,/\,/ _,|\_,i_,,,/ /
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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 17:10 ID:ZubsSalm

DQN-kun! DQN-kun! >>2 here, I have a question! Is marinara sauce any good for keeping myself properly hydrated in a desert? I wouldn't want to die on my adventure, you know!

Thankyou in advance.wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 21:38 ID:BRdvNQ7/


I have a feeling that a certain girl I know is interested in me, romantically. How do I break it to her that she has one too many dimensions?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-12 09:17 ID:cTIs6++1

I actually did that and now I'm romantically available once again!

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-13 22:49 ID:dTCr8a9w

  /(●)(●)   >>11, it's a myth that you need to stay hydrated! I always try to keep
  | トェェェイ/    myself at optimal dehydration (80%). Marinara sauce helps but you
  | /`ニニ´     should also bring some beef jerky. That will keep you alive and dehydrated.
  // | |      
 U  .U   

  /(●)(●)   >>12, I know exactly where you're coming from. It's frustrating to deal with girls that keep changing from day to day.
  | トェェェイ/   But fear not! If you like her other dimensions you can simulate removing the fourth one through petrification. There are
  | /`ニニ´    all sorts of ways of petrifying girls but finding a basilisk or medusa head is probably the easiest. SOLID ADVICE!
  // | |      
 U  .U   

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-14 03:28 ID:KpXVEzRM

How does one go about making an anime/manga character real, and making her fall in love with me?

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-17 07:40 ID:j57RZtQz

DQN-kun! All the women I know make me wish I were a homosexual. Where do I find the kind of woman for me?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 11:43 ID:Qr5E/zTQ

How do I chat up a cute girl who works in a library? Or more importantly where do I find another one? Things didn't go well last time...

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 23:12 ID:ENZfgW8N

  /(●)(●)   >>15, you've got it all wrong! Instead of making her real, you have to make yourself fictional.
  | トェェェイ/    Try writing a short novel about yourself and your potential waifu.
  | /`ニニ´    
  // | |      >>16, you should read more visual novels.
 U  .U

  /(●)(●)   >>17, cute librarian girls are an elusive race. Once they've nested in a library, however, they
  | トェェェイ/   rarely leave, so search any libraries you find thoroughly. They may be found hanging from the rafters
  | /`ニニ´    or nestled behind bookshelves. As for chatting them up, here are a few potential topics of conversation:
  // | |      The weather, Stalinism, fluid mechanics, gynaecology, the Jacobian conjecture.
 U  .U 

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-09-25 02:51 ID:5LFNsvpr

Hey DQN-kun, how do I go about getting myself a friends-with-benefits? I don't know how to breach the subject!

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-20 08:36 ID:dYXwtzR6

Hey DQN-kun, how do I become a masculine super alpha male?

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I'm very full of hate. (53)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-03 19:47 ID:UBYkJ2wZ

I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.

44 Name: fuck em and bag em : 2012-10-09 15:04 ID:1N50HMaJ

i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-10-09 22:20 ID:znV902E+


46 Name: fartman : 2013-05-09 16:00 ID:uOAGPmFK

ok. keep wanking forever. who cares...?

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-22 22:55 ID:sp1TXo0C

I agree, OP. All women are whores/sluts and aren't good for anything besides being cum buckets.

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-10-06 16:32 ID:+sXdZyrX

Calm down

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52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-01 14:59 ID:sp1TXo0C

Oh, wow. This is still around.

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-16 00:09 ID:xpmMiFUH

Bitterness doesn't age.

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