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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-05-19 02:06 ID:alD4L8SM

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1 Name: SHE LEFT : 2019-04-03 01:53 ID:V1yRtjAX


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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-04-28 02:15 ID:vAWT6ZnQ


3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-05-07 01:20 ID:Heaven

this is so sad

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-05-10 03:57 ID:Heaven

SHE LEFT her iphone on vibrate

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I've been waiting.... (780)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

771 Name: 映画男 : 2016-10-05 07:11 ID:xFgyl7WD

Sigh I just went through two months of literally hell in June when i moved back to melbourne , will find time to update everyone

772 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-11-02 04:28 ID:6Pk/4yBt

I hope things are going well my friend.

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774 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-11-25 10:16 ID:znN+X0Q7

benson, you do it wrong. after 10y you have to know it.
i recommend read:
mark manson - models - a comprehensive guide to attracting women
mark manson - the subtle art of not giving a fuck

775 Name: 映画男 : 2017-06-27 06:34 ID:KyBe68c7

its been so long since i posted and so much has happened.
but long story short i managed to pick my self up in the end, I found out Miya actually got together with someone else last year and is getting married soon which was super shocking for me.
What really helped me get better was i started gyming last year and it really helped me mentally and physically.
I've been hanging out with a lot of friends who came back from melbourne and met a few nice people.

Will find time to update, sorry i disappeared for so long.

776 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-09-27 11:28 ID:gxRnV2sw

Take care of yourself Eiga!

777 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-09-27 19:27 ID:R17RJeHy

dicks out for Harambe

778 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-11-08 16:51 ID:mnMwLx42


779 Name: 映画男 : 2018-06-09 09:58 ID:nX6JtAy+

hey there, just to let you guys know i'm still alive

i moved to china last year and started a new life again, been here for 7 months.
I'm actually about to start dating with a women who's 5 years older then me.

780 Name: Beck : 2019-03-03 08:05 ID:CXEXBreq

Sweet Jesus, this epic thread has been going on for 10 years, and I enjoy every moment of it.

So how's it going so far, keep us updated bro!

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[HelpMe] My crush isn’t responding to my texts or emails! (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-22 06:50 ID:s04kBFCm

So, there’s this girl I go to school with, let’s call her Rachel. We exchanged numbers and emails for a school project, and still occasionally message each other. But recently, she hasn’t been responding to my emails or texts!
Do you think Rachel is okay? Should I call her?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-22 10:01 ID:omcs5aq2

dicks out for Harambe

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-22 16:52 ID:s04kBFCm

Be serious, please!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-23 00:55 ID:Heaven

Threaten to kill her family until she responds.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-10-12 09:41 ID:wKjvdkm9

Threaten to kill another gorilla until she responds.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-02-21 04:42 ID:B3eg3Bqv

Incidentally mine has the same name, and she had blocked me, since all she was doing was leading me on, until I was sick of it and texted her about it. These days we're on okay terms and still I try to charm her in hopes of winning her heart. She still hasn't unblocked me; she must think she has me wrapped around her finger. It's true.

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Introvertism and love (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-15 18:53 ID:8v6pTStr

Tldr;How to get a girl to know that you're only interested in a introvertic relationship?

I am an introvert, I always preferred spending my free time alone or doing something with 1 friend than going to crowdy places like clubs.

I really don't want to put my effort attention or patience for talking with group of random people at a bar, each of them talking about different meaningless normie topics while I can't even hear myself (because the shitty music is so loud)
I've noticed that people usually don't seem to talk honestly with each other because they don't talk in 4 eyes, they talk in group and they're being affraid of peer pressure.

I don't want to be part of this unorganized pointless shit.
I want to sacrifice my time for doing things I love with the person I love.

So the cute quiet girl I know from work seemed to be interested in me, told her straight away that I'm introvert and not outgoing but she wanted me to go to the bar and I did for the first time in few years.

Post too long. Click to view the whole post or the thread page.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-16 00:26 ID:pf3TKBXA

A little silly to post here for help.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-04 15:47 ID:Heaven

>>2 He can always post, but may not get a response before months (or never). I wish this board (and every other boards) were more active because there's some interesting threads. orz

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-16 18:17 ID:zlCXFwMF

She seems kinda weird. I'd stay away from her If I were you.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-11-30 01:48 ID:78dfZWCb

You've told her that kind of life isn't your thing. You've already stepped outside your comfort zone to accommodate her. I don't see it going anywhere. Sounds like she would step out on you very quickly with another dude willing to play along.

I suppose the real question is, is she worth changing yourself for? If you're really interested in her you could always bite the bullet and normie it up.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-02-13 13:27 ID:sj1h/oX5

You just need to find a girl who is on the same page as you from day 1. They are hard to find because it's not like you're going to meet them anywhere outside or be easy to talk to. I don't have great advice for this other than dating sites or apps.
It seems like the girl at work takes a liking to you because you are essentially 'playing hard to get' which girls like.

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Free Date Ideas? (8)

1 Name: Severin : 2006-10-12 20:08 ID:1hFQ/qvj

Right now I'm a bit broke, and I'm wondering what I should do for my next date with the girl I'm seeing that won't cost money. Ideas?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 20:13 ID:Heaven

a walk in the park

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 21:21 ID:qvbdepGw

Again??! Did you already do everything that was suggested in the other posts?
What kind of date do you want? What experiences do you want to have with her? Try to be creative on what kind of moments you want to share with her. Drinking and walking all the time is boring after a while. Going to the mall is expensive, and should only be done in special occasions when you want to see what she wants as a gift.
Try going out on a park or somewhere you can excercise, and break a sweat together. Make sure to be prepared with proper sportswear. You think you can do push-ups with her on the back? Maybe she can help you do some sit-ups by holding your knees?
How does she prefer to express her love? How does she like to receive love? Ask the same questions about yourself. There are 5 different ways to categorize ways of showing love, and most people have one or a few they prefer: spend time together, serve/do things for the other, give gifts, physical touch, and verbal/written words of affection.
When you go to a park to exercise you could do 4 of those, except give gift (unless also you bring her a cute new pretty small towel as a gift, then you can do all 5). Write something on the towel, and you have a gift WITH words of affection.
See? Be creative. In the end, she'll want you to do one or more of the things you did for her in the date. Those are her preferred ways of showing affection, and you learned more about her.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 21:25 ID:Heaven

>>2 needs a gf

5 Name: 2 : 2006-10-13 01:01 ID:Heaven


6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-14 13:46 ID:Heaven

  1. fish and chips for lunch
  2. use the wrapping to make yoself sum hats
  3. collect acorns together and take this chance to compare your love to a humble acorn.
  4. stroll in the park and impress her by feeding the pigeons (with the freshly picked acorns). this will show her your sensitive side - women can never resist.
  5. wait for her signal to go back to your place.

and the beauty about all of this is paperhats = no skin cancer!!

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-15 10:05 ID:c5lQ6rXi

Can't wait. =)

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Have I fallen in love with an escort? (4)

1 Name: Memelord : 2018-09-03 22:23 ID:MxBHELqO

So, being 24yo virgin that I was, I decided enough was enough and called up an escort. We agreed to meet for two hours. It was supposed to be a "22yo" Korean woman, but ended up to be an older (I'm guessing late 30s) Chinese woman. Not that it mattered, she was still very pretty and charming for her age, especially for a yellow fever bastard like myself. Anyways, before we started I admitted to her that I have a tiny penis (4" hard) and she just chuckled and said not to worry. She took her time with me and was patient with my inexperience. To me, the sex seemed gentle and tender, just what I was looking for. Fast-forward 4 months, and I've been seeing this woman almost twice a month. It's become the high point for me after long, tedious weeks at work. The sex is still as good as it was the first time, maybe even better, and I do not bore of her whatsoever. I want to ask her out on a date or something, just to get to know her better (of course, we've had small talk before and after sex, but that isn't nearly enough to get to know someone), but I'm afraid that by even asking, it will take our client-based relationship to somewhere she doesn't want to venture. In short what I'm asking is, should I pursue an actual relationship with this woman or look elsewhere now that I'm not some incel virgin anymore?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-04 15:02 ID:aUfZm1Ls

>So, being 24yo virgin that I was, I decided enough was enough

Only 24? Not even trying to be a wizard? Lame!
Just kidding. Anyway,

>should I pursue an actual relationship with this woman or look elsewhere

I wouldn't recommand going out with a prostitute, but if you love her then go for it. Do you though? It may be the case where you only think you love her because it's the first woman you had intimate contact with, even if it's just her job. And there's high chance for her you're just one of her many clients.
Still you can ask her out anyway, better try than regret it later.

3 Name: Memelord : 2018-09-05 00:53 ID:MxBHELqO

>Only 24? Not even trying to be a wizard?

I was gonna do it, I really was...
But then my other virgin friend got a girlfriend, so I was the only one I knew who was still a virgin, and it got to me. It's a funny thing, looking back on it now, it really didn't matter that much.

>It may be the case where you only think you love her because it's the first woman you had intimate contact with

I thought this too, and you're probably right. Nevertheless, I'm just gonna give it a try and see what happens! Will update in the future.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-17 04:20 ID:01z2p2VP

Is it time yet? Just how bad was it?

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Single Again (4)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-14 15:54 ID:esaQQLtp

What should I do? I think I'm over the relationship, but it's only been a couple weeks. I seem to be going back and forth every day about whether I should try to look for another one, or if it's best to be alone for a while.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-19 12:36 ID:E6x/eqjM

I'm literally insane.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-03 02:21 ID:UsnkSfc5

A little silly to post here for help.

4 Name: newfag : 2018-09-06 01:32 ID:uQEDgqIw

I think it's better to give yourself some time to rest, and be somewhat independent (in a good way), hunting for another one because you "think" you're over the previous relationship is a shitty thing to do you retard.
good luck anon

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Cheat? (5)

1 Name: love_struck_fool : 2006-12-14 15:02 ID:yL6wKVam

Having kind of a problem here. My girlfriend has a really good friend who happens to be a guy, He's actually the guy who kind of set us up. However, lately, she's been kind of cold to me, and she's been spending an awful lot of time around him, even while I'm around.This is unsettling, since we just hooked up, so I'm not sure if she said yes just to humor me.He told me he doesn't like her, but now I really am not sure. Now I even hate him. Please help.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-14 15:42 ID:q5UaFq7/

Ask her.
If she's straight with you now and tells you she's done with you, then you can get this off your chest.
If she lies and they're together behind your back, you can forget her.
If he wants her but she doesn't return the sentiment, at least you know what's going on.
If it's all just a misunderstanding then you can relax!

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-15 15:27 ID:EeIqPFGZ

yeah, there's two options:

Ask her - result: she is, or she isn't. You can probably tell if she's lying or not.

Don't ask her - result: you spend a lot of time worrying, never knowing, and try covert ways of finding out.

Trust me, I know it will be awkward, but it's got to be done.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-15 16:44 ID:KZy/INsu

Just be direct.

5 Name: YuruyBuriy : 2018-07-31 21:41 ID:SfYb+K/D

Very sorry. No one is immune from this. By the way, now there are many who will help solve the problem and set everything up in places before. I followed my ex when I suspected her of some things.

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Bored with my girlfriend (9)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-09 12:40 ID:EAoiqQHH

My girlfriend is boring. She never initiates conversation or makes suggestions. She has no opinions. When watching movies or listening to music, she never really gets it. She's not unintelligent, just extremely plain and a little slow. Even our telephone conversations will often go for minutes of pure silence. Even when asked a direct question, she will deliberate for an inordinate amount of time before coming up with a short noncommittal answer. Her responses to everything are so passive that it just drains all my passion.

We've been together nearly 2 years, and have both sacrificed to be together. She recently quit her job to move in with me. She is deeply in love with me and I strongly suspect she is aiming to get married in a few years. I love her too, yet I often find myself fighting with feelings of frustration and boredom.

The longer this goes on, the harder it will be to be to end it. Even now, breaking up would be devastating for her. Yet I'm worried that the longer it goes on, the more frustrated I'm going to become. And due to her extremely passive nature, even if I start treating her poorly she'll just sit back and take it. I don't want it to come to that.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-11 17:59 ID:uFNs+Eof

Have you spoken to her about this? How did she react?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-12 12:22 ID:ZW/4G+Lc

You should talk to her about it first off. Bring it up.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-12 15:46 ID:mhlZ6eFU

Maybe she really has a lot of opinions and feelings and such, she's just afraid to express them at risk of being criticized or mocked for having incorrect ideas. If this is the case, you should try to get her to open up. Like >>2 and >>3 said, ask her directly.

5 Name: Qante : 2017-12-19 08:57 ID:1/MWQQR1

If you're bored with your girlfriend, then this is your problem. First of all, you know whom to choose, and secondly, that means you did not try to find a common passion for both of you. How do you spend your time? Does she like to read? And you? There are so many topics in the world that can be discussed and will be interesting. My boyfriend and I often watch films, choose good ones , go for walks and meet friends. We are not bored. Think about how to spend time with her and you will have fun.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-01-16 21:12 ID:LTW6vK7e

This explains my situation perfectly however I'm in 6 years now with her. And it's completely got to the point of pure misery. However I can't just leave her because I have no where to go. No license, no car, and no job. I wouldn't be able to survive without her. This is truly suffering.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-02-27 09:25 ID:ieAOLyof



That's likely just the point. Get a job and you will appreciate her more again. It's just because you just see her too much. Also likely lurking the whole day in your room/appartment. So the brain won't get any new inspiration and stimulation.

9 Name: Loolll : 2018-07-03 09:39 ID:UU1csZeP

When my gf broke up with me, I decided to play some simulators and man, trust me, that's the best way to forget about everything! I spent almost one week playing and this game is perfectly fixed my mood!

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