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Weird Girl Calls Herself "Asexual" (7)

1 Name: 9 : 2019-10-12 12:01 ID:u1A8MdGg

I am familiar with this girl who lives not too far from where I live. We encountered each other in a D&D group some time ago, although that D&D group stopped being a thing fairly quickly. Still, we kept in touch, occasionally sending each other phone messages about random stuff. I have no issue with talking to her about my obsession with Japan and my morbid dreams for some reason and she doesn't seem to mind. As it turns out, despite not caring for anime, she goes to some anime conventions, so whenever those happen I go together with her. Being with her makes being around all of those annoying people kind of bearable.
As it turns out, I kind of enjoy being around her. She speaks in a weird way, as though she doesn't know exactly what she wants to say. I find that to be moe. She finds the fact that I have absolutely no friends and am okay with that to be very interesting. She also claims that the fact that I'm extremely honest is a positive trait which I shouldn't regret having and the fact that I always wear the exact same clothes to be very strange. But all that being said, as we sat on the bus together and I was telling her about the complex emotions I feel towards the world, she informed me that she is asexual. I'm not sure if that means that she's not into boys, isn't interested in sex, was just saying that as a defense mechanism or is actually some kind of alien creature that reproduces by itself, but I still want to try. As it turns out, I've always found the idea of sex to be kind of disgusting while still being interested in girls, although I missed my chance to say that. I felt like it might come off as me attempting to lie to her in order to make her like me, even though she already acknowledged that I'm an unusually honest person.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-10-14 04:57 ID:eHnyZgGk


3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-10-21 16:44 ID:zBlbNHRp

ok virgin

4 Name: 9 : 2019-10-23 10:13 ID:u1A8MdGg

Never mind. She revealed her true nature of being really messed up in the head and actually feels dangerous to be around. At least I learned a bit about relationships. I still haven't given up on my plan though, and will try again the next time I find myself in a similar situation.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-10-24 00:00 ID:gVY7/KIF

Tell us the story behind it. We want the dirt. All four of us.

6 Name: 9 : 2019-10-24 10:49 ID:u1A8MdGg

At the most recent anime convention, I took note of all of the girls cosplaying as male characters and decided to talk to her about my favorite male anime characters. I had a feeling that talking about that might allow me to understand how she really feels about men and was exactly on point. As I explained why Toki from HnK was so awesome and inspirational, she cut me off and told me outright that she actually HATES men while making a pretty serious face. I didn't expect her to be so direct. She then brought up another male from the D&D group, explaining how he was very bad to her without going into detail. This triggered something in my brain. I knew that the D&D group stopped being a thing fairly quickly but I didn't know the specific reason why the DM suddenly informed me that the group split, but now I have sufficient information to understand roughly what happened. At that point I also remembered how I read on the internet that certain girls accuse innocent men of rape for nefarious purposes and realized that this girl who openly hates men would have a pretty reasonable motive for doing something like that. While I mostly act fairly mellow, my goal was to marry a girl, which is one of the manliest things one can do, meaning that it would trigger red flags for her no matter how interested I actually am in sex. I figure that at best she would just distance herself from me.
At the convention I also saw some weirdo wearing a communist uniform and she informed me that she "believes it". I'm not a political person, but I know full well that communism killed loads of people and has no upsides beyond holding back overpopulation.
After these two events and a few more minor ones, I informed her that I'm going on a "personal journey to find myself" and went to a place where she wasn't. In truth, I sort of felt threatened. Maybe I'm just a coward, but I can't honestly see myself living with such a person.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-11-02 17:28 ID:a2LECeF/

I meant to say somethig earlier (I swear I posted something but I must not have actually hit reply) about the fact that anyone broadcasting their lack of sexual desire in public has some screws loose, but I'm glad you figured it out on your own. Even though I avoid women on principle and wouldn't go near one willingly I hope you have good luck with the other girl. Make sure to listen to a few Patrice O'neal videos on relationships, it's going to be hard to control a woman without sex unless you get incredibly lucky somehow or just have really good fingerblasting skillz.

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I've been waiting.... (782)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

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774 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-11-25 10:16 ID:znN+X0Q7

benson, you do it wrong. after 10y you have to know it.
i recommend read:
mark manson - models - a comprehensive guide to attracting women
mark manson - the subtle art of not giving a fuck

775 Name: 映画男 : 2017-06-27 06:34 ID:KyBe68c7

its been so long since i posted and so much has happened.
but long story short i managed to pick my self up in the end, I found out Miya actually got together with someone else last year and is getting married soon which was super shocking for me.
What really helped me get better was i started gyming last year and it really helped me mentally and physically.
I've been hanging out with a lot of friends who came back from melbourne and met a few nice people.

Will find time to update, sorry i disappeared for so long.

776 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-09-27 11:28 ID:gxRnV2sw

Take care of yourself Eiga!

777 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-09-27 19:27 ID:R17RJeHy

dicks out for Harambe

778 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-11-08 16:51 ID:mnMwLx42


779 Name: 映画男 : 2018-06-09 09:58 ID:nX6JtAy+

hey there, just to let you guys know i'm still alive

i moved to china last year and started a new life again, been here for 7 months.
I'm actually about to start dating with a women who's 5 years older then me.

780 Name: Beck : 2019-03-03 08:05 ID:CXEXBreq

Sweet Jesus, this epic thread has been going on for 10 years, and I enjoy every moment of it.

So how's it going so far, keep us updated bro!

781 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-08-23 00:55 ID:mP4GlHRq

my man, you're a 4-ch original. you have got to be 50 years old by now. back in 2006 i was still sucking on titties. i was 20 at the time.

782 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-10-07 16:59 ID:7zVxT7rI

I wish I had been born earlier so I could've experienced this amazing thread :/

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Race Preferences? (15)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-05 12:03 ID:U2v1Bz3S

Somehow, I find that different races tend to have different preferences. I'm a Vietnamese girl, but I find that Chinese guys tend to prefer girls who are more docile, shy, short, and skinny.
Then I find that Vietnamese guys have a less focused preference, but generally the same thing.
Lastly, I find that white people (sorry for the generalization) tend to like taller girls with lighter hair and a little more meat than what the Chinese guys do. Is this just my imagination...?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-11-08 18:47 ID:lzH2MORC

dicks out for Harambe

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-01-17 18:25 ID:ySvKodMz

Only if they are fresh off the boat.
Americanized Asians are the worst

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-01-18 07:52 ID:UiYFnMBb

I agree, it's just wrong. I hate other cultures being "Americanized" I mean what's so fucking great about America anyways? It's a "shithole" if you ask me.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-03-10 01:34 ID:sAx5ykrL

I'm currently seeing a girl who is mixed Mexican and German. It's a combination I never even thought of, when I think mixed race girls I'm usually a fan of European-Indian or European-Asian girls. I'm so inexperienced with a mix like this that I don't know if they're all as cute as her, or she's the exception. She almost looks like a hapa in some ways, especially her eyes and that rosiness to her cheeks/nose.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-04-16 16:46 ID:qmcUzh21

Mexican-German is common in Texas.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-05-13 15:33 ID:xXxe26zJ

That's intriguing, a lot of her family is actually from the South. Maybe I've just lived in the wrong part of the world to experience it often.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-06-26 10:16 ID:LxI4c4GN

The human race.
And by that I mean anything but nigger.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-08-23 00:49 ID:FltvClal

OP was probably the last girl to ever grace this website. Sad!

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-09-15 04:39 ID:X9+qriRZ

A country's culture is an influence in what your preferences are.

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Densha Otoko (2)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-06-17 05:52 ID:mxthu+6S

Thread to talk about actor Densha Otoko

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-08-23 00:50 ID:R/BN6ELZ

I thought he was great in The Wolf of Wall Street

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How Do I find a flesh and blood woman With a Fart Fetish (4)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-07-07 20:50 ID:7i3G08NP

How can I find a girl that will fart on my face? The very few amount of girls that have this fetish are all either dykes, taken by some guy already or all the way across the world. I've thought about going on tinder/a dating site to find a date and secretly give them laxatives. That's all I can think of at this point

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-07-21 19:04 ID:7Xv7Crpf

Get a sex change. Then you'll be a flesh and blood woman with a fart fetish.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-07-25 01:27 ID:jDot5mzz

The simplest solution would be to stop being subhuman.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-08-23 00:48 ID:xQ6Fitt8

Go to Germany. They fucking love shit and farts there. They breathe it. They designed toilets where you shit onto a flat platform so you can check out your turd before you flush. They are crazy about shit and turds over there.

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1 Name: SHE LEFT : 2019-04-03 01:53 ID:V1yRtjAX


verification: yur

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-04-28 02:15 ID:vAWT6ZnQ


3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-05-07 01:20 ID:Heaven

this is so sad

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-05-10 03:57 ID:Heaven

SHE LEFT her iphone on vibrate

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-06-16 05:32 ID:BlZ6wZ8i

Shmad >:)

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[HelpMe] My crush isn’t responding to my texts or emails! (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-22 06:50 ID:s04kBFCm

So, there’s this girl I go to school with, let’s call her Rachel. We exchanged numbers and emails for a school project, and still occasionally message each other. But recently, she hasn’t been responding to my emails or texts!
Do you think Rachel is okay? Should I call her?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-22 10:01 ID:omcs5aq2

dicks out for Harambe

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-22 16:52 ID:s04kBFCm

Be serious, please!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2017-10-23 00:55 ID:Heaven

Threaten to kill her family until she responds.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-10-12 09:41 ID:wKjvdkm9

Threaten to kill another gorilla until she responds.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-02-21 04:42 ID:B3eg3Bqv

Incidentally mine has the same name, and she had blocked me, since all she was doing was leading me on, until I was sick of it and texted her about it. These days we're on okay terms and still I try to charm her in hopes of winning her heart. She still hasn't unblocked me; she must think she has me wrapped around her finger. It's true.

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Introvertism and love (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-15 18:53 ID:8v6pTStr

Tldr;How to get a girl to know that you're only interested in a introvertic relationship?

I am an introvert, I always preferred spending my free time alone or doing something with 1 friend than going to crowdy places like clubs.

I really don't want to put my effort attention or patience for talking with group of random people at a bar, each of them talking about different meaningless normie topics while I can't even hear myself (because the shitty music is so loud)
I've noticed that people usually don't seem to talk honestly with each other because they don't talk in 4 eyes, they talk in group and they're being affraid of peer pressure.

I don't want to be part of this unorganized pointless shit.
I want to sacrifice my time for doing things I love with the person I love.

So the cute quiet girl I know from work seemed to be interested in me, told her straight away that I'm introvert and not outgoing but she wanted me to go to the bar and I did for the first time in few years.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-16 00:26 ID:pf3TKBXA

A little silly to post here for help.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-04 15:47 ID:Heaven

>>2 He can always post, but may not get a response before months (or never). I wish this board (and every other boards) were more active because there's some interesting threads. orz

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-16 18:17 ID:zlCXFwMF

She seems kinda weird. I'd stay away from her If I were you.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-11-30 01:48 ID:78dfZWCb

You've told her that kind of life isn't your thing. You've already stepped outside your comfort zone to accommodate her. I don't see it going anywhere. Sounds like she would step out on you very quickly with another dude willing to play along.

I suppose the real question is, is she worth changing yourself for? If you're really interested in her you could always bite the bullet and normie it up.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-02-13 13:27 ID:sj1h/oX5

You just need to find a girl who is on the same page as you from day 1. They are hard to find because it's not like you're going to meet them anywhere outside or be easy to talk to. I don't have great advice for this other than dating sites or apps.
It seems like the girl at work takes a liking to you because you are essentially 'playing hard to get' which girls like.

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Free Date Ideas? (8)

1 Name: Severin : 2006-10-12 20:08 ID:1hFQ/qvj

Right now I'm a bit broke, and I'm wondering what I should do for my next date with the girl I'm seeing that won't cost money. Ideas?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 20:13 ID:Heaven

a walk in the park

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 21:21 ID:qvbdepGw

Again??! Did you already do everything that was suggested in the other posts?
What kind of date do you want? What experiences do you want to have with her? Try to be creative on what kind of moments you want to share with her. Drinking and walking all the time is boring after a while. Going to the mall is expensive, and should only be done in special occasions when you want to see what she wants as a gift.
Try going out on a park or somewhere you can excercise, and break a sweat together. Make sure to be prepared with proper sportswear. You think you can do push-ups with her on the back? Maybe she can help you do some sit-ups by holding your knees?
How does she prefer to express her love? How does she like to receive love? Ask the same questions about yourself. There are 5 different ways to categorize ways of showing love, and most people have one or a few they prefer: spend time together, serve/do things for the other, give gifts, physical touch, and verbal/written words of affection.
When you go to a park to exercise you could do 4 of those, except give gift (unless also you bring her a cute new pretty small towel as a gift, then you can do all 5). Write something on the towel, and you have a gift WITH words of affection.
See? Be creative. In the end, she'll want you to do one or more of the things you did for her in the date. Those are her preferred ways of showing affection, and you learned more about her.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 21:25 ID:Heaven

>>2 needs a gf

5 Name: 2 : 2006-10-13 01:01 ID:Heaven


6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-14 13:46 ID:Heaven

  1. fish and chips for lunch
  2. use the wrapping to make yoself sum hats
  3. collect acorns together and take this chance to compare your love to a humble acorn.
  4. stroll in the park and impress her by feeding the pigeons (with the freshly picked acorns). this will show her your sensitive side - women can never resist.
  5. wait for her signal to go back to your place.

and the beauty about all of this is paperhats = no skin cancer!!

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-15 10:05 ID:c5lQ6rXi

Can't wait. =)

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Have I fallen in love with an escort? (4)

1 Name: Memelord : 2018-09-03 22:23 ID:MxBHELqO

So, being 24yo virgin that I was, I decided enough was enough and called up an escort. We agreed to meet for two hours. It was supposed to be a "22yo" Korean woman, but ended up to be an older (I'm guessing late 30s) Chinese woman. Not that it mattered, she was still very pretty and charming for her age, especially for a yellow fever bastard like myself. Anyways, before we started I admitted to her that I have a tiny penis (4" hard) and she just chuckled and said not to worry. She took her time with me and was patient with my inexperience. To me, the sex seemed gentle and tender, just what I was looking for. Fast-forward 4 months, and I've been seeing this woman almost twice a month. It's become the high point for me after long, tedious weeks at work. The sex is still as good as it was the first time, maybe even better, and I do not bore of her whatsoever. I want to ask her out on a date or something, just to get to know her better (of course, we've had small talk before and after sex, but that isn't nearly enough to get to know someone), but I'm afraid that by even asking, it will take our client-based relationship to somewhere she doesn't want to venture. In short what I'm asking is, should I pursue an actual relationship with this woman or look elsewhere now that I'm not some incel virgin anymore?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-04 15:02 ID:aUfZm1Ls

>So, being 24yo virgin that I was, I decided enough was enough

Only 24? Not even trying to be a wizard? Lame!
Just kidding. Anyway,

>should I pursue an actual relationship with this woman or look elsewhere

I wouldn't recommand going out with a prostitute, but if you love her then go for it. Do you though? It may be the case where you only think you love her because it's the first woman you had intimate contact with, even if it's just her job. And there's high chance for her you're just one of her many clients.
Still you can ask her out anyway, better try than regret it later.

3 Name: Memelord : 2018-09-05 00:53 ID:MxBHELqO

>Only 24? Not even trying to be a wizard?

I was gonna do it, I really was...
But then my other virgin friend got a girlfriend, so I was the only one I knew who was still a virgin, and it got to me. It's a funny thing, looking back on it now, it really didn't matter that much.

>It may be the case where you only think you love her because it's the first woman you had intimate contact with

I thought this too, and you're probably right. Nevertheless, I'm just gonna give it a try and see what happens! Will update in the future.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-17 04:20 ID:01z2p2VP

Is it time yet? Just how bad was it?

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