Love and Romance @4-ch

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1: penis borg (1) 2: When is it too late to get into the relationship game? (81) 3: The myth of the evil nice guy (6) 4: how to give a blowjob with braces? (134) 5: gaynal sex (1) 6: Where's the love? (7) 7: How to date a Japanese girl? (80) 8: Nothing but questions. (6) 9: Girlfriend has lower sex drive than me (5) 10: Vagina Diagram (5) 11: FOR SALE HIGH QUALITY US,UK,CANADA DRIVER LICENSE,IDs,PASSPORTS,VISAS (6) 12: buzzed flirting? (4) 13: What she has in mind (3) 14: I don't know what's going on... (4) 15: Questions about marriage (2) 16: Flirty girlfriend, i trust her but it hurts anyway. (47) 17: Questions about marriage (1) 18: japanese boyfriend (111) 19: Does there exist true love? (46) 20: Am I reading too much into this? (8) 21: I'm asian...how do I get a white girlfriend? (36) 22: I've been waiting.... (750) 23: Seriously Questioning My Relationship For The First Time (9) 24: Short short story idea (2) 25: I want to be more sexually attracted to my gf (9) 26: Does she feel the same? (25) 27: new densha otoko (276) 28: Is he worth it? (3) 29: Singles Rant Thread, 3rd Edition (191) 30: [Advice] DQN-kun's Advice Column [DQN] (18) 31: Please help me talk to this girl (2) 32: Obsession (9) 33: I'm going on a date Friday at 11AM. My first. HELP! (41) 34: I'm very full of hate. (46) 35: All the time busy (4) 36: Will I end up alone? (11) 37: Me and my girlfriend decided to take a break...but she slept... (26) 38: Looking for a girlfriend (11) 39: Girlfriend's ex-boyfriends (2) 40: I don't know how to title this (11)

penis borg (1)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-14 22:56 ID:bzjpGPKf

penis borg

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When is it too late to get into the relationship game? (81)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-05 11:07 ID:tt2SK8W6

Im 20 years old and have never been in a relationship. i've had boys tell me they like me but it was at a bad time (senior year of high school and i was moving to another country for college) or we were too close of friends and it was too weird for me. I've never dated, kissed or even held hands in a romantic kinda way. I've had a lot of friends who are guys so its not because i never talk to boys or anything like that. Is it weird for me to be 20 and never had a relationship?? When did you start dating? When do you think is too old to start?

72 Name: girls love alphas : 2013-05-10 15:31 ID:pQCe4/mG

>>70
omegas like u put teh pussy on teh pedestal when u treat due to insecurity. weather u like it or not ur placed n a group based on ur genes and that would b omega 4 u do 2 having weak. i am alpha cuz i have teh strongest genes. face it, u have nothing 2 offer girls witch is y u "hate" pussy. now i know y they call u handsome. lmfao

http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/now-i-know-why-they-call-me-handsome-forever-alone.jpg

73 Name: Hate Male Losers : 2013-07-04 01:02 ID:3676F1iO

@61
Experience does not include sexual experience. As a mattwr of fact the only experience male losers like yoy have are one night stands and short term relationships because that is all you are interested in. The requirement of a LTR that has lasted longer than a hockey season is there to weed out losers like you or the "omega" type losers.

@63
Well that is you choice, just as long as you don't come whining later on that women won't give you the time of day.

74 Name: Graham : 2014-02-23 19:12 ID:m967l5F6

Hate Male Losers - You are a Narcissistic bitch.

75 Name: Graham : 2014-02-23 19:13 ID:m967l5F6

Hate Male Losers - You are a Narcissistic bitch.

76 Name: Ernesto : 2014-08-05 08:04 ID:l05+vbTR

Worth to try man, but sex...sex is Ok. Some people can think it's boring to have sex with a girl but it's not as bad as seems to be. When you have sex you can play games (I won couple of FIFA matches) or chat with friends. Cam sex is boring too but you can try. Just visit chatroulete or originclub.com or facebook, but when you see nude girl with huge tits - oh, man, give it a rest! it's better to watch spider-man movie or harry potter really. Sex is boring

77 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-08-05 15:24 ID:+7OVxRet

Do you know the difference between a conversation and rape?

No? Let's go upstairs and have a talk.

78 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-08-26 21:27 ID:369mi+YM

I am too lazy to get into relationship game..
And to be honest I dont enjoy sex at all
Yeah seeing all couples makes me envious some time but still I am okay with masturbation
Why bother...
I dont like girls at all, they are loud and stupid

79 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-08-26 23:01 ID:369mi+YM

I can not stand girls
Fuck off from my life, okay

80 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-10 20:20 ID:AEJQp13O

If you think love is a game you're going to lose just by playing you know. Try to take another angle.

81 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-13 02:40 ID:GqLlMlN5

It's not too late. You're fucking 20, not 80. You got a good couple decades on you before you're officially screwed.

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The myth of the evil nice guy (6)

1 Name: Mu : 2013-07-05 19:02 ID:GeIJ9YTd

I find the criticism of nice guys idea to be somewhat of a misrepresentation. On the one hand, identifying the label "nice guy" as a title that's shown, not self-imposed, is understandable; being a "nice guy" should reveal itself through one's conduct. However, the way that the material on this site portrays the average nice guy would both make it seem as if those who are truly kind are simply being underhanded and therefore don't deserve to "get the girl," and those who are in fact using "niceness" as a facade to get girls are somehow more reprehensible than those females who manipulate men and are cheered on for it. Conversely, those who have no regard for the feelings of women, and no respect for women, that is to say, "jerks," are seen as real men and truly genuine, because men apparently only act like sub-human neanderthals, thus any man who does not act this way is automatically trying to get into bed with a woman. Or he's gay

Allow me to elaborate. A person who is confident, directed, respectful and considerate toward women, and fairly attractive could be considered a good potential boyfriend, except he's not as interesting as someone who's on the wrong side of the law or enjoys causing pain and suffering, like, say, a jerk. As much as the nice guy has going for him, he doesn't have enough novelty for a girl to be attracted to him, and thus a girl will choose the jerk. And then, two months later, she'll come to the guy who actually cares about her well-being and tell him how she regrets having made that decision. As a person who's been in this situation, I can say that it's frustrating to hear that she's having problems like this, especially if one has offered her the chance for a healthy relationship and she turned it down

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2 Name: Mu : 2013-07-05 19:03 ID:GeIJ9YTd

(ctd.)

And then if you do somehow make it past all the testing, you virtually get no green light to go ahead. Unless the girl really wants to jump your bones, she makes no show of attraction, and since the nicer guys tend to respect a girl's feelings and don't want to go further than they are allowed, they end up with nothing. It's no longer just a fear of rejection; it's a fear of being arrested. However, women continue to believe that the half-hearted, intentionally deceptive "signals" they give are good enough, since any guy who likes them enough will ask them out regardless of possible consequences. However, even though guys are required to do this, it never seems to cross a girl's mind to show similar respect and maybe throw him a bone or two

It simply seems as if a nice guy will never be attractive to a woman. Any woman. And it seems as if it's all because he's nice. Respect used to be valuable, but it seems so cheap now, thanks to these types of actions. Perhaps, given the fact that you probably wouldn't have much reason to be dishonest, I will find some answers from you

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-21 19:26 ID:onAzden4

I don't see why it's necessarily the case that nice guys lack novelty. The novelty of the jerk (to use your phrase) is that he is, in some way, a challenge. The woman wants his attention, and this gives the relationship momentum. However, I don't think that momentum need come from challenge, nor that "jerks" are the only ones capable of providing novelty.

If a woman isn't attracted to a nice guy who has looks, money, direction and confident, and who is respectful of her, it may be because, save for the last, none of these are necessary or sufficient for a relationship. A nice guy with those things may be at first blush interesting, even attractive, but if there's nothing that intrigues the woman behind those things, then the guy's just some guy who's respectful toward her. "Jerks", however bad they may be, at least have an interesting personality, even if the woman ultimately wants to change it.

I would add that the "evil" nice guy is a thing. You see, "nice guys" blame women for not being attracted to them, whereas nice guys accept that they won't be attractive to everyone, and that if they do want to be attractive to a lot of women, they may need to change certain parts of who they are.

4 Name: Mu : 2013-07-29 18:19 ID:GeIJ9YTd

Then that only seems to say that women aren't interested in stable relationships, or at the very least have a chronic appreciation for dysfunctional traits some of the time, if they go for jerks at all. It shouldn't be an issue. It would be like ignoring the nice girl at the bookstore in favor of a hooker, because at least the hooker knows how to shake her ass. No one should gravitate to such an extreme to begin with, in the case of long-term relationships, when women go to such trouble to change jerks.

As for nice guys, it's a bit biased to say they blame women. They can bitch about women all they want, because heaven forbid someone have trouble in relationships. Women do it all the time with men. It's like saying people aren't allowed to complain about people. In the case of the nice guy/jerk dichotomy, it can be frustration that she would be with these types of people at all, or just simple unrequited love. For that matter, the evil nice guy myth assumes that there is a problem with the nice guy to begin with. I've seen people go onto complain that nice guys are covert rapists, lying to themselves about everything in their lives, etc, to the point that if a nice guy is too shy to ask a woman out or simply doesn't want to get arrested because of how vindictive women can be today, he's a liar or not a real man, but women are accepted for the same cowardly behavior. Short of being Buddha, decency pales in comparison to shitty behavior when it comes to attracting women. There are guys that do have inferiority complexes or whatever in their overeager attempts to impress women, but to say this is a broad spectrum of males or the most dominant personality trait in men trying to respect women is just pure sexism. Really, blaming oneself and trying to change for that one person can be seen as a sign of an inferiority complex or blaming the object of attraction can be seen as a sign of confidence and moving on with your life away from worshipping your love. We've come full circle. The nice guy is still good/bad just because of [insert reason here]. But jerks, let alone wife beaters/alcoholics, etc. never get this type of treatment.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-08-11 14:49 ID:qHnGOCWd

I can't find it, but it's been scientifically proven though that most women seek out the jerk initially as an evolutionary trait. There was an article I read that basically stated women seek out the alpha male to mate with and have a child with the best genes, of course, but then leave him and seek out a beta, because he's more stable and a more reliable father to her child. It really threw me for a loop that this kind of devious evolutionary psychology has been programmed into women since the dawn of time.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-10 20:42 ID:XcC3ZBd2

>>5
That's an interesting theory but it doesn't account for how that evolutionary trait appeared (I'd like to read that article if you don't mind finding it). I imagine, entertaining this theory somewhat, that early experiences, like prenatal experiences. The stability of the family, whether the father or mother died before adulthood, among some things - these things affect personality in general though so it might not seem like a definitive explanation in this case... but it definitely affects who the woman will partner up with later on, and it may bring forward a unfortunate environmental conditions for the child who is going to be reared in a dysfunctional family.

I strongly believe women who seek out "dominating" (as in, a-holes) men have had a bad father-figure while growing up. It's similar to how abused women find excuses for their abusers - it might be that they do not understand what constitutes a normal healthy relationship, it might be self blame/shame/hatred. I don't think that every human being is inevitably hard wired to favor abuse or abusers, I think that's something of a festering malicious circle.

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how to give a blowjob with braces? (134)

1 Name: uh-oh : 2007-01-27 23:25 ID:cCzJMi6y

yeah, basically what i said in the heading. how do you do it without...well, hurting the package?

125 Name: Pimptastic pimp : 2012-10-05 04:03 ID:TCcDVvQN

I'm 14 and my gf just got braces a month ago and she wants to give me head and she had to rubber band things in the side of her mouth and just normal braces....

126 Name: TrainTracks : 2012-10-08 16:36 ID:d62qcbis

I have braces, im 13. and i have solutions for other train tracked people :)
options:
1) wax. it covers the sharpness and you can still please him.
2) cover your teeth with your lips
3) dont do it if you dont trust yourself, if you cant trust yourself, how can he?

i hope this helped :)
it helped me and it feels awesome for him.
the texturof the braces under the wax, might actually turn him on :0 who knows? :p

127 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-12-08 10:14 ID:R6EbA857

it's not so bad to receive head...but if it's too fast...then it hurts! :(

128 Name: Alexander : 2013-02-23 16:17 ID:pAaoQnEE

My girfriend used to have braces and i got head all the time without problems. She got them removed a few months ago and i can honestly say it feels the same. I Love her so much<3 Shes my life

129 Name: obvioustruth : 2013-09-16 04:10 ID:/JkyjETf

wtf are the people in this thread talking about, feminists love giving head, because they are control freaks, they love having men vulnerable in their hands. they are on top, they can show no mercy to the penis, bite the balls, bite the penis, control the man, its something feminists love doing! trust me! but a real girl gives head without biting, and also lets you suck her pussy as well. remember the song "you wanna suck my pussy, pussy, well let me suck your dick, you don't own me bastard.", sung by a female musician, mind you! women who are feminists are the ones to suck dick.

130 Name: obvioustruth : 2013-09-16 14:15 ID:/JkyjETf

@#5, wtf are you smoking? lsd? girls love guys as much as guys love girls, its how we were made, girls feel its worse only when guys don't ask questions and communicate in that way.

131 Name: obvioustruth : 2013-09-16 17:14 ID:/JkyjETf

dudes who are robot viruses, a girl has a far more chance of getting hiv, I.e. eazy e, magic Johnson got in trouble as a result etc. a girl knows how clean the penis is, because it doesn't require near as much cleaning as a pussy does. its filtration system is awesome, which is why girls love to suck dick and drink cum, its almost impossible to have unhealthy cum. cum is really healthy, and syphilis is something contracted by a girl's teeth, but its a lot easier to get hiv from a nasty girl's pussy so you guys out there be careful, in response to #3, or 4 I think. whatever, but this is the case.

132 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-09-20 05:58 ID:jx8aK8Qq

>>131 is a troll. Don't listen to him.

133 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-11-23 13:52 ID:jYbzzt+q

134 Name: A 12 year old : 2014-09-06 11:27 ID:KbJhwbg9

My gf gave me one and it huRt no thank u

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gaynal sex (1)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-08-21 00:01 ID:wUaNuzzI

gaynal sex

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Where's the love? (7)

1 Name: Otakun : 2014-07-29 21:05 ID:0UwN6hbY

Long ago I came to these boards looking for help in my love life. For those interested in a 6 year old thread here's the link: http://4-ch.net/love/kareha.pl/1226981241/l50

Even though that chapter of love didn't work out as well as I had hoped, all the lessons I learned those days eventually did help me find the love of my life.

My question is where is all the posts of people that need help or encouragement? Let's help everyone that comes here! :)

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-07-31 21:42 ID:mJcKWvWQ

Well after having a few letdowns I kinda feel extremely devoid of emotions and I no longer want to find love. I just want to be bad to people like they've been bad to me.

I found out, after deciding on changing my behavior, that soon all my 'friends' cut ties with me. It was that easy: each and every one of them neglected me on the first 'bad' thing I did to them. They didn't bother talking to me about it; they didn't want to know why I did what I did. It did not surprise them at all that all these years I've been 100% there for them and suddenly I changed my behavior. They used me for as long as they had to; as soon as I turned my back on them, they turned their back on me.

I won't have any more shit by anyone, no more. Anyone who is coming my way is going to get their ass handed to them properly.

Unfortunately, this sort of reasoning leaves no place for love. I don't need it in the first place. I hope you read this post. I really want your opinion on this. I know this is Love and Romance and that my post is borderline off-topic, but that's just the sort of post yours provoked.

3 Name: Otakun : 2014-08-02 07:56 ID:0UwN6hbY

>>2

You're absolutely right. You have no room for love for others if you started hating parts of yourself enough to do such a drastic change. In all honesty I was at the same point myself where: "if nobody really cared about me why should I care about them?" The only problem was that it cut out anybody who really who did or would care about you/me.

Believe me when I say that trusting takes time. From the sounds of it you were also one of those nice people that may have been taken advantage of. Rather than getting back at the world for its wrongs may I suggest focusing inwards and improving yourself? Take up a hobby, work out, read books, anything to discover the true you. Eventually you'll find some true friends and/or the love of your life hopefully.

Personally, it takes too much time and energy being angry... Just try to move onto better times. I hope that helps. I'll be lurking around :)

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-08-03 20:56 ID:Heaven

i dont care who says theyre hot or they arent id still put it in all their holes

5 Name: Otakun : 2014-08-04 01:59 ID:0UwN6hbY

>>4

That's horrible. At least get to know them first!

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-08-15 04:54 ID:PPffmxYb

Thanks >>3

7 Name: Otakun : 2014-08-16 03:57 ID:0UwN6hbY

No prob >>6. I like to help.

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How to date a Japanese girl? (80)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 14:32 ID:+0Z1XWt2

So I live in the countryside of Japan. Not many opportunities to meet pretty girls out here, but I have met one. The problem is, outside of hand holding, she has been very non-commital. But whenever I give up on her, she emails me saying she really wants to do something with me.
I'm not sure about the rules in Japan. Does one just go for the gusto, like in the Japanese movies? Somehow I doubt life is like the fiction. I'm a relatively shy guy that got tired of being burned, so my progress is glacial to say the least.
Does one have to admit one has feelings, ala densha otoko? How do I move to the next stage.

Supplementary: she is six years older than me. Maybe she sees that as a problem.

71 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-02 04:42 ID:Heaven

>>70
your words are at odds with your actions

72 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-10 11:10 ID:Dghv3CGi

OK Japanese women are just like any other women, they all want the same thing, kindness, protection and providence from their man. A girl may already like you and is hoping that you do to, so they wait for you to do want thing, and that's to confess to them, because they're afraid that you might not like them back, so if you really love this girl confess to her and she'll tell you what she wants, unlike the US, Japanese woman are very considerate and will accept your feelings, but they'll tell you that they're not interested if they don't like you. My apologies for this being late, I just found this site.

73 Name: ham : 2012-06-06 18:30 ID:cWeLLa/n

hm... really? i thought jap babes usually are the more forward types who will confess their feelings for you like those cliched jap high school movies? and give handmade goodies on valentines too?
i also here they are a bit more materialistic? is that true?

74 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-06-11 04:20 ID:RllnNF0k

SOS!
【Japan is being in a critical situation】
In spite of this is an important time for Japan to revive, Japanese Government keeps trying to profit China and Korea.
So China has been invading Japan, and Korea has been eating at Japan.
On politically, socially, mentally and many sides or insides of things.

Many Chinese and Korean are living in Japan now.
Why do they only see this situation without a single word for the interests
of Japan?
If this situation is going on, Japan as what Japan is would not last much
longer.
Do they really want like that?

If Chinese people who live in Japan don't face the fact of their mother
country, they would lost nowaday's their freedom and wealth.

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75 Name: Wolf : 2013-08-14 14:52 ID:I51loVbF

The Japanese are very reserved with their romance. They tend towards subtle flirting with gestures, body language, and indirect statements much more than western cultures which emphasis bravely pursuing a kiss or embrace. While they MAY find western bluntness some what endearing they will also shy away from it if they feel it is too much too soon or too fast. The Japanese do tend to put a lot of importance on the social bonds they form with others and as such take longer to reach a level of even friendship with others. The most you can do is be yourself but moderate some of your affectionate behavior so you're not "coming on too strong" and just take your time. Eventually when you've known each other for a good amount of time I think a minimum of a 1/2 a year would be ok you should admit how you feel and ask her on a date. There are some culture differences but women like feeling special and that's universal.

76 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-03-27 16:06 ID:I60K8yIh

Japanese Cute Girls Photo
http://girlsjapanese.com/

77 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-03-27 17:51 ID:4SPAXk6j

They DO NOT date otakus and freaks.

78 Name: Anonymous : 2014-06-09 07:27 ID:8s/YwKFq

you need to do her in the butt

79 Name: gorrillaconvention : 2014-08-03 20:58 ID:Heaven

i dont care who says theyre hot or they arent id still put it in all their holes

80 Name: Ernesto : 2014-08-05 06:25 ID:xzrR3YTL

Try online dating like POF eg. The simplest way facebook or video-chats like originclub.com dating-chat and so on. There is nothing difficult man. A friend of mine met girl from RUSSIA on such a site. He even moved to Russia to met her IRL. I think it's easier to meet girl from Japan.

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Nothing but questions. (6)

1 Name: ChonChon!VxLFeBl2NY : 2014-07-06 19:18 ID:yY2/cGLf

An ex-boyfriend,lets call him Thomas, and I split up a little over a year and a half ago. At the time I was more devastated than I had ever imagined was possible, however I slowly came to realize it was for the best. My best friend John helped me through it, he was always there to listen, and he never got mad when I called him at weird hours. I'd never considered John anything but a friend, and I felt sure he felt the same way.

I feel as though a little information about the events proceeding the break-up is necessary. Thomas always had a bit of a paranoid streak, nothing that would be considered a serious mental issue, but definitely more than the norm.Over the course of the three months before we broke up, he became decreasingly paranoid, and distant. I can't stress enough how drastically he changed, he went from being one of the most happy go lucky guys I'd ever met, to someone I was at times scared of. Not scared of in the sense that I felt he would do physical harm to me, but in the sense that I felt like I was walking on eggshells when I was around him. I tried on several occasions to get him to open up to me about what was bothering him, but he never would.

This past Valentines day irrevocably changed the way I feel about the events leading up to, and after the breakup. John, and I went to a singles party. For the most part he was his usual drunk self, he was hitting on every guy there. About half-way through the night he started hitting on me. When I questioned him about his actions he said he was just joking, and trying to cheer me up. I felt a little weird out, but he's done similar things to other people so I wrote it off. At some point during the drive home he started crying, so of course I asked him what was wrong. Our conversation went something like this

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-07-13 19:09 ID:72Bd8osy

> he was hitting on every guy there. About half-way through the night he started hitting on me

Your friend John is gay? Best I can understand of this situation is that John is jealous of you because he likes Thomas.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-07-27 08:21 ID:1KvryomP

Perhaps the problem is that all of you like Dick.

4 Name: Otakun : 2014-07-29 11:16 ID:VFm8H65G

It's been a while since I've been on these boards, about 6 years now. Here's what I've got to say: Trust your heart. If you want to give Thomas another chance do it, but do it only for your own sake of having no regrets. If you can live without Thomas happily then move on. However, John doesn't sound like he's really that good of a friend. You're better off without him. Good luck

5 Name: saeg : 2014-07-29 20:27 ID:Heaven

>>4
Welcome back!

6 Name: gorrillaconvention : 2014-08-03 20:57 ID:Heaven

i dont care who says theyre hot or they arent id still put it in all their holes

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Girlfriend has lower sex drive than me (5)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-02-28 01:10 ID:WO1k+0eJ

I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. Everything about our relationship is great, she's a real catch. Unfortunately, she has a lower sex drive than I do. This is nothing new, since the beginning she's always been more passive and less sexual than me. She really enjoys sex once we get started, and rarely turns me down, but I have to put a lot of work into getting her in the mood. Recently, I'm getting tired of having to always be the one that initiates things. It makes me feel like she doesn't physically desire me. I've been getting sexually frustrated and often masturbate secretly to try to quell my rampant sex drive.

Last night I talked to her about it, but we didn't really come to any fruitful conclusion. She acknowledged that she's not often in the mood for sex. I know I can't force her to want me more, but I don't want to end the relationship just over this. What should I do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-02-28 11:55 ID:jHDQvROH

Does she know that you masturbate? You said you do it in secret - maybe if you let her know that you do then she will look at things differently. Perhaps she can help with that even if she is not in the mood for sex herself, I guess it depends though. But it's possible that she would enjoy pleasuring you that way and it would keep both of you satisfied. I don't know how you would suggest that directly though, but you should let her know that you are masturbating if she doesn't already. Gague her reaction and act accordingly.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-03-27 04:45 ID:YiReYCca

I think most girls have lower sex drive than their boyfriends. My girlfriend certainly does, though not to the extent that your does. If this is a very serious problem, but you want to continue the relationship, I would recommend some kind of couple's therapy.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-07-27 08:23 ID:dfLlWCll

Women have lower sex drives than men do. This is normal for humans and what you are describing is also normal.

If women had the same sex drive men did, no one would ever stop fucking and we'd all starve to death.

Sad but true.

5 Name: gorrillaconvention : 2014-08-03 20:57 ID:Heaven

i dont care who says theyre hot or they arent id still put it in all their holes

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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-06-07 07:45 ID:DxZgcqxe

      \   pubic hair    /
        \_  |   _/
            彡彡彡
            ミミミミ clitoris
           ミミミミ / ̄ ̄ ̄ ̄
           ノ σ ヽ urethra
         / / ゚ヽ ̄ ̄ ̄ ̄
labia majora/ //\\ \ 
   ̄ ̄ ̄ ̄  ( (vagina) ── labia minora
        \ \\// /
           `   \/  '
  \         *──anus
    \_____/\_____/

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-06-07 20:16 ID:swlqOdzu

So what?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-06-18 02:31 ID:DxZgcqxe

muh poosie

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5 Name: gorrillaconvention : 2014-08-03 20:57 ID:Heaven

i dont care who says theyre hot or they arent id still put it in all their holes

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