I had convinced myself that this year I'd confess to him. On Valentines day. But we talked and... I couldn't say it. It was a normal conversation.
I'm too shy. ;__;
what makes you say that? :(
You can't know for certain until you do it.
yeah, you could give it a shot. you are a girl, at least. it's a lot harder when you're gay and you know the target of your affections isn't :/
What do you mean, it's harder for guys? I'm a girl, and I've asked guys out and I have been turned down repeatedly (and I've had to turn guys down) and each time it was really painful, on both me and the guy. Let's not generalize here.
That's not to say that you shouldn't try, you should if that's how you feel! Maybe ask around, or get a friend to find out how he feels indirectly. This has worked for me, a friend blurted out my feelings to the guy I liked, and later he asked me out. I think you'll regret it later if you say nothing. At least if if doesn't work out, you can know for sure that it wasn't because you didn't have the courage to try.
I think what 17 meant is that at least when guys are rejected by girls, there's always a chance she might change her mind in the future. but if the person you like doesn't like your sex, then you're screwed.
not in a good way
You will never know until you ask. Isn't it better for you to ask and know either way and prolonging whatever is coming to you? Imagine if he did say yes and you two would be together this instant! Go and find out now! Good luck!
i say go for it, whay do u have to lose?
I am a guy, and I recieved a handwritten letter from a girl that I would have been to shy to ask myself, it was quite a bit of a coincidence. So even if it dosn't appear like he would, you should just try.
I'd really appreciate it if you guys can give me good advice, and not just stupid dissing about how naive or stupid I am.
I want to marry a japanese guy. I know I am probably being really one-dimensional and naive, but that is what I want.
The problem is, I don't know where am I supposed to meet a Japanese guy. I mean, I see some at school, but they are all taken or just don't seem to be interested in me.
I'm from Poland and I know one girl that was studying japanese culture. She had her trip to japan and she came back with japanese husband. Now they are publishing mangas in my country.
I know i can come across as being shallow, but I like to think that like some people may want their boyfriend to be taller than them, or have a great smile, or are caring, I just have the criteria of them being Japanese. I mean, I really don't see anything wrong with that...
Oh, and btw I am Chinese.
I am curious, what do you think of as being the stereotype japanese male that you wish to marry? Hmm?
Can't blame you though, people have different preferences. I prefer gamer geeks, I later hooked up with a gamer geek. However, naturally that isn't the sole reason for why. But the positive things i associate with gamer geeks were prerequisits for me to be able to start finding him suitable to start a relationship with. That wasn't the ultimate reason for why.
What I'm trying to say in a very clumsy manner: beware of being with someone only because a certain label can be applied to them. Do NOT settle with someone that is just "okay" or "good enough".
Be with someone because they're bent the way you like them to be (have that label), as well as really fitting you and your life/goals well when it comes to being in a serious, longterm relationship. Love alone does not make a good, stable marriage, and nor does finances alone. There needs to be both a mutual feeling of love (intensity may vary, as long as they're not too mismatched it's not a problem) as well as that you two must be able to work well (or at least decently enough) as team-mates in life.
Also, beware of people who put up a false front, and then turn out to be significantly different than the facade they've used. Make sure to not get married to hastly, regardless of how much you're smitten with the person. There are plently of extremely charming psychopats who turn 180 degrees around after enough time, regardless of gender.
I still love him, but now I love Katamari too.
Actually, loving Katamari doesn't seem to help. I was rolling up things that remind me of him... orz
nothing happened... nothing ever happens.
Katamari above all.
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You'll get it right sometime, keep trying!
I don't know, black women are generally pretty lazy.
maybe she was lazy to you.
peeping is not good.
>>1 Finding a girlfriend is the same for any race. If there is a girl that you like you should try to be brave and talk to her. Its always better if she is a girl that you see often.Take in the morning waiting for a train/bus for example. After seeing her for a few days you can start with a smile. Then you can move up to a friendly good morning. After a short time of doing this normally people will just start having whole conversations with the other person. You can ask them questions like, "How are you?" and simple things like that.Try to work off of the other person's actions. If she is sad you can ask her whats bothering her, or tell her to smile. The best girls like boys that are gentle and helpful. Black girls are no different from any other race. Just be brave.
You can do it,
Well, taking into considerations about Asians with black chicks, I would say this could be a possible thing. But most likely to be other way round if its not wrong. Because at some points, people in the western world tend to think should be other way round rather than just Asian with brown skins, but in the Asians traiditions it should be friendiler and lot differ from the western world these days.
What you might wana try is, you could simply look for one on the internet, whichs I would not recommend it, its unsafe plus now adays theres alot of strangers weirdo's and shxtty's that you could be lot easier to trap or fall into. The other way you might wana try is get out yourself there, go out to clubs, pubs, even bars to look for a fat chance to try and hook up for one. Other than those two ideas, friends might introduce you one, or neither by any skinny chances.
it seems brown with Asians are quite okay, but when Yellow skins with the brown skins are seem to be not very right. Can anyone explain this?? Asian are not really that racists comparing to any other race.
someone said that they went to the local strip club with some $1 bills and got a girlfriend ... try that...???
I wouldn't like to personally do that, but if I have to do it to get a girlfriend, I will :/
And since I hardly have any friends (I only have friends on Xbox Live), chances of getting a girlfriend are VERY VERY VERY slim for me D:
That's why you, oh I don't fucking know, go outside?
I would like to start by saying that right now in my life, I do not want a girlfriend. They cost time, money, and exert anxiety. In my eyes, from what I've seen and experienced. I am a virgin. Just finished my second semester in college. Now I begin.
The only girl that has truely been in a romantic relationship with me was my girlfriend senoir year. I went to an all-boys Catholic school outside of Boston, and she went to an all-girls school two towns over. We met at Catholic Youth Group.
The relationship was pretty pleasant, and I felt like I got all the benefits with the spending of time and money. She broke up with me within weeks after graduation. She found out that I used to smoke pot before I dated her. That was the reason.
Obviously, I smoke pot again. Took it up right after she dumped me. Also lost faith in God, which I knew I had at one time in my life.
The first day at college, I hooked up with a girl I had met at orientation. I slept in her bed on the VERY first night of college. I haven't talked to her since (~1.4 yrs). She was in love with me, and I didn't know what to do. Afraid? Probably.
I'm never going to lie again. I'm done screwing myself.
But my question is still unanswered.
it's neither healthy nor unhealthy. It's a matter of want. is that the life you want? if it is, then go for it. if it isn't, then set things in motion to avoid it.
:S I don't know. ;;
the paths are not so far away that you can't change lanes.
try one and if doesn't work, try the other.
You can live a healthy single life, but you first need to... eh... cultivate a healthy lifestyle, I guess. Which includes fulfilling your social, intellectual, and emotional needs in a constructive way. (It wouldn't seem to include boozing and stoning btw)
Everyone's a little bit different. I don't think I, or anyone else here, can tell you whether or not you can do this, but I think you can find out for yourself if you take the time to reflect on it.
welp look like i'm going to be miserable for a while, thanks for trying, /love/.
So, I loved this girl a lot. It was a long-distance relationship. It was going to be like three years before we could really live together. We are both virgins. She promised her virginity to me. We both had romantic ideals of lifelong love. I still do, that's my main shtick, I am a die-hard romantic and I'm saving my virginity even though I'm a guy. I don't care what anybody else says.
It started out with me being very idealistic and thinking it could work. Whenever I had any doubt my girlfriend would tell me she'd take care of my doubts, and that she believed in me and my ideals, and that three years wasn't long to wait because we'd grow old together anyways. It seemed perfect.
We talked every day. It never got old for me, to talk to her.
Two weeks ago it was her birthday. She was excited to see me draw her a picture for her birthday. It was a crappy drawing, but it was from my heart; it was a picture of me and her, stick figures, and me giving her a ring. She said it was cute and she loved it, then she said "brb" and I didn't hear from her for over a week.
You are not stupid, just a bit silly.
I won't comment on your breakup, because... well, it doesn't sound real, you aren't telling the whole story.
But Nothing is "for a lifetime", things change, you will change, your girlfriend will change, sometimes those changes make you stop loving. And why the obsession with virginity? It has no impact on relationship, besides not fitting your fairytale fantasy.
Who is criticizing you anyway? I doubt many people care about what you want in a relationship. Not that your beliefs are radical or unusual in the first place.
The few studies that exist on telegony suggest that a female retains the DNA of previous partners inside her brain, potentially affecting future offspring. Is that supposed to be attractive or something? I'm surprised that expressing preference for virgins is so looked down upon by the majority.
It has a lot of impact. Previous relationships make people start comparing things in their mind, and that is bad for a relationship. There are studies about how women who have had sex with more people end up having a higher chance of divorce.
Ultimately, all meaning is derived from contrast. If you haven't had sex before and you have sex for the first time with somebody, meaning is subconsciously attributed to that. Even moreso if it's mutual. It is romantic. It is not a fairytale fantasy at all. It's my ideal and it's important, and it is totally doable if other people just shared it. It's wrong to think "that's not realistic" and just discount it as a too perfect to be real. You have to aim for what is really the best possible, and live to be a person who can do that.
Things can be for a lifetime if you will it. By having an attitude that nothing is for a lifetime, nothing will be for a lifetime. If you don't want it, you can't have it. I am fully confident that I can love a girl forever, and be utterly loyal to her too. I wish I could prove that, but you'll just have to believe me.
That story is the whole story, but more things happened afterwards. She approached me later and said that she made up that story about cheating on me to make me go away for a while. Now, she says hi to me every day, but we never can start a conversation, and I don't want to. She says she is confused about what she wants. It just hurts to talk to her now.
Sure, aim for the stars or whatever, but realize when it isn't going to happen and compromise. You won't be an astronaut, drive the latest Ferrari and have a virgin supermodel girlfriend. Welcome to real life.
But maybe you can work in a planetarium, drive Alfa Romeo and have a cute, understanding girlfriend. If virginity is such a huge deal for you, I'm sure you can make it happen, just look for overweight, ugly girls, that never get any attention from man.
The whole idea, that you'll find this one amazing girl, that has been waiting for you all her life and you'll both fall in this beautiful everlasting love... it's silly. That's not how relationships work, at all.
Nevermind it, man.
It's about sharing an ideal. Just as friends are close because they share interests, people who might be partners should be close because they share ideals. If you don't have any ideals at all and care too much about what's "realistic", then there's nothing left to talk about.
Anyways, this girl has started making contact with me again, saying she's anxious and needs somebody to talk to. I told her it's one-sided because I clearly care about her and she clearly does not care about me because she ignores me when I am having some sort of emotional problem and she doesn't feel ashamed at all about just using me, so I've cut contact with her.
I'm really amazed that this girl ended up being like this. What a tragedy.
I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away ＿|￣|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
after a few days, i traveled to japan with my friends for 10 days, only just got back last night. The trip to japan i think really healed me as i feel like im back to normal now. I met up with Miya this afternoon and took the train with her back to her station, we had a nice chat on the train but seeing her made me really miss her. I'm going to see miya again this friday after she finish off work and we're going to go watch Captain America: civil war. I'm pretty sure its a bad idea to see Miya but once i leave taiwan end of this month i wont be able to see her again till maybe next year. I'm still not 100% sure if moving back to melbourne would make it better for me.
Wow, so many years have passed since I last read this thread and checked your YouTube profile out. You're a trooper. Hang in there. Hope things turn out well for you.
you're a living legend, eiga otoko
Why didn't I discover this thread sooner?!!
Sigh I just went through two months of literally hell in June when i moved back to melbourne , will find time to update everyone
I hope things are going well my friend.
benson, you do it wrong. after 10y you have to know it.
i recommend read:
mark manson - models - a comprehensive guide to attracting women
mark manson - the subtle art of not giving a fuck
I've started college recently. There's this quiet girl in my music theory review class that I'd really like to get to know better. Problem is, I have a very small window of opportunity each week to talk to her--the class only meets on Fridays, and she's usually pretty quick to leave as soon as it finishes.
Any advice on how to find or create more chances to interact with her?
It's probably a good idea. Meet over coffee or something to discuss that class material. I would ask for her number at this point in case one of you needs to change plans. During your coffee study, feel it out and decide if it would be appropriate to ask her on a more traditional date.
OP here again, I hit a nearby coffee shop with her after our class today and actually got her number! The way it happened was a little odd though.
Basically we went and chatted, left with our drinks and talked some more. When we were about to head our separate ways I asked for her number, but she was sort of hesitant. After a moment she made up her mind and gave it to me, mentioning it'd be good for when she needs help with the theory class and whatnot.
The whole deal up till this point was going pretty well I think, so I'm a bit confused by the sudden hesitancy. Should I keep on this or is that a sign that she doesn't want that much to do with me?
As long as you don't do anything to creep her out, you're good to go. The hesitance she shown means she doesn't fully trust you yet, but don't think that her action says that she doesn't want to do anything with you.
I am not the OP but am in a similar situation. Once the number is obtained, how,does one go from "hanging out" to dating?
It's possible that she doesn't have any desire for a more intimate relationship with you, but regardless I don't think you should consume yourself over a brief moment. If you continue to pick up signals that show she isn't interested you should still have a decent friendship, because she might have cute friends!
You call and ask if she wants to go out on some activity. Lunch and a museum, dinner and a movie, whatever.
Sorry that theory girl isn't happening. Good luck with the flutist; hopefully you or one of your classmates throws a party and you can try to mingle with her there...
Where is a good place to go on a relaxing date where one can be cozy with their date? If the activity is too active, there is no time to be close with each other, but too sedentary and nobody enjoys themselves. Any ideas and advice are appreciated.
Hello everyone, this is my first time posting on 4-ch. I really need some advice. Even though I have been in Japan for almost 4 years, I have no real friends here. I know this maybe crazy to ask but I'm looking for a girlfriend and I don't know how to go about it. I have been talking to this one girl on Line, but I don't think it's going anywhere. How do I go about this being the type of person who basically stays at home except for going to work.
>How do I go about this being the type of person who basically stays at home except for going to work.
You need friends, first and foremost.
Get out of the house. Ask your co-workers out, stick to them, find people out of that group that have thing in common with you, bond and eventually you will met girls.
^be advised, this is advice coming from a total fucking loser
hahaha fuck, we're on the same boat. living here for 4.5years still no GF. All flirtings