Didn't know if this fit better in sexuality or romance, but meh. No, I'm not talking about the animals here. What I'm wondering is how to get with an older woman who is specifically looking for younger guys. Why I'm asking this is because I realize that I fail with both the semi-lolis (16-17 year olds) and girls my own age. No, I'm not ugly (I'd consider myself at least average, likely better). I think what has kept me from the above categories is more of a lack of anything to discuss with them (I really don't care for pop culture related small talk). I have realized, however, that I feel much more comfortable talking with older woman (though I only occasionally get the chance to get to talk to the types I'd want to fuck). I'm 20, so I guess this eliminates the most obvious answer (bars). While I don't necessarily need the stereotypical MILF, I'd be looking for a fuckable older woman. Has anyone here had any experience with this? I'm a complete beginner to this sort of thing, so any advice would be appreciated.
Dear drunk cougar lover,
~ A guy (your age) should be able to bag-a-babe (no matter what age) with the following phrase: "Whoa! Yer like, ...HOT!"
Yep. If she's horny for a drunk 20-something... dude you're in!
{Try the bar & grill at your local airport and/or zoo.}
Cougars will tend to go after fit, handsome young men, possibly in attempt to fulfill fantasies or recreate memories of when they were young and were the object of attraction. The thing with cougars is they are picky and you need the right attitude for them to hunt you (they are cougars after all). Put yourself in places where they can notice you. Look nice, look professional. Cougars are attracted to younger men, not boys, so be mature. And when attracting any girl, confidence is key.
I would say, try looking on craigslist or okcupid and start your search there. Don't try to sound desperate or like a child unless the only cougars you will see are the ones in porn.
whats up with you thread necros clocking in overtime all over /love/?
It is a cougar thread, it is past its prime but wants to stay young
>>12 This post is/was relevant to me. I thought the board was open to the public. I saw the date, but cougar-relationships are as old as Adam & Eve. (or at least Eve & her kids) I appologize for sharing my thoughts on YOUR public board. bye.
>>14 chill out. this is only one of about a half dozen threads that suddenly got necroed over the last week or so. actually from the looks of it, it might be you doing all that.
yeah, get off MY public board.
I saw one of those cougar people women at a Sam's with a guy who was in his mid 20s. She was at least 45 and she was wearing clothes that was a size smaller than she was. She was a "fuck her and dump her" girl. Good looking, but not great.
These cougar bitches scare me. Cougars should only be the ones on Discovery HD...and that is it.
How much make-up do girls put on these days? Is it really necessary? Every time I go out with a girl, she has about a lbs of mask covered on her face. Seriously, this is really a turn off. Especially those lipsticks. Plastic doesn't taste good at all when I'm kissing a girl. The fruity smell is not necessary either. Anyone else get turned off by make ups?
Thanks for all your pity and sorrow, people, but I don't need it. You'd better be sorry about yourselves, 'cause you haven't had the chance to meet the women (and I'm saying women, not girls) that I've met, with such a wonderful look AND SKIN that even in their thirties they look like teenagers.
Enjoy your warpaint, then.
And I leave it here. It's becoming too much like...
http://images4.wikia.nocookie.net/uncyclopedia/images/3/39/Monkey_knife_fight.jpg
Yeah. Sure. Sounds more to me like you don't know how to recognize skillfully applied makeup when you see it. In their thirties many women have already completely lost their youthful skin, and nearly all of them show visible wear even to the untrained eye. You do not live in a magical village where all the women have beautiful skin, you simply don't know makeup. This is biology we're talking about now. Women age. Here's a helpful hint, MOST women aren't caking the makeup on because that ruins the point. The idea is to look like you AREN'T wearing any. Apparently the women you know are quite good at it, cause I promise you they are wearing it.
Oh and is this guy for real with the Beverly Hills thing? We're talking about MAKEUP, not friggin nosejobs. Where do YOU live? Antarctica?
all i put on is a little powder foundation to keep my skin an even color, maybe some eyeshadow, and mascara. i fucking hate lipstick haha.
but really, girls who wear like pounds of makeup everyday is nasty, keep it atleast partially natural
As stupid as it sounds, several women wear make-up for other women - basically, it makes them look and feel prettier (provided they don't slop it on like butter on toast...) and hopefully that'll make them feel better than the girl sitting next to them who might not be wearing any (Visible pore? Oh the horror...).
I'm not too against make-up myself, but I do have a thing against eye-liner. Several of my cohorts turn up looking like they got into a serious fight last night just because they apply the "more is better" theory to their eyes...
>>29 the first reply in this thread and about half of the responses since then have said the same thing yes.
mostly its just one guy who doesnt know anything about makeup who thinks all of the women around him have naturally beautiful skin. i guess he believes theres something in the local water.
I like natural faces.
Except for excessive amounts I'm not saying I dislike makeup, but I usually find natural faces just as beautiful as with a bit of makeup.
As beauty is a subjective measure, I'm free to think that natural skin is beautiful even though it's not "perfect".
Women age - so what? Everybody does.
>>31 someone hasn't been paying attention. Women don't care what men want.
I want to find people who don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or party. Where are these people, seriously?
I'm tired of those people who have to rely on such things to have fun; generic sheep who conform to lame social norms.
I've got my head on straight, I know exactly what I'm all about, and I just want to find some self-reliant individuals.
I'm a 20 year old Asian male, an English major at UC Davis, and I'm discouraged.
This compulsory drinking thing is very much of a problem in Finland (where I'm from) too, but I don't give up to it too much. When in college I always ignored those student parties. My contacts to "common people" were not that good.
I do like to go to parties, but not the kind of parties discussed in this topic. I go to rave parties for the music, but not to get wasted. Sometimes I drink a few beers, because it helps me relax, and occasionally I do organic drugs at home, but usually when I go to a party I'm sober or almost sober. I dislike sitting in bars, because of the shitty music and I don't like the thought of drinking too much (which is encouraged by the sheep herd).
I am sure you can also find likeminded people in the things you are interested in. Schools or jobs are not always the best places to find people with common interests.
wow an asian hippie.
OP, I know what you mean. (Sorry I'm near DC) It's hard to find legitimate people who aren't full of things to get themselves high off of and distract themselves. @Scotland BBC, pub-drinking is completely different than American college drinking. (Blech) I agree, going to the pub with mates is good, but not getting wasted at someone's house until you can't even stand up isn't a good thing.
Your ideas of fun in post five really seem like a good time.
;D I think you get more attention if you DON'T do those things, which is kind of sad, since you're seen as the loser. Well, I'm SORRY I'm not killing my lungs/liver.
Is this tread for real? I'm sure there's a bunch of like-minded pussies sitting in a circle doing yoga on your campus grounds somewhere right this second. If not, why the fuck are you surprised? How do you expect to meet like-minded people when your lack of interest in typical social activity precludes you from meeting other people?
>>Really though, I just want to find a nice girl who can get high off of climbing trees, swimming in lakes, spelunking abandoned factories, standing on top of hills, or running through dense forests and fields of grass; top it off with a few hours of basking by a steady stream, just to indulge in silence... Anything romanticized and organic, away from the chaos that is conformity--contrived, thoughtless, and normalized.
This is the funniest thing I have ever read on this board. Why are you on 4ch when you could be running through a forest naked? I'd love to see what your attitude is like in 10 years or so.
>>I want to find people who don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or party. Where are these people, seriously?
sitting at their computers whining just like you, since they obviously aren't partying. either that, or out doing all the things that you claim to want to do, instead of whining at their computers. maybe you should reexamine your lifestyle.
OP you're the reason why no one likes Asian guys except fat wapanese chicks
i hate to say it but i agree with:
>>18
Im asian and i actaully dislike asians who dont social, party, drink, flirt, etc...makes the asian race as a whole, disfunctional to the point you get the media contributing to the disrespectful nonsense you see now, which is why I myself detach my whole chinese culture and follow my birthplace, The Mighty Brave Scotland, Home of the Brave.
In anycase, I suggest you do the same to some extent; you cant follow your ancient ancestors way and act like a starved dog and just let it happen and not fight back.
What you call "Social Norms" is actually Natural Human Behaviour, its been like this for centuries, you my friend are disillusioned by your selfish asian desires and need to wake up and smell the alcohol.
>>Really though, I just want to find a nice girl who can get high off of climbing trees, swimming in lakes, spelunking abandoned factories, standing on top of hills, or running through dense forests and fields of grass; top it off with a few hours of basking by a steady stream, just to indulge in silence... Anything romanticized and organic, away from the chaos that is conformity--contrived, thoughtless, and normalized.
What's wrong with partying? I go to parties all the time and I stay away from substances. Just got out of High School in NY. I think partying can be fun as long as people aren't too smashed, since it forces you to interact with people. I've made decent friends out of people I meet at parties.
So did the OP ever find a magical pixie girl to frolic in forests with?
My girlfriend goes out and flirts with cute guys. I know shes only having abit of fun and nothing would come from it but i hate it. It makes me feel like im not good enuth for her.
How do i know this? Because she told me, it came up in a conversation - "What ya been up to today? well, we went to the mall, guess who was there! The thorntuns guy! so we flirted with him, hes so cute! I love it when he blushes". We talk about EVERYTHING, its as if we're really close friends rather than partners.. minus the fact that we stare into eachothers eyes and 'make love' etc.
Another factor, Its a long distance relationship. We're seeing eachother fairly oftain.. im hoping once every three months AT LEAST for now (Obviously it will increase). I guess she needs the physical conection with someone? maybe not physical, but flirting and stuff.
The anoying thing is i dont even look at other girls anymore. Everyone i see who i'd usually go nuts for i think "But shes not [girlfriends name here]" and i dont even look twice. I dont even look once damnit, its more of a 'notice there is another human over there' kinda thing. I dont even look at famous people or 'worship' and band members or whatever. She is the only girl in my life!
Im not too sure what im asking. I need to get this all out and have feedback on it. Yaknow, get it off my chest and stuff. I want to talk to her about it but i dont want to challenge our relationship or upset her.
>>22
She's very insecure about the relationship, to the point where she doesn't want to burn her chances with the other guys when your relationship ends (yes, when, even though it probably just is an if consciously in her head). After all, she has not met you yet, and most people tend to fear that they've just missunderstood the person they've fallen for online, that they're not like what they seem to be (no, it doesn't take lying, some habits are unnoticable via the intarwebs, some are greatly magnified and others are shrunk down etc - it's easy to get the wrong idea about people). The excessive flirting might be due to craving attention and acknowledgement, and she may be afraid of losing that if the others find out she's taken, and therefor get less interested in flirting with her as she's taken.
I suggest you wait a bit, and see if she feels she is seriously interest in you when you two have finally seen each other face to face, and spent some time together. Some people have difficulties taking online relationships seriously until they actually get physical confirmation for that it's not just yet another dead-end attention-whoring game, the "NPC"s being the people she flirts with. Wait a few weeks after you two have met and once again gotten separated, and then discuss whether your relationship really is solid, or if it is just a pleasant temporary thing.
(Always look on the bright side...)
>>22
break up with her. she wont change and u wont either at least in the short run. but make sure u have sex with her before u ditch her.
>>24
It doesn't take the internets to get the wrong idea about people. It's easy, even in real life.
>>22
She sucks. She wants to keep other guys attracted to her, hence not letting you tell anyone. It's obvious from her opinion on cheating, that she likes the idea of having all these guys at hand to play with. Either that or she's dating other guys in your server. Date-raping you is also another possible option.
>>22
I absolutely despise girls like that. They know perfectly well how girl deprived these guys are, and they go about wrapping them around their little fingers so they themselves can feel wanted. As a girl, I'm a pretty serious gamer and granted, there's nothing wrong with the odd flirt, but I still prefer to play under the guise of a male. It's distracting, and makes the whole game more boring to play when all the guys are flitting around a "female". It's especially pathetic in rpgs, when I get 3 "confessions" a day. That's when I drop the "I'm a 32 year old" gag. Hence my advice is that those type of girls are more often than not, not worth your time, they just crave the attention.
>>28
Stop playing as a male for the sole reason of not having to put up with flirting from guys. Be firm about unwanted behavior. Those guys need to be taught that girls are not objects to swarm around. The partymembers I tend to play with are all IRL friends of mine, which includes several chicks. We're used to them, and we all play for the sake of playing. They're good at what they do and we give them as much respect as any male players. It's rather annoying to see immature guys who have been trained to see the sight of a chick as an invitation to act like a retarded asshat. They're giving male gamers a bad name, and need to be put in their place. Hey, if girls like you stopped hiding under a male guise, asshat chicks like >>22's wouldn't hold as much power. Who'd you get attracted to? Some chick (or in your case probably a guy) who's good at what they're doing, great personality and a good party member - or some attention whore who can't cover your back because they're too busy flirting with everybody? If the guys at your server learn to respect you and others like you, then you'll get less retarded "confessions". The ones who really get interested in you will take less annoying routs.
>>29
Yeah, you have a point there.
I do play as a female on rpgs (my guy friends wouldn't let me play as a guy). It's just the fps games that I choose not to put up with all that baggage as a girl. It'd be heaps funny to see the look on their faces when they do find out though. I'll contemplate the idea, it's just so much easier being a "male" atm. Also for the reason that I'm not looking for love online at all. I don't even give away my email address because it'll only lead to niceties and shallow conversation.
hey dude i really like the way u r thinking(talkin to the girl who said that flirtin is casual), i study NLP psychology so i kinda understand what u mean....yet I just came across this and really apologize coz I have to go now and don't have time 4 posting my opinion, don't even know if the thread is still active!! so if u guys r there and interested in a somewhat more science based discussion drop me an email@ simplyamr@gmail.com later!!
Don't know if this thread is active? Look at the date for the last post: 2007. It's definitely a dead thread.
my girl does the same thing, it irks me so bad! just wish she would quit and be completely MINE!
How do you guys deal with a break up? usually I deal with mine by being angry at the girl for breaking up with me (immature I know) and then I dont learn anything.
But this time, she broke up with me and I just cant be mad. I just miss her so damn much. She broke up with me because she didnt like herself, and she couldnt be happy with someone until she was happy with herself. If that makes no sense, just remember the saying "You cant love someone, til you love yourself". That is basically what was going on.
I just cant get her out of my head, and I dont know how to deal with this shit.
I fuck my blow up doll. That might help. Just give it time.
ahh man, don;t know what;s wrong with girls like that..
a friend of mine had the same thing as you. there's really nothing you can do about that. She might be dealing with some issues.
sorry mate, just give it some rest..
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im sorry, thats pretty much whats going on in my dumbass relationship, except he's my first love and he kind of treats me like shit but i cant stop loving him you know? i cant even leave him, even though i feel like shit about myself.
just relax, if you really do like/love her, you'll give her the time she needs and you'll respect her feelings. women have moody ass minds, she's dealing with issues.
>>2
I use my hand because I don't have a doll...
just to give this thread some closure, I have finally moved on. It took me til a few weeks ago to realize that i'm mostly over her.
I just cut off all contact with her, and hid away everything that would make me think of her. I saw her at the Scott Pilgrim midnight release and of course when I saw her, I felt a small pang of longing, but overall I was over it.
now, we talk from time to time. But things are never going to go back to the way they were before.
(and LOL at my verification code being "cow")
Would you tell? you love your girl and you really want to be honest, and you honestly had a night out that got a little too crazy at a strip club. would you tell?
depends what really happened.
if it was some dancer, nothing wrong, you prolly didn;t do shit. (even though, going to a stripclub while having a gf is asking for problems.)
personally, and I know I'm scum, I wouldn't tell.
I guess it all depends on details and situation.
Yeah, if I were raped then no.
if my boyfriend had done that, i would definitely want him telling me.
i would be a little upset at first, first of all, the fact of him going to a strip club is enough. i can give him a strip tease anyday. but if he cheated, of course i'd be angry but i'd let him explain himself because he deserves it.
but he also deserves a knee to the balls. it all really depends though.
but thats me, idk what your girl is like. you know her better than we do
I tried to recently finger my girlfriend. This is the first "serious" relationship that I've had. Her hymen is intact, and I can't seem to give her any kind of feeling when I finger her. I have difficulty finding her clitoris (it's dark) and she doesn't know how to masturbate, so she's as in the dark as I am. She is on an SSRI. I'm wondering if you have any advice.
> I have difficulty finding her clitoris (it's dark) ... she's as in the dark as I am.
TURN ON THE LIGHTS
AGREED! Seriously...the clitoris is right there...in the front near the top. OP is a dumb ass if he can't find it.
Explore with your tongue, feel for this little not near the top, start poking it with your tongue gently and she'll be squirming in no time
SSRIs are know to have a direct effect on sex drive. For how long has she been on it and how old is she?
i cant help but laugh to myself with this post...
its not even hard, rub the clit slowly and then do it faster progressively, then with 2 fingers you stick them deep inside her and give her the orgasm she craves for, all the while you nibble behind her neck and near the ears, once shes moist and ready, you may enter...lol
The SSRI may be making her non-responsive (or more so than usual). Some SSRI's prevent orgasm (or even make it painful). This can be frustrating. Other times sex drive drops to practically nothing. It's very variable from drug to drug & from user to user.
But yeah, you're going to have a hard time finding her buttons if drugs are cooling them down.
I need some fingering help too. How do you finger a G major chord?
awww
dont you watch porn?
yeah, basically what i said in the heading. how do you do it without...well, hurting the package?
Braces have no impact on blow job performance, I know as I have them and have no problem. For the guys who think they must stear clear of girls with braces, don't be so narrow minded. You don't kiss or give head with your teeth.
Im a bi male with a mouth full of braces top and bottom, i wear headgear AND 3 rubber bands right now. I have hooks for rubber bands on my 4 back molar bands. They can hook a penis. I am careful and keep it away from there. The first time i did give a bj I did cut my friend. I have even givien head with my headgear on. He said the cold facebow part felt good. Who knew! Just go a bit slow! Anyone wanna ride with my braces? lol!
it's ok.my girlfriend has braces and blows me all the time. as long as she doesn't have braces on the back of her teeth you good. just make sure she opens wide so that it doesn't cath on the way in. we made that mistake the first time. hope I could help. good luck
wow this post makes me fantasize everything you guys posted..
so I (really) experienced having a girlfriend yet, but the other guys ideas are good as long the brace doesn't hurt the penis. be careful, sometimes guys doesn't like it when their penis' is hurt, 'cause its the most precious part for all of us(except for gays 'cause their asses are their most precious part)
> 'cause its the most precious part for all of us(except for gays 'cause their asses are their most precious part)
seriously? is this a bad joke? what do you think gay men do to get off, rub their butts together?
this is a histerical thread im getting braces monday and once heard my friend talking bout his ex gf giving good bjs with braces ... I don't plan on giving any bjs but Haha! thanks for informing...
So um my girl is coming over tomorrow and I think she's gonna try to give me a bj....but i'm scared because she has bracers, this feed has really confused me. Before i was just scared, but now I'm kinda like wtf. She's never given one before and like i almost wanna like hint to her NOT TO FUCKING USE HER TEETH.... but umm yeah i kinda dont wanna scar, but deff want that bj.
just make sure to cover your teeth with your gums..go slow at first until u get the hang of it...don't forget to use your hand on the shaft and don't neglect the balls :)
look, my best talent (for sex anyways) is head, cos ive got a bit mouth+lipss. but i also have braces. dont go staright into it what ever you do thats just plain old boring and make sure your on your knees so your man get the whole look or he's sitting down and your inbetween his legs, also youve gotta be intrested you cant be like "oh ill suck it if i have to" get into it he'll love it honestly!
grab his shaft have a firm hold let him no your in control then start to kiss and lick his shaft whilst looking in his eye and giving a dirty smile then suck it, give him a little "mmmmm" every once in a while :)
brace shouldnt make no difference, you dont use your teeth unless your shit, take my advise girl it will make them go crazy oh yeahh!
deepthroat and let him cum in your mouth or on your face he'll go CRAZY!!!!
fuck, i have to get braces soon.. hopefully i wont fuck up any dicks, haha /:
whatever, im naturally good at bjs, i hope that wont changee
<rant>
Why do all women that seems interesting live in every other part of the country than in the area where I live?
Every girl I know within a reasonable radius is either taken or not somebody that I wish a romantic relationship with.
</rant>
The issue at hand is this girl I know.
To say that I love her at this point would be exaggregating, considering we've barely met, and that was before we actually got to know each other.
Even so we've been talking a bit lately, which I enjoy a lot, and I feel that she might be the one I'd like to share my future with.
I just don't know how I'll go about getting any further. I'd love to ask her out but she lives so far away that I'll have to take an overnight bus, or perhaps catch a flight, and I don't know if showing up unannounced is such a good idea. She lives in a rural area which I have no other reason to visit as an excuse either.
I've been thinking of simply telling her that I think she's interesting, but I don't know how and fear that it might just put her off.
Take it easy and be playful with her, don't act too friend-zone-inducing meaning, let her know you're interested through simple gestures and stuff, don't be too extreme and visiting her right now isn't a really good idea.
Thanks. That is pretty much the approach I've been trying so far - not too extreme, not too friend-zone-inducing. I just don't know if I'm doing it right.
So, I was wondering, is it alright to have a thing for Japanese women? I've read a bunch of things that say it's a fetish and white men only like Japanese women because they are perceived to be more submissive. But that isn't it at all for me. I just think that they are really attractive and I like that particular look.
What does /romance/ think? Is it unfair to think that all men that are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs? Anyone have any advice or think the same way?
>>Yes, because that makes you uniquely qualified to answer the question. As a female that prefers females I somehow want to hit you upside the head.
that's because you're a dipshit and you can't read properly. never said it made me qualified to answer the question. all i'm saying is that i know lots of girls, both japanese and not, in romantic ways and not, and we're all pretty similar.
I get the weirdest mixed messages.
One one hand I am told that when I get to japan I am going to find a nice girl and most likely marry and/or take care of her.
On the other hand, I get told by other people that all women in asian countries are just out to get a green card and come to america, where they will then divorce the husband and leave him with a mountain of debt.
are the latter rumors founded in something or is it just typically arrogant american stigma about marrying someone of the other race and implanting into my head that idea so I only marry the atypical blonde haired blue eyed empty headed woman that every man should want?
I'm gonna be over there for 3 years so I KINDA would like a good answer
japan isn't as economically impoverished as other asian countries so a lot of guys like to delude themselves into thinking that they'll like you for you, but a lot of japanese girls have silly ideas about white men and american culture and are all gung-ho to hop on board. but when reality sets in, they may choose to flee back to japan or dump you for a japanese guy (i've seen it happen too many times to count), and i know plenty of horror stories of jgirls' behaviour turning 180 after marriage.
also, you don't have to rip into american women like that. you'll meet plenty of air-headed japanese girls who don't know their heads from their asses, especially the ones who chase gaijin. and don't believe those stories about you being hot stuff just because of your pasty skin-- those days are long gone. most white guys i knew while i was on exchange were unable to hook up.
You know, I'm sure you all are nice people (or not) but the only Japanese-loving guys I've ever met were WAY beyong weird. There was a guy that had not only a fetish for FEET, but they had to be ASIAN FEET. Scared the crap out of me.
Most asian freaks I met were only into japanese girls because they're otaku geeks (excuse the wording, I'm an otaku too). There are stupid women in every culture, and there are ugly ones in all of them too. Most of the true japanese women I've met were REALLY not so good looking.
So, stick to just looking for pretty woman in general.
WIN. We need more people like you telling it like it is.
I just like girls. Japanese girls are cute, but I don't think more than any other race. I'm pretty much a fucking loser and I don't expect it to be any easier for me in Japan. Why would Japanese women be any different? Japanese otaku never get laid either.
Asian fetishists are freaks and everyone hates them. they think their disease is hidden when they are in asia because asian people are generally nice. wrong!
most people in asia know a western guy who would voluntarily relocates to asia is a total loser who never gets laid in europe/the us. they just won't tell you because that's what the discreet asian culture is. so give up and embrace who you are, which is asian fetish loser.
This thread is really creepy. But really creepy indeed.
Thanks for that. We appreciate it, really.
