Love and Romance @4-ch

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How do I get to know a girl (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-01-30 19:57 ID:eoZj7IT6

How do I get to know a girl? Do you just talk some time and then ask her out on a date? Then what?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-02 13:14 ID:0iR+LB9D

When I was younger I had problems with this as well.

Everyone has his/her own charms that they can use in a conversation. I usually tease/fool my victims and give them a challenge to make them feel tested. Girls respond to tests pretty well as they themselves do it all the time.

Or let them do things for you. People apreciate you more if they can do things for you than if you do things for them. Ask them to buy you a drink or something. If they are interested they will. Else walk away.

Never ask for a date. Rather make them suggest it. Also I recommend avoid dating at all, as this is pretty serious. I prefer doing activities. Walking around, feeding ducks, bicycling etc. etc.

But the best advise is, fail, learn and keep learning / failing until you discovered what your way is.

gl & hf

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-03 05:54 ID:eoZj7IT6

>>2
That seems complicated.

For example there's like two girls I potentially would have interest in. One is in my school regularly and the other one I see twice a week in class and get to talk to her like once every week. How would I get to know them? Just striking up a conversation, especially when you've ``known" them for so long seems odd. Although you could argue that they hardly know me, too... I think I need to spark interest in them first, then it'll be easier. But even when you're talking for some time with them and you get along quite well, what do you say if you wanna go out with them? Just bring it up causally in a conversation?

Argh, this is so hard!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-05 09:32 ID:eoZj7IT6

Hahaha, I was drunk with a cute girl yesterday. I had my arm around her and kissed her cheek. She didn't say to stop so I felt good about it..

Alcohol is truly a marvelous companion

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-05 11:33 ID:eoZj7IT6

When I think about it... I was constantly grabbing her left tit! Shit I love alcohol

she was so cute

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-10 09:00 ID:eoZj7IT6

Disregard that, I suck cocks.

No, wait, SHE sucks cock! She's a real whore, I'm glad I couldn't seduce her.

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Girls wanting to bring friends? (5)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-29 10:51 ID:UYsA0LCT

What am I supposed to say when a girl asks if she can bring her friends to a get together? It is not explicitly a date so she is not in the wrong, but I am selfish and want the time alone with her, yet also do not wish to seem rude by saying no. Is there any way to win this or will I have to concede?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-11-17 08:19 ID:SGN6E7tN

There is a way to win. Impress her friends and you will impress her.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-20 15:00 ID:auFwJ3vt

If you want alone time with her, then why don't you just ask her out?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-02 13:18 ID:9PFHf8+L

>>2 I like this way.

>>1 Respond enthusiastic. She is probably testing you if she knows you like her. You're probably going to see them more often if your serious. Maybe she just wants to find out if you can get along or will show up only by herself.

Just don't buy any of them anything if it costs more than 1-2 drinks. No need to be greedy, but no need to be stupid and be their cash cow either.

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What's your fetish? (27)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-01-31 18:22 ID:OTGi5qlk

Let's see what kind of perverted sick fucks browse this place

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25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-01-26 12:52 ID:5ZGgxaA9

glasses, twintails and feet!

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-01-29 19:49 ID:7sjWfM6I

I've got a lot. Lately it's been impregnation. I really get off imagining knocking a girl up or fucking her when she's pregnant. It's weird.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-02-02 06:51 ID:pqNT6xIz

加藤洋平はロードス島戦記のライトノベルが好きです

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[Advice] DQN-kun's Advice Column [DQN] (20)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 06:57 ID:36PeWhq1

        /⌒ヽ    
       /(●)(●)   ask me any question about love and romance!
       | トェェェイ/   I offer only the best advice!
       | /`ニニ´    
       // | |      
      U  .U   
 _,,..-―'"⌒"~ ̄"~⌒゙゙"★                
゙~,,,....-=-‐√"゙゙T"~ ̄Y"゙=ミ
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,.-r '"l\,,j  /  |/  L,,,/
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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 17:10 ID:ZubsSalm

DQN-kun! DQN-kun! >>2 here, I have a question! Is marinara sauce any good for keeping myself properly hydrated in a desert? I wouldn't want to die on my adventure, you know!

Thankyou in advance.wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 21:38 ID:BRdvNQ7/

[No]

I have a feeling that a certain girl I know is interested in me, romantically. How do I break it to her that she has one too many dimensions?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-12 09:17 ID:cTIs6++1

>>5
I actually did that and now I'm romantically available once again!

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-13 22:49 ID:dTCr8a9w

   /⌒ヽ    
  /(●)(●)   >>11, it's a myth that you need to stay hydrated! I always try to keep
  | トェェェイ/    myself at optimal dehydration (80%). Marinara sauce helps but you
  | /`ニニ´     should also bring some beef jerky. That will keep you alive and dehydrated.
  // | |      
 U  .U   

   /⌒ヽ    
  /(●)(●)   >>12, I know exactly where you're coming from. It's frustrating to deal with girls that keep changing from day to day.
  | トェェェイ/   But fear not! If you like her other dimensions you can simulate removing the fourth one through petrification. There are
  | /`ニニ´    all sorts of ways of petrifying girls but finding a basilisk or medusa head is probably the easiest. SOLID ADVICE!
  // | |      
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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-14 03:28 ID:KpXVEzRM

How does one go about making an anime/manga character real, and making her fall in love with me?

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-17 07:40 ID:j57RZtQz

DQN-kun! All the women I know make me wish I were a homosexual. Where do I find the kind of woman for me?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 11:43 ID:Qr5E/zTQ

DQN-kuuun~★!
How do I chat up a cute girl who works in a library? Or more importantly where do I find another one? Things didn't go well last time...

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 23:12 ID:ENZfgW8N

   /⌒ヽ    
  /(●)(●)   >>15, you've got it all wrong! Instead of making her real, you have to make yourself fictional.
  | トェェェイ/    Try writing a short novel about yourself and your potential waifu.
  | /`ニニ´    
  // | |      >>16, you should read more visual novels.
 U  .U

   /⌒ヽ    
  /(●)(●)   >>17, cute librarian girls are an elusive race. Once they've nested in a library, however, they
  | トェェェイ/   rarely leave, so search any libraries you find thoroughly. They may be found hanging from the rafters
  | /`ニニ´    or nestled behind bookshelves. As for chatting them up, here are a few potential topics of conversation:
  // | |      The weather, Stalinism, fluid mechanics, gynaecology, the Jacobian conjecture.
 U  .U 

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-09-25 02:51 ID:5LFNsvpr

Hey DQN-kun, how do I go about getting myself a friends-with-benefits? I don't know how to breach the subject!

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-20 08:36 ID:dYXwtzR6

Hey DQN-kun, how do I become a masculine super alpha male?

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I'm very full of hate. (53)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-03 19:47 ID:UBYkJ2wZ

I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.

44 Name: fuck em and bag em : 2012-10-09 15:04 ID:1N50HMaJ

i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-10-09 22:20 ID:znV902E+

>>44
I'LL LOOK OUT FOR YOU ON THE NEWS

46 Name: fartman : 2013-05-09 16:00 ID:uOAGPmFK

>>1
ok. keep wanking forever. who cares...?

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-22 22:55 ID:sp1TXo0C

I agree, OP. All women are whores/sluts and aren't good for anything besides being cum buckets.

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-10-06 16:32 ID:+sXdZyrX

Calm down

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52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-01 14:59 ID:sp1TXo0C

Oh, wow. This is still around.

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-12-16 00:09 ID:xpmMiFUH

>>52
Bitterness doesn't age.

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how to give a blowjob with braces? (135)

1 Name: uh-oh : 2007-01-27 23:25 ID:cCzJMi6y

yeah, basically what i said in the heading. how do you do it without...well, hurting the package?

126 Name: TrainTracks : 2012-10-08 16:36 ID:d62qcbis

I have braces, im 13. and i have solutions for other train tracked people :)
options:
1) wax. it covers the sharpness and you can still please him.
2) cover your teeth with your lips
3) dont do it if you dont trust yourself, if you cant trust yourself, how can he?

i hope this helped :)
it helped me and it feels awesome for him.
the texturof the braces under the wax, might actually turn him on :0 who knows? :p

127 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-12-08 10:14 ID:R6EbA857

it's not so bad to receive head...but if it's too fast...then it hurts! :(

128 Name: Alexander : 2013-02-23 16:17 ID:pAaoQnEE

My girfriend used to have braces and i got head all the time without problems. She got them removed a few months ago and i can honestly say it feels the same. I Love her so much<3 Shes my life

129 Name: obvioustruth : 2013-09-16 04:10 ID:/JkyjETf

wtf are the people in this thread talking about, feminists love giving head, because they are control freaks, they love having men vulnerable in their hands. they are on top, they can show no mercy to the penis, bite the balls, bite the penis, control the man, its something feminists love doing! trust me! but a real girl gives head without biting, and also lets you suck her pussy as well. remember the song "you wanna suck my pussy, pussy, well let me suck your dick, you don't own me bastard.", sung by a female musician, mind you! women who are feminists are the ones to suck dick.

130 Name: obvioustruth : 2013-09-16 14:15 ID:/JkyjETf

@#5, wtf are you smoking? lsd? girls love guys as much as guys love girls, its how we were made, girls feel its worse only when guys don't ask questions and communicate in that way.

131 Name: obvioustruth : 2013-09-16 17:14 ID:/JkyjETf

dudes who are robot viruses, a girl has a far more chance of getting hiv, I.e. eazy e, magic Johnson got in trouble as a result etc. a girl knows how clean the penis is, because it doesn't require near as much cleaning as a pussy does. its filtration system is awesome, which is why girls love to suck dick and drink cum, its almost impossible to have unhealthy cum. cum is really healthy, and syphilis is something contracted by a girl's teeth, but its a lot easier to get hiv from a nasty girl's pussy so you guys out there be careful, in response to #3, or 4 I think. whatever, but this is the case.

132 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-09-20 05:58 ID:jx8aK8Qq

>>131 is a troll. Don't listen to him.

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134 Name: A 12 year old : 2014-09-06 11:27 ID:KbJhwbg9

My gf gave me one and it huRt no thank u

135 Name: Ragdoll : 2015-12-07 16:36 ID:327gGpGM

It's not much different to giving head otherwise, i guess it depends on the size and shape of your mouth and lips. I got braces a while ago so I can't really remember how it was before other than I've noticed it's harder to deepthroat but so long as you control your breathing and stuff you can still do it. Besides if you're using your teeth you're doing it wrong anyway xD
I wouldn't be able to survive without being able to give my guy head anyway, fucking love being on my knees so you learn to adapt.

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I've been waiting.... (757)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

748 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-04-26 14:33 ID:p6uiN1rv

test

749 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-04-26 14:37 ID:p6uiN1rv

before confessing to her, u shoud put ur pants down and show her ur belonging on skype.

she will like urs and accept ur confess

750 Name: 映画男 : 2013-10-07 18:38 ID:MKGinrd/

hey guys!
just to let you guys know some news, I released my new single EP on iTunes called "Everytime" come check it out :)

https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/everytime-ep/id675912520

p.s. Me and Miya are almost dating for exactly a year!! time surely flies :D

751 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-04-24 06:45 ID:Jc2IjrGi

wow i didnt know 4ch had a 7 years story going on intill now. I checked your music, your style reminds me of Jason chen on youube :P

any way Eiga hows your love life with Miya going on? (not sure if your gonna read this or not)

752 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-04-29 13:59 ID:Heaven

>>751 This place is ancient history

753 Name: HaloUTD08 : 2015-07-22 21:40 ID:/nhd07mm

映画男/Benson,

Where have you been?! U doin' ok? Still with Miya?

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756 Name: 映画男 : 2015-11-17 12:11 ID:T1ZAHOvv

>>753 we just broke up two weeks ago after being together for 3 years. still going through the healing proccess

757 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-11-23 00:51 ID:F6IYATF0

>>756
Do you feel ok to talk more about it here, to contiue your life story?

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Making Shit Happen (1)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-30 21:06 ID:Pwxg3KtX

How do I move closer to an appropriate moment to make a move. Full disclosure, I've managed to get her to be receptive to kissing and stuff twice already, but aside from copious amounts of alcohol being involved for both of us, I can't seem to figure out exactly what I did to make the moment feel "right". Do non-failed normies just make moves out of the blue?

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extremely painful breakup (6)

1 Name: man on fire : 2015-10-17 03:08 ID:XMsIU5a6

So, I loved this girl a lot. It was a long-distance relationship. It was going to be like three years before we could really live together. We are both virgins. She promised her virginity to me. We both had romantic ideals of lifelong love. I still do, that's my main shtick, I am a die-hard romantic and I'm saving my virginity even though I'm a guy. I don't care what anybody else says.

It started out with me being very idealistic and thinking it could work. Whenever I had any doubt my girlfriend would tell me she'd take care of my doubts, and that she believed in me and my ideals, and that three years wasn't long to wait because we'd grow old together anyways. It seemed perfect.

We talked every day. It never got old for me, to talk to her.

Two weeks ago it was her birthday. She was excited to see me draw her a picture for her birthday. It was a crappy drawing, but it was from my heart; it was a picture of me and her, stick figures, and me giving her a ring. She said it was cute and she loved it, then she said "brb" and I didn't hear from her for over a week.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-20 12:12 ID:JTasja/7

>>1
You are not stupid, just a bit silly.

I won't comment on your breakup, because... well, it doesn't sound real, you aren't telling the whole story.

But Nothing is "for a lifetime", things change, you will change, your girlfriend will change, sometimes those changes make you stop loving. And why the obsession with virginity? It has no impact on relationship, besides not fitting your fairytale fantasy.

Who is criticizing you anyway? I doubt many people care about what you want in a relationship. Not that your beliefs are radical or unusual in the first place.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-23 06:24 ID:1FYqjvba

The few studies that exist on telegony suggest that a female retains the DNA of previous partners inside her brain, potentially affecting future offspring. Is that supposed to be attractive or something? I'm surprised that expressing preference for virgins is so looked down upon by the majority.

4 Name: man on fire : 2015-10-24 00:24 ID:XMsIU5a6

>>2
It has a lot of impact. Previous relationships make people start comparing things in their mind, and that is bad for a relationship. There are studies about how women who have had sex with more people end up having a higher chance of divorce.

Ultimately, all meaning is derived from contrast. If you haven't had sex before and you have sex for the first time with somebody, meaning is subconsciously attributed to that. Even moreso if it's mutual. It is romantic. It is not a fairytale fantasy at all. It's my ideal and it's important, and it is totally doable if other people just shared it. It's wrong to think "that's not realistic" and just discount it as a too perfect to be real. You have to aim for what is really the best possible, and live to be a person who can do that.

Things can be for a lifetime if you will it. By having an attitude that nothing is for a lifetime, nothing will be for a lifetime. If you don't want it, you can't have it. I am fully confident that I can love a girl forever, and be utterly loyal to her too. I wish I could prove that, but you'll just have to believe me.

That story is the whole story, but more things happened afterwards. She approached me later and said that she made up that story about cheating on me to make me go away for a while. Now, she says hi to me every day, but we never can start a conversation, and I don't want to. She says she is confused about what she wants. It just hurts to talk to her now.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-26 13:16 ID:JTasja/7

>>4
Sure, aim for the stars or whatever, but realize when it isn't going to happen and compromise. You won't be an astronaut, drive the latest Ferrari and have a virgin supermodel girlfriend. Welcome to real life.

But maybe you can work in a planetarium, drive Alfa Romeo and have a cute, understanding girlfriend. If virginity is such a huge deal for you, I'm sure you can make it happen, just look for overweight, ugly girls, that never get any attention from man.

The whole idea, that you'll find this one amazing girl, that has been waiting for you all her life and you'll both fall in this beautiful everlasting love... it's silly. That's not how relationships work, at all.

6 Name: man on fire : 2015-10-29 04:18 ID:XMsIU5a6

>>5

Nevermind it, man.

It's about sharing an ideal. Just as friends are close because they share interests, people who might be partners should be close because they share ideals. If you don't have any ideals at all and care too much about what's "realistic", then there's nothing left to talk about.

Anyways, this girl has started making contact with me again, saying she's anxious and needs somebody to talk to. I told her it's one-sided because I clearly care about her and she clearly does not care about me because she ignores me when I am having some sort of emotional problem and she doesn't feel ashamed at all about just using me, so I've cut contact with her.

I'm really amazed that this girl ended up being like this. What a tragedy.

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[ADVICE] Should I pursue her? [UNCERTAINTY] (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-02 18:47 ID:Qg0vjgR4

I've been chatting with a cute girl lately. Unfortunately, when we were discussing our favorite writers, she said she didn't like Shakespeare. I was immediately put off. Should I continue to talk to her? I really can't imagine being in a relationship where I can't quote the rhyming couplets of Richard II.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-03 00:37 ID:A7WiapUZ

I've actually been in the same situation with my gf about 3 years ago, but I eventually figured out how to solve this.
What you should do is to TRICK her into liking Shakespeare. Start by getting close to her and get to know her. Learn her favorite musicians, moviemakers and authors, and make sure to write down a list of all of them. Once you think you're ready, start misattributing Shakespeare works and quotes to these figures.
So if for example this girl listens to Broken Bells and likes Wes Anderson movies, drop some quotes like "I am a Jew. Hath not a Jew eyes?" and when she asks where's that from tell her it's from some obscure Broken Bells song. Start talking to her about A Midsummer Night's Dream, and say it's some unused script for a Wes Anderson film.
Eventually she'll like these stuff because of some psychological effect that probably exist but I don't know its name. After years of tricking her into reading entire books of Broken Bells lyrics and about two dozen of Wes Anderson's college scripts, pull off the curtain and make the big reveal. If you've done everything right she should now acknowledge her love for everything Shakespeare.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-08-29 12:21 ID:cX73qn/K

Gooby plz

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