I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away ＿|￣|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
>>753 we just broke up two weeks ago after being together for 3 years. still going through the healing proccess
Do you feel ok to talk more about it here, to contiue your life story?
well a lot has happened since my break up with miya. my life completely went down hill after miya, i was very unmotivated, i felt like i couldnt feel anything anymore nothing could make me happy as i just felt like staying at home all the time. To be honest i was actually preparing to propose to her because i wanted to settle down with her, but the problem with being with miya was that she took control of my whole life. I use to wake up at 6:30AM to drive her to work almost everyday for a year and i'll pick her up from work whenever i have a day off. The reason why she broke up with me was she said she felt like i wasnt protective enough for her, but for me i felt like i gave her everything i could but it just wasnt enough. even though we broke up she said she misses me but said we cant be together unless i loose weight since i promised her i'll thin down by our 3rd year anniversary. we had a lot of ups and downs in this 3 years relationship and even now i still miss those days.
I quit my job in January and went back to Australia for about 2 months. I was actually planning on moving back too melboburne as truthfully there was nothing left for me in taiwan. Most of my really good friends left taiwan for work so i didnt have many friends in taiwan. i thought maybe i should go back to melbourne and start fresh. I went on a few dates with some girls but just didnt feel right and i wasnt very interested in starting another relationship so fast. 2 weeks ago i came back to taiwan to gather some of my things and was preparing to move back to melbourne. A friend of mine didnt really want me to leave and she kept saying she can find me a job in taiwan if im willing to stay. I met her 2 days ago and she brought one of her co-workers who was her mentor. at first she caught my interest a bit as she was very pretty and had a cute smile, we went karaoke that night but she didnt really sing as it was me and my friend who sang most of the time. my friends mentor is called Ruby, she kept saying i have a cute accent and she reckons its good that i'm chubby. i actually kept blushing a lot when she said i was being cute and said she only came that night just to meet me. to be honest i havnt felt like my stomach was inside out for a very very long time, last time i felt like that was probably 3-4 years ago. after karaoke we went to a small park and chatted a bit more, we took a cab and i sent both of them home first, when she got off she said to me "i hope i can see you again" which made me go completely red. that night when i went home i couldnt sleep and i just kept smiling like a creepy guy. Tonight i actually met up with them again after they finished work and we went for a late night dinner. i dont know why i just couldnt stop looking at her and tried very hard not to smile so much, im pretty sure my face was always red. after dinner i sent them home again but this time i walked her home when we got off the station, it was a really nice 15 minute walk and we just chatted and laughed a lot. i end up getting her contact tonight and i said i'll cook her dinner tomorrow and bring it over to her workplace, she looked pretty excited about it. :)
i forgot to mention she and her friend has been persuading me to join their company to get me to stay in taiwan. right now im still thinking if i should stay here or go back to melbourne, but i reckon the chance of me staying in taiwan is higher now. I havnt met any girl for so long that made me so nervous like this.
tomorrow i plan to make her some salmon pasta because she likes pasta :) i felt like we really connected a lot during that walk, i honestly havnt been this happy since my break up. from what i know she doesnt like guys being too sensitive, everytime i just think of her i feel like theres butterflies in my stomach lol
i'll see how tomorrow goes.
How is your music making going?
And good luck with the dinner!
Update us and tell us how it went! :O
How did it go???? Tell us!
I'll be your Valentine this year, anon.
This was the first year I didn't have a Valentine. :/
How do I get to know a girl? Do you just talk some time and then ask her out on a date? Then what?
When I was younger I had problems with this as well.
Everyone has his/her own charms that they can use in a conversation. I usually tease/fool my victims and give them a challenge to make them feel tested. Girls respond to tests pretty well as they themselves do it all the time.
Or let them do things for you. People apreciate you more if they can do things for you than if you do things for them. Ask them to buy you a drink or something. If they are interested they will. Else walk away.
Never ask for a date. Rather make them suggest it. Also I recommend avoid dating at all, as this is pretty serious. I prefer doing activities. Walking around, feeding ducks, bicycling etc. etc.
But the best advise is, fail, learn and keep learning / failing until you discovered what your way is.
gl & hf
That seems complicated.
For example there's like two girls I potentially would have interest in. One is in my school regularly and the other one I see twice a week in class and get to talk to her like once every week. How would I get to know them? Just striking up a conversation, especially when you've ``known" them for so long seems odd. Although you could argue that they hardly know me, too... I think I need to spark interest in them first, then it'll be easier. But even when you're talking for some time with them and you get along quite well, what do you say if you wanna go out with them? Just bring it up causally in a conversation?
Argh, this is so hard!
Hahaha, I was drunk with a cute girl yesterday. I had my arm around her and kissed her cheek. She didn't say to stop so I felt good about it..
Alcohol is truly a marvelous companion
When I think about it... I was constantly grabbing her left tit! Shit I love alcohol
she was so cute
Disregard that, I suck cocks.
No, wait, SHE sucks cock! She's a real whore, I'm glad I couldn't seduce her.
What am I supposed to say when a girl asks if she can bring her friends to a get together? It is not explicitly a date so she is not in the wrong, but I am selfish and want the time alone with her, yet also do not wish to seem rude by saying no. Is there any way to win this or will I have to concede?
There is a way to win. Impress her friends and you will impress her.
If you want alone time with her, then why don't you just ask her out?
>>2 I like this way.
>>1 Respond enthusiastic. She is probably testing you if she knows you like her. You're probably going to see them more often if your serious. Maybe she just wants to find out if you can get along or will show up only by herself.
Just don't buy any of them anything if it costs more than 1-2 drinks. No need to be greedy, but no need to be stupid and be their cash cow either.
Let's see what kind of perverted sick fucks browse this place
glasses, twintails and feet!
I've got a lot. Lately it's been impregnation. I really get off imagining knocking a girl up or fucking her when she's pregnant. It's weird.
DQN-kun! DQN-kun! >>2 here, I have a question! Is marinara sauce any good for keeping myself properly hydrated in a desert? I wouldn't want to die on my adventure, you know!
Thankyou in advance.wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
I have a feeling that a certain girl I know is interested in me, romantically. How do I break it to her that she has one too many dimensions?
I actually did that and now I'm romantically available once again!
How does one go about making an anime/manga character real, and making her fall in love with me?
DQN-kun! All the women I know make me wish I were a homosexual. Where do I find the kind of woman for me?
How do I chat up a cute girl who works in a library? Or more importantly where do I find another one? Things didn't go well last time...
Hey DQN-kun, how do I go about getting myself a friends-with-benefits? I don't know how to breach the subject!
Hey DQN-kun, how do I become a masculine super alpha male?
I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.
i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought
I agree, OP. All women are whores/sluts and aren't good for anything besides being cum buckets.
Oh, wow. This is still around.
yeah, basically what i said in the heading. how do you do it without...well, hurting the package?
I have braces, im 13. and i have solutions for other train tracked people :)
1) wax. it covers the sharpness and you can still please him.
2) cover your teeth with your lips
3) dont do it if you dont trust yourself, if you cant trust yourself, how can he?
i hope this helped :)
it helped me and it feels awesome for him.
the texturof the braces under the wax, might actually turn him on :0 who knows? :p
it's not so bad to receive head...but if it's too fast...then it hurts! :(
My girfriend used to have braces and i got head all the time without problems. She got them removed a few months ago and i can honestly say it feels the same. I Love her so much<3 Shes my life
wtf are the people in this thread talking about, feminists love giving head, because they are control freaks, they love having men vulnerable in their hands. they are on top, they can show no mercy to the penis, bite the balls, bite the penis, control the man, its something feminists love doing! trust me! but a real girl gives head without biting, and also lets you suck her pussy as well. remember the song "you wanna suck my pussy, pussy, well let me suck your dick, you don't own me bastard.", sung by a female musician, mind you! women who are feminists are the ones to suck dick.
@#5, wtf are you smoking? lsd? girls love guys as much as guys love girls, its how we were made, girls feel its worse only when guys don't ask questions and communicate in that way.
dudes who are robot viruses, a girl has a far more chance of getting hiv, I.e. eazy e, magic Johnson got in trouble as a result etc. a girl knows how clean the penis is, because it doesn't require near as much cleaning as a pussy does. its filtration system is awesome, which is why girls love to suck dick and drink cum, its almost impossible to have unhealthy cum. cum is really healthy, and syphilis is something contracted by a girl's teeth, but its a lot easier to get hiv from a nasty girl's pussy so you guys out there be careful, in response to #3, or 4 I think. whatever, but this is the case.
My gf gave me one and it huRt no thank u
It's not much different to giving head otherwise, i guess it depends on the size and shape of your mouth and lips. I got braces a while ago so I can't really remember how it was before other than I've noticed it's harder to deepthroat but so long as you control your breathing and stuff you can still do it. Besides if you're using your teeth you're doing it wrong anyway xD
I wouldn't be able to survive without being able to give my guy head anyway, fucking love being on my knees so you learn to adapt.
How do I move closer to an appropriate moment to make a move. Full disclosure, I've managed to get her to be receptive to kissing and stuff twice already, but aside from copious amounts of alcohol being involved for both of us, I can't seem to figure out exactly what I did to make the moment feel "right". Do non-failed normies just make moves out of the blue?
So, I loved this girl a lot. It was a long-distance relationship. It was going to be like three years before we could really live together. We are both virgins. She promised her virginity to me. We both had romantic ideals of lifelong love. I still do, that's my main shtick, I am a die-hard romantic and I'm saving my virginity even though I'm a guy. I don't care what anybody else says.
It started out with me being very idealistic and thinking it could work. Whenever I had any doubt my girlfriend would tell me she'd take care of my doubts, and that she believed in me and my ideals, and that three years wasn't long to wait because we'd grow old together anyways. It seemed perfect.
We talked every day. It never got old for me, to talk to her.
Two weeks ago it was her birthday. She was excited to see me draw her a picture for her birthday. It was a crappy drawing, but it was from my heart; it was a picture of me and her, stick figures, and me giving her a ring. She said it was cute and she loved it, then she said "brb" and I didn't hear from her for over a week.
You are not stupid, just a bit silly.
I won't comment on your breakup, because... well, it doesn't sound real, you aren't telling the whole story.
But Nothing is "for a lifetime", things change, you will change, your girlfriend will change, sometimes those changes make you stop loving. And why the obsession with virginity? It has no impact on relationship, besides not fitting your fairytale fantasy.
Who is criticizing you anyway? I doubt many people care about what you want in a relationship. Not that your beliefs are radical or unusual in the first place.
The few studies that exist on telegony suggest that a female retains the DNA of previous partners inside her brain, potentially affecting future offspring. Is that supposed to be attractive or something? I'm surprised that expressing preference for virgins is so looked down upon by the majority.
It has a lot of impact. Previous relationships make people start comparing things in their mind, and that is bad for a relationship. There are studies about how women who have had sex with more people end up having a higher chance of divorce.
Ultimately, all meaning is derived from contrast. If you haven't had sex before and you have sex for the first time with somebody, meaning is subconsciously attributed to that. Even moreso if it's mutual. It is romantic. It is not a fairytale fantasy at all. It's my ideal and it's important, and it is totally doable if other people just shared it. It's wrong to think "that's not realistic" and just discount it as a too perfect to be real. You have to aim for what is really the best possible, and live to be a person who can do that.
Things can be for a lifetime if you will it. By having an attitude that nothing is for a lifetime, nothing will be for a lifetime. If you don't want it, you can't have it. I am fully confident that I can love a girl forever, and be utterly loyal to her too. I wish I could prove that, but you'll just have to believe me.
That story is the whole story, but more things happened afterwards. She approached me later and said that she made up that story about cheating on me to make me go away for a while. Now, she says hi to me every day, but we never can start a conversation, and I don't want to. She says she is confused about what she wants. It just hurts to talk to her now.
Sure, aim for the stars or whatever, but realize when it isn't going to happen and compromise. You won't be an astronaut, drive the latest Ferrari and have a virgin supermodel girlfriend. Welcome to real life.
But maybe you can work in a planetarium, drive Alfa Romeo and have a cute, understanding girlfriend. If virginity is such a huge deal for you, I'm sure you can make it happen, just look for overweight, ugly girls, that never get any attention from man.
The whole idea, that you'll find this one amazing girl, that has been waiting for you all her life and you'll both fall in this beautiful everlasting love... it's silly. That's not how relationships work, at all.
Nevermind it, man.
It's about sharing an ideal. Just as friends are close because they share interests, people who might be partners should be close because they share ideals. If you don't have any ideals at all and care too much about what's "realistic", then there's nothing left to talk about.
Anyways, this girl has started making contact with me again, saying she's anxious and needs somebody to talk to. I told her it's one-sided because I clearly care about her and she clearly does not care about me because she ignores me when I am having some sort of emotional problem and she doesn't feel ashamed at all about just using me, so I've cut contact with her.
I'm really amazed that this girl ended up being like this. What a tragedy.