hello! Well here goes going to make a long story short.
Been dating a guy for 18 mnths. Shared him with my kids and they love him as much as he says he loves them. We also work at the same place but MOT together. Months ago I noticed him talking to a coworker alot. Lately over the last few weeks he has been acting odd and distant. I logged into his email to find that from feb to just this past weekend he has been emailing her comments like calling her beautiful, has a smile that lights up the room and since she is recently single and that hopefully soon he will be to they can get together to help each other out.
She has emailed him back but has made no such reference or comments to him.
How can I confront him without revealing my source ???
please help me!
>Lately over the last few weeks he has been acting odd and distant.
Talk to him about it, tell him it seems like he has fallen in love with someone else.
I have had that conversation all ready. He says I am crazy and laughs. Why does he have all other emails but mine for the longest time we both saved them all!!
he has hers from over a month ago and not mine from last week??
i have a big problem. i like this girl but when i was young and stupid i touch her waist two times i know dumb right. so now she hate me like hell and ignore me. so can i get some advice on what to do to make it up to her. i tried to writing a letter to say sorry but she won't forgive
>>1
"i like this girl but when i was young and stupid"
sorry but i am sure you are still young and stupid. You touched her waist... she ignored you for half a month... you don't love her... you are horny... she is uptight... if you sincerely apologize for touching her waist (which i still find funny) and she still doesn't care, then get over it. Cause seriously, all you did was grab her waist... i mean if you went tried to steal first and second with out her knowing... then that gives her a valid reason to hate you...
grabbing waist... getting ignored for half a month... not worth it... i dont want to even think about what happens when you grab her boobs from bad signals.
thank u for the advice but i did it as joke and i was not horny but i don't want to give up on her she is wonderful girl but if she don like me then fine but she cover her face in class and never talk to me which is bad because i cannot work with her. plus her friends keep telling her bad things about me and she does't talk so i don know how to deal with it
looking for a Date...
well i send a text message to say am sorry but she never reply
i want a japanese boyfriend. someone like nishijima hidetoshi.
but i'm not in japan. nor will i visit it anytime soon.
where to get one?
hi, Im japanese boy, age is 25 . in the future, I want to go out with and hopefully marry europian or american girl. what should I do? my english is not so good. please let me know how I can go out with? Im living in japan tokyo
my email is keitakeita24@canmail.jp
1) Breed Japanese-American hybrid super race.
2) Exterminate jews.
3) ???????
4) Profit.
I'm not Japanese per se, but I speak it and I look it well enough for anyone's tastes. Third world Asian throwaways like me are the jackpot.
everyone wants an asian man, they make money and can get closer to china.
This is great T-shirt to present your girlfriend if your are Japanese!
Really? Seriously? Let this thread stupidly die... >.>
uh im pretty sure theres some dating sites? idk, your making it really weird to answer your question.
i mean thats like saying i want to eat fish, but i wont be going to the market or the sea anytime soon to catch/buy them, what do i do?
.....like i said im pretty sure that you can just look someone up online or perhaps look for places where japanese tend to gather at wherever you live.
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Hi ^_^
I'm a Gaijin who lived in Japan for about a year as an exchange student. I have a wonderful Japanese boyfriend. He's very sweet! \^_^/
I was curious to know what is it exactly that some Japanese men find attractive about Gaijin Women?
I think Japanese women are cuter...
wow, sour grapes to the max. when a creepy white douche fawns over asian girls like a fag, he's just "being true to himself," but it's the end of the fucking world if a white girl has a preference for asian men (fact: it's not). here's a tip: posting vitriol-filled rants over the internet doesn't make you cool, it just makes you more a pathetic dweeb. you might as well commit suicide if you're going to be such a waste of flesh anyway.
to the OP, don't bother with these losers. it's great that you know what you want and will hopefully go out and get it. and if, along the way, you fall for someone of a different ethnicity and your horizons broaden, then good for you. and if not and you find your dream japanese guy, then all the more power to you! don't let these bitter tools bring you down.
Man where do I start? Three years ago I met girl A, fell in love far too fast and basically thought she would be the one I would marry. But ultimately we fought too much, she "dumped" me many times when I did things not to her liking, like going to anime conventions. Slowly we were drifting apart, to the point we were on a status of "dating", even though we still loved each other.
Fast forward to last week. I went to a convention, she went out of town so it wasn't too troublesome. Then I met girl B. But heres the deal: girl A is 25, I'm 24 and girl B is 17. But girl B and I kind of hit it off, and we got really close, she was so cute and tender and incredibly mature that it surprised me when she said what her age was. We went....far enough, that I started feeling badly. I told girl B we should be friends and she was kind of like whatever.
Throughout the following week I couldn't stop thinking about girl B. And as of the mid week I decided that I would somehow end it with girl A, the drama was too much. So basically today, I broke girl A's heart by admitting what I did with girl B. girl A now thinks (rightfully so) that I'm a cheating rat bastard and I don't think I can fix things, but the messed up part is I don't want to, really. I don't want to get married anytime soon or commit to anything, not like I used to want to. I essentially grew over time to pull away from her. I'm such an evil bastard I know.
I'm OP. I have learned something very scary. girl B is a high functioning autistic girl, I never noticed but she told me recently. Which classifies her as a "mentally impaired" person. So long as she is under legal care of her guardian (mother) anything I do could be charged as statutory rape because the laws are written to make anything done, whether the person is competent or not, as coercion. And girl B told me today, sneaking in a call, that her mom and now her dad won't budge on this. Basically I could face legal trouble so the next time B calls I'll have to tell her that if we want this to work, we need to stop talking and give in to her mother's wishes until B is legally able to make her own. And honestly I'm willing to wait. But right now her parents have all the power and its not worth risking it. FML.
Thanks for the feedback second poster.
Wow that's what I call a plot-twist.
Well with this new information on the table, abide by the law. Good call. Seems like you really care about this girl, I respect that. And enough good will shown, perhaps her parents will also come to regard your interest in her as sincere.
Good luck
I've dated my girlfriend as friends for a month, and she became my girlfriend on valentine's day. So basically, we've been together for almost two months.
I've tried to kiss her, but she won't. I asked her why and all I got was: "I'll kiss you when I love you".
Also, whenever I touch her randomly, she has a shock reflex action(?).
What should I do? I feel like she doesn't like me at all.
argh.
Hey , in my opinion u should take a break so this girl can think about ur relation , i'am sure that she'll relaise that she made a mistake and after u 2 comeback she'll kiss u back
wtf.
girls are weird.
normally the first thing they wanna do when they are in a relation is to kiss.
just try to create a moment where she feels relaxed and special about herself. Than try again.
not sure what to say else.
have any experience with girls? (kissed before etc.)
Kissing seriously? If she doesn't feel comfortable kissing you why are yous dating?
Thanks for the advice, I'm definitely gonna take a short break with her.
sounds like she's been abused or raped in the past.
perhaps she doesn't love you as of yet... does not love you enough to kiss you. wait until you want to fuck her.... i think you'll have to wait for a decade at the very least.
Perhaps you need to find someone who isn't retarded.
This girl has, for what ever reason, decided not to kiss you. It's doesn't make her retarded, it doesn't make her weird, it doesn't make her a bitch. It's her choice and she can do whatever the fuck she wants. She doesn't owe you anything.
That being said, you have to figure out whether you want to be with her and tolerate her choice. If you want to date someone you can kiss thats fine, break up with her, that doesn't make you a bad person. However, don't stay in the relationship and then pressure her to kiss you. You have no right to do that.
I had asked about internet dating a few weeks ago, and, much to my surprise, actually met a cutie with a ton in commom with me, from my college within a week.
My school is on Spring Break right now, but I made plans with said girl to hang out after we returned, so as not to lose her interest over break. I suggested we find a place with food we both like that also served beer, and she felt more comfortable just going to my apartment ( :D ), as she's a little anxious and shy in public places.
Anyway, I've never been on a date before. I've fingered a female friend on the bus in highschool, but never had a true date or kiss anyone or anything. Is there anything I should keep in mind? This'll also be the first time I see this girl in person. We have similar taste in RPGs and comedy, and she even likes Azumangah Daioh, so I figured I'd try to find something we could watch and cook a small dinner and have a small amount of decent beer with her. Everything else I'm a little unclear on. Would it be creepy to compliment her appearance when we first see each other? Would it seem cheap to cook the food myself / should I order delivery instead? Are there any cool interactive things things that'd allow us to get to know each other better? I'm a huge fan of conversation, myself, but I'm sure a lotta girls want to see you put in more creativity and effort in than that. Are there any decent kissing tutorials, in case we have future dates?
girls like compliments... think about if a girl said you looked kinda cute.. win win. cooking shows you can cook... also a win win... willing to go to your apartment... win win... fingering a girl on the bus priceless...
You're on the right track. Cook a nice dinner, watch a good movie, and play it cool. Even though you'll probably be nervous as hell at least pretend you're relaxed. She'll probably be doing the same.
> any decent kissing tutorials
Go slow and soft, less is more. Even if you get into a heavy make out session you should pull away as much as you go in.
> I'm a huge fan of conversation, myself, but I'm sure a lotta girls want to see you put in more creativity and effort in than that.
Don't put too much effort into it, bro. For one thing, you don't want to set a high standard because then you'll never be able to relax, always trying to live up to the last date. It sounds cliche, but it's true: just be yourself.
There was this guy who I looked up to as a guide when I just started studying Japanese and I liked him after that because he lent me a helping hand. But then, he changed from the person who I once saw him as.
He said some pretty rude things which were nothing but his own
messed up perception. He was rude to me for no reason, like the
whole of last year.
He is a proud jerk and picks on me just because he can.
I don't want to talk to him anymore, but somehow my mind is
refusing to let go, I feel like a fool.
Why the fuck am I attached to this jerk? I hate myself for it.
But really, I want to never talk to him again.
I wish I thought he never existed and got it all out of my head.
This is so messed up, please help me.
>>23
As much as I hate to admit it, I guess I do.
Yes, I'm gonna give him a piece of my mind.
I'm gonna say what I have to say. Come what may.
bump to keep thread going
** Still waiting **
OP here. Just thought I'd let you guys know he'll be back on March 19 from Japan.
>>OP
Good to know!
12 more days!!!
3 more days!!!
>>31
OP here, it's march 19 not 11 :P lol
But looks like people want to know where this goes,
so I'm happy you guys!
It's 29 OP. Dropped by to bump the thread :P
We've been dating for a month now, and I hardly get to see you. Even though we dont live that far away, our busy schedules keep us apart. I'm lucky to see you once a week, and even then only for a few hours...
I wish we could go back to the way things were when we were not dating, we saw eachother more often then. But now you have your project due soon, and I have my finals and work.
I know a month really isnt that long of a time to be dating, and people would tell me to just suck it up because so, but we've been "dating" as friends since christmas, I was always just too much of a pussy to ask you.
Last night, I was listening to Vanilla Twilight by Owl City (who you know I hate), but I couldnt stop listening to it because that's how I feel.
all in all, I cant wait till you are done with your project and my finals are over, because then maybe we dont have to worry about going whole weeks w/o seeing eachother.
I'm 21 (well 20 at the moment but I'll be turning 21 this year) and sad to say, I never had a boyfriend before. I've been asked out twice in my life time and both have been rejected (the first one doesn't really count because that was back in Grade 7. The Second one was a friend of mine. I didn't really seem him anything more than a friend). I've been hit on quite a few times-- those guys were either too young or had girlfriends.
Honestly, I don't think I'm ugly at all. I'm slightly chubby (size 3 in jeans) but I'm healthy. I'm quite outgoing and I'm just a bit shy when I meet people for the first time. However, I do start getting talkative when I get to know them more. When my friends and I hit the clubs, I usually just stick with them the whole night.
I guess this subject of finding what love is didn't really hit me until last year when all my best friends suddenly had boyfriends and I was the only one who didn't. I feel like I'm being left behind like I'm missing something I should be experiencing. I do want to find out what it is like to fall in love with someone but I feel like I won't find him at all. After watching some shows that had 30+ year old women who is looking for love, I feel like maybe I'll turn like them too and it scares me. I know probably it is my fault for having quite a high expectation but I still don't want to go out with just anyone. There was a guy that I "like" from high school (still kind of think of him now and then too) but the only problem is that I haven't seen him for nearly 3 years (he graduated a year before me) and that he doesn't really know I exist.
I think you should let love find you. And it will, don't worry. Just continue to have fun, try and get outside and meet new people, and you'll find somebody you like. Love isn't always an instant thing - falling in love is something that happens over time, with a person you like/are attracted to.
Also, if you put love onto a mighty pedestal and expect it to be like it is in the movies, it'll only make things harder. Everyone has their own definition of love - it isn't universal. You'll know when you've found your own love, just let it come naturally and try not too think too hard about getting the "perfect" or "special" man; feelings aren't always rational, they don't require the man of your dreams to make your heart beat fast.
Yeah, I totally get what you are feeling. I am also 20 going onto 21. It just seems like recently, but i don't even have single friends anymore... All of my good friends are all dating and it feels pretty uncomfortable to go out with them anymore.
But like post 2 says... just wait it out sooner or later right?
OP, you're right about one thing: there is no special person out there. Best you can hope for is to find someone you can tolerate, and who can tolerate you. Mind you, I don't mean to make it sound like that's easy; most people don't even find that much.
The truth is, most people out there are unhappy, regardless of whether or not they're in relationships. Don't make the mistake of buying into Hollywood's promise that "true love" will make everything better.
I think it's important to note that the feeling most people call love (like butterflies in your stomach) is just a chemical reaction in the first months of any relationship. It's a nice extra, but not the whole foundation a relationship is built upon. I've known quite a lot of girls who thought something was wrong when that feeling faded away after some time and therefore broke up with their boyfriends and even went as far as thinking they are unable to have a long-term relationship.
I am telling you this because you had no boyfriend yet and i don't like the idea of someone's first relationship ending because of such an issue.
>chubby (size 3
You're fine the way you are, believe me.
would you change or refrain from making any changes to your appearance if it would please your partner more? or do you think how you look is totally an individual thing and if your partner doesn't like it he/she isn't worth dating anyway.
i'm talking about more 'basic' changes like haircuts or dressing; not stuff like plastic surgery.
Well, if my partner said I look better with a certain hairstyle, and I didn't mind that hairstyle, then sure I'd change to it. But if my partner says I should change it to something I honestly do not like, then I won't change to it. I think it's fine if my suggests something he/she likes, but forcing me into conforming simply to please him/her is a no-go.
If the change is something that will benifit you, then yes. Like, if my partner wanted me to lose weight, of course I would start working out more. Because not only will it make me more physically appealing to them, but i'll feel better about myself too.
I can honestly say Ive never been in this type of situation. Im a boxer, kickboxer, and do Tae Kwon Do, plus weightlift and run all the time so I can honestly say Ive never been told to have a "sexier" body. I figure that if I was told to get bigger or more ripped I would consider it, but I really cant say.