I met this one guy during freshman year in college. We met at an acquaintance's dorm and introduced ourselves. He seemed shy. I was attracted to him right away. He had the kind of face that I found really attractive and someone I could see myself with...which doesn't happen to me often. Because I was aware of our cultural/social/economic differences, I felt it would be too complicated to do anything with him. I never did speak to him again after our initial encounter.
Throughout the 4 years, we often crossed paths around campus with me avoiding him and thinking I would forget him soon enough. To my surprise, he would constantly look at me. Not glance, but look long enough to be almost staring...but not in a creepy way. I always felt that he went out of his way to look at me. See, he is very handsome and was a athletic star in school and always had many beautiful girls around him, I couldn't imagine why he would keep looking at a girl who keeps on avoiding him.
After a few times, he really started to make deeper impressions on me. Soon after, we both started our own long-term relationships. However, he continued to pay attention to me while I grew colder and colder with him out of guilt, bc i was dating someone else (who I had a nightmare with). On graduation day I wondered whether I was ever going to see him again. It's been 2 years since graduation and surprised to find myself googling him from time to time. However, he had deleted his fb and I can't seem to find anything about him.
Say hi.
Do it.
He probably wishes that girl who he kept looking at in college would contact him
dont men like what they can't get? is it a really good idea to go "knock on his door"?
>>4
Generalizations don't work. Don't women just like money?
Look, you won't lose anything by trying. Give it a shot.
it's been nearly 2 years and he might've forgotten about me..also, he doesn't have fb so it would be too creepy to track his contact info down. I like him too much to face rejection :( at least for now.
Why is this concept so difficult? If you're a foriegn man in Japan you're hot stuff, even if the women in your home country turned their noses up at you (not that there aren't tons of great guys too, but I've seen plenty of "she's with him WHY?") Why do women have such a hard time getting a serious relationship in Japan, and more importantly, what to do about it?
false: white girls love japanese guys!
true: some weird,shallow,strange and problematic either in personality or appearance white girls love visual kei or gyaruo or shallow japanese guys
such a half-baked generalization.
after all, it all depends on one's preference.
Because Japan is good for its own, its Nippon and its Japanese. Who else is more better than Japan by the name Nippon do you think?? lolll .. . Laugh my fingers off brah. . .
Japanese seems more mentalness, tunel verisionlised that sortta looks, its not good to be too wised nor smart. The more clever intellengent you are, the worse is gonna happen in the future.
Remember: Always Always Always asking yourself WHY before you knew why, that way you dont makin a messy takes. like Mistakes and mistakens.
Shut my words into yours, your decisions is your own making. we cant do better than what we have already.
Be sure to yourself, less judgements for your own sake goodness.
Take my wordy but dont copy from it, put it into your practice minds and let it be!! peace out my friend. . nothing to consider or worry about, time is all what it matter mate!! Cheers bro bottoms down.
Well I'm a french Canadian, and I have many friends(5) who are in a relationship with a Japanese man, plus myself (6 total). So I really don't think that it's impossible. One of them is married and live in Japan. One is married and live in Canada. The 3 other plus me aren't engaged.
There is a common factor between our boyfriend though, they are interested in travelling and knowing more about other countries. They're all between 25 and 32 years old. They are from different places in Japan (Tokyo, Osaka, Kanazawa, Ehime). For 5 of us, we have been asked out by the guy.
And for all of us (including man) this is our first "international" relation ship.
To my opinion , some post were very ineresting. White women can tend to be more selfish and less nursing their man which is a complain I've heard a lot. I've also hear many people say that western people are too loud, so i would be careful about this too. About the weight, I wouldn't say you have to be as slim as a japanese girl, curvy is alright , but healthy looking and clean are a important thing ( aren't they important in any relationship anyway). I've also heard complain about how western like to "play" in other word to have many partners. I think it's a big turn off. Avoid the "ex" subject.
> Well I'm a french Canadian, and I have many friends(5) who
> are in a relationship with a Japanese man, plus myself (6
> total)
haha, what? How does that work out?
I know foreign men who have been here for a few years and still can't find a woman, and I know non-asian females who have Japanese boyfriends/husbands (myself included) and never really had a problem getting a man.
I wish this stereotype of the "lonely foreign woman in Japan" would just disappear.
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Hi I'm a Japan man. Just love the foreigner woman... tits, fiery attitude. I love it... Stupid Japan women not take is the initiative of. Sex is dead, like the fucking tuna... I will. Has the foreigner woman... so you can hook us to please come to Japan.
I don't know who to tell this to, or how do I even phrase it.
I have never been in a relationship. I will turn 21 this year.
(A little background information- The only thing I ever actually had, was with a friend's friend. I fell for him though I just intended to explore things. But that chapter's over and done with)
Now, there is a guy who cares about me, and I care about him too. But he REALLY cares about me.
We have everything scarily in common, right from our musical preferences, sexual fantasies to tastes in interiors.
But I just don't feel like I'm into him?
Should I still give him a chance even if I don't feel a 'like-like' feeling or tingles?
I don't know if it's a friendzone or what, but I get shit scared if anything related to even going out comes up.
My fingers get cold as if I'm awaiting an execution and my heart feels like it stops, and yet races like it wants to run away in some blinding rain. It's like a deafening sound of a thousand beating wings.
Maybe the way I phrased it seems like I'm painted the wrong picture. He's always been there for me ever since I left to m country to study abroad. Some nights back here, there was horrifying thunder it scared me so much I cried. He told me to call on Skype at that moment and kept me company.
He's been very kind to me.
This happened on Sunday, I think. My sleep cycle is screwed, so here is something from a talk we had. I don't know how it came up, or which one of us started it, but he mentioned 'Talks regarding relationships are a grey-zone for the both of us'.
Again, I don't know how it came up, or which one of us started it.
Here's the a message I sent to him before he said that since we had a loopy talk. This was one of the two parts. One part just was regarding some random incident. This was the bit, as I phrased it, was 'that what makes me blue- matters of the heart, and seeking 'the one' :
So, when we talked a couple of days back, at one point in a spur of conversation, he stated himself that we're friends.
A wild 'Nice Guy' has appeared.
Nice guy uses "confession"
It was not very effective
Nice Girl uses "friendzone"
It was super effective
Nice Guy uses "endure"
Nice Girl is now confused. =P
I have to give props to you for not leading him on and making it clear to him that you have no intentions to date.
When there is no attraction there is nothing you can do... Don't force it, it won't end well.
Knowing the nice guy pattern... he is going to try his hardest to keep it normal. His first and foremost thought is going to be something like "I know she doesn't like me, so I am going to be her close friend and make her happy that way cause it makes me happy", but in the back of his mind is going to be a lingering thought of "maybe someday she will change her mind and give me a chance".
All the talk about nice guys and nice girls and so on. It's all hesitation, humiliation, worrying and meaningless bullshit. Who has time for such things? Not me, I have fucking work to do. If this is romance, then romance isn't worth it.
>>29
So the fact that I don't let myself be dragged around by women is a bad thing? I do everything on my own terms, and I'm not a romantic. What's wrong with being rational about stuff like this? If a relationship is more trouble than it's worth, I walk away from it. I'd advise anyone else to do the same thing if they don't have children or some other obligation tying them down. Otherwise it's just a huge waste of time.
lol defensive much.
Here's the thing, no one cares. You're not a special snowflake because you reached this conclusion.
So I live in the countryside of Japan. Not many opportunities to meet pretty girls out here, but I have met one. The problem is, outside of hand holding, she has been very non-commital. But whenever I give up on her, she emails me saying she really wants to do something with me.
I'm not sure about the rules in Japan. Does one just go for the gusto, like in the Japanese movies? Somehow I doubt life is like the fiction. I'm a relatively shy guy that got tired of being burned, so my progress is glacial to say the least.
Does one have to admit one has feelings, ala densha otoko? How do I move to the next stage.
Supplementary: she is six years older than me. Maybe she sees that as a problem.
AWWWW YEEAAAA
LOL DIPSHITS.
Love is Love. If you choose to give up on her, then DO so. ~ If you choose to have a relationship, then go find one ...with someone who is worthy of YOU. (NOT the other way around!)
Even in the remote country-side, a person will find choices. And Love, ...TRUE Love... is never hidden. TRUE Love is not found by playing (her)Game-of-Confusion or Condescention.
You are not a glacier. You are Human. Sit, Stand, Walk, Laugh, ...and Love like one. If you so choose.
Hey jap addicts, stop being a noob and go back to your own fucking country =)
>>66
No. I love hearing a jap girl squeal when I have my way with her while her husband is working. Feels good, man. =)
Response to >>1 "I'm a relatively shy guy that got tired of being burned, so my progress is glacial to say the least."
Be shy, you have your reasons; and in your own time-ing you will grow less shy. Until then seek slutter women, play in the sac (to some degree) and build your Confidence.
Regarding that one women in your paragraph ..let her go. If she wants a sexual encounter she'll find it. If she wanted you for a sexual encouner, then she would have used her mind & voice and told you already. Move on. She doesn't appreciate your goodness. (date some sluts, and then..)..find a woman who appreciates your goodness.
oh my jizz! it got necro-ed 5 yrs... let this thread die guyz
>>70
your words are at odds with your actions
OK Japanese women are just like any other women, they all want the same thing, kindness, protection and providence from their man. A girl may already like you and is hoping that you do to, so they wait for you to do want thing, and that's to confess to them, because they're afraid that you might not like them back, so if you really love this girl confess to her and she'll tell you what she wants, unlike the US, Japanese woman are very considerate and will accept your feelings, but they'll tell you that they're not interested if they don't like you. My apologies for this being late, I just found this site.
I've got a female friend I've been, yeah you know where this is going. I like her. I've actually liked her for a while and even asked her out once. At the time she was going to school out of state, and we had mostly talked on line. She rejected me of corse, but we stayed friends. We actually became better friends after she rejected me. Since then I had sort of been seeing someone else up until the start of this year when she dumped me for bs reasons that basically boiled down to she could not comite.
My friend has been home for about a year now, and we have been getting on amazingly. Since the break up with my ex we have been hanging out almost all the time and talking just about every day. A few months ago I realized I actually still care about her. Since that realisation I've been trying to see if we can be more than friends since things have changed a lot. For one we actually see each other. For another we have started making a lot of sexual jokes around each other. I've also been less of a bitch about touching her, patting her on the head, a hand on the back, hugs when we leave which have been getting less awkward. Sadly the places we hang out (her bedroom and my basement where we keep the big screen) have only regular chairs so cuddling is almost impossible. She has me over a fair bit and I've eaten dinner with her family, I even go shopping for groceries with her (she pays for her own groceries, and I drive even though she said she could). Like me she hasn't dated much, and of the guys who have been interested in her, she has admitted that in hind sight I am probably the best.
So basically, I guess I am looking for any advice on how to smooth the process and make it more likely that she will be interested. Thanks for your time.
Welcome to the friendzone. How to get out... tell her you like her... and stop talking to her... going to be a long and hard process... and all you can do is hope that either she says yes right off the bat which would be good... or let her realize that she wants to be with you... else she will still say no... and after a long period of getting over her... you can go back to being friends.
Hard truth.... but hope all goes well for you.
Generally speaking, I was in a similar situation with a friend (but I am female and my "crush" was male), and when I simply could not take the build up of pressure, desire, and a need from deep within to tell him how I felt and what I wanted in our relationship, I just freaking told him.
Like you, we hugged every time we parted. One day, as we were hugging goodbye in my apartment, alone, I said, "I love spending time with you" as I had many times before, and after he replied, "ah, me too" I added, "but I don't just love spending time with you, [Anon], I love you, too."
I'm sure there was a smoother way to say it, but I was so nervous and I just had to tell him. He reciprocated on the spot. And our relationship began to evolve on that day. That was a year ago last month. In the last year, we've been closer than ever, and we're still growing together.
There's a sample scenario. I hope you can do something about the feelings you have. The hugs, the jokes, her comment about you being the best, and the time you spend together as well as her acceptance of your gentle forms of physical contact all point in the right direction. Find out what's there. Find out how much there is between you.
yeah, basically what i said in the heading. how do you do it without...well, hurting the package?
My girl has braces and she cut me and i bleed heaps from the tip of my cock and it was annoying but we still finished the job :), the penis heals pretty fast and while there's still a big scar the blood stops pretty quick, especially if theres a girl licking it off.
With braces, deep-throating is perfect. You get past the braces then just pull out enough to let him cum in your mouth, then swallowing is no big deal after that.
I have braces, I've had no problems giving blowjobs... But if you have pokey wires in the back, go to the store, and get wax to put over you're wires. No damage done.
My wife wears braces and a headgear. The headgear bow or bar
rubs on the top of my penis and feels sooooo good. So far so good
Hey Adam, My boyfriend says the same thing, lol! If we just came in from outside and my facebow is cold he said it feels awesome. My headgear is called a Combi. It has the neck strap and a headstrap that goes over the back of my head. I like feeling his hand on my headgear straps as I go down on him, lol! Andy said my rubber bands feel good rubbing the sides. of his penis as well. I do have these button things on the tongue side of my molar ban Smilingds, 4 in total. These things can scratch up ur partner if ur not careful. Email me at jeffisinflorida@aol.com. We can all compare notes. We can tell u more. Keep smiling! Jeff
How come when you jack off you cum, even when it's not considered sex?
Wow can i get a blow job too
damn i need to chill wit the girls on this site hmu ladies
I have braces and this guy wants me to give him a bj i really dont care how hurt i get as long as he doesnt get hurt is that good or b
I dated a girl for about a year, and I fell head over heels in love with her. She is the 9th girlfriend I've had in my life, and I can honestly say I have never felt more for a girl till Joyce.
We met through some mutual friends at the Community College in my city, and he is a international student. Long story short, she ends up getting into U-Michigan, which is the school her parents would kill for her to go to, so, she ends up going. A month later, I visit her in Michigan where we decided to break up because through our time apart, we both realized distance wouldn't work for us. I would want to talk to her, she would be completely disinterested, and she was the kind to think "out of sight, out of mind".
It's been almost 6 months since we broke up, and I cant get her out of my mind. The past few months, she's been in my dreams weekly, but since friday I have been dreaming about her every night. Each time a scenario where we meet again after a long time, and get back together. I am starting to worry for my sanity, as I just cant get her out of my head. I want her back, but I know nothing will come of talking to her about it, and bringing it up.
tl;dr
I am still in love with my ex who moved across the country for University.
A recent study has shown that it takes and average of 17 months and 26 days to get over an ex...
Well I don't know if it's true or not, but all that means is sooner or later you will have to get over her.
A thought or feeling can consume you, but eventually you must realize that it is unhealthy... and hopefully you will learn that letting go is the best solution.
Life is all about experiences and obstacles to make us stronger. Take this as an experience, be stronger. You now know what you want in a girl and what you don't want. Use that to your advantage... Hope you feel better soon(hehe sorry for ranting...)
Does anyone know what happened to Densha Otoko and Hermes?
Were there any more updates? Did they split? Stay together?
Could someone please relate the story of all we know from where it leaves off at the confession at the end?
Thank you, sorry to trouble you!
This doesn't really solve anything OvO. All it says is that they are still together, but that isn't dated, and there's no source... etc.
>>1 what happened to them is up to your imagination, since everything is possible, when you look at society.
Densha died on the way back to his home planet.
Ha. Ha. Ha.
Please.. dont split..
Yeah, it would be interesting to know.
densha died during the earthquake last year... he was still trying to learn how to surf but sadly, got washed away by the tsunami. RIP densha! byenara!
Today, I was confessed to by a close friend of mine. Let's call him Pota, okay? A girl friend of mine had mentioned that someone liked me, but I really didn't think it was this guy of all people. We've known each other for about four years, Pota and I, he's what some would call a "popular" guy, and girls flirt with him often. I think he's a nice guy, pretty attractive, he's friends with my friends, funny.. he just has a whole bunch of great qualities. The catch is, we're both taken, and him confessing to me how he felt during a class of ours, even though it was very casual, left me floating in an bubble of awkwardness for some of the day. We talked about our feelings at lunch, and he says he only wanted to make sure I knew his feelings. I don't like him in that way and I've made it painfully obvious. Pota acted a little strange for a while, but seemed to go back to normal at some point. I'm afraid he might feel bad for confessing to me at all. Do you think he is alright, and I'm just worried?
If he already has someone he should not be confessing to other people in the first place.
I agree. He said he just wanted to get his feelings out, and that he knew he wasn't going to date me or anything.
BG Info - He's in a online relationship and him and his girlfriend hardly talk since he's hardly online at this point. I consider him still taken but that may have changed since he last talked about it.. ;v
I think he'll get over it, just give it time.
Okk. Thanks buzz. ;v
Hi, im a girl and im 18 years old..
Ive dated some guys in my life but 2 years ago i met a girl and we started talking and talking.. I realized we talked day and night, in school, we wrote each other on facebook, twitter, etc..
And then I realized i was inlove with her, and sometimes i feel that shes inlove with me..
This is my secret and i want to know how to know if the likes me, even if we are both girls... Some help? :)
I have no experience on the subject. Do it like you how you would do it to a guy that you'd like lol.
Just ask what she thinks about you.
Scissor her senseless.