During the beginning of this year, I decided to join a daring site because I was curious to see what men were there. I didn't really have high expectations to meet anyone there really (to be honest, I wasn't even into it). One day, this guy randomly messaged me out of the blue. I thought it was a really cute message he sent me so I wrote to him back (first time I was even curious about a guy in that site). Since we both lived in different provinces, we couldn't date in person so we messaged each other on Facebook. At first, it would take him a while to reply back (like 1-2 weeks) but when he ended up going to a different country for a sport tournament, he ended up messaging me daily. I really can't say for sure but I think I'm starting to like him. I don't know. He just struck me as someone different which is hard for me to find around here.
Well yesterday, I was looking at my Facebook feed coming from work and I realized he became friends with this girl from out of the country (okay.. I snooped a little). He told me that he closed his dating site so that's why he asked for my Facebook username so we can talk there instead. So when I saw him add her as his friend, it got me thinking that he is probably still in a dating site. I guess now I feel quite insecure because she's pretty and she's a model. I feel quite jealous and I hate feeling like this..
Continuation..
So now I've been thinking a lot about it. Should I just stop talking to him? Is he even worth my time? I admit, I do look forward to seeing his Facebook message every morning when I wake up... But seeing how she's so pretty, I feel like I lost this round.
Im 20 years old and have never been in a relationship. i've had boys tell me they like me but it was at a bad time (senior year of high school and i was moving to another country for college) or we were too close of friends and it was too weird for me. I've never dated, kissed or even held hands in a romantic kinda way. I've had a lot of friends who are guys so its not because i never talk to boys or anything like that. Is it weird for me to be 20 and never had a relationship?? When did you start dating? When do you think is too old to start?
I'm not an alpha, a beta or anything else. I don't play the game. Hell, I've had girls chase after me, quite a few of them, and I rejected all but one. I didn't even like the one I ended up with, despite the fact that she was smart and objectively attractive.
Does it bother me that I haven't had that much experience? No, not really. Since I don't find 99.9% of women attractive or interesting enough to pursue a relationship with, I couldn't care less about having experience with them. If I wanted "plenty of pussy" I could probably get it easily, but as far as I'm concerned, I'm getting no benefit out of the deal.
I'm really a lot more worried about improving my writing and music skills and continuing my education and getting a real job that pays well than I am about women. Since my family is worried about me (some of them think I'm weird because I don't care about women) I might just get them to play matchmaker for me if they're that concerned about it. I may as well get married for the stability, but love is out of the question.
>>63
teh girls that where not chasing u for ur body or to give u pussy. u sound like ur a typical omega, teh lowest of the males. girls hate anything below alpha cuz betas adn below have weak genes w/ omegas having weakest genes. teh beta and omega tend to put teh pussy-on-teh-pedestal not knowing girls are hypergamous. once teh pussy is on teh pedestal teh weak lil beta and omega are instantly friendzoned and turn around and whine about it. tey never learn and teh process repeats while we alphas get teh pussy teh weak gened girlymen cant handle. so dont worry bout gettin married itl nevr happen. lmfao
>>64 yeah, seems likely. I hope my family drops the whole matter because I don't want a woman to have to get stuck with an ice-cold type like me who won't care about her or give her any intimate attention. They probably won't drop it, though, since I'm an only child.
>>65 thanks for the wisdom. How's first year of high school going for you?
better then omegas like you did. got more pussy that year then teh number of frindzones you will ever get. cant compare pussy 2 pussy cuz u will never get ne. lmfao
>>67 yeah, I know the type you're talking about. I'm not one of those pathetic "nice guy" types. Like I said, I'm not interested in pussy as you put it. Really kind of disgusts me, actually. But you're clearly a troll, so hey.
>>68
oh i herd that line alot of times before from omegas like u. that was b4 they where turned down buy a hooker. omegas r so bad even hookers dont even want em. teh beta and omega put teh pussy on teh pedestal so much and hookers only screw up due to hyergamy teh beta and omega cant even get pussy even when paid 4. lmfao
>>69 lol okay. I don't even know what you're talking about now. Pussy on a pedestal? I don't even like it. You know what, you sound like an insecure dipshit.
>>70
omegas like u put teh pussy on teh pedestal when u treat due to insecurity. weather u like it or not ur placed n a group based on ur genes and that would b omega 4 u do 2 having weak. i am alpha cuz i have teh strongest genes. face it, u have nothing 2 offer girls witch is y u "hate" pussy. now i know y they call u handsome. lmfao
I don't know her name.I saw her for the first time on the bus 2 years ago. Immediately she struck me as special. What she lacked in conventional beauty she more than made up for in memorability. Something about her made me stain the image of her face into the deepest folds of my brain. Despite not seeing her in about a year, I can remember ever detail of her face. Over the maybe 10 or 20 times I saw her around, I only saw her form her mouth into something resembling a smile once. I never heard her voice, and I never had a chance to let her know I cared.To this day, I'm still in love with this girl; a girl I never truly met. My only regret is that I never gave it a shot.Link related: Its a drawing of her.
In my last post, >>1, I left out a very vital piece of information about this girl and the things that have happened between us. The truth is, in a way, I have spoken to her, albeit only one of us knowing this. Sometime during the final days of this May, I thought I saw her. Acting out of regret, I immediately found myself preparing for some sort of confrontation that would allow me to get the closure I needed. Keep in mind, that at this point, all I had to remember her over the months without her was the drawing in >>1 and my memory. Eventually, I spotted “her” on campus again and decided that would be the day I ended this. Today, I am almost 100% sure that the her I spotted that day was not the girl from >>1. The girl that sparked my meeting with this girl however may have been her, however. In any case, a few hours later, I got on the bus with whoever it was I decided would take on the role of my obsession, and made plans to speak to her. Almost immediately, two girls decided to ruin my plans my confronting me about my phone and forcing me to have an awkward, unwanted conversation. I wasted an entire bus ride talking to these girls. Any other day, this would've stopped me from finishing what I had set out to do. Eventually, the girl I had planned on talking to got off the bus, and I, despite living about 2 miles away, got off with her. After we both crossed the street, I stopped her, and said what I needed to.On that day, I'm almost 100% sure that I consciously knew she was not the girl that had captivated me for over a year. I'm not entirely what my intentions were when I set out to talk to her, but I've since justified it as “practice,” or an attempt at closure. In any case, closure was one thing I didn't get out of this ordeal. Here I am, months later, still obsessed, dealing with even more regret. Recently, I've found myself recalling a moment on the bus with the actual girl from >>1, wondering if it would be appropriate to approach her. I remember getting off at the same stop as her, since I was visiting a friend nearby, but not saying anything. Whatever experience I gained from my “practice” run over a year after this happening meant nothing. I was simply doing what I should've done the first time.These realizations, along with everything else that's built up since the last time I had the privilege of seeing this girl's face has driven me to withdraw from my social life, and focus all of my energy into solving this problem the only way I can. My solution? You'll find out when humanity has reached a level capable of realizing it. You'll find out once I've become the only man capable of such a feat. When it happens, I'll have done everything in the name of progress. The truth is you may never find out just what it is I did. I, on the other hand will be happy, and will have finally succeeded in making the most of my time with this girl.
Anyways, despite the apparently conclusion in >>2 (I sorta borrowed this from another post I made on the matter elsewhere), I really do need help. I just want to see her again, so I can give it a shot.
Any advice on how to make this work? How do you find a person without them knowing that you're looking?
Find her and put it in her butt.
That's hard.
Google Plus, Facebook, maybe find out where she works and "bump" into her there?
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What did she look like? I can't see your picture
Did you two take the same bus route? Isn't that how you guys met?
*Well.. isn't that how you met her?
I've actually never been on a date before. Every single relationship I've been in has grown from friendship with people I've already known for some time. This is the first instance where I just simply asked a woman I did not know on a date and I'm really nervous about the whole deal. Hell I was actually nervous just to ask her in the first place which was unusual because I've never had any problem talking to women before.
I have no idea how to act or what to do or what to wear. What should I do or say? Any help or advice you can give would be really great. Thank you.
Note: I'm in this for a relationship and not just getting laid.
That was a LONG two part story. Like >>29, we can't give much advice except accept the situation @ hand and move on. Sometimes the person we feel comfortable the most can't share those same feelings with you. And that's not to say "she's the one." I believe in making choices AND fate. We all decide whether to live cautiously or sporadically, but when we make those actions, we don't always know whether it would be for the better or worse. In your case...when you mentioned "fuck...use me then," your choice was to allow her to be with you (regardless of her feelings)...just so the hope of being together and starting a spark of love would enact. However, her choice was your "fate" and that's it. I'll say this though: sometimes love finds you in the most oddest of places. One example: I try to call a girl that I liked since elementary school during summer break. Guess what...I called the wrong girl! However, after several phone calls and hang outs...she's my girlfriend...for almost 8 years!
I feel sympathy for you >>1...and I hope you continue finding love as it is finding you...somewhere in this world.
On a side note...the fact that you mentioned Edward Cullen made me stop for a moment and wanted to give you a imaginary punch in the gut. Don't use Twilight analogies...it's annoying and useless.
I don't want to start a gender debate here, but am I the only person who thinks men are more interested in romance than women? Perhaps it's only "geeky" men, but that's the impression I've gotten from /love/ and various other places.
>>32
I meant be more like her as in live like how she does. She's done so many little things with her 19 years of being alive that most people never do in 80 years of being alive. I want to be like that.
>>33
Haha, I know they are. But it was relevant and got the laugh out of her that I was going for.
>>34
I do feel that way about it sometimes too. Relationships feel one-sided to me because of this sometimes. I'm the man and I have to be manly and do manly things and entertain and provide everything for my woman. And the woman gets to be the woman and be entertained and live off my work. I'd like to not be a man and her be a woman whom are locked into certain roles based on our gender. I'd like to just simply be. Simply be two equal independent people; connected to one another by our feelings.
This is not to say I don't enjoy being with a woman, I just have never felt that I am on equal footing with a woman when in a relationship.
This one didn't work as well, but I wish you luck on the next one, and feel free to come back with help on future endeavors.
Oh, that was strange. Normally it's women who want romance and guys get steriotyped as just wanting sex.
>>37 I have to agree, strange... Then again, that's equality for you.
>>37
Perhaps it's because woman finally have equal social rights as men. Imagine keeping slaves for a few decades then saying, "Okay, we're going to let you go. Take all our whips and chains as a sign of our gratitude. Sorry!" Imagine what would happen.
Maybe things will balance back out soon.
I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.
>>36 I mean that it will increase the chance of not getting divorced. My point is just that what a lot of people think of as love is a shitty reason to get married. Or maybe that what a lot of people think of as love really isn't.
I can't see it happening for me either way. I'm spiteful and broken and I can't love anybody.
>>35 >>35 >>35 >>35
Women are okay, I have no problem with women. But love is a piece of shit. It is ridiculous.
THIS.
Hard work, despite being a fucking ungifted idiot, which ultimately results in some sliver of success is the only drop of happiness I'll ever taste in this world.
Exercise, Study, Build.
I want to cut my balls of and mutilate the part of my brain responsible for romantic attraction.
Read "Apollo's Song" (a manga by Ozuma Tezuka). Tell me not one time you were abused, ignored, or something else bad happened to you with women...then we'll consider your feelings.
lol
>>34
The only people who say this kind of thing are those for whom love has not been a serious problem. If you have a good relationship and normal, healthy ideas and thoughts about romance, good for you. I don't, and I don't see how I ever will. So fuck off with your "so sad". It's sad, sure, but you don't know anything about it.
I hate a lot of shit and a lot of people.
i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought
The girl I like is shy and quiet, but every my approach to her has failed, at least how it looked to me.
Today I asked her out and she refused, motivating she's into some volunteer business on weekends (and that's true, as it turned out to be).
What would you recommend to do, Secret Admirer?
get another one. dont u understand u have no chance?
oh dear,
This forum is dead. Used to be alive somewhat years ago.
Do you flirt with her? How does she reacts?
Try to challenge her to do things for you. Your changes of being liked would actually be increasing.
Whenever I go to clubs and bars, I can pick up any Asian I want literally (I'm considered to be good looking for Asian). Asian girls would look at me and try to flirt with me...but I don't get the same respect from white female? Why is this? How do I get white girls? I am 6"0, lean and muscular white short hair...HELP!?
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The white girls that want asian men are generally fat weeaboos. Not trolling or anything. You're just looking in the wrong places. The white women you want are different from the white women that want you.
>white girl
less you like fatties & ones that'll fuck moneys behind your back, don't bother
hmm I find myself attracted to asian guys often, My ex was asian too and we dated for 3 years lol
I'm not "male".
I'm ... "Asian male".
sobsobsob...
u should go for lonly granny.
Hello, I've had a girlfriend for more than a year. I love her very much. The problem is I'm rarely in the mood for sex. It's not that she doesn't look good, I just don't know why.
However when it comes to fapping when I'm home alone I'm almost always in the mood.
I don't want her to be sad, she's always in the mood and I can't make her happy in bed
quit masturbating altogether
that should raise you libido and it'll make your sex with her more satisfying
Stop fapping, completely.
dont go too far. u should take some steps.
first, u should ask her if she wants to see a sausage.
next, ask her if she wants to see "ur" sausage.
if she says yes, then take a pic of ur sausage and send it to her on her birthday as a present.
I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
Horoscope have known.
The partner whom you need is seen in horoscope.
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honestly i feel bad that when i said im gonna find time finishing up the story, i never got the chance :((
i left too much gaps in between that i wasnt able to finish the story
i was having a chat today with someone from this thread which is why i checked back, im pretty sure most of you have forgotten about this place XD
im gonna do a quick catchup on where i left!
*2011
-after i release my MV on youtube, people at school made rumours that i liked both C and J, it got awkward and we stopped talking
-V went into some depression mode and eventually left school, i was pretty sad about it but we still kept contact
*continue
-before i left australia, my ex had been calling me through international calls because she had a fight with her bf. she called me twice crying and said she wanted to meet up with me when i come back.
-me and kejo was app-ing each other every day, it went pretty nice. she even got me a gift from beijing when she went to visit.
-she suddenly wanted to talk to me so one night we skyped for about 2 and a half hours.
-Kejo and her sister came to visit taipei cos her sister bf lives in taipei, we met up for a movie and had dinner, it went pretty well cept she found me a little quiet at the start
-after the dinner, kejo asked me to the zoo on the next day, it was like a triple date as the other 4 people were couples.
*continue
-apparently Kejo took the tag off cos she didnt want her friends to think after just breaking up not long ago, shes with another guy.
-Kejo told her sister before that she thinks im suitable to be the LAST bf, and said we are too far apart as im in taipei and shes in kaoshiong.
-i told my friends about the "LAST BF" thing, most of them said shes just using me as backup
-i lost motivation to write music, started helping a friend of mine doing hip hop music instead.
- i met a few girls who only wanted to get close to me cos of my good family background. i started to learn how to see what peoples motivation is.
*continue
-there was one night she suddenly went out around 1am, said the guy who had been chasing her for a year and half had been telling people her private life, im thinking "are you hiding something?"
-i called her the next day and a guy picked up, mia called me back saying she was in the bathroom and shes out with friends, but i know the guy who picked up is the same guy who is chasing her for a year and a half.
*continue
-during my break, the last 3-4 months i finally completed my next song called "everytime" which im going to release as a single.
-one night i was bored and started talking to this girl called "miya", she was very friendly and nice.
-sometimes i would start conversations with Miya on facebook, shes also from the same school as me.
-i would ask miya out to karaoke or movies but we always had friends with us.
p.s. one more thing.... heres a picture of me and Miya :)
http://sphotos-b.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/166730_10151533084356955_1093762590_n.jpg
I'm just goin' 2 say I'm happy 4 u. U went through so much the last 7 years since posting on 4ch. It saddens me that you are now done with this thread...but you've been an inspiration for many. I hope the best for you and Miya!!
test
before confessing to her, u shoud put ur pants down and show her ur belonging on skype.
she will like urs and accept ur confess
I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.
Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.
Single after an off-and-on, one-sided relationship that ended either one or five years ago, depending on who you ask. It was a real disaster. And it was the only relationship I've ever had, so there's that too.
Almost every woman I've met since around my age I haven't been interested in, even a little bit. I don't know what it is. I think I'll have to start settling soon just to be seen as normal by my family. I certainly can't tell them the truth.
HUMANS ARE INTERESTING
>>181
no theyre not
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I asked a girl out, I thought she was interested in me. Turned out she was gay but just really nice.
A woman gave me her number around two weeks ago. I was getting some teeth removed and she was the dentist's assistant. I really don't remember what she looks like or what I said to her because of the anesthetic they gave me. I told myself I would call when I had finally healed from the surgery, but I have refrained from doing so. I don't what to say to her.
And so I'll keep thinking about it and never act on it like I always do.
So it goes.
Nothing's happening, as usual. I just work and drink and sleep and repeat that process. I'm not interested in women, so I don't mind this kind of life, but living alone might get rough after a while. I may have to settle on someone just to have companionship of some kind. I don't like that idea, but what else can I do?