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[Advice] DQN-kun's Advice Column [DQN] (19)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 06:57 ID:36PeWhq1

       /(●)(●)   ask me any question about love and romance!
       | トェェェイ/   I offer only the best advice!
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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 15:29 ID:d2vJ1vki

  /(●)(●)   >>9, marinara sauce is a tasty beverage. burp
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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 17:10 ID:ZubsSalm

DQN-kun! DQN-kun! >>2 here, I have a question! Is marinara sauce any good for keeping myself properly hydrated in a desert? I wouldn't want to die on my adventure, you know!

Thankyou in advance.wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 21:38 ID:BRdvNQ7/


I have a feeling that a certain girl I know is interested in me, romantically. How do I break it to her that she has one too many dimensions?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-12 09:17 ID:cTIs6++1

I actually did that and now I'm romantically available once again!

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-13 22:49 ID:dTCr8a9w

  /(●)(●)   >>11, it's a myth that you need to stay hydrated! I always try to keep
  | トェェェイ/    myself at optimal dehydration (80%). Marinara sauce helps but you
  | /`ニニ´     should also bring some beef jerky. That will keep you alive and dehydrated.
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  /(●)(●)   >>12, I know exactly where you're coming from. It's frustrating to deal with girls that keep changing from day to day.
  | トェェェイ/   But fear not! If you like her other dimensions you can simulate removing the fourth one through petrification. There are
  | /`ニニ´    all sorts of ways of petrifying girls but finding a basilisk or medusa head is probably the easiest. SOLID ADVICE!
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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-14 03:28 ID:KpXVEzRM

How does one go about making an anime/manga character real, and making her fall in love with me?

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-17 07:40 ID:j57RZtQz

DQN-kun! All the women I know make me wish I were a homosexual. Where do I find the kind of woman for me?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 11:43 ID:Qr5E/zTQ

How do I chat up a cute girl who works in a library? Or more importantly where do I find another one? Things didn't go well last time...

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 23:12 ID:ENZfgW8N

  /(●)(●)   >>15, you've got it all wrong! Instead of making her real, you have to make yourself fictional.
  | トェェェイ/    Try writing a short novel about yourself and your potential waifu.
  | /`ニニ´    
  // | |      >>16, you should read more visual novels.
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  /(●)(●)   >>17, cute librarian girls are an elusive race. Once they've nested in a library, however, they
  | トェェェイ/   rarely leave, so search any libraries you find thoroughly. They may be found hanging from the rafters
  | /`ニニ´    or nestled behind bookshelves. As for chatting them up, here are a few potential topics of conversation:
  // | |      The weather, Stalinism, fluid mechanics, gynaecology, the Jacobian conjecture.
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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-09-25 02:51 ID:5LFNsvpr

Hey DQN-kun, how do I go about getting myself a friends-with-benefits? I don't know how to breach the subject!

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What's your fetish? (24)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-01-31 18:22 ID:OTGi5qlk

Let's see what kind of perverted sick fucks browse this place

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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-08-12 16:50 ID:CTlDScNT

Strong Girls, specially if their abs show.
I just want to lick them.

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[ADVICE] Should I pursue her? [UNCERTAINTY] (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-02 18:47 ID:Qg0vjgR4

I've been chatting with a cute girl lately. Unfortunately, when we were discussing our favorite writers, she said she didn't like Shakespeare. I was immediately put off. Should I continue to talk to her? I really can't imagine being in a relationship where I can't quote the rhyming couplets of Richard II.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-03 00:37 ID:A7WiapUZ

I've actually been in the same situation with my gf about 3 years ago, but I eventually figured out how to solve this.
What you should do is to TRICK her into liking Shakespeare. Start by getting close to her and get to know her. Learn her favorite musicians, moviemakers and authors, and make sure to write down a list of all of them. Once you think you're ready, start misattributing Shakespeare works and quotes to these figures.
So if for example this girl listens to Broken Bells and likes Wes Anderson movies, drop some quotes like "I am a Jew. Hath not a Jew eyes?" and when she asks where's that from tell her it's from some obscure Broken Bells song. Start talking to her about A Midsummer Night's Dream, and say it's some unused script for a Wes Anderson film.
Eventually she'll like these stuff because of some psychological effect that probably exist but I don't know its name. After years of tricking her into reading entire books of Broken Bells lyrics and about two dozen of Wes Anderson's college scripts, pull off the curtain and make the big reveal. If you've done everything right she should now acknowledge her love for everything Shakespeare.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-08-29 12:21 ID:cX73qn/K

Gooby plz

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I've been waiting.... (755)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

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747 Name: HaloUTD08 : 2013-04-25 18:06 ID:PHtNKamZ

I'm just goin' 2 say I'm happy 4 u. U went through so much the last 7 years since posting on 4ch. It saddens me that you are now done with this thread...but you've been an inspiration for many. I hope the best for you and Miya!!

748 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-04-26 14:33 ID:p6uiN1rv


749 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-04-26 14:37 ID:p6uiN1rv

before confessing to her, u shoud put ur pants down and show her ur belonging on skype.

she will like urs and accept ur confess

750 Name: 映画男 : 2013-10-07 18:38 ID:MKGinrd/

hey guys!
just to let you guys know some news, I released my new single EP on iTunes called "Everytime" come check it out :)

p.s. Me and Miya are almost dating for exactly a year!! time surely flies :D

751 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-04-24 06:45 ID:Jc2IjrGi

wow i didnt know 4ch had a 7 years story going on intill now. I checked your music, your style reminds me of Jason chen on youube :P

any way Eiga hows your love life with Miya going on? (not sure if your gonna read this or not)

752 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-04-29 13:59 ID:Heaven

>>751 This place is ancient history

753 Name: HaloUTD08 : 2015-07-22 21:40 ID:/nhd07mm


Where have you been?! U doin' ok? Still with Miya?

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Singles Rant Thread, 3rd Edition (196)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 16:54 ID:pNdjKvFC

I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.

Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.

187 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-02-23 23:01 ID:/sNNPSiM

Nothing's happening, as usual. I just work and drink and sleep and repeat that process. I'm not interested in women, so I don't mind this kind of life, but living alone might get rough after a while. I may have to settle on someone just to have companionship of some kind. I don't like that idea, but what else can I do?

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189 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-01 05:51 ID:xVwwgml2

Most of the time, I'm totally fine. I don't mind being alone, I actually kind of enjoy it (especially when I see my friends in their relationships being miserable). I live like they do, except I don't constantly have to be on the phone telling them what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go. It's nice.

But every now and then, I become overwhelmed with a sudden sadness or loneliness. It would be nice to have somebody to talk to about shit. Or, it's like, "What's wrong with me?" Why don't I seem to be capable of what everyone else is? People say "Just talk to a girl," and I've tried, but it's difficult. It's like I'm trying to communicate in a language I don't understand. I just never learned the rules to the game.

This only lasts for a day or two at most, usually, and then I forget about it or stop caring about it.

I feel like a shitfuck for even making this post, but it's kind of therapeutic to get it out.

I hope all of you people end up happy

190 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-05 08:52 ID:kROAf7Vq

I understand what you are saying

191 Name: cornshit : 2013-06-13 12:18 ID:4S30qyf/

so here i am, finally in japan.. i'm always witing for a hermes-tan.. man can't seem to find one.. but all the chicks here are so fine.. a handful are fuglies.. y

192 Name: cornshit : 2015-05-30 03:04 ID:G/rZE85D

almost 3years in, no gf in japan yet.. but there's a kid about 15yrs old is so into me.. i dunno what to do. i'm no lolicon but she is so cute.. help? i'm15yrs her senior btw.

193 Name: cornshit : 2015-05-30 03:07 ID:G/rZE85D

more like 18-21years her senior.. damn

194 Name: 映画男 : 2015-05-30 08:25 ID:/5fPp4UF

>>193 well in some cases i know some girls like guys that are older because they feel like they are more mature. but 18-21 years older that can cause a few problems such as generation gap. i know people who are 55 years old that have a girlriend who is 20 years younger then them, they sometimes get into a few fights due to generation gap as older people wont understand what the younger generation are thinking.

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I'm very full of hate. (51)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-03 19:47 ID:UBYkJ2wZ

I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-08-04 06:10 ID:J1wh1vjA

The only people who say this kind of thing are those for whom love has not been a serious problem. If you have a good relationship and normal, healthy ideas and thoughts about romance, good for you. I don't, and I don't see how I ever will. So fuck off with your "so sad". It's sad, sure, but you don't know anything about it.

43 Name: 4 : 2012-08-07 23:22 ID:VjnyVfs7

I hate a lot of shit and a lot of people.

44 Name: fuck em and bag em : 2012-10-09 15:04 ID:1N50HMaJ

i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought

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46 Name: fartman : 2013-05-09 16:00 ID:uOAGPmFK

ok. keep wanking forever. who cares...?

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-22 22:55 ID:sp1TXo0C

I agree, OP. All women are whores/sluts and aren't good for anything besides being cum buckets.

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-10-06 16:32 ID:+sXdZyrX

Calm down

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Is he worth it? (4)

1 Name: Belle : 2013-05-18 09:09 ID:acrjRBzw

During the beginning of this year, I decided to join a daring site because I was curious to see what men were there. I didn't really have high expectations to meet anyone there really (to be honest, I wasn't even into it). One day, this guy randomly messaged me out of the blue. I thought it was a really cute message he sent me so I wrote to him back (first time I was even curious about a guy in that site). Since we both lived in different provinces, we couldn't date in person so we messaged each other on Facebook. At first, it would take him a while to reply back (like 1-2 weeks) but when he ended up going to a different country for a sport tournament, he ended up messaging me daily. I really can't say for sure but I think I'm starting to like him. I don't know. He just struck me as someone different which is hard for me to find around here.

Well yesterday, I was looking at my Facebook feed coming from work and I realized he became friends with this girl from out of the country (okay.. I snooped a little). He told me that he closed his dating site so that's why he asked for my Facebook username so we can talk there instead. So when I saw him add her as his friend, it got me thinking that he is probably still in a dating site. I guess now I feel quite insecure because she's pretty and she's a model. I feel quite jealous and I hate feeling like this..

2 Name: Belle : 2013-05-18 09:15 ID:acrjRBzw


So now I've been thinking a lot about it. Should I just stop talking to him? Is he even worth my time? I admit, I do look forward to seeing his Facebook message every morning when I wake up... But seeing how she's so pretty, I feel like I lost this round.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-02 01:14 ID:Us37Jm3C

Of course not. Stop the dating site thing and just find real life boyfriends.

4 Name: Logic reasoner : 2015-03-27 23:21 ID:w0W0H2f7

From the information on your paragraph. I believe you are over sensitive. There are many reason a new friend is added on facebook. You made the assumption that they met on dating site and there are romance between them. at the end of the day, it could all be just in your head.

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:( (2)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-07 18:22 ID:RhcYid6s

i purposefully leave myself emotionally vulnerable in the hope of attracting someone who will prey on my vulnerabilities and it makes me feel kind of sick because it's like a feedback loop of broken people licking each other's wounds when it works and makes me feel unappealing when it doesn't.

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Dating a grieving girl (3)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-10-27 16:45 ID:cDDaideM

We met several years ago and connected. With school and our lives we drifted apart for a few years, only to reconnect recently. We were in different cities and talked for about five months before we met up and had a date. We both had a great time, I gave her a flower, talked about all kinds of stuff late into the evening, finishing each other's sentences... We even agreed on having the same favorite house in that city. By the end of the night, I could tell she wanted me to kiss her, but I didn't. I knew I was leaving and I didn't want to lead her on.
Throughout this past summer, we continued talking and my feelings for her grew. I came to fall in love with her. In fact a couple days after our date she sent me that article about Bill Murray giving advice to bachelors about when you find "the one" because she remembered I love Bill Murray.
So, this past September I returned to where she is living, although due to some miscommunication on my part, she had her week planned and we didn't see each other. Despite this, she seemed very excited for me to be there (a lot of smilie emojis) and I told her I would be back, and that I think she is cute (I save the serious stuff for face to face).
It couldn't have been a week later that some of the most unexpected news that could have happened, happened. She lost a very dear family member, and it was after a couple weeks of silence before she was able to tell me. I did my best to comfort her and tell her I am here for her, but she understandably seemed to want her space. I wasn't able to send flowers or the like.
Now she has returned from being overseas with her family, and we haven't talked much since before she left. She is a very sensitive girl and I would hate to spoil anything by forcing myself into her life or trying to understand what she is going through (I can't).

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-01-03 21:56 ID:YrMzwehu

Explain to her that you can be there for her if she needs you

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i am am 29 male, i fall in love with a guy 35 (6)

1 Name: hihowru : 2011-12-25 10:59 ID:PVjssZhD

i need help. There is boy 35. he is typist and i am comupter operator in same office. he is little religious i also respect religion much. he is much shy and beard guy. I want him to sleep with me, to open with me and share with me every thing. i want to get laid over him. he is 35 and i am 29. I believe that if ever i got by chance laid over him he would never dislike it, only would pretend that he no want to do that But inside he has not big resistance. he is married and have one baby boy. Some time he and i go out to take tea shop nearby office. Some time he pay for tea some time i. I already told you by any chance if we see each other naked in the same room, after that he will be close to me and would have not any objection. But i can not produce this kind of chance. If i call him to my house and to my room my family will think why a guy going to my room to my bed that i no want.If it is not possible tell me how i can forget him. Some time i kidding him that i want to do anal with him he smiles and replies me that you can. But he thinks i am only kidding he not know know i really want to do that in real. He some time need little money i can help him but i did not offered him openly may be he will think why i am doing this. I am already alone i no want to lose him i want him to be more close to me. Our religion and culture is much against gay like thinks this is why he is feared to be more close to me. Some time i offered him to watch porn movies with me but he denies. He is reserve kind. He dont know computer chat interenet like things. I can not share with him email he has not mobile phone. Last day we went to market to buy shoes for me. He went with me. We spent much time togather i buy some cold drinks and chips and some other smalle things to eat. He ate and thanks i thanks him for comming with me.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-12-25 18:02 ID:3o9X9gjc

I'm sorry but if he is marriied you should try to have sex with him.
Find another man.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-12-26 05:39 ID:iyqCBiIe

Wait! I meant to say you should not have sex with him. If he is married, do not have sex with him.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-06 08:43 ID:NFs/Xte5

exactly, nothing you can do about it.. move on with your life. being obsessed with him probably alienated other people you can have a relationship with you just don't notice it.

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