Love and Romance @4-ch

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I've been waiting.... (757)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

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749 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-04-26 14:37 ID:p6uiN1rv

before confessing to her, u shoud put ur pants down and show her ur belonging on skype.

she will like urs and accept ur confess

750 Name: 映画男 : 2013-10-07 18:38 ID:MKGinrd/

hey guys!
just to let you guys know some news, I released my new single EP on iTunes called "Everytime" come check it out :)

p.s. Me and Miya are almost dating for exactly a year!! time surely flies :D

751 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-04-24 06:45 ID:Jc2IjrGi

wow i didnt know 4ch had a 7 years story going on intill now. I checked your music, your style reminds me of Jason chen on youube :P

any way Eiga hows your love life with Miya going on? (not sure if your gonna read this or not)

752 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-04-29 13:59 ID:Heaven

>>751 This place is ancient history

753 Name: HaloUTD08 : 2015-07-22 21:40 ID:/nhd07mm


Where have you been?! U doin' ok? Still with Miya?

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756 Name: 映画男 : 2015-11-17 12:11 ID:T1ZAHOvv

>>753 we just broke up two weeks ago after being together for 3 years. still going through the healing proccess

757 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-11-23 00:51 ID:F6IYATF0

Do you feel ok to talk more about it here, to contiue your life story?

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Girls wanting to bring friends? (2)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-29 10:51 ID:UYsA0LCT

What am I supposed to say when a girl asks if she can bring her friends to a get together? It is not explicitly a date so she is not in the wrong, but I am selfish and want the time alone with her, yet also do not wish to seem rude by saying no. Is there any way to win this or will I have to concede?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-11-17 08:19 ID:SGN6E7tN

There is a way to win. Impress her friends and you will impress her.

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Making Shit Happen (1)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-30 21:06 ID:Pwxg3KtX

How do I move closer to an appropriate moment to make a move. Full disclosure, I've managed to get her to be receptive to kissing and stuff twice already, but aside from copious amounts of alcohol being involved for both of us, I can't seem to figure out exactly what I did to make the moment feel "right". Do non-failed normies just make moves out of the blue?

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extremely painful breakup (6)

1 Name: man on fire : 2015-10-17 03:08 ID:XMsIU5a6

So, I loved this girl a lot. It was a long-distance relationship. It was going to be like three years before we could really live together. We are both virgins. She promised her virginity to me. We both had romantic ideals of lifelong love. I still do, that's my main shtick, I am a die-hard romantic and I'm saving my virginity even though I'm a guy. I don't care what anybody else says.

It started out with me being very idealistic and thinking it could work. Whenever I had any doubt my girlfriend would tell me she'd take care of my doubts, and that she believed in me and my ideals, and that three years wasn't long to wait because we'd grow old together anyways. It seemed perfect.

We talked every day. It never got old for me, to talk to her.

Two weeks ago it was her birthday. She was excited to see me draw her a picture for her birthday. It was a crappy drawing, but it was from my heart; it was a picture of me and her, stick figures, and me giving her a ring. She said it was cute and she loved it, then she said "brb" and I didn't hear from her for over a week.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-20 12:12 ID:JTasja/7

You are not stupid, just a bit silly.

I won't comment on your breakup, because... well, it doesn't sound real, you aren't telling the whole story.

But Nothing is "for a lifetime", things change, you will change, your girlfriend will change, sometimes those changes make you stop loving. And why the obsession with virginity? It has no impact on relationship, besides not fitting your fairytale fantasy.

Who is criticizing you anyway? I doubt many people care about what you want in a relationship. Not that your beliefs are radical or unusual in the first place.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-23 06:24 ID:1FYqjvba

The few studies that exist on telegony suggest that a female retains the DNA of previous partners inside her brain, potentially affecting future offspring. Is that supposed to be attractive or something? I'm surprised that expressing preference for virgins is so looked down upon by the majority.

4 Name: man on fire : 2015-10-24 00:24 ID:XMsIU5a6

It has a lot of impact. Previous relationships make people start comparing things in their mind, and that is bad for a relationship. There are studies about how women who have had sex with more people end up having a higher chance of divorce.

Ultimately, all meaning is derived from contrast. If you haven't had sex before and you have sex for the first time with somebody, meaning is subconsciously attributed to that. Even moreso if it's mutual. It is romantic. It is not a fairytale fantasy at all. It's my ideal and it's important, and it is totally doable if other people just shared it. It's wrong to think "that's not realistic" and just discount it as a too perfect to be real. You have to aim for what is really the best possible, and live to be a person who can do that.

Things can be for a lifetime if you will it. By having an attitude that nothing is for a lifetime, nothing will be for a lifetime. If you don't want it, you can't have it. I am fully confident that I can love a girl forever, and be utterly loyal to her too. I wish I could prove that, but you'll just have to believe me.

That story is the whole story, but more things happened afterwards. She approached me later and said that she made up that story about cheating on me to make me go away for a while. Now, she says hi to me every day, but we never can start a conversation, and I don't want to. She says she is confused about what she wants. It just hurts to talk to her now.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-10-26 13:16 ID:JTasja/7

Sure, aim for the stars or whatever, but realize when it isn't going to happen and compromise. You won't be an astronaut, drive the latest Ferrari and have a virgin supermodel girlfriend. Welcome to real life.

But maybe you can work in a planetarium, drive Alfa Romeo and have a cute, understanding girlfriend. If virginity is such a huge deal for you, I'm sure you can make it happen, just look for overweight, ugly girls, that never get any attention from man.

The whole idea, that you'll find this one amazing girl, that has been waiting for you all her life and you'll both fall in this beautiful everlasting love... it's silly. That's not how relationships work, at all.

6 Name: man on fire : 2015-10-29 04:18 ID:XMsIU5a6


Nevermind it, man.

It's about sharing an ideal. Just as friends are close because they share interests, people who might be partners should be close because they share ideals. If you don't have any ideals at all and care too much about what's "realistic", then there's nothing left to talk about.

Anyways, this girl has started making contact with me again, saying she's anxious and needs somebody to talk to. I told her it's one-sided because I clearly care about her and she clearly does not care about me because she ignores me when I am having some sort of emotional problem and she doesn't feel ashamed at all about just using me, so I've cut contact with her.

I'm really amazed that this girl ended up being like this. What a tragedy.

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[Advice] DQN-kun's Advice Column [DQN] (19)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 06:57 ID:36PeWhq1

       /(●)(●)   ask me any question about love and romance!
       | トェェェイ/   I offer only the best advice!
       | /`ニニ´    
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      U  .U   
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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 15:29 ID:d2vJ1vki

  /(●)(●)   >>9, marinara sauce is a tasty beverage. burp
  | トェェェイ/  
  | /`ニニ´    
  // | |      
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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 17:10 ID:ZubsSalm

DQN-kun! DQN-kun! >>2 here, I have a question! Is marinara sauce any good for keeping myself properly hydrated in a desert? I wouldn't want to die on my adventure, you know!

Thankyou in advance.wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-11 21:38 ID:BRdvNQ7/


I have a feeling that a certain girl I know is interested in me, romantically. How do I break it to her that she has one too many dimensions?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-12 09:17 ID:cTIs6++1

I actually did that and now I'm romantically available once again!

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-13 22:49 ID:dTCr8a9w

  /(●)(●)   >>11, it's a myth that you need to stay hydrated! I always try to keep
  | トェェェイ/    myself at optimal dehydration (80%). Marinara sauce helps but you
  | /`ニニ´     should also bring some beef jerky. That will keep you alive and dehydrated.
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  /(●)(●)   >>12, I know exactly where you're coming from. It's frustrating to deal with girls that keep changing from day to day.
  | トェェェイ/   But fear not! If you like her other dimensions you can simulate removing the fourth one through petrification. There are
  | /`ニニ´    all sorts of ways of petrifying girls but finding a basilisk or medusa head is probably the easiest. SOLID ADVICE!
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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-14 03:28 ID:KpXVEzRM

How does one go about making an anime/manga character real, and making her fall in love with me?

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-17 07:40 ID:j57RZtQz

DQN-kun! All the women I know make me wish I were a homosexual. Where do I find the kind of woman for me?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 11:43 ID:Qr5E/zTQ

How do I chat up a cute girl who works in a library? Or more importantly where do I find another one? Things didn't go well last time...

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-07 23:12 ID:ENZfgW8N

  /(●)(●)   >>15, you've got it all wrong! Instead of making her real, you have to make yourself fictional.
  | トェェェイ/    Try writing a short novel about yourself and your potential waifu.
  | /`ニニ´    
  // | |      >>16, you should read more visual novels.
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  /(●)(●)   >>17, cute librarian girls are an elusive race. Once they've nested in a library, however, they
  | トェェェイ/   rarely leave, so search any libraries you find thoroughly. They may be found hanging from the rafters
  | /`ニニ´    or nestled behind bookshelves. As for chatting them up, here are a few potential topics of conversation:
  // | |      The weather, Stalinism, fluid mechanics, gynaecology, the Jacobian conjecture.
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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-09-25 02:51 ID:5LFNsvpr

Hey DQN-kun, how do I go about getting myself a friends-with-benefits? I don't know how to breach the subject!

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What's your fetish? (24)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-01-31 18:22 ID:OTGi5qlk

Let's see what kind of perverted sick fucks browse this place

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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-08-12 16:50 ID:CTlDScNT

Strong Girls, specially if their abs show.
I just want to lick them.

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[ADVICE] Should I pursue her? [UNCERTAINTY] (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-02 18:47 ID:Qg0vjgR4

I've been chatting with a cute girl lately. Unfortunately, when we were discussing our favorite writers, she said she didn't like Shakespeare. I was immediately put off. Should I continue to talk to her? I really can't imagine being in a relationship where I can't quote the rhyming couplets of Richard II.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-02-03 00:37 ID:A7WiapUZ

I've actually been in the same situation with my gf about 3 years ago, but I eventually figured out how to solve this.
What you should do is to TRICK her into liking Shakespeare. Start by getting close to her and get to know her. Learn her favorite musicians, moviemakers and authors, and make sure to write down a list of all of them. Once you think you're ready, start misattributing Shakespeare works and quotes to these figures.
So if for example this girl listens to Broken Bells and likes Wes Anderson movies, drop some quotes like "I am a Jew. Hath not a Jew eyes?" and when she asks where's that from tell her it's from some obscure Broken Bells song. Start talking to her about A Midsummer Night's Dream, and say it's some unused script for a Wes Anderson film.
Eventually she'll like these stuff because of some psychological effect that probably exist but I don't know its name. After years of tricking her into reading entire books of Broken Bells lyrics and about two dozen of Wes Anderson's college scripts, pull off the curtain and make the big reveal. If you've done everything right she should now acknowledge her love for everything Shakespeare.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2015-08-29 12:21 ID:cX73qn/K

Gooby plz

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Singles Rant Thread, 3rd Edition (196)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 16:54 ID:pNdjKvFC

I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.

Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.

187 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-02-23 23:01 ID:/sNNPSiM

Nothing's happening, as usual. I just work and drink and sleep and repeat that process. I'm not interested in women, so I don't mind this kind of life, but living alone might get rough after a while. I may have to settle on someone just to have companionship of some kind. I don't like that idea, but what else can I do?

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189 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-01 05:51 ID:xVwwgml2

Most of the time, I'm totally fine. I don't mind being alone, I actually kind of enjoy it (especially when I see my friends in their relationships being miserable). I live like they do, except I don't constantly have to be on the phone telling them what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go. It's nice.

But every now and then, I become overwhelmed with a sudden sadness or loneliness. It would be nice to have somebody to talk to about shit. Or, it's like, "What's wrong with me?" Why don't I seem to be capable of what everyone else is? People say "Just talk to a girl," and I've tried, but it's difficult. It's like I'm trying to communicate in a language I don't understand. I just never learned the rules to the game.

This only lasts for a day or two at most, usually, and then I forget about it or stop caring about it.

I feel like a shitfuck for even making this post, but it's kind of therapeutic to get it out.

I hope all of you people end up happy

190 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-06-05 08:52 ID:kROAf7Vq

I understand what you are saying

191 Name: cornshit : 2013-06-13 12:18 ID:4S30qyf/

so here i am, finally in japan.. i'm always witing for a hermes-tan.. man can't seem to find one.. but all the chicks here are so fine.. a handful are fuglies.. y

192 Name: cornshit : 2015-05-30 03:04 ID:G/rZE85D

almost 3years in, no gf in japan yet.. but there's a kid about 15yrs old is so into me.. i dunno what to do. i'm no lolicon but she is so cute.. help? i'm15yrs her senior btw.

193 Name: cornshit : 2015-05-30 03:07 ID:G/rZE85D

more like 18-21years her senior.. damn

194 Name: 映画男 : 2015-05-30 08:25 ID:/5fPp4UF

>>193 well in some cases i know some girls like guys that are older because they feel like they are more mature. but 18-21 years older that can cause a few problems such as generation gap. i know people who are 55 years old that have a girlriend who is 20 years younger then them, they sometimes get into a few fights due to generation gap as older people wont understand what the younger generation are thinking.

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I'm very full of hate. (51)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-03 19:47 ID:UBYkJ2wZ

I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-08-04 06:10 ID:J1wh1vjA

The only people who say this kind of thing are those for whom love has not been a serious problem. If you have a good relationship and normal, healthy ideas and thoughts about romance, good for you. I don't, and I don't see how I ever will. So fuck off with your "so sad". It's sad, sure, but you don't know anything about it.

43 Name: 4 : 2012-08-07 23:22 ID:VjnyVfs7

I hate a lot of shit and a lot of people.

44 Name: fuck em and bag em : 2012-10-09 15:04 ID:1N50HMaJ

i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-10-09 22:20 ID:znV902E+


46 Name: fartman : 2013-05-09 16:00 ID:uOAGPmFK

ok. keep wanking forever. who cares...?

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-09-22 22:55 ID:sp1TXo0C

I agree, OP. All women are whores/sluts and aren't good for anything besides being cum buckets.

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-10-06 16:32 ID:+sXdZyrX

Calm down

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Is he worth it? (4)

1 Name: Belle : 2013-05-18 09:09 ID:acrjRBzw

During the beginning of this year, I decided to join a daring site because I was curious to see what men were there. I didn't really have high expectations to meet anyone there really (to be honest, I wasn't even into it). One day, this guy randomly messaged me out of the blue. I thought it was a really cute message he sent me so I wrote to him back (first time I was even curious about a guy in that site). Since we both lived in different provinces, we couldn't date in person so we messaged each other on Facebook. At first, it would take him a while to reply back (like 1-2 weeks) but when he ended up going to a different country for a sport tournament, he ended up messaging me daily. I really can't say for sure but I think I'm starting to like him. I don't know. He just struck me as someone different which is hard for me to find around here.

Well yesterday, I was looking at my Facebook feed coming from work and I realized he became friends with this girl from out of the country (okay.. I snooped a little). He told me that he closed his dating site so that's why he asked for my Facebook username so we can talk there instead. So when I saw him add her as his friend, it got me thinking that he is probably still in a dating site. I guess now I feel quite insecure because she's pretty and she's a model. I feel quite jealous and I hate feeling like this..

2 Name: Belle : 2013-05-18 09:15 ID:acrjRBzw


So now I've been thinking a lot about it. Should I just stop talking to him? Is he even worth my time? I admit, I do look forward to seeing his Facebook message every morning when I wake up... But seeing how she's so pretty, I feel like I lost this round.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-02 01:14 ID:Us37Jm3C

Of course not. Stop the dating site thing and just find real life boyfriends.

4 Name: Logic reasoner : 2015-03-27 23:21 ID:w0W0H2f7

From the information on your paragraph. I believe you are over sensitive. There are many reason a new friend is added on facebook. You made the assumption that they met on dating site and there are romance between them. at the end of the day, it could all be just in your head.

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