During the beginning of this year, I decided to join a daring site because I was curious to see what men were there. I didn't really have high expectations to meet anyone there really (to be honest, I wasn't even into it). One day, this guy randomly messaged me out of the blue. I thought it was a really cute message he sent me so I wrote to him back (first time I was even curious about a guy in that site). Since we both lived in different provinces, we couldn't date in person so we messaged each other on Facebook. At first, it would take him a while to reply back (like 1-2 weeks) but when he ended up going to a different country for a sport tournament, he ended up messaging me daily. I really can't say for sure but I think I'm starting to like him. I don't know. He just struck me as someone different which is hard for me to find around here.
Well yesterday, I was looking at my Facebook feed coming from work and I realized he became friends with this girl from out of the country (okay.. I snooped a little). He told me that he closed his dating site so that's why he asked for my Facebook username so we can talk there instead. So when I saw him add her as his friend, it got me thinking that he is probably still in a dating site. I guess now I feel quite insecure because she's pretty and she's a model. I feel quite jealous and I hate feeling like this..
So now I've been thinking a lot about it. Should I just stop talking to him? Is he even worth my time? I admit, I do look forward to seeing his Facebook message every morning when I wake up... But seeing how she's so pretty, I feel like I lost this round.
Of course not. Stop the dating site thing and just find real life boyfriends.
From the information on your paragraph. I believe you are over sensitive. There are many reason a new friend is added on facebook. You made the assumption that they met on dating site and there are romance between them. at the end of the day, it could all be just in your head.
I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.
The only people who say this kind of thing are those for whom love has not been a serious problem. If you have a good relationship and normal, healthy ideas and thoughts about romance, good for you. I don't, and I don't see how I ever will. So fuck off with your "so sad". It's sad, sure, but you don't know anything about it.
I hate a lot of shit and a lot of people.
i hope your deside to go kill a woman your self, i hate em to hate the hole world, and i dont care if i got a problem, i can feel that im building up to my own first rape/murder, and i get happy feelings from that, i guss some ppl werent ment for willing love, and whos to say that its wrong. good luck and hope you dont get cought
I agree, OP. All women are whores/sluts and aren't good for anything besides being cum buckets.
Let's see what kind of perverted sick fucks browse this place
Completely skinny girls gaining weight to slightly chubby, just enough to have a small bulge on their belly
i purposefully leave myself emotionally vulnerable in the hope of attracting someone who will prey on my vulnerabilities and it makes me feel kind of sick because it's like a feedback loop of broken people licking each other's wounds when it works and makes me feel unappealing when it doesn't.
Time to browse dank memes
I've been chatting with a cute girl lately. Unfortunately, when we were discussing our favorite writers, she said she didn't like Shakespeare. I was immediately put off. Should I continue to talk to her? I really can't imagine being in a relationship where I can't quote the rhyming couplets of Richard II.
I've actually been in the same situation with my gf about 3 years ago, but I eventually figured out how to solve this.
What you should do is to TRICK her into liking Shakespeare. Start by getting close to her and get to know her. Learn her favorite musicians, moviemakers and authors, and make sure to write down a list of all of them. Once you think you're ready, start misattributing Shakespeare works and quotes to these figures.
So if for example this girl listens to Broken Bells and likes Wes Anderson movies, drop some quotes like "I am a Jew. Hath not a Jew eyes?" and when she asks where's that from tell her it's from some obscure Broken Bells song. Start talking to her about A Midsummer Night's Dream, and say it's some unused script for a Wes Anderson film.
Eventually she'll like these stuff because of some psychological effect that probably exist but I don't know its name. After years of tricking her into reading entire books of Broken Bells lyrics and about two dozen of Wes Anderson's college scripts, pull off the curtain and make the big reveal. If you've done everything right she should now acknowledge her love for everything Shakespeare.
We met several years ago and connected. With school and our lives we drifted apart for a few years, only to reconnect recently. We were in different cities and talked for about five months before we met up and had a date. We both had a great time, I gave her a flower, talked about all kinds of stuff late into the evening, finishing each other's sentences... We even agreed on having the same favorite house in that city. By the end of the night, I could tell she wanted me to kiss her, but I didn't. I knew I was leaving and I didn't want to lead her on.
Throughout this past summer, we continued talking and my feelings for her grew. I came to fall in love with her. In fact a couple days after our date she sent me that article about Bill Murray giving advice to bachelors about when you find "the one" because she remembered I love Bill Murray.
So, this past September I returned to where she is living, although due to some miscommunication on my part, she had her week planned and we didn't see each other. Despite this, she seemed very excited for me to be there (a lot of smilie emojis) and I told her I would be back, and that I think she is cute (I save the serious stuff for face to face).
It couldn't have been a week later that some of the most unexpected news that could have happened, happened. She lost a very dear family member, and it was after a couple weeks of silence before she was able to tell me. I did my best to comfort her and tell her I am here for her, but she understandably seemed to want her space. I wasn't able to send flowers or the like.
Now she has returned from being overseas with her family, and we haven't talked much since before she left. She is a very sensitive girl and I would hate to spoil anything by forcing myself into her life or trying to understand what she is going through (I can't).
Explain to her that you can be there for her if she needs you
Flash your cleavage.
Please use a condom
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EMBRACE MULTICULTURALISM NOW (or die in a camp)
Guess who killed her? Yeah, another black baboon.
i need help. There is boy 35. he is typist and i am comupter operator in same office. he is little religious i also respect religion much. he is much shy and beard guy. I want him to sleep with me, to open with me and share with me every thing. i want to get laid over him. he is 35 and i am 29. I believe that if ever i got by chance laid over him he would never dislike it, only would pretend that he no want to do that But inside he has not big resistance. he is married and have one baby boy. Some time he and i go out to take tea shop nearby office. Some time he pay for tea some time i. I already told you by any chance if we see each other naked in the same room, after that he will be close to me and would have not any objection. But i can not produce this kind of chance. If i call him to my house and to my room my family will think why a guy going to my room to my bed that i no want.If it is not possible tell me how i can forget him. Some time i kidding him that i want to do anal with him he smiles and replies me that you can. But he thinks i am only kidding he not know know i really want to do that in real. He some time need little money i can help him but i did not offered him openly may be he will think why i am doing this. I am already alone i no want to lose him i want him to be more close to me. Our religion and culture is much against gay like thinks this is why he is feared to be more close to me. Some time i offered him to watch porn movies with me but he denies. He is reserve kind. He dont know computer chat interenet like things. I can not share with him email he has not mobile phone. Last day we went to market to buy shoes for me. He went with me. We spent much time togather i buy some cold drinks and chips and some other smalle things to eat. He ate and thanks i thanks him for comming with me.
I'm sorry but if he is marriied you should try to have sex with him.
Find another man.
Wait! I meant to say you should not have sex with him. If he is married, do not have sex with him.
exactly, nothing you can do about it.. move on with your life. being obsessed with him probably alienated other people you can have a relationship with you just don't notice it.
I really want to give a blow job. Im a 20 year old straight guy and im curious about giving a blow job. Is that normal?
Go to a toilet stall with a glory hole, and wait around awhile.
Or buy a suitably shaped vegetable or fruit, and use your imagination.
Yeah it's fine. Don't worry about it.
Of course it is, if you had a chance to experiment, I'd say go for it :)
It's not as fun as you think it'll be. Unless you're like really into the guy you're giving it to. But since you're straight, that's probably unlikely.
You can't be all that straight then.
Really, I think labels like straight and gay are quite silly. They're just ways for people to put each other into neat, clean categories. We're all somewhere on that sliding scale. I'm not interested in delivering a blowjob, but I would get into bed with a guy able to convincingly be a trap. Too bad there are so few of them.
No you are gay
So here it goes..
I'm 22 turning 23 in two months. I will admit: I have never kissed, seriously dated and have sex with a man before. Guys have tried kissing me before but I always covered my mouth and would nervously giggle because I feel like my first kiss should be special. I dated only one person by accident (thinking it was just a hang-out but the whole atmosphere was just so weird because he started asking me a lot about myself as if it was really a date). I turned out dates before because the guys that asked me out were really not my type.
During university, I focused a lot with studies than dating but now that I'm done, I don't really know how to date someone. I'm also recovering from a one-sided love that lasted for nearly 7 years. The more I thought about it, the more I felt like I wasted so much of my "youth".. I also felt like I missed so much. During that time, I did party quite a bit with friends but I never took the guys seriously because they weren't "him".
I don't think I'm socially awkward. In fact, I'm quite friendly with everyone I meet. I'm quite talkative once someone gets to know me. However, I'm extremely shy with strangers. I like to have fun. I like to go out and drink with friends. I have tons of guy friends but I don't see them as anyone I would seriously date. They either fall in these three categories: gay, socially awkward or very close guy friends that I consider as a brother.
your first kiss is not special. losing your virginity is not a special occasion. any guy who isnt a loser will be very turned off by you still being a virgin. im sorry that movies and tv have manipulated you into thinking that these petty physical interactions are "special" but they are not. as you continue to age males over 24 will see you as being mentally unstable if you come out giggling and being weird about things as simple as a kiss. that immaturity puts up huge red flags that you are not someone they want to tangle with.
my suggestion is to grab one of your close male friends you consider a "brother" but only hangs out around you because they want to get in your pants (All of them) and just have sex with them.
this board has a lot of nerds, but we also have a handful of people with real world experience. i expect a punch of "its ok to wait for the right guy (me please god let it be me im so lonley)" type posts, but thats all bullshit.
have sex, realize its not that big a deal, and then learn to be happy being alone before searching for a real relationship. from your post you strike me as someone who may have been sexually abused as a child, you need to work through your own personal issues before even thinking about a real, and serious relationship. until that time though have a spattering of one night stands (use a condom, no fucking exceptions). and get some experience under your belt.
Not every random 20-something guy hangs around a girl for the sole purpose of getting into their pants. As a 27 guy, I actually have many friends who are girls, and I hang out with them because, shocker of shockers, I actually enjoy their company, and find them easier to get along with than most guys I know.
That said, does that mean there's never any sexual tension? No, it happens, hormones and attraction are strange, mysterious, and mildly annoying things; but no matter how attracted I am to one of my close female friends, I cannot and will not act on it, I value our friendship too much to risk damaging it, or possibly loosing it just so I can get a date.
My point there is that unless you have feelings for one of these guys that they're able to reciprocate, don't ruin a perfectly good friendship by adding that extra layer of complications in, friends are too important for that, or at least that's the way I've always felt.
Anyways, I wouldn't worry too much about if you'll end up alone right now, as they say, all things with time. I've often had similar worries, to the point that a friend of mine started attacking me in a Subway screaming "YOU'RE WORTHY OF WOMEN!" "YOU'RE WORTHY OF BEING LOVED!". Not always the easiest thing to believe; but I keep working towards that goal of finding someone.
OP here. Thank you for everyone's advices. I guess I really frustrated with my whole situation
Regarding the 4th post: No, I was not sexually abused when I was a child. I had a perfectly normal childhood.
The problem with me is that once I put a guy in my friend's zone, I can't see them anything but a friend--- nothing more, nothing less. I just enjoy their company.
When I said "special", I didn't mean to sound like I'm looking for my Mr. Right (which I don't believe in). I guess what I mean is someone that I can share a connection with-- someone who I feel like I can like genuinely and not feeling like I'm playing him. It's difficult for me because I haven't met someone who I can share that connection yet. I know it sounds weird but that's how I feel.
I know exactly what my issue is.. I'm scared to really like someone or potentially fall in love with someone. When I start to like someone, something inside me pulls me back. I don't know if that means I'm not ready or if I'm searching for something else.. It just happens. I know I can probably try to fix it but I don't really know how.
>your first kiss is not special
>losing your virginity is not a special occasion
>any guy who isnt a loser will be very turned off by you still being a virgin
I respectfully disagree. There are at least two different kinds of people when it comes to love/relationships/sex: the first is a group of people who are capable of having one night stands and meaningless "relationships" of no substance, content with bouncing from one throw-away warm bodied place holder to another without any thought or regret. The other is a group of people who require actual love, connectedness, and commitment in their relationships to thrive in them. People that want the person they are with to be both their lover and their best friend at the same time. Objectively, one doesn't need to have more or less value than the other, but subjectively, everyone values the two types differently.
Don't listen to >>4
The media put too much emphasis on relationships and love as the must be goal for everyone.
Even if you were to find "him" doesn't mean you'll be happy with him.
You might change your approach and give each person a chance, one date. The results might surprise you, they might be better than what you expected. You'll also find rotten apples like >>4.
dont worry so much about it. you will get somewhere
We all die alone.