Seems more appropriate to have a thread like this in here. I'm opening this one up to any gender, any sexuality, if you HATE BEING SINGLE!!!
Being single irritates me, but apparently not enough to do anything about it.
I'm single, but this is something that is both bothering me and not. I'm an Electrical Engineering student with a full time internship, and I'm absolutely kicking my own ass at school to bring my GPA up. I unfortunately have come to the conclusion that if I get a girlfriend (big if), I'll either fail school or lose my job. So I, like a few of my peers, have decided to wait a while. Single life isn't that bad anyways....its cheap at least. I do prefer to hang out with girls though. I have plenty of female friends, but I've never had any bona fide "girl friends" in my life ever. Sad isn't it?
>>3 Not really. What's wrong with waiting a while? You're still young.
>>I'm an Electrical Engineering student with a full time internship
Learn to rant, because you will never have a girlfriend. You can do well in school and your job and you will never get laid, because we all know how many (and how intensely) chicks dig engineers.
I think I'm afraid to enter a relationship becuase I'm afraid I'll become one of "those" girls. A girl I admired very much growing up for being so independent changed entirely when she fell in love, as if her entire happiness depends on this one guy, and her personality changed. She started to do things like pouting to get what she wanted and I became really disapointed. I'm really afraid of the idea of relying on someone else for my happiness.
Every time I meet her my brain shuts down and I am unable to think of anything to talk about, and the uncomfortable silence is dumb and embarassing. At this rate I'm getting nowhere, fast.
>>8
I have the same problem. When I get a chance to talk with her, I try to keep the conversation going but it peters out, and partings always end up being awkward. The worst of it is afterward I can't remember if I looked at her eyes or her chest when I talked to her. I do make an effort to look at people's eyes when I listen, but my mind shorts out when I have to talk.
Precisely.
In fact, I had to tell the only girlfriend I ever had that our time was up because she just relied on me too much.
Your lover should not your only source of happiness. I'd rather remain single than have that girl clinging to me every hour of the day. People need their private time too. It got to the point I couldn't even relax, she just whined too much.
That happened to me the first 8 crushes. By the 10th, it got better to the point where I only shook afterwards. By the 12th, I was okay. Lots of practice got me going. And yes, I've had that many crushes. My high school years were nothing if not frivolous.
Heh. It happens, don't worry. As long as you don't start at her tits too often, it's alright. Once in awhile is flattering, I think (although try never to deliberately look).
As for conversational topics... if she likes politics (or even hates Bush) that's plenty right there. Books you've read, songs you've heard recently, hell... why not even local current events? Pick up a paper, scan the headlines, read a few interesting stories, and ask her if she's heard about them yet. Maybe you can be a source of news. ^^
I'm 17 years old = the number of years I've been single, and this number is probably gonna become 18 barring any miracles or drastic change of fortune.
It's tough seeing how friends get all attached while you're still alone.
Oh please, the stupid teenage girls who like the jerks fad dies after college, he still has a chance....
>>13
If you think it's bad now, wait until you're over thirty.
No woman under thirty will give you the time of day, and the stupid teenage girls who like jerks grow up to become stupid, sullen divorced women with litters of screeching, projectile-vomiting brats and the rather odd belief that you owe them anything and everything that it crosses their minds to demand, "because I'm a MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM and I have CHILLLLLLLLLLLLLDRUN."
there was someone i was completely in love with for a while, a friend of mine from university. i haven't seen him for a couple of weeks due to the christmas break, but i thought was getting over him. then i came across some pictures of him on the internet. myspace and such, you know. i am so not over him. when i get back i'm probably just going to get drunk and tell him everything, then he'll want to avoid me for the remaining two and a half years and i'll turn into a creepy obsessive stalker with printouts of his myspace pic on my wall or something. yay.
Good job, >>16! If you're going to do it, go all out!
There's currently one girl in this world that is single and won't judge me on anything other than personality, and I can't stand her. >_< We dated for a year before breaking up, and she's still very hopeful of getting back together with me. It's gotten to the point where I want to find someone else just to drive her away. I feel bad for her.
Wouldnt it seem to be more appropriate to tell her how you feel for her (or actually more lack of feelings) so she doesnt have false hope?? That seems like leading her on a bit.
>>19
I've told her how I feel several times, and that doesn't seem to be working. I'd like to stay friends with her if I can, but she wants to be more.
>>19 hmmm sounds like a bit of a catch-22...and a little scary...*Theme from Psycho plays
You may have to give up on the friendship if she cant live with the fact that you are not "into" her on that level.
It will just cause a strain on whatever friendship you have, and be totally uncomfortable.
Ha...OT but i WISH i had a female friend...
That's what it seems like it's coming to, but the thing is, at college we have almost the EXACT same friends, and I'm not really THAT desperate to shake her off that I'd switch schools to do it.
I wish I understood this thing you humans call "love"...;_;
I freakin hate being single too, age=years without girlfriend, currently,i live in a high school world where the girls are either bitchy and vain, or obsessed with their school work, or both. its a cold cold world out there...so...so...cold....
and what disgusts me though, sometimes i cant help but look at the cute bitchy vain girls and stare, cuz, theres this one girl, whos, just, so, damn pretty, but her ditzy personality makes me wanna slap her so badly, gah! damn impulses....
>>14
eeeee, thats damn scary! thats the type of crap that leads people like me to contemplate suicide man....thats depressing
>>14 i feel that ill fall into that category, im 22 sooon to be 23 in a few months...and ive given up on finding love again. (yes i once had it) Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ugh im even more depressed.
19 years old, not in college, unemployed (been for for 4 months now) and single. The thing I hate most about being single is the little women. the ones that are just a couple years younger than you and are your best friends sister and no matter how hard you want it you know that it's not right or weird. I have several of these women attracted to me and because of my good morals I reject them all, I understand though that the only reason they're attracted to me is because they're looking for a mature male figure, and I'm the only one they can find apparently.
It's a curse sigh.
>>26
It really depends. I'd rather my sister date one of my better friends than random dudes. I suppose it would get weird when they started showing affection though.
>>26 are you nuts??? what does age have to with it...i mean if they ar 12 or something well ok, i can see your dilema..cmon man if she is a grown (you said a couple years younger) then GO FOR IT!!!! Curse?? You are putting up blast doors yourself my friend!!!! Maybe they REALLY LIKE YOU!!! FOR YOU!!! NOT CAUSE YOU ARE OLDER...sheesh some people dont see a good thing when its right in front of them...
I've studied women like this for 5 years now. believe me, they just want a mature guy. and I still think it's moraly wrong, but that's just me. So what if they got a nice rack and an ass that won't quit, I'm not all for that I'm more of the emotional good girl type who's at least the same age as I am where we're both at the same level of exp and can progress together. I don't think a relationship with a youngin would work out with me, honestly.
>where we're both at the same level of exp and can progress together
this made me lol a little :)
If you make a party and you're not close to the same level, one of you will face the penalty of reduced experience point gain.
Sometimes I think the worst part of being a single female is having to deal with lame/gross pick up attempts...
A seemingly nice guy who worked at a store was always very nice to me at the check out. He wasn't really attractive but seemed like a really nice guy so I enjoyed talking to him and was interested in getting to know him better.
Then, when I actually have a conversation with him, he talks to me about DILDOS of all things. WHAT was he thinking....??
I kind of laughed thinking of him kicking himself later that night for rambling onto such a gross topic though... (´∀`)
You didn't work in an adult store, did you? :3
Er, I mean he- oh, just delete this and >>33. I failed OTL
>>29 you hit the nail on the proverbial head...i have had ass, and tits, and probably more then the majority of singles here have had...now that i am totally housebound...i realize that... "THAT" doesnt matter, i want a girl to talk to, to cry on her shoulder,tell her my secrets AND to tell her how beautiful she is, to be complacent with a wonderful HUMAN being...looks really are nothing...love breaks all those barriers...hopefully ill bring down my own fence down. Being sick, its not like youd think. Today i couldnt even step out of my room...my wonderful mother (hwo goes through so much to indterstand my condition) deliverd to me Ramen and beer!! I feel as though im going to die without loving again...im capable of being a man, of using my heart...but i have lost that gusto...4 years had taken its toll...but i will try...
i will try.
>>35
You better try. Get out there! The gusto will come back I'm sure.
Being single is both a blessing and a curse.
It is a curse in the sense that I don't have anyone to tell my intimate thoughts, someone to share experiences with, to love, etc, all those things that are involved in love.
However, it's also a blessing. In my highschool, I see one couple that are "truly in love", so to speak. They aren't going out for the sake of sex/popularity, etc. However, it hurts me to watch this guy with her. He has no male peers anymore. He only has her now. Really, having a girlfriend can be an alienating experience as a man, as your close friends might not understand why you like her, and she demands a lot of your time. At least, this is the case in high school, where you see her daily, and therefore, why not speak with her? Maybe this is what she thinks. If you break up, you see each other on a daily basis as well.
I enjoy being single, it has a lot of benefits. I find it slightly awkward dealing with women due to a lack of shared common interests. With fellow men, we can understand each other and have a lot of fun, regardless of what we're doing. Since I've always been single, it's hard to think of fun things I could do with a women for extended periods of time and not get bored with her or the activity (besides sex :P hurr hurr).
Maybe you can understand, but highschool romance is probably shit. If it wasn't bad enough, I've ruined every opportunity I've had in some way :P At least I can laugh and learn from the experience.
>>37
i definitely agree. ever since a year ago, my friend got a girlfriend, hes never been the same. we just, stopped talking. i miss my friend. out of anyone i know, he was the best mmorpg-er i knew, and then yesterday he asks me
"yo, can u send me solitaire?" thats how much hes changed
_|¯|O hes a lost cause
>>37
but, hes happy, so, im not gonna do anything outta respect to him
>>38
Totally been there. Friends hook up and then they're like, totally dead to the rest of the world. That situation is way too damn familiar to me -- been there, done that, got the crappy t-shirt.
Agreed. I had a good friend, we'd been friends since kindergarten... about a year ago he got married. He's really happy, and I'm glad of that... but we don't talk much because he's just so domestic now. I'm still in school (even though I'm 24, lol), he's graduated and working. They just bought a nice house, and I'd lay money they'll have kids within the next year or so. He wasn't really a wild guy to start with, but now I see him maybe 2-3 times a year, and there's no drinking, no staying out late and having fun, because THEY GO TO BED AT 8:30.
Anyway, my 'being single' rant:
I've never dated anyone in real life. Sad, huh? I was in a serious online relationship for over a year, and while I think I understand a bit about what it's like to care deeply about someone, the reality of relationships is still a mystery to me. I'm a shy person by nature, and it intimidates me, the thought of dating girls my own age - because most of them have a lot of experience in this area, while I have none. What's bad is that I realize this problem will only get worse as time goes on, yet I still can't seem to make anything happen.
I imagine this question has been asked many times on this board already, but what are the best ways to subtly express interest without looking like a moran?
>>42 is an exact reflection of my traits and weaknesses. can somebody help us?, lol.
Being shy is fine, there are plenty of shy girls your age as well who appreciate men who are not confidence powerhouses, but I will admit they are harder to find.
Yes, maybe most girls have more experience, but that's really not important.
Subtly express intrest with these simples steps:
If both these things are mutual then the next step is to move into dating etc.
sigh
I just got done watching Densha Otoko, and while its a very funny and romantic drama it just brought up some very painful thoughts.
I have been happily single for the past few years, well 6 years to the month, but lately I just have been meaning to get back out there and hopefully find someone that can love me.
Unfortunately I never really was good at the initial phases of a budding relationship and since I have been single for so long I have become somewhat of a shut-in.
My few relationships have never really passed the one month marker except for one but that one ended in a reverse friendzone(don't ask to long to tell).
I really think I need some new scenery. Maybe a hope that something new in my life will bring about a change in attitude.
Well I really just needed to get that off my chest. Good Morning to you all.
Quite frankly, I don't think a change of scenery ever changes anything. What I personally believe is that a change of scenery indicates the person's willingness to start over. It's not the cause, it's the symptom.
Moving somewhere else and expecting things to happen will only cause you to have a new den to shut yourself into. Even worse, you'll know less people. What you need when moving to a new area is a gusto and determination to meet new people/start over again.
On that note, best time to do this kind of thing is probably late April, just as Spring goes into full swing. Yes, the seasons have a huge influence on people. Has to do with sunlight levels and serotonin levels.
That said, you all are probably relatively young. Say 16-25. That means you've got at least another 40 to 65 years left on this godforesaken planet. Either toss 'em in despair or start accepting that there are solutions if you look hard enough.
This is now the official Singles Rant thread.