giving advice in love is a hard thing to do. Everyone is so different and have gone through different things.
but to those who are sad, dont be. dont give up but dont be desperate. there is someone out there for you and you owe it to yourself not to give up.
I 2nd the notion.
I've been single my whole life. When I was younger, I tried asking out girls, but I didn't really know what I was doing. Since then, I've been fine with just being friends with a lot of people. I have no real desire to go out and date but I am wondering if it's just a delusion...
>>50
same here... I had no clue as to what I was doing. I don't know if I have improved or am still as clueless as all those other previous times.
>>51
I've dated a lot of girls and had long relationships, and still I really dont know exactly what I am doing, I probably never will. But don't give up because of that.
Did we move here now? (general-dudes)
I suppose so. Are you going to the party? (read: go to the party!) :3
Sorry to make you guys (and myself) excited, but I talked to her again today and the party's off >_<
Also, I'm getting kinda frustrated. (With myself, not able to ask her out.)
I have been single for about six months. I know, not long, but it feels long. However, my last relationship was only for 2-3 months. The one before that ended last January -- it was nearing 3 years (online relationship lol).
Never had sex with the most recent girl. I, too, am enjoying the single life. Sex, though... As shallow as I feel for it, I would enjoy some sex. It hasn't bothered me until recently.
You may remember me as the guy that "ended" General's Single Thread :l
>>56
Aye keel yoo now. ]:
>>56
Most guys would "enjoy some sex" right about now lol
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Single since i was born. That's 23 years in all, and probably remains the same status in the short term future. Even densha otoko is luckier than me, since he got a nice gal and lives near Akihabara. T_T
> 480 Name: Random Anonymous 2006-01-08 00:39 ID:Heaven
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> THOUGH I ENJOY MY SINGLE LIFE I AM STARTING TO GET SEXUAL FRUSTRATION
is being single that sad?
>>63
I know if I lived in Tokyo I'd never get a girlfriend, partly on account of Akihabara. PORN GAMES AND MAID CAFES ARE A PERFECTLY LEGITIMATE SUBSTITUTE FOR REAL HUMAN INTERACTION.
Seriously, though, I'm already enough of a Hikikomori that I hardly know anyone anymore and never talking to strangers isn't exactly helping me here.
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So lonely.
Go out. Do the first step to save yourself. Read Gantz. It sure as hell helped me.
>>68
How?!
Didn't that just depict a bleak future for everyone?
>>69
aha,
ID: id di 1 2 pee 4
i read the wikipedia entry for Hikikomori, and its basically what ive become. i didnt notice, and i denied it to myself, but, it was all clear, so so clear, it was so exact and right there, it was like a description of my current lifestyle. freaked the crap outta me, im gonna get outta here. this years challenge for me: get a girlfriend. ive never really tried before, gave up many times before, but this time, i suppose im gonna try. come on guys! lets do this thing! (yeah, corny, but lets try anyway)
"True" hikikomori is pretty extreme. If you skipped enormous amounts of school and wouldn't even leave the house to get a job, then you probably qualify.
I'm as close to hikikomori as you can get while still having an income (well not quite... I could probably find a job where I can work from home.) I only leave the house for work, it takes friends an enormous amount of pressure to even get me over into another house, and so forth.
On the other hand, I just call it "going out sucks" because there's nothing particularly interesting to do out in the city anymore. I'm probably at that age (27).
A little pick-me-up for the single men: What women like about men.
http://www.deanesmay.com/archives/004651.html
Hikikomoris hijacking thread.
I could find myself in the main character, who was a pretty big nerd. That and his monologues opened my eyes.
i've been single for like... er.. this is my 18th year single. Yea, single since I was born, kinda like densha-san :D
I don feel sad, I am quite contented and happy with my life. It's just the fact that i do feel quite lonely sometimes. Hmmm...
>>76
Only you can solve that problem, kiddo.
Okay, so I think I got to asking her out to see a movie.
I liked the poster who hinted me on what not to do (or do) in the previous thread,
so if anyone has any hints, I'll gladly take them.
he date/time is not settled yet, but she said we'll speak aobut it tomorrow.
Woah :)
Damn, didn't mean to sage ヽ(´ー`)ノ
Hello >>82.
With my post (>>80) I already had sage in my e-mail field when I posted, and I didn't notice until afterwards, and the thread was pretty far down, so I came back to age it!
Also, my name is 352, because that's what I was known as in the "single male rant thread" on the general-board, now ended because of this thread here. Should I get a tripcode or what?
Oh, I'm an idiot.
While I was eating lunch at the student union today, I saw a girl reading a volume of the Chobits manga. As far as I could tell, she wasn't ugly or anything... and yet I didn't go talk to her.
What's the worst that could have happened? (;´д`)
You would have gotten into an argument about how Chobits isn't a shoujo manga, and she would have punched you in the face.
What a fool I was. :(
Your only choice now is to spend your every waking moment staking out the student union until you see that girl again reading manga.
>>90
As untrue in nature as it is in romance. She might show up again, or you might see another girl reading manga. If you see one, just go for it!
so far my bad luck has a way with preventing me from getting a girlfriend i think XD When I was going to try and give a girl i thought was hitting on me a gift, she got a bf before i gave it to her XD I laugh at how perfect the timing is.
>>84
Start your conversation with "On! Off! On! Off! On! etc" and see where it gets you... you never know ;P
"XD" is not actually valid punctuation in English.
I wonder...what percent of the people who visit here are women?
>>96
Good question. Count the number of posts that start with "I'm a girl, "?
>>97
Well I'm sure in a lot of cases a poster will omit that detail because it's irrelevant. e.g. for this post that I am posting right now, would it matter?
It sort of matters because if it's just a bunch of guys giving advice to each other, wouldn't that advice be wrong at times because the advice is what seems to be right in a guy's point of view but may be totally bad in a girl's point of view?
If guys' and girls' points of view about what was right and wrong when courting were really all that different a significant amount of the time, there probably wouldn't be 5 or 6 billion of us on the planet...
> were really all that different in a detrimental way a significant amount of the time
fixed.
really hope that someone replies to this, need to rant too
there this girl, who ive been close to for about a few months but weve been nothing but friends. in fact weve been considering ourselves as brother sisters, she treats me like an older brother and vice versa.
the thing is, i somehow wanted more out of this, i actually wanted to have a real relationship with her, i really think i got a chance. but then a month ago she just got another bf. i tried to not care but i cant overlook the fact that i am a bit jealous and wished i told her my feelings.
now i cant seem to get her out of my mind. even though i dont want to think about someone elses girl, she keeps on getting into my head. everytime i get online i wished that her name comes online, everytime the phone rings i wished it was her. not sure what going on with me.
i probably know this wont go far but i just need someone to tell me somethine about this. thinking by myself doesnt usually see the situation from another perspective..need some opinions
Doh, I was trying to post that without an ID. It's not mine but a repost from a latecomer to the /general thread.
You can either forget about it, or wait. Or interfere.
Don't interfere in ways which can be traced back to you, though.
The key is to occupy yourself dude. If you don't have a million things going on with you, she will be in your mind all the time, and it will just drive you up the fucking wall. Join a sports team, dive into a good long book, or pick up some hobby to occupy your mind off her. Things will only just get worse the more and more you think of her.
i wont interfere , im just happy to see her happy nowadays with the new guy. not expecting anything new though. ill wait for the right one for me comes..;)
no one else have any problems on being single?
Eh? No, not really. One typically has fewer problems when they are single than when they are not.
Damn it >< I'd like to see some Densha Otoko in here :(. I'm full of advices and noone got any serious problems...
Anything related with dating, sex, etc. Maybe I'm not too old (still in my 20's) but I went through a lot ;).
lol nope I still dun understand this shit you guys call "love"!
It's just a funny state of mind, when people do creazy things. Maybe in the end you'll fail, but it's always worth it. Just for this one thrill... I think that I have never felt more alive than on the times I fell in love. In my opinion love is the meaning of life. Can't find any better reasons...
i lol'd at your so-called "human emotion"!
Ugh, I've seen a bunch of my single friends who probably love a girl, but they have an unhealthy obsession about her. They shower the girl with gifts, and say "ZOMG I LOVE YOU" all the time, but that just led to more and more rejections, and them complaining to me about it. -sigh- I wonder what the border between "Love" and "Unhealthy Obsession" is...
>>116 is a jaded teenager who substitutes cynicism for wisdom
Hello to all.
Today, I went to school like it was a regular school day, but as noonhour approached, I had a feeling something peculiar was going to happen. People were being a lot nicer to me all of a sudden and I had no clue why.
While that still isn't explained, something quite odd ended up happening. A girl I have a crush on who knows I exist because I kick everybody at my school's collective asses at Stepmania invited me to her house so I could fix her computer since she knows I'm a huge computer geek and everything. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow to decide a date as to when I get to go to her house, but something else is stressing me. What do I do when I'm there besides fixing the problems?
I think I might have some chances with her, so I might as well confess. I just hope she respects my feelings and doesn't go out spreading that out into the whole school. That would be hell. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I should confess to her?
(As for the name, she's a host on the student radio station.)
isnt too early for u to confess at this stage? she just got to know your existence, let her welcome you as a friend first. feel acceptable to her first, then you can decide how and when to confess
u are implying that she is single right?..:P
I think you should at least confirm she is single and like, get to know her or whatever. Maybe invite her for coffee after fixing the comp or something?
Its still too early to confess. She might take it the wrong way..
>>118 First meeting is way too fast for confession. If you have watched densha, you should remember that fixing the computer wasn't his first step and he still did not confessed to her then. So firstly try to fix her cpu. It's a good chance for you to
If you'll ask her out and she won't accept it, then it means that you had no chances from the begining. If she'll accept it, it means that she wants to see you again and it was not only about fixing her computer (or maybe she's feeling that she have to repay you somehow for your work :P)
Anyway, don't try to be too fast with confession. It may have a horrible conseqences.
I think that "Hot srs" is a good short name for her :P
(Host on the school radio station)
Thanks for the replies, 4-ch.
I've decided I'll use the nickname SAS for her. Short and Sweet, since she isn't very tall but she's quite sweet.
The major thing I'm concerned about is I think I know what the problem is, but regardless, since this is a Windows PC we're talking about, I don't really think she deserves to put up with whatever viruses and spyware crawled on there. I haven't touched her computer yet, but from what she's told me, it'll be unbearably slow. Therefore, I'll probably reinstall the OS.
What do we do while the OS reinstalls? That's what's freaking me out. I do know she's somewhat of a DDR fan, so I'm hoping she HAS DDR so I can play with her and impress her like I did in the past. Sure, using DDR to attract girls is silly, but it's one of the only things I'm somewhat talented in. :/
I'm meeting up with her at noonhour EST today to decide when I get to go to her house. Keep sending in those replies, /love/.
-- Radio Otoko
>>124
If the comp is slow, reinstall with Windows 2000, her comp probably has one of those old slow Windows 98. I had a similar situation where I went to a friend's house to repair her old comp (and I did have a crush on her too). We just sat and talked about various things while it installed. I can't really remember of what we talked about though as I was also very nervous.
well now we know she is interested in something that you too enjoy, if you are good at it then you can somewhat maybe impress her with you skills. not sure im using the right words here.
probably you already on your way to her house by now cuz im not sure were on the same timeline here. really hope that you could work on the conversation during the installation process and maybe if things go well, you;; be seeing each other again..;)
good luck Radio Otoko and SAS
If her computer is not too old, just use windows XP. Don't forget about some firewall. I would also suggest using cracked counterspy ;).
Anyway, better than just jumping ddr is a normal talk. Most of the people think that guys jumping on ddr looks really funny. If you want to impress her, just fix her computer and try not to say anything stupid.
So reinstall windows and talk with her while installing.
Fixing computer = blowjob as payment...
Isn't this customary?
>>128
I've fixed so many computers and never had a blowjob as a payment... thank god...
radio, dont look for a blowjob as payment that may be worse than confessing too early.
lol. If he would take it seriously, he would have 100% chance for failure :P
Well this didn't go well at all. I showed up at noonhour where she was going to tell me when I could go. She shows up, looking gorgeous as usual, and then, she tells me that her computer was fine. ;_;
I feel like a loser now.
Crap ><. Now you have to give up or try to do something. Maybe ask her out? It's not that hard really... You just need some place where you'll be able to talk with her. Without any friends. Just 2 of you.
Radio, thats okay. A misstep at this stage isnt that fatal... I think. You guys are just acquaintances right now, right? You should probably try to get to know her more, and stuff. If SAS has a boyfriend, well...
I know where her locker is, I'll see if I can talk to her tomorrow morning. There's just a minor problem... I don't know how to ask a girl out. ;_;
Try to think about any reason. Maybe just ask her out somewhere. Like for a tea/cofee/ice cream/pie/lunch so many options ><. BTW. how old are you?
Oh.. I've almost forgot. Don't ask her out to the cinema.
Reasons:
right now talking is important. So think about anything that will let you talk with her.
So forget about DDR...
Not to mention I'm not much of a movie-type to be with.
As for age, I'm 14. Yeah, I know it's young for relationships and those never work out but I'm lonely, desperate, and I don't want to miss this opportunity.
Besides, I think she knows I'm lonely since I usually just sit outside of their studio and refresh del.icio.us/popular all day long.
just go ahead and talk to her. ask her about her pc just to see if she has any other problems about the pc that maybe u could help. when youve got a nice talk going on then you could ask her out
follow >>138's advice, just ask her out for a coffee or somn..
ps: ask around if she's single!!!
Yeah, your main priorities right now are to check if she is single, talk to her more and maybe ask her out to someplace casual. Er, unless you know she plays/is interested in/knows about DDR you better not talk about it. Might sound creepy. Eh, what do I know?
You're 14, so it's really lotta easier. Just meet her somewhere @ school (somewhere far from her/your friends) and ask her out for a lunch or something. Don't tell her when, just ask her if she would like to go out with you sometime. And If she'll say that it's ok then you can choose the date. So don't treat it like a date but just like a meeting with a friend. "Friends" is a good begining. You have to talk a lot. One of my friends told me, that there is no such thing as a friendship between girl and a guy. Sooner or later it'll turn into love and it'll be the end of friendship. So, make her your friend.
And remember! No showing off on ddr >_<. It's not helping a bit.
>Er, unless you know she plays/is interested in/knows about DDR you better not talk about it.
SAS is quite the fan. She even plays DDR music on the station sometimes. :O (And now with Supernova, probably more IIDX songs since there are lots of IIDX transplants, but I'll shut up now since this is /love/ and not /games/)
>You're 14, so it's really lotta easier.
And she's 15/16 years old. It'd maybe look a little weird.
>And remember! No showing off on ddr >_<. It's not helping a bit.
Closest arcade is 40 minutes away. Other than that, it's my house or her house. If we stay away from our houses and that arcade, I can't really show off on DDR. :P
>ps: ask around if she's single!!!
Here's the problem with asking around. It usually gets out to people that way and I don't really want more rumors to spread about me in the school.
One of my friends told me that she was with a guy last Monday or so. She broke up with him the next day according to him. The problem is, I don't know if it's true or not. If I ask the other girls at the station, I think it'll be quite obvious what my intentions are. Besides that, I don't know who else would know.
Do I take a chance and ask her other friends?
>(somewhere far from her/your friends)
Hm. I'll see what I can do. I just hope this doesn't end up like all my other failed relationships. ;_;
Hmm.. I've got an idea. Just download stepmania and loads of packs for it (I've got personally 12GB pack of songs ;)) and ask her if she wants you to install it for her ^_^. But thats the idea for later. Right now just try to talk with her in some quiet and maybe a bit romantic place.
Most of the ~16 years old girls prefere older guys. Thats bad, cuz she may consider you as a kid, but if you'll make a good impression (try to act like you are older then you really are) it may work...
Can you tell me if it's cold now in the place you live? Cuz it would help me in getting few ideas for you. It's -20C in my country now >< so the best place to go out with girl is a tea house. We've got a pretty nice one close to my house. All of the people are sitting on the floor that is filled with pillows in a small rooms separated by curtains and thin walls. Rooms are lit by the candles. You can smell nargila in the whole place and you can listen to the hindu music that comes from the hidden speakers. If I would like to go on a date, I would consider such place...
Now now Radio... just because she's 15/16 doesn't mean you can't get her. You gotta show her yo' moves. Not on DDR, though. I'm talkin' about "I SIMPLY ROCKED TOO HARD" moves. Yeah, you know what I'm talkin' about. You know, things go well, you might be showin' her your "OH" face. You know what I'm talkin' about- "OH OH OH OH" xD. Buuuuuuut anyway... seriously, Radio, don't sweat it. What you gotta do is like, break something minor on the comp, then be all dumb and be like "zomg wtf hapened 2 my c0mputar!?!??" and you'll go up to her and be like, "Hey, umm, something happened to my computer and I have no idea what I did. Can you fix it?" And she'll be like "5UR3!" So then she goes over, you sit down, she fixes it over your shoulder, and after shes done, you thank her profusely. You then proceed to ask her out on a small little meeting- but about computers. Ask her to tutor you, because you're OBVIOUSLY not good with computers, LOL! She'll say yes or no. If she questions it, tell her that it's purely as friends and it'll only be like 30 minutes. If she accepts, w00t. If not, oh well, try again later plx.
Anyway, good luck, Radio. I'll be here if you need me, if you know what I mean.
"Ooh Peter... ooh ooh ooh~" -OfficeSpace
Ekhm... But she asked him to fix her cpu, not the other way. So probably she thinks that he knows quite a lot about computers. So playing dumb won't help him ><