>>149 Thats just perfect. I gave him so many advices but none of theme was as true as yours ><
I don't want to know where. Just give me some weather report. Is it snowing? Is it sunny? I've never been closer than x000 miles to USA...
-10 Celsius. Approximately. There aren't tea houses around here (that comment made me think of Hermes :P) but there are coffee shops not too far from school. :)
Then invite her to one of those coffee shops, Radio! Not as a date, but as friends... I.E, at the end of school or whatever, you can go up to her and say, "Hey, you want to go grab some coffee?" or whatever.
YES!!! Thats a good idea!
It sucks man. I can't meet a girl. I don't know any girls. I don't know anyone!
19. Anyway, it's like after high school I don't know anyone. I go to college, but I commute so I don't have much opportunity to meet people. And actually not even in college this semester cause of some screwup which I won't get into. I'm not a bad looking guy or anything, it's just like I don't know anyone and have no way to meet people.
>>157 It's so common in here >< People should just change their attitude...
So what's your age?
Don't tell me that you don't know anyone...
19 like I said, and it's true! I have not a single person in the real world that I would even call a "friend," no one who I hang out with or talk to or whatever. I mean, in high school I has sortafriends. But they weren't great enough friends that I kept in touch outside of high school.
Well that might be something, but see now this semester I'm stuck not even being able to attend college because of some mixup in which I have to find some sorta job to pay tuition money I suddenly found out I owe. So it's like I'm just stuck at home all day now. Haven't found my job yet or whatever.
What I can't MULTITASK
u really need to consider ur priorities first, man. u need the money to go to college and to financially go out on a date with anyone. if u cant multitask then dont. do things step by step. your 19 so im sure your able to work it out somehow..
i agree with >>162 find a club that you have any interest then join it. you'll make friends and people will notice you more.
ps: what happen to Radio Otoko? how is it going on with SAS? probably already started to ask her out to coffee hopefully.
the problem is reality is kinda sad sometimes. work on making it better. lets hope for the best
RADIO OTOKO! WE'RE WAITING FOR THE REPORT!!!
Actually, I'm not at school. We don't have school today. Ha. I can't really do anything until Monday. You'll have to wait until then to find out.
And >>171, you don't even know me. Stop pretending you do.
now that'l take a while..
take your time and looking forward to this coming monday for both of you..;)
just don't stress yourself out over it
You got 2 days for planning. Thing about the perfect tactic ^_^.
>>175 I'm seriously considering asking her friends about her status before doing anything. That way, if she's taken, I can get over it and she won't notice a thing.
But the least you can do is get to know her and become friends, right?
IF YOU'LL ASK HER FRIENDS THERE IS A GREAT CHANCE THAT THEY'LL TELL HER ABOUT IT ><.
Better just ask her out. Don't call it date. Just ask her out for a coffe like a friend.
If you'll ask her friends, you won't stop gossips around you. It may become your curse ><. If you'll just ask her out even if she have a boyfriend she may go out with you. Then she'll tell you. Just as a friend. If she'll say "no" only both of you will know about it.
>>180
Hi, I am 180, I will ask you guys for advice then completely ignore it and get all pissy with the people who tried to help me!
Looks like we have ourselves some serious business here.
Ok. if you think that they won't tell her, then ask them. But I would still recomend you the things I said in 179. Why? Because I went through the exactly same thing. I asked few of my friends if the girl is free, and what they did? They promised me not to tell her about it and guess what was the first thing they did when I was gone? >_<
But it's your decission.
We're waiting for your report.
Just don't be too slow with everything, cuz you may lose the best thing in your life.
let radio otoko make his own decision. we're here to offer advice not tell im what to do. it's up to him to pick and choose what to do. I'm glad you aren't blindly listening to us. ADD OIL RADIO OTOKO!
come back and report again plz!
>>185 Thats what I tried to say in my 184th post.
We are only giving our own opinions and you can either use them or reject them. It's up to you. After all it's your life ;). Don't forget about it Radio!
I understood your message. :) and I whole heartily agree!
Oil? Whatever. :P
See you tomorrow afternoon, guys.
the anticipation is killing me! @_@
If you ask about her status her friends will tell her, assuming her friends are all girls. Most girls do not really know how to be discreet in this aspect. That might not be a negative thing though. That way she knows you are interested so she could also initiate something. At that age girls have not learned how to be patient and graceful so they do not fear looking too eager or desperate as girls my age do.
If you want to do it the tradtional way and ask her out, do not bother with the as friends thing. It is a waste of time and it is more flattering for her knowing that it is a date and you like her more deeply than "just friends". A really formal date might make her ill at ease so something quiet but simple is alaways nice.
Good luck with whatever happens!
And I'm back.
Sadly, I didn't see her at all today. The bad news is I have nothing to report to you. The good news is that this incident gives me an extra day to figure things out.
Sorry for letting you down.
But did you talked with her friends yet???
Oh well... probably not. We are waiting ^^. Don't act too fast and don't be too slow ^^. Just find the good speed and always go forward never backward ;) if you know what I mean...
I hope that tommorow you'll give us some good news ;)
im stupid, last weekend, on friday i went to this con, i saw this pretty girl there, who also kept checking me out. this kept happening thru the day. then, i went back again on saturday, she was there again, with buncha friends, and she was still checking me out and glancing at me, was thinking of talking to her, but, ah, too many people. ok so, heres my folley, so, i start to go home from the con and get to the train station, and who do i see, but her, with no one else, and, she sees me, and then looks away. but the thing is, im frozen, trying not to look at her, couldnt even say a single word, i couldnt move, i just stood there, and so, my train came, which wasnt hers, and i went home. god, im so stupid and shy, but, i suppose we all learn from our mistakes, and i will NEVER let this happen AGAIN. i so regret this, so so so much. pretty girl, who just went to a nerd convention, and looks slightly interested in u? i mean come on, thats a perfect setup, ah...rants....im stupid
>>195 WakabaMark strikes again! I didn't talk with her friends since I only saw one of her friends today and she was busy with a teacher, and class was beginning. I then tried to look around for her but had no luck.
I do have some news though. Our school is having its annual snow day on the 16th of February so I'm just hoping we pick the same activity (we can choose to go to one of two or three activities out of town that day, which is awesome since I'm getting sick of this town) and get to hang out together that day. Of course, that's if she comes, but I hope so! (I'm getting carried away, where was I?)
Ah yes, another thing, this is somewhat bad news though. Her class is having a trip to Italy (and Greece I believe) which means I won't see her for nearly a week or two around April. I might be a bit pessimist but I'm hoping nothing happens while she's on the trip.
I just hope she doesn't get... taken while on the trip. ORZ
I need to take action quickly. Hopefully she'll be there tomorrow and I can resume this exciting story.
As for >>196, that's what this topic is fore. Ranting. :P You're not stupid at all.
Eurotrip time!!!!
and >>196 it's good to learn from your mistakes. you'll do better next time!
Damn... Italy is a perfect place for love. Warm night, big moon, you cannot risk not confessing before her trip! Just ask her out. After all if her friends will tell you that she's got a boyfriend you won't do nothing it's the same situation as if she would reject you. So just better talk with her. Come on, she's your future girlfriend! You should be able to talk with your future girlfriend!
So where do you get to go for the snow day thing, Radio?
>>203 We have three choices of ski stations and other snowpark-type things.
>>201 I will talk to her. Except... whenever she's around I just lose track of what I'm doing and fuck things up. I need to concentrate. Tomorrow's my big chance. Every Wednesday she gets her lunch from a restaurant close to our school and brings it back to eat during songs on the station...
I could wait for her at her locker and talk to her when she comes back..
why dont you go with her?
Or maybe sorta like.. "bump into her" and then ask where she is goin, and ask if you could come with. I dunno...
I have never had a real boyfriend. For the longest time I have tried to be the ideal female to a man. Like being sensitive to his wants, being feminine, reserved, and polite. I am not ugly or fat either. My Mother had me practice these things when guests would come over to the house, and the men were always impressed. I thought that these things would guarantee a boyfriend. WRONG!!!
I cannot figure it out. Men look at me but that is it...nothing more. Right now I am very interested in this regular customer that comes in. He is a kind of a nerdy type, someone women tend to disregard. Tall, skinny, and wears glasses. He has never really paid me much attention until recently and I keep botching it up by getting too shy. If he looks at me, I always look away rather than try to meet his eyes.
Oh well, nothing will become of it as usual...
Goddamnit. My best friend knew about SAS and myself, and at lunchtime some DQN in my class blackmailed him into giving him information on both our crushes. It's not the fact that he knows this that pisses me off, it's that he blackmailed my friend into knowing this. It harms me even more since I'm bitter against him for doing this to use.
AND SINCE I'M BITTER, he's threatening to go out there and tell her. Nonsense.
don't worry about him, if you are able to get a date with her and he tells her that you have a crush on her he would look like a fool. i mean, why would you go out with a girl if you didnt have a crush or some sort of attraction to her? so ask her out before he can talk to her and ruin everything. and in the mean time, find a way to get him back for blackmailing your friend.
wish there were more girls like you locally.
Wow. Radio, it becomes more and more complicated. As a >>210 said, try to talk with her before this idiot will spoil everything. It really sucks to be shy. But what do you have to lose except your pride? God damn it I would rather ask 10 girls for a date if I could do it instead of going tomorrow to the dentist >< (he'll remove my 2 teeth).
Anyway, ask her out asap, cuz it's getting more and more complicated.
PS. All the girls know that men are becoming really dumb when they have to talk with them for the first time. They don't expect you to be very eloquent while asking them for the first date. So don't worry, and even if you'll mess something up, it'll be ok. Just try not to do the same mistakes a few times.
I'm crossing my fingers for ya.
PS. Thank god, that I've got a girlfriend and I don't have such problems...
PSS. Thank got that she'll be far away while I'll be in the dentist chair ><.
>>213 is right. Any girl who is worth dating understands if the person asking them out for the first time is nervous while doing so.
He came in today, and I made sure that I was the one to attend to him. I was so nervous to talk to him, because he seems like a sour person so I did not want to displease. He was picking up an order that he had made over the phone, but the order was no where to be found. So, displeasure was inevitable. He looked directly into my eyes for a moment, but I had to look away because I always think that the person will say "what are you looking at?!"
After his order was remade I brought it to him, and he gave me one more look, but no smile. He has never smiled at me...he only looks.
>>207
SMILE AT HIM! guys go crazy when a cute girl smiles at them
>>216
if he's anything like me, he may wear a thick coat of emotional armor after years of getting kicked in the teeth despite good intentions.
>>217 is sort of right, but this is a business, so it may simply be expected of the staff by customers. you may need to be more direct than that.
granted i'm just some moron over the internet, but asking the guy out might work. I have yet to hear of a guy who refused to go on at least one date with a girl (under 400 lbs that is) unless they already had a girlfriend. Also, His demeanor may change when he realizes theres more to it than business. I often carry about the same mannerisms day to day because work is boring and mindbending and most people i see are in my way.
>but this is a business, so it may simply be expected of the staff by customers.
even still if a cute girl smiles deep down inside i know she is being nice, my simple man brain tells me "hey stupid, she smiled, i think you got a shot."
I just came back from school.
That fag from the above post, >>209 was going to tell her late this afternoon, so I simply wasn't going to risk her being told by him and confessed to her less than an hour ago.
I was so shy and lost in her eyes that I just told her she looked simply gorgeous and I had a crush on her and then forgot everything else and just told her that I had to tell her or I'd simply go crazy from keeping it inside. We both had to leave shortly after I said this, so I wished her a good week-end and left.
Shortly after we both left school, it started raining. I don't know if I've fucked anything up or not, but I took advantage of the rain being there and started crying. All the tears and nervousness I've kept inside me finally could come out.
What happens after this? I don't know. Gah, I'm rambling.
damn radio, you have BALLS. i give you much respect. try to follow up on your confession, if she does feels the same, then congrats man, and if she doesnt, its not the end of the world, just get back up, hold your head up high, and find another horse to ride. you have done something the vast majority of are not able to do. you are the FUCKING MAN.
Radio, you gave me first chance to say: KITAAAA~~~~~
Congratz. I'm proud of you. It was allright. She didn't said anything? If she have to think about it, it's ok. Now it's her time to do something. Just don't try to ask her everyday if she made up her mind (it's tottaly not like you, but I had to say it). Anyway, there was only one thing that you should do and you didn't. You should offer her your umbrella. Maybe it was a bit too much to expect sharing it, but an offer would be good (if you had an umbrella :P). So my crossed fingers helped you ^_^.
Waiting for another report ;).
I'm 222. I talked with my girlfriend about it. She asked me how did SAS reacted when you told her about your feelings. She have also asked did you just said everything and run away?
These questions are quite good. Come on, give us some more details about such an important moment of your life ^_^.
Wow, good job, Radio! I give that a KITA!!!
Even if it didnt go the way you expected (I think thats why you think you fucked up), but at least she now knows that you like her. Now you should probably let her sort things out and sooner or later, she will tell you her reaction.
Lol, more details requested!
>>218 has a point.
However, at the same time, she hasn't mastered the art of looking at him. One step at a time.
>did you just said everything and run away?
I didn't run away, I tried to segway it into getting an answer, but she was just too stunned or shocked (or both) to actually say anything, so I just kindly told her to have a nice week-end and headed home. If I stood there, I wouldn't have only missed the bus, but it would have let to an uncomfortable silence...
I have no other information to report. Live with it. :P
>>207 ID go out with you! lol...if you really fit the description you said....but anyway...that whole thing about you, being all super feminine and everything, is that really you though? or some image your mom told you would work? like, really, wouldnt want to put out a false image to someone, and they fall in love with that image, and thats not really the real you at all, so, just, BE YOU. as for the guy issue, contactttttt is good. gettin betting with the eye stares, but, course a smile would be very good too, lucky for you, hes a regular too
>>Radio
YOURE THE MAN NOW DAWG! KITA! do you communicate with SAS over aim? or anything like that? she know your number? man...gettin itchy for a report man...and it is understandable to leave after confessing, well, wat else could you do man? yeah, i suppose, wat we gotta do is sit and wait.
and, thanks for the encouragement guys, too bad, the occurance shall never happen again, and i dont know any girls at all
>>227 I am feminine because I like to be, it feels really nice. So I do not feel like I am putting out anything false. To be otherwise would feel strange.
It would be impossible for me to make the first move on him because it is not my nature and he is a customer. He comes across as cold, so I do not want to be annoying by being really sugary when he comes in. Eye contact and a nice smile is a start, but I do not think he would take a hint from it.
>>Radio
btw, valentines day is coming up (not that it matters to me or anything), chance? same with u too 207
>>207 you said he was the geeky type, how geeky is he? If he's really geeky, his coldness could just be because he's shy towards people too. I don't know as I wasn't there but do you think that might be why he seems cold? You don't have to act sugary or ask him out. Just talk to him. Maybe, once you talk to him, you find out he's not your type. But then again, it could also be a first step right? ★☆(~_^).v ☆★
>>Radio Otoko! keep heart!!!! (>_<)>
Very good advice, and with cute emoticons too!
>>Radio, if you didn't had an umbrella, then everything was ok. My girlfriend told me that she was also shocked when her friend told her about me. So it seems that it's a normal thing. Now she knows what you feel ^_^. Just let her make the next move. Now we should just shut up and wait. Damn this weekend is soooo long ><...
>>227 No, SAS and I don't communicate out of school. To be honest, I'm not too fond of talking to others in French (aww, I think that's a huge clue as to where I'm located, especially to #4-ch-ers). Also, I have no cellphone, so to avoid any interference from parents, I don't plan on giving her my phone number.
>>229 I won't see her much for Valentine's Day because we have some crappy obligatory course we need to take at the nearby university. There are high chances that we won't see her at all that day. :(
What's with everybody using >> so much... :P
It's getting to be quite confusing finding out what's a quote and what isn't.
-sigh- I recently had a girlfriend, but she was such a psycho-bitch. She recently came in during lunch and handed me a note telling me she was going to kill herself if I didn't give her more attention. Only problem being, I'm too fucking busy writing a fucking research paper, so I can't be arsed to do anything except research at the moment. Either that, or I could show her more attention and fail my class. Either way...
find her some help, tell her parents or someone
>>234 you may lose her if you won't pay her enough attention. Is it a sacrifice you can afford?
duct tape really clears out the pore
Oh ffs. Is it usual for girls to invite a girlfriend along on a not-officially-a-date? It's really annoying, I mean, what am I gonna tell her, "no, your friend can please stay the fuck away"? :/
>>239 What interests me about him? I have never really thought about it. I just saw him one day, and was just attracted.
He does not come across as shy, just nervous and agitated sometimes. I asked my manager about him because she interacts with him the most and she laughed at me. She said he was ugly, prissy, high matanience, awkward and a dweeb.
Well, he did not come in today but maybe tomorrow...
Goddammit. Valentine's day is coming.
>>241 you go to dinner, the friend laughs a lot and seems like they are having a good time. Then after the friend says how boring you are while your love interest defends you! ~_^
you need a wingman, to take care of the extra girl.
hi guys.