How should i talk to a girl? (49)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-27 22:42 ID:pjQlDVGH

There is a girl that i like , but i do not know how to talk to her.
Should i start slow by talking about somthing she is interested in , or should i just say i like her?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-27 22:44 ID:A+lk9L8p

>or should i just say i like her?

I wouldn't really recommend this. It takes a certain kind of confidence to pull that off... and the girl may or may not respond well to it.

I'd try to get to know her a little, first. Then see how things go.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-27 23:46 ID:GpKF3w9o

Also keep in mind that you really barely even know this person, given that you have not talked to her etc. previously.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-27 23:56 ID:TXSflnU9

Have you ever talked to her before? Does she know you exist?

5 Name: hime : 2005-12-28 00:23 ID:g2HG8LSg

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-28 21:22 ID:MOcFSeF5

>>4
yes i have talked somewhat , but not much.
And she know i exist.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-29 03:11 ID:wD+iEWoS

C) Stick it in

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-29 03:42 ID:TXSflnU9

Ok, you've got your foot in the door. What kind of stuff is she interested in?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-29 09:14 ID:Heaven

>>5
You misspelled WRYYYYYY.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2005-12-30 04:25 ID:Heaven

It depends on the girl.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-01 09:25 ID:Heaven

>>10
Most. helpful. post. evar.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-01 10:26 ID:OI4xV8n9

oh bother. speaking as a girl, unless she's a flirt, most likely she's dense and hasn't the foggiest that you're interested. it helps if you've got things in common, but you don't want to get yourself stuck in the "just friends" category, so, if you talk about normal stuff, find that you really do like her and decide that you don't want it to be "just friends," i'd start simple, but make it apparant that you've got an interest. like a movie just the two of you. then, at least you know her feelings/reaction sooner rather than later.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-02 09:15 ID:vv4rEiWe

>>7
hahahahaha highlarious

depends on what kinda girl she is, shy? social? theres alot of different approaches you can take. also depends on what kind of person she sees YOU as. like, she see you as a threat at all? or like, someone she could possibly date or something....ahhhhh like i said, depends on what kind of girl she is, very very very much so in order to figure a way to approach her.

14 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-01-05 16:41 ID:+J82+qTa

I've heard that a good way to start getting practice with talking to girls is just walking through town or a mall or something and just saying "Hi" to each one you walk by that you look interested in. I have yet to try this but apparently it begins to relieve you of the anxiety of approaching one.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-06 05:00 ID:Heaven

>>14
Sure, it'll be great until you say hi to the wrong one and she starts laughing her head off with her friends and imitating your greeting in silly voices as you walk away, trying to make yourself invisible.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-06 16:17 ID:7d2IrSeR

>>15
You just have to look confident. It's important to have the right expression on your face while walking in a confident way.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-06 17:27 ID:Heaven

>>15
What setting are you thinking of? If this happened it public, I can't see how it would be you that ended up looking stupid.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-12 04:41 ID:du3Qpq5T

well if you know her, then just talk to her, ask her how her day was or something. just get her talking and play it from there.

19 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-01-12 07:15 ID:+J82+qTa

I was waiting for an appointment with one of the counselors at this place I was taking a course at I had noticed this rather attractive woman also waiting to be setup onto one of the computesr in the facility. So after putting some thought into it I asked if this was her first time taking a course here, she replied yes, I further went on to asking her what course is it she is taking she said accounting, I was hoping for her to ask what I was taking but sadly that moment did not come so I didn't bother talking to her anymore. she obviously was not interested... or was just shy.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-12 21:43 ID:du3Qpq5T

thats cause you wussed out. lead the conversation, take charge, the ladies love men who are in charge, so be a man.

21 Name: SR47 : 2006-01-13 01:38 ID:vIXdXjRm

>>14

My variant (When I feel like it) is walking up and just saying, "Excuse me, but I think you're beautiful. Just thought you ought to know that." And then walk off.

I don't do it often, because I don't often see girls worthy of such effort, but when I do, the results are amusing (ususally uncomfortable looks or confused faces).

>>12

See http://4-ch.net/love/kareha.pl/1136005890/14 and the post after. We covered that a bit. Both guys and girls are highly dense. If you don't say anything, she won't know anything. There's a reason why they made songs all about how important it is to communicate in a relationship.

Hopefully you'll be sucessful and realize that relationships are the curse of humanity. If you screw up, you'll end up with a girlfriend like I did. T_T

I'm joking of course. Good luck.

22 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-01-13 02:32 ID:+J82+qTa

>>20 how exactly did I wuss out?, I initiated the conversation she failed to take the bait which was to at least ask what I was taking she didn't fall for the bait, she wasn't worth my time.

23 Name: 20 : 2006-01-13 03:59 ID:du3Qpq5T

>>22
she prob thought you were just curious, i would have talked more,a lot more until she left or gave me her number

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-03 17:32 ID:pjQlDVGH

I have talked somwhat with her now , not private but in a group.
But i don't know how to get to tell her , and i don't want to end up as just a friend.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-03 19:23 ID:TOeJRvwp

>>15

So what? At least you get that whole experience over with.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-03 22:07 ID:d5jpslP4

>>24
just try to get alone, say can i talk to you in private, or just pull aside and talk to her.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-03 22:22 ID:Heaven

Pull her aside and rape her.

PS: Don't really do that.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-04 04:38 ID:9lsxBcdc

>>27 I tried and it work!!!!!

ps : i post this from a jail

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-04 07:39 ID:WXUq33tt

I don't know what the best way to talk to her would be BUT DO IT ASAP! If you wait too long, you'll only regret it. I know (as i'm sure many here also know...) from experience. Don't wait, do something about it! You don't need to confess right away but hurry!

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-10 19:01 ID:f0RAjfzW

>>29

Agreed, if you take too long it will be too late. Just talk to her, say hello, start normal conversation and take it from there. If you dont do anything = nothing will happen. Think Densha Otoko! VV hahah just try.

31 Name: Doku Otoko : 2006-02-11 02:57 ID:yltBCNKe

You miss 100% of the shots you never take

32 Name: Some Person : 2006-02-12 03:38 ID:Y0jAXD/E

Honestly, coming from a girl, you shouldn't wait to talk to her. If you really like her, go up to her and talk. You don't necessarily have to ask her to date you or confess that you really like her, but be nice to her, start up a nice conversation about something that she might find interesting, and you never know she might end up having a thing for you, if she doesn't already.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-12 18:28 ID:WXUq33tt

>>32
signed!

go for it!

34 Name: L_KiD : 2006-02-13 00:29 ID:TuaSr/jk

just go up to her and make conversation, like " hey, im {name}" or something and continue from there, make sure you are CONFIDENT and and talking TO her, not AT her.

35 Name: fart man : 2007-01-12 11:35 ID:zJXm8YPr

have some beer before asking her out. then u approach her and say "hey baby, u have nice tits don u? can i fuck ur ass?"

36 Name: pandaman : 2007-01-12 19:49 ID:Q//nQlVN

I understand your feeling, it's pretty hard to ask a girl out, just don't try to make a drama from your life, just go and fail or not, you'll know after trying

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 11:57 ID:PQ1BVBdj

an advice from a girl, you should get to know more about her and you should be sure that she knows enough about you. then that's the time when u confess. be prepared of her answer and have the courage or you'll end up with no girlfriend.

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 17:47 ID:Heaven

>>1 you should NEVER listen to girls about this, i.e. >>37

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 18:48 ID:3CUkycV6

>>38

I second this.

If there's one thing the female gender doesn't know, it's what they actually want.

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-14 00:27 ID:+GpMtxyI

>>38
I disagree. If there's one thing women are good at, it's picking up hints and flaws of other women. We're very good at reading other women, but when it comes to ourselves, >>39 is right, we don't know what we want.

Hint: Girl buddies are handy for advice.

41 Name: fart man : 2007-01-18 02:02 ID:zJXm8YPr

[should i just say i like her?]
no u shouldnt. she'd reject u anyway. ive got to talk to her and attract her first.

42 Name: fart man : 2007-01-18 02:12 ID:zJXm8YPr

>>41

>ive got to talk to her

sorry, mistake. not "ive got to" but "uve got to

43 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-25 09:51 ID:n7FjOgs/

>>42

you've got to...

44 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-25 10:56 ID:Heaven

>ive got to talk to her and attract her first.

oshi-, fart man reveals his intentions to muscle in and steal your girl. i wouldn't take that shit!

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-26 08:59 ID:Heaven

>>1

Try to borrow some money. It's a conversation opener, also it's profitable. If she doesn't lend you money, she is no one you want to be friends with anyway.

46 Name: fart man : 2007-01-27 14:40 ID:zJXm8YPr

>>44
>fart man reveals his intentions to muscle in and steal your girl. i wouldn't take that shit!

no no i want ur girlfriend

47 Name: TEENAGER : 2007-01-27 15:58 ID:Heaven

>>46

You have such a dirty mouth! How could your mom ever kiss you?!

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-27 23:39 ID:vPV3vvgL

>>40

I know what I want. I guess that's why I'm the one who does the asking.

49 Name: fart man : 2007-01-28 06:20 ID:zJXm8YPr

>>47

>You have such a dirty mouth!

u tell >>44 first

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