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thank you, for that post
i'm not op but in a similar situation
i fell in love with the ex-girlfriend of a friend, but she wanted to to stay just friends. i couldn't really accept that but couldn't be without her either -> friendzone
i really enjoyed being with her (first "relationship") but it seems like i was a bit too pushy and she completely broke off the contact several month ago.
i'm pretty obsessed with her and think constantly about her, i'm trying to forget her but that doesn't really work.
i guess i already went a few steps down the stalker road (tracked down her mothers instant messenger address, but didn't contact her) but don't really want to go there.
my main problem is that she broke off the contact without telling me what was wrong so i'm forced to speculate. i'm not sure anymore if she ever liked me in the first place. i really need closure, but probably won't get it... ;_;