Womenz on the internets (14)

1 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-22 21:56 ID:vHQ/NIfs

In this thread women post. Real ones!, they also bitch about their jackass bf or ex.

2 Name: BENOIST : 2006-02-22 22:41 ID:Heaven

Fool! Don't you know there are no girls on the intarweb?!!1

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-24 01:17 ID:3vYY9M+i

I'm a girl on the internet, but I've never had a boyfriend.

That's the truth of the situation.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-24 14:19 ID:0gmgszej

I'm a girl on the internet, who is going to bitch about my ex.

My ex-boyfriend was indeed a jackass. Always fucking guilt-tripping me and forcing me to do things I didn't want to do.

And it sucks because no one else knows what a jackass he is, he always puts on a nice exterior around others. I don't want to make any of our friends uncomfortable, so I act nice toward him now, but I'd really like to shove his face into the ground.

Bitter, me? No way.

Will I ever find the right guy? D:

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-24 16:20 ID:vl1VHDMw

>>4
;__; ohhh! I hope you'll find the right guy T_T

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-24 21:51 ID:ODSB0CjH

>>4
I can just hear the imperial march playing when you walk in a room.
I fear for your right guy j/k hehe

7 Name: tac-tics : 2006-02-24 22:21 ID:8Ve6UhtI

>>2
That is partially true, and it has to do with confuzzling cultural assumption that the default gender is male.

>>3
>>4
Did you realize that >>2 just called you male? X-D

>>7
I am 7. I am also male and single. Also, I do not have a jackass boyfriend. Our society has changed over the last several decades to require me to make that distinction. However, I do have a crazy-ass Ex. But he is a she (and no, she ain't /d/ X-)

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-24 22:23 ID:TbBfigtw

I am a girl on the internet, and I do not have any reason to bitch about men. Sure, they confuse me sometimes but I probably confuse them even more.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-02 21:25 ID:41u1WAMD

I am a girl on the internet who's confused. I don't know if what I'm feeling for this guy is just a crush or actually love :(

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-02 23:32 ID:90ta4TuP

well love is mutual (he loves you-you love him), a crush is one sided (he doesnt know about it) so the real question is do you have crush on him or an infatuation? do you like his personality his character or do you like his looks?

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-03 00:00 ID:NPX2i1Ar

>>9

more DETAILS REQUESTED

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-03 00:37 ID:2/ChDbnW

>>11
The guy is NOT YOU.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-03 01:37 ID:41u1WAMD

>>10
ah, sorry, I mixed the words. by love I meant crush, and by crush I meant infatuation. Thanks for the clear-up, I gotta study my english more :p

>>11
it's going to be though without writing a long text.... but what the hell, I've been thinking of writing this here for some time now.

I met this guy on the internet years ago, I was about 11, he was 16 and we had pretty much the same interests. He was really, really nice and we became good friends in no time to the point we met irl a few years later. We used to talk online almost everyday, and I realized I was slowly developing a crush on him. Things happened with my life and I became distant from my friends, including him; we talked mostly online (we rarely saw each other irl), and from almost everyday, I started to appear only about once in a month. I realized I wasn't more than a good friend to him and was scared anyway of having a relationship with someone so much older than me.

Actually, after seeing my friends and my own parents, I started to get scared of being in love with someone. I'm scared of being hurt when it's over, I'm scared of having fights, I'm scared of not being good enough, I'm scared of everything bad that love might bring. I'm a very weak person, and my self-confidence is so low you guys wouldn't believe it. I'm 17 now, and I don't feel mature enough to handle all of that.

Anyway, time passed, and even with me being more distant, we never stopped being friends. I got distant to the point I was certain that crush had faded away. But... this year, I entered the same college as him, the same degree as him (I'm his freshman, of course). I knew he was studying there already, my main reason for entering that university wasn't him, though. But that meant going back to talking to him pretty much everyday.

As I said, I thought I didn't have a crush on him anymore, so I wasn't worried about that. Here's where the trouble begins. Since the first day of college, whenever I see him, I get nervous. Like, REALLY nervous. It wasn't like that until this year. When I go talk to him, it's even worse. My mind goes blank, I can't remember the right words, I just say the first thing to come in my mind (much to his confusion at times), I feel my whole body shaking. I just want to talk to him, know more about him, and at the same time, I think I'm unconsiously trying to get him interested in me as well, trying to show him i'm not a kid anymore.

From what I've read from you guys, it's normal to feel this nervous around someone you have a crush on. But to tell the thruth, I never really knew what the hell I felt for him. I mean, when you like someone and want to stay with him/her, you KNOW it, right? I can't say the same for me. I'm too confused, because honestly, I have no idea what makes me feel this affection toward him (It's definitely not his looks... I have to say I was kinda disappointed when I saw him irl for the first time, lol). His kindness to me? His personality? It's something I can't define. He's always been nice to me and now that we're back to seeing each other frequently, I just want to make him smile, to know more about him and to make him know more about me as well.

I don't think it's just friendship if I feel so goddamn nervous just to be around him. But for some reason I can't admit it might be a crush. I'm scared of being with him, somehow, even though I don't have any hopes. I don't know if it's denial either. It might be that my fears and insecurity are getting in the way of understanding my own feelings.

That's about it. i'm sorry for the long and confusing text or any grammar mistakes. Hopefully you guys will understand what i'm trying to say. I tried to keep away the details because I'm way too paranoid he might visit this site as well.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-05 21:43 ID:ODSB0CjH

>>13
Well, i'm not a girl but I think I can understand what you mean. In many ways we're in the same sort of boat, though I'm a bit downstream from you (so perhaps I can offer you some of my insights so you don't end up like me).

From the way you talk to him, it definately sounds like you have a crush on him. How deep a crush? it's hard to say. I wouldn't doubt it's a deep one from having known him for so long and having had a thing for him in the past.

You are at the point, it seems, where you can still walk away. I suppose if you got together, things would be wonderful. But if you think it's going to be unrequited, I would consider walking away. It depends on how deep in you are. If you're past the point of no return where you'd wondered if something would have happened between you two and everyone would live happily ever after, then the choice has already been made (whether you are aware of making it or not). However, if you don't think anything could happen with this guy and you can turn away without regret. My suggestion would be to do it.

All that stuff you are afraid of, it's very real. The pain and heartache and all that. Probably even worse than think. But it is something that comes hand in hand with love. The pain comes from investing yourself into love. The trick to minimizing the pain, i suppose, is investing wisely.

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