I've been waiting.... (791)

602 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-09 07:18 ID:tpiVNwpE

  1. Benson, I've participated in your thread from the beginning. So when I say that you're really messed up, I'm not saying it without any grounds. Your recent love interest is right in saying that "You spend too much time on the girl you like". You're just setting yourself up for failure. I think I've mentioned more than once in my posts that you should get your priorities right.

For a guy of your age, you seem to spend an ridiculous amount of time and effort thinking about girls/romance. Take it from a girl; this is unattractive. It oozes of desperateness, clingly-ness and immaturity. Most girls want to see security in a guy. Someone who can support her and is self assured themselves. In other words, someone who doesn't crave for her affection 24/7.

2. Like >>599 said, don't take back the camera. That's just plain insincere and unmanly. When you give someone something as a gift, don't even intend to take it back. If you're going to have regrets, don't give it at all in the first place. She owns the camera now, not you. That is the whole point of a gift. It is up to her judgement whether she gives it back to you or not -not yours.

3. I really have to question whether she is actually using people "unconciously". Either she is very, very dense, to not realise she is using people, or you and your friends have been deceived by her sweet, innocent mask. The latter is much more likely. Trust me on this point as well, I'm a girl. Seriously, 99% of girls are very perceptive of these kind of things by mid-adolescence. They know more than they actually let on. If she is actually unconsciously using people, then she would be an innocent girl. However, this is definitely not the case because she threw your efforts into your face, and then was seeking sympathy from who-ever would listen.

4. Benson, pick yourself up and move on. I don't think you should be considering a relationship until you've sorted out your personal issues first. You threw in a not so subtle hint about your state of mind. I suggest that you mature a bit yourself. Shit happens. Don't go off and mope/wrists/cry/whinge about it. You need to learn something from this experience. Don't throw yourself at a girl's feet and put your heart on the line from the beginning. It is destined for failure and you could be saving yourself a lot of unnecessary pain.

For your sake, I hope you actually take what I've written to heart. I don't mean to discourage or insult you, but you never seem to listen to the sensible advice that is given to you.

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