Incapable of being loved (41)

18 Name: Not A Secret Admirer : 2006-03-24 22:43 ID:Heaven

Of course it is possible to never be loved, at least in a non-familial sense. Even without any mental or physical scarring or ugliness, it is possible. One simply has to live a life of solitude, like a monk or other holy person, or even simply someone who has found inner peace and the strength to live as an individual. If you can overcome the instinctual need for the companionship and acceptance of others, it's possible to live your whole life without meeting that many people, thus reducing your chances of ever meeting someone who would love you in a romantic sense to virtually nil.

Conversely, if you never bring your own self-acceptance to a level that you can open yourself to others, then no one will ever get to know you well enough that they can really love you. It's possible that someone may become infatuated with the way you look or from a chance meeting, but the chances of them developing true feelings for you would be next to nothing because they would never get to know you and understand you.

Of course, there are no guarantees in life, good, bad, or otherwise. Even if you don't live a solitary life, it's possible that you simply won't ever happen to run into the right person at the right time. Or even if you try to live alone, it's nearly impossible to go your whole life without meeting another human being at least once, and sometimes life-long relationships develop from chance singular meetings.

The end result is that it is possible because anything is possible, but, the probability is affected by the people you meet and, perhaps more importantly, how you react to them.

As a final note, I would say that just because your life has "chosen" you does not mean you cannot ever make choices for yourself.

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