The Theory of Love (264)

90 Name: Demian : 2006-05-06 02:44 ID:O/+lOSvL

According to my knowledge, emotions and the machine which is the body mutually affect each other. People smelling 'attractive' pheromones of each other will feel better. Likewise, people who worry a lot will get real headaches. That being so, the psychological side of love can be both nourished or harmed by the physiological components entering a relation.

In my opinion there is no rule that says in the end psychological love must die because lust falters as time passes. It is true that love relationships change over time, but that is only natural. At some point the mating drive between a couple reduces to a lower level, because it is time to concentrate on other things (i.e. acareer or kids) Only the shortsighted will interpret this change as the end of love. When they do not learn fast, they will indeed break up, perhaps violently.

Let us not confuse the mistakes of an insufficiently informed group as the behaviour of a whole population. If you accept that love is a form of trust and appreciation, then there is no reason for that to end unless that trust is broken, or the grounds for appreciation are lost. Lust, however, plays no role in trust, and cannot be causal to its loss. Since appreciation frequently involves an admiration of the partners' body, it can be diminished with the removal of lust. Other aspects of a human can still be appreciated though, such as the very nature of the partner.

To conclude my point, lust is not the only - or perhaps not even the main - drive of love. Lust will fail over time but that does not spell the end for love. Many people divorce or break apart because they view the end of lust as the end of love. But why don't you start looking at older relationships? Stable ones? Those do exist, plenty of them in fact. Do they not love each other anymore? What would they say?

Do you truly know of no elderly people that still love each other?

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