You're obviously a complete stranger and I clearly have never met either you or the girl in question. Of this we can all be ABSOLUTELY certain.

But just from the point of view of a spectator that has - once again - definitely never met either one of you and have clearly just heard about this for the first time ever, I'd like to say a few things, if I may.

The girl in question has obviously lived a life just like you or I have. She has experienced pain and disillusionment as well. Right now, she's at a very crucial point in her life, and she doesn't know how - much less, WHO - to trust. Therefore, she tries to desperately cling to everyone around her, showing as much affection as humanly possible because she feels that by doing so, her presence will be mutually wanted and needed by those around her.

Do you understand what I'm telling you? She's afraid to commit, and simultaneously, she's afraid to be abandoned.

That means that you can't just go foisting yourself on her and trying to get her to dump her boyfriend. It ends up telling her that she chose to love the wrong person. And whether that's true or not, it's not YOUR decision to make. ESPECIALLY if you don't have the guts to even MEET this boyfriend. How can you POSSIBLY say that you're the one for her if the best you can do is tiptoe around the issue and hope that you'll get lucky and never meet this man?

You don't keep her from giving you her physical attentions because you gnaw on them like a squirrel storing food away for a harsh winter. And yet you don't do anything brave or decisive to make her realize that she needs you and ONLY you. These half-measures will get you nowhere, and you know it. Either take a stand, or step aside. You can't have it both ways.