Running out of things to talk about? (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-28 11:54 ID:qd+ehAnb

Often times I find myself in a friendly relationship with girls and they come up to me and talk quite often but then a lot of the times I run out of things to say and the conversation just sort of drops. This happens to me quite often. Is it possible I am just forever doomed?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-28 14:10 ID:Heaven

Yep :(

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-28 14:44 ID:5G6ZnTp7

Before you get to the point where you have no more conversation, end the talk. You have to go, you have to (insert random BS here), just always better than "So...".

As for having something to talk about, pay attention to everything she says, and try and read between the lines. Yeah, tall order I know, but it has to be done if you hope to talk to them on a regular basis.

And BTW, there should be no worries on your mind if these girls are coming up and talking to you of their own volition, then they're taking the initiative.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-28 15:49 ID:KZt9156c

I have the same problem. It really suxx. But at least girls do come to me sometimes :) I found that often, if you have nothing left to talk about, you ask them question and let them do the talking. If you listen closely, you may find cues to ask more questions, or cues to talk yourself. I find it real hard to do. Also, there's the problem of turning the conversation in the wrong lane *_*

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-29 05:43 ID:MPn+yZaU

Depending on how 'serious' a person she is, you can always ask a big, important question like 'What do you think about <topic x>' or some general thing about her opinion on an aspect of human nature, relationships, etc (if they aren't philosophically-inclined, this could scare them away!). Or ask them about their day, weekend, plans for future holidays, etc -- people like to talk about themselves, and like >>4 said, this can give you a wealth of possible conversation topics.

6 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-29 08:26 ID:eUI0tRdo

i find the problem only exists if I am too worked up on making it work with a girl.

I've found the less I am thinking of "keeping the conversation" with the girl, the more I find myself talking and keeping the conversation relevant with the comments we make...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-29 14:19 ID:9dfwAMpf

Don't just react, add a little something extra. Examples:

Bad:
I got a bad grade in xyz.
Did you get a good grade before?
(Close-ended question)

Bad:
I got a bad grade in xyz.
I passed that class.
(Sound competitive)

Bad:
I got a bad grade in xyz.
What are your parents going to say?
(She's forced to re-enact an unpleasant experience, she thinks that YOU don't have anything to say)

Good:
I got a bad grade in xyz-class
Yeah, I'd rather do xyz-hobby, but this class is really important for my GPA.
(Affirms her feelings and introduces a new element)

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-30 06:49 ID:IrBb8TX7

i'm with 7

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