Liking a girl that has a BF already (14)

1 Name: KIRA : 2006-07-06 07:11 ID:TyQnzNfi

hiya, well i recently started summer school, and i met this girl in class... (theres a story how i talked to her but i'll say it later), during the 2nd day of class, we had a break. we talked a bit and my phone rang, i think her phone rang too, after i was done, i notice she was talking still (in a different language). i asked if it was her mom or something, and then she told me it was her bf. i was like didnt think she would have a bf but i guess she does. i think shes really cute and nice, but dunno how i would be able to hook up with her if she has a bf already. a part of me wants them to break up, i had like a plan on a way to how to become closer to her and ask her out but now that i hear she has a bf, i dunno what to do. i never thought i would want to break up a couple, but she seemed very wary when she told me it was her bf. im the only person she knows in class, so we always talk to each other, and i also asked for her # which she gave me (and she has mine). i tohught of some plans to see if i would be able to break them up, but dunno if i should go through it. she seems like she glances at me, but dunno if its a sign or something. i need help, should i try to persude still or something? i still wanna try til i get a blunt No or something, but i feel like i can do something about it.... hmm...

might be a long letter, hope someone can help, i only have this class for 6 weeks, so i want to move fast or something, dont want too much time to past or anything.

2 Name: frigid onanoko : 2006-07-06 07:28 ID:CNO6NeBz

Have you ever had gf?? If not, you no able to understand signals of girl. Not enough.

Anyway... frigid onanoko dont like breaking up couples. You not even know boy, you not even know if she happy with bf yet. Get real dude, you're fooling yourself.

What = ur age kid

3 Name: holdincourt : 2006-07-06 07:49 ID:avsNbOUR

think you should move on and find another girl....sure, can stay friends with this one...but would you really want to go through the trouble of breaking them up (you don't even know how long they've been going out together, which is important...the longer, the less chance you have, normally) and then, giving the girl grace time to recover from said break-up, THEN swoop in and ask her out?

Dude...think about the time that would take!!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-06 10:52 ID:CgHvmhhS

If you want to ever get anywhere with this girl you need to just be her friend for one, and have patience.

5 Name: KIRA : 2006-07-06 17:29 ID:IW8NraRI

actually im in college, college is the prime time because usually couples break up due to going to different schools or their paths are spliting into different directions.
and i seen friend's couples break up and go out with someone else that were friends with them before, it is possible. even my good friend did it, broke up a couple and then went out with the girl and still with her.
dunno, its usually just that all the good girls around here are all taken, so its hard to find one in a single status.
i guess i need to go see how their relationship is like or if i find obvious reasons if she was showing interest in me...

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-06 21:15 ID:qT7vVQvE

i thought about that too, but you'll be surprised how many of them stick together. What is the guy:girl ratio at your school?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-06 23:01 ID:bPfKzHsq

I am in the same situation. I don't know if I should wait or move on.

I'm still in high school.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-07 23:49 ID:Heaven

Kill your feelings for her yesterday KIRA. What is she worth to you if she actually can be scheemed away from her bf by a backstabbing asshole motherfucker without a spine? What are you worth to her if you are that kind of person? Do you actually love her, or are you just drunk on your own emotions? The answer to that is already given.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-09 18:32 ID:CQYFzSsC

Respect that she is in a relationship. If you have a chance with her, how would you feel if some asshole came and tried to make her brake up with you? Stop being so fucking selfish and think about her feelings too, fag.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 21:46 ID:MZlhmfPY

don't break up a couple if you have aren't completely sure she is interested in you....

11 Name: Mai-chan : 2006-12-22 22:03 ID:jgO4wYD4

Honestly...
<<9
I hate to be that rude, but that just needs to be put plainly and brutally. Don't. Ever. Think. About. This. Again.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-23 07:20 ID:Heaven

>>5

I thought that would happen too, but actually I knew a lot of relationships that grew stronger and the break-up rate was about the same as in high school. So then I just went after the girls who came into college single and wouldn't you know it is easier to date the single girls than the girls with boyfriend?

But seriously, if some dude tried to break my girlfriend and I up, I would beat the shit out of him, no joke.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-23 12:04 ID:jN/e0dgE

>>12
Be careful, beating up a guy who tried to break you two up may actually break your relationship up, depending on the chick. There are a lot of chicks who find it seriously offensive when their boyfriend is so insecure and violent that he has to cause someone physical harm for something he obviously wasn't going to succeed with (according to the chick). So they'll take it as a personal insult, thinking that you thought your girl was that fickle (which chicks who are seriously into you and like that will take as a mortal insult about their character). Also, even if she's not that much into you, if the chick thinks he's a friend, and you beat that friend up, you WILL make him the underdog. Underdog + you look bad (violent and insecure) = she'll leave you for him, as "at least he isn't some violent, baboon without any trust for me".

I've seen these things happen too often, and heard about it too often as well. :-/

14 Name: 12 : 2006-12-23 21:29 ID:Heaven

>>13

Yeah, I am not talking about beating up some guy who looks at my girlfriend funny. I am trying to say if someone would to break up my girlfriend and I so he can get a chance with her, then I would beat him up because he ruined our relationship for his own gain. I am trying to warn the OP that there are crazy people out there and he should be careful.

But I do agree that if I or anyone gets too paranoid and has no trust in their girlfriend then she will leave you.

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