...to not want someone as their own, but to want the "object of their affection" to be happy?
most of the ime, I se people (in fiction AND IRL) that seem to be in relationships for themselves alone. even if the person they're with wants to call it off for a good reason, they treat it like they were trying to kill them.

some people even going as far as stalking, the one they claim to love, yet not cluing in that just maybe that person may be better off without them, if they're so possessive.

me personally, if woman I was in love with, was happy with someone else, I would be content (as long as they weren't being used or hurt)
and if they were happy with me, I'd be extatic, but I know that wouldn't be likely.

is that odd?