Hmm. I think differant things work for differant people. but...

be there for her, obviously.

there'll be time when she wants to talk lots, and there'll be times when she wants to stay silent. If she doesn't wanna talk about it, leave it be.

Let her control sex a little. If she says no, then no it is. If she's messing about, you get aroused, get halfway and she says no, it sucks, but no it is. Don't pressure for it.

"Well, at least I got a half-assed handjob and blowjob out of it, woo"

that sounds a bit like she wants to keep you, maybe. I'm not sure. Especially if she loves you.

This is all if you love her, of course. Its odd, but if you don't love her, theres not a lot you can do. she needs to learn that sex CAN be associated with love.

I'm speaking as a rape victim here ^^; And of the female persuasion.