wtf,,? (18)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 10:09 ID:r1d50fc3

hiya..

I like a girl..
it's vacation so I don't see her often because it's vacation..
(I see her sometimes in town and at my work)
I do talk with her on MSN.

she's telling me about her emotions.. which are not happy
she lost a lot of friends due to she moved over to another country.

she also told me she wants to be alone.. like in lonely.. I don't get this. I think she misses her friends too much.. she thinks ppl here are really nice but she just doesn't wants to be along ppl..

what should I do>?
I'm like totall confused.. and don't know what I should do..

I'm thinking of inviting her to meet my friends.. or something..
good idea?

thnx in advance..

2 Name: QWERTY : 2006-08-07 14:14 ID:svp/fgFb

You should decide for yourself, your the only one that can feel 'the right moment' not likely anyone else will 8)

I would say, yes invite her round, go out and stuff, maybe wait till theres a concert/convention and things like that, you know...well good luck 8)

3 Name: .¨¯(o_O) : 2006-08-07 15:18 ID:HYeUI1bW

maybe its a bit much for her , a new invarament , new people , talk to her slowly and she will get used to it , just don'ts go too fast or it mite get worse. be caring and understanding and it could work out

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 18:54 ID:r1d50fc3

she's here already for a year.. and she already speaks the language very well. so the environment is ok.

bout that caring and understanding thing.. that would be ok :P
she's only talking bout her self.. isn't really showing interest in me..

soo that sux..

5 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-08-07 19:28 ID:3SkFAO99

well maybe it's time you to her how you feel bout her. If you've known her for about a year than you must know her really well. If you feel that she doesn't have interest in you, still you should tell her. that way it will ease your tension

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 19:33 ID:r1d50fc3

well...
I don't know her for a year..

I first saw her 4 months ago

just for 2-3 months I met her,. I never saw her in school and when I did.. :D

I really didn't know she even existed before those 4months.
mayb strange I never saw her but she's never been near me.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 21:04 ID:7Mj+Ftvv

Sounds like she might possibly be depressed. Also, hints of a schizoid personality disorder are showing, if that's the case then trying to interact or know her better could actually upset her alot more.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 21:09 ID:q1XxHCjl

no don't think she has that. next week she gets on vacation in her country and she can't wait untill she sees all her friends there..

mayb she only has it here? XD

srry I cannot provide you with more specific info.. some ppl I knnow are scrolling this thingie 24/7...

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 11:09 ID:CC+RhB+V

I've been in that situation before. When someone leaves all their friend behind, most of the time they're prolly really reluctant to start something new, because that would mean acknowlegding the change. The best thing you can do is show her that you are genuinely interested as being friends and perhaps later, a relationship. Trust me, even though she may seem closed off at first, you will grow on her after time.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 13:14 ID:1T6sVxFT

Uh. Yeah, she sounds depressed (although I doubt the schizo thing) or at least like wannabe-loner or something. So you can probably still talk to her. Just like talk to her normally like you would any person. When she goes on about her wanting to be lonely, just disagree. She sounds weak. She'll probalby give in some time.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 14:15 ID:r1d50fc3

>>9

yeah your probably right.. I was thinking about this already..

>>10
I already disagreed with her about that.. I just need to change her attitude somehow.. :/

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 23:51 ID:1T6sVxFT

Personally, I agree with >>7. If you get in a relationship, you'll probably regret it because of her pushed-depression. She most likely won't get any less depressed. You're better off without her.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-09 08:58 ID:r1d50fc3

>>12

...

if your in love you know that's not an option.. :S

besides.. she does seems to have fun in certain things she does.
She's really happy then.

and well.. I don't really mind listening to her problems.
besides we get closer because of this. right?

14 Name: Dante : 2006-08-09 13:49 ID:/tOTI62n

>>1
My friend, this is called a "psychic vampire", according to Anton LaVey in "The Satanic Bible". All they want to do is drain you of emotional and creative energy so that you'll be dragged down with her. I suggest cutting her off like a sore limb

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-09 21:32 ID:q1XxHCjl

>>14

she is not able to get me that emotional involved..
sure I feel sorry for her.. but I've seen/heard worser things on 4chan -_-'

besides.. I still hang out a lot with my friends, they keep me happy no matter what happened ^^

I think I bothered you guys enough..

I'm just gonna try and hekp her make new friends.. very good friends.. (included me ^^)

yeah I know you think I'm stupid.. :P

feel free to reply I will check this topic ;)

16 Name: A-kun : 2006-08-09 22:17 ID:0etEQLIi

I personally think you shouldn't be too pushy.
Just talk to her a bit on msn and just ask her and a few of her friends (or one) to go to cinema. You won't really talk in the cinema but after it you'll just have something to eat or invite them over at your house.

If you're not sure what to do, just invite them over at your house. I myself met someone through friends and never met her before and still wanted to. I just said lez go do something and asked where and we just met at her house (with her friend) and we've become good friends that way.

We still text alot, I dun like like her but that's how we became friends just by my gathering courage and asking to meet. Just ask to go do somethinglike watch a movie with friends and just invite ur own friends and ask her to come, with or without friends.

Good luck mate ^-^ v

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-10 13:33 ID:r1d50fc3

lol ^^

my parents are always at home.. would be nice to be at home :S

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-11 08:51 ID:Heaven

I meant wouldn't duh 0_o

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