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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 16:18 ID:FKAzdi/q

I've been fretting over this for some hours now and since I don't know that I can talk about it to anyone I'm posting it here. Perhaps it will make me feel better to write about it, perhaps I just need help from someone anonymous.

I told a girl 5 years ago that I was in love with her, she apologized and said she couldn't feel the same about me. I moved on. Last summer she began to come by often because her boyfriend broke up with her and began dating her roommate. It was very hard on her. After several months she slipped into such despair that she attempted suicide around September of last year. Perhaps the worst week of my life was enduring that week while she was in the hospital.

I haven't seen too much of her since then, time to time she'll come by but never like she used to. Last night she came by and wanted to talk. After crying for awhile she explained that she had drunk a bottle of antifreeze but later threw up. She told me that she's tried killing herself several times since then but is frustrated that it hasn't worked and cries wishing she'd died last year.

The difficulty I'm having is she explained these things to me because she felt I was the only person that wouldn't tell on her. I feel like there's a hole being dug very painfully in me. I hurt, I want to help her but I don't know how. If I say something to anyone I feel I'd be breaking her trust and if she were in a similar situation in weeks, months, or years to come she wouldn't be able to come to anyone for help.

I love this girl more then I love myself, I don't know how I can fix her, in fact I'm certain I can't. She was seeing a psychiatrist but she tells me even her psychiatrist became so frustrated with her that she told my friend she could no longer help her.

I feel like a part of me is dying and I can't do anything about it.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 16:42 ID:U7mXM+Oz

Talk to a counselor, therapist, or police officer and see if you can have her put in protective custody. There, she'll have access to the professional help she needs to get past this, and she'll have trained people to watch over her and keep her from succeeding in her suicide attempts.

It might sound extreme, and there's a chance that she'll hate you in the short term for doing this, but if you really love her and want to help her, that's the price you have to pay. Letting things continue as they are will do her no good at all.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 17:29 ID:FKAzdi/q

I don't see how that would help, considering it's what she went through last year. She was in the hospital a week then went to counselling which failed.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 18:52 ID:FKAzdi/q

I've had a very strange morning, boucning between laughing at nothing and feeling so sick I want to vomit. I need to go though (I'm at work) so maybe I just need to think some more on the way home.

5 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-08-07 19:34 ID:wK4dKFXN

>>2

take the advice number 2 is giving you. You can't help her more than that. She's commiting suicide for crying out loud!

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 19:46 ID:bGwu3lma

In her current condition she cannot come to a rational decision, you need to take her to someone who will put her in the protective custody that she needs and provide her with therapy and psychiatric aid.

Btw, any psychiatrist or therapist who becomes frustrated with a suicidal patient to the degree that they refuse to treat said patient is not deserving of their post and should be avoided.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 01:06 ID:Heaven

failed suicide several times? now there's an argument against evolution. some people are so dumb they can't even naturally-deselect themselves. i bet in 10 years she has 3 kids.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 01:09 ID:Heaven

oh also,

>she explained these things to me because she felt I was the only person that wouldn't tell on her.

she thinks you're the only person who cares so little about her that you won't go against her wishes in order to help her? that's harsh.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 03:57 ID:J6H3yQHE

>>7
Suicide is actually not particularly easy to pull off, the human body is remarkably resilient. Finding a quick and easy way to go that works is awfully tricky.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 10:49 ID:qIdINOxM

tell her.

11 Name: 1 : 2006-08-08 15:56 ID:vCJDQKm+

I have talked to friends to find her therapist, they tell me she actually has two so maybe the second will help. I don't know if there's anything else I can do. She's at work till Thursday (she collects plants to see how healthy the environment is and all that) so for the next two and a half days she's out of my hands.

As for the whole suicide failing, girls often try and fail because they try to drink poison or overdose on drugs. Boys often succeed because they shoot themselves.

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