This is miscommunication. His situation is a little in the kid's love where he stays with someone as long as he gets what he wants. He doesn't intend it to be that way, but it has just turned out that way because you put him in that comfortable position. You obviously feel a much greater need than he does. Make sure he understands that. To him right now, he's getting enough from you, but he doesn't know you're the one that wants attention. You want to be the kid, not the mom. (Right now you're the mom.) What you feel is natural, usually the man has to be the strong caring, active one, and women have to be the passive, receiving ones. The balance has tiptoed too much in his favor without him knowing. The answer? Just let him know you feel needy and want attention. Tell him to give you what you want, and make you feel loved.
About the anorgasmia, (yes, you used the correct word), you have the first type (not secondary anorgasmia). This could be solved with kegel excercises. Some of the benefits of women proficient in moving those muscles is that they can convey the feeling of penetration without moving the whole body by making a sucking movement around the penis, holding the penis by its neck like a guillotine, or even pushing the penis or object out. This control greatly enhances the ability of the woman to get multiple orgasms.
I suggest excercising, you can do these excersises with precision by applying pressure in the deep, middle, and front parts (and any combination of movements as in back to front, front to back, back only, etc.) and add resitance (by lifting a funnel shaped object with a weight tied to the tip.)
About christianity... I do hope you listen to God's word speak.