So, the one Dutch girl who I met in Spain visited me Friday till now, Sunday. We had a good time together, making out, talking, arguing about music and whatnot. But seriously is one thing which makes me anxious: what the hell is up with my dick?
The, she looks nice, maybe a bit too thin, but still pretty attractive. I didn't wank for 3 days before she came, and then on Friday she tried to give me a blowjob and I just couldn't get it up to the fullest. Maybe because I was goddamn tired and the fact that she poured banana-cherry juice on it because it was salty didn't help the errection either, but oh well. Well, Saturday she was to wasted to do anything, so on Sunday I talk her into trying it real, because, as already described in an older topic, she was a virgin and it hurt her, but she still agreed.
And then my dick doesn't want to go up. I was furiously wanking it and kissing her and whatnot, but it really just didn't wanted to go and stay up. It just went up, not fully, then directly went down. And, as you may know, it's near impossible to go into a pussy with a limp dick.
Now, this all sounds like a not so uncommon phenomenom. Stress, tiredness, nervousness etc. can lead to it, but there were probably none of those factors. And, you see, this is the third time that this shit happens and I start to doubt myself a bit. The first 2 times were with hookers which my friends rented for me, and now again.
Why the hell can I get horny at will while watching porn or just out of boredom, but not when I have "the goods" right in front of me? What the hell? Am I gay or something? :(
yup
Hookers, just using girls to fullfill your own sexual desires, it comes back at you and here it is. Divine justice. Enjoy your limp dick.
your friends rent you hookers? wow. where they any good?
No ofcourse you have some kind of excuse you believe in and expect others to buy too, I both read and commented on the other thread. But let's face the facts, the bottom line here is your dick and nothing else, because you do not seem to have listened to me. If you had, you would not sit here telling me how she looks "ok" as she sucks your dick, you would tell me how happy you are and that she is the most beautiful girl in the world.
Hopefully you have a bad conscience, and then you should listen to it instead of suspecting you may be turning gay.
Ok motherfucker?
One shitty thread after another. Will you ever learn? Will it ever stop?
If you really like that girl and you know that she's a virgin then you'll unconsciously want to "give her the maximum" and that's why you can't get it up. Maybe you don't feel nervous but deep inside you are! You like that girl, you don't want to hurt her and this unconsciously blocks you because if it's not up, you can't hurt her.
I used to read a lot of letters like this in some sex help site. The psychologist there used to answer that you should try petting without clothes, just discover each other's body and then only slowly try the "main act".
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Um, NO. Why would I say that? Of course I don't love the girl, and so she doesn't love me, we have already talked it out and agreed to label ourselves "friends with benefits". Is there something divinely wrong in wanted to fuck someone who you don't love? I think not
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Heh, petting without clothes. We have done that kind of lotsa times, doesn't seem to help me relax as I probably know her body from my memory alone. What I did notice what was strange, though, is that when I kissed her, the dick went more or less stiff. Not 100%, but a good way till there. Am I some kissing freak?
whaha! tell her, "I don't love you, I love your body. Friends?"
Maybe your girl is defective. Her radiation may interfere with your Love Drive TM. Let me try.
its not uncommon, many men may have that condition at least once in their lifetime, its only temporary, no need to worry dude.
don't forget; any problem you have, i can bet you someone else has already been through it.
You're gay, let me bang you in the ass. :D
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>>9
nothing at all. except AIDS AIDS AIDS AIDS AIDS AIDS...
This thread is made of FAIL and AIDS.
if that's the girl I fall in love with RIGHT NOW!
i'm gonna find you..
(don't like competition >_> and this thingie prob nothing is STILL making me nervous!)
You obviously just need a new dick.
Let's see... you got an erectile dysfunction and it could be anything from lifestyle, diet, stress or other psychological trigger, hormone dysfuction, but I'd descart the nerve lesion option (because you can go halfway erect). That leaves us with hormones and general body health. Go to a doctor to get a check up if you want to discard the hormones possibility. Usually a healthy workout schedule balances your testosterone level, but you can go to the doctor regardless.
In those critical moments, always approach the problem TOGETHER. It helps if you involve her into getting your man up (fellatio, wink, wink).
Also, in your free time, rather than fapping, during a partial erection, try to consciously pump blood in it. It doesn't matter if you can't get it all the way up. It also doesn't matter if it's already rock solid. Do this in sets and at regular intervals, just as if you were going to the gym to work out. It will get you tired (you should feel it in between your legs), (It's a sign that you've worked out good) and you'll have a more complete control over all extense of the muscle that controls the erection. Eventually you'll have a stronger erection as well. Do this regularly to keep it strong (I'm not joking here. Muscles need excercise to get stronger, and they need regular use to keep them strong). This applies to any age range (as long as you're healthy).
Viagra's another valid option as well.
Hard anal sex by a large black male is also just as good
It's funny someone should bring this up because I have a similar issue when it's the "wrong girl". I've discovered recently that most hookers are completely incapable of getting me to orgasm, not just because I'm too cheap to double the session time, but also because I don't have the right feelings for them. On the other hand, with my ex, I last maybe a minute inside in the majority of cases.
Not that it wasn't a bad time though...
Previously I'd thought that only women had this kind of issue so it was a real eye opener for me. And I have the divorce to thank for giving me the opportunity to discover this. ;-D
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Well, while thinking about this whole stuff, I think I really did have performing anxiety because I still am a virgin :-/
Well, she'll probably come over this weekend, we'll see how it turns out
Good luck man! And just relax!
Ok, I failed again and now there are just 2 things which can be true: I am somehow really not attracted to her, which sounds doubtfull, or there is something wrong in my head
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lolol
Did you follow my instructions? Did you tackle the problem together? Were you creative? Did you use whipped cream on her body, use cunnilingus and have her orgasm multiple times before trying to penetrate her? Did you tell her you get nervous because she's so sexy? I need some answers to give you a diagnose (although I'm almost sure what your problem is).
If you can share everything that happened, it would help me give you more advice.
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K, first day: went to town with her, ate at some German bistro, went home, got naked pretty fast with her. Brought her to an orgasm by fiddling with the clit, then was just fondling for a while, I became tired at that time because it was already 3 in the morning and I didn't get that much sleep the whole week long. Dick was actually getting stiff and soft during the whole day more or less, but it was completly motionless while I was playing with her clit. Dunno, maybe I was too concentrated, though it did get hard for some time when I saw her face contorting and her slightly moaning
Second day: cuddled around in the bed, she tried to give me a blowjob with a condom when i still had my morningwood, but it kinda felt like a whole lot of nothing(maybe the condom made me feel nothing), so we stopped it. in the afternoon a bit more fiddling around, we were laying near each other, i was just kissing her breast, she was scratching my back and jerking me around, didn't get that stiff. Went to a cafe in the evening, drank a bit, came back home, just a bit more fondling since I was damn tired again, sleep.
third day: This is when she really wanted to try get have my dick in her, even though 1 finger hurt her already. So yeah, we basically fiddled around with each other a bit, I gave her an orgasm again, then tried fingering her which hurt her, but she insisted that she wanted to at least try to get a dick inside....which i couldn't do because the dick kinda when stiff/limp all the damn time.
So yeah, this is the story all about how my life got twisted upside down and I became the Prince of a town called Fail Air.
Hahah. Tell her to help you by being sexier. You get aroused when she is moaning and contorting... (who doesn't?) Then ask her to do more of that for you. Tell her what you feel is sexy and she will feel sexier just by doing it, so it reinforces itself. Women are emotional like that, they like to share emotions together, so obviously, she wants to feel pleased while she pleases you, that means copulating. Sometimes being adventurous helps (sex outside, elevator, rooftop, balcony, etc.) Realize one of her fetishes, and ask her to realize one of yours. She just wants to please you, so you're doing well.
It's funny you mentioned that you felt nothing. It sounds like anorgasmia... Does this happen often? When was the last time you got an orgasm/ejaculated? How long have you been tired?
I recommend you take multivitamins daily for a month (if you do not already do so). Centrum or something like that. Maybe the one with ginko biloba to increase blood flow (this one is not to be taken every day). Although the dilated vessels could make your member even limper (because of lower blood pressure from ginko biloba), you can still give it a try. You need to clear your body of all the toxins accumulated by stress. Dedicate some time to work out your abs, and thighs (Lie down and lift your legs or torso). This will increase circulation in the mid-body, after warming up of course. Run for 5 min as a warm-up. I woudln't recommend caffeinated drinks for a while.
Oh don't worry, it's not that I can't orgasm. In fact, as soon as brought her to the central station and came home, I fapped to see if there really is nothing wrong, and, what do you know, now it worked like a charm. Maybe it's just the way that blowjobs feel and I discribed it wrongly.
What is worse though is not that I couldn't have sex, but that now I have this fear that I just can't get it up when I need it and am kinda afraid of trying to go further with the people I know. I mean, failing at some one-night-stands in the future wouldn't be that disastrous, but with people who you know and who know you, it gives me the chills :(
Keep us posted on how it goes.
Well, the next time that I'll be able to meet with her would be in 3 weeks. But I'll keep this updated if other possibilities for failure/success arise