How can I meet nice girls in my area? (16)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-23 09:04 ID:Heaven

I'm 22, and I don't want to go out with the kind of girls who hang out at bars, clubs, and stuff, as I've never even been to one myself.

No anime clubs here that I know about (aside from high school ones, lol.) No really big cities like New York, LA, San Diego, Boston nearby either. Also, I go to community college, and I really have no classes in common with anyone.

So just where do all the nice girls my age hang out? How can I meet up with them?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-23 09:40 ID:xSXWVXJj

hmm libraries?
ummm cafés ... , actually you should try hanging out somewhere that you enjoy, get into a new hobby or something and go from there, might meet someone =]

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-23 12:00 ID:Heaven

Hey, i'm like the same... i dont like discos and stuff like that, i probably wouldn't even leave the house if not for some anime events and buying things. Anyway, I met my current gf online, and actually she wants to move to me after we visited us alot (~1-2 hours with plane). Shes not so much otaku like me, but she doesnt go out much too, and shes really nice :)
Well, if your not into online stuff i dont know :/

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-24 02:36 ID:4AVqFB3t

Go to church.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-24 03:07 ID:KTxryAtw

Kindergarten, playgrounds etc are all good spots.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-24 03:59 ID:9kBsNMxu

You can't, there are no nice girls!

Actually, you could probably meet them anywhere. Nice girls are everywhere, it is just a matter of sifting through all the dogs first.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-24 04:17 ID:g7Fojy1a

They are anywhere you want them to be.

There really is no one place to go. Take up a hobby and just get out amongst the people. Try new things, take little vacations on weekends.

Be mobile and vocal.

8 Name: Stillwater : 2006-08-24 09:21 ID:LV9k5wvi

>>1
Man, I'm just the same. I'm 23 and I don't have a girlfriend for 3 years now. Evey time I happen to meet a nice girl it always turns out that she already has someone.
I live in a smaller city and there's an anime meeting every week but I can't go there because of my job. It's on fridays from 3pm to 6pm but I work from 9am to 5:30 pm every day so I just can't go to the meeting. :(
I hate discos, but I used to go to a place where there's an "over 22 party" every friday night, but I can't seem to find a nice girl there.
I've tried online dating sites but it failed. Last month I've contacted 20 girls (all of them live close to my place) but it didn't succed. Some of them directly turned me down, others just disappeared without any notice. I'm still in contact with one of them but we didn't meet yet and she even didn't give me her number. :(
I've talked to a lot of people, asking for advice. Everyone tells me that I'm ok both in looks and personality. If that's the case then I really don't know what's wrong with me...
A lot of girls just tell me that "you're nice and you're a good guy but you're not my type."
Going to chuch can be a good idea but how do you accost a girl in a church?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-24 20:10 ID:/tkwFsEQ

>>3

discos??? what is this the 70s? how old are you, 50?

lol

>>8
YOU TOO!

lol mebbe u guys cant get girls cuz u still referring to clubs as Discos.......

srry, just had to pick at it guys

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-24 22:12 ID:Ob2+WAki

>>9
You like to play cool, don't ya? :P
Where I live, they used to refer to clubs as discos.
Anyway I like 80's disco music, but not today's.
Retro rulez!
But this doesn't mean that I only like retro music.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-03 06:27 ID:v7xYReuy

Go outside

12 Name: Shamrok : 2006-09-07 23:59 ID:l0ljPbLW

Dateing Service?

13 Name: Mireille guy !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-08 00:34 ID:EnUDMXpg

Learn to pick up girls anywhere. Keep yourself clean and groomed, and try everything everywhere. What I mean is explore different ways to approach girls. Be sure to be realistic and cool, and never focus on yourself but imagine putting a frame around her, since she's the object of your interest. Start always with a compliment and extrapolate from there. Be creative, but always prepared. Know what to say, practice at home, and project your image with anticipation.

14 Name: Mireille guy !2dC8hbcvNA : 2006-09-08 00:49 ID:EnUDMXpg

Increase your network of people you know and get to know friends of friends. Also try with friends of good friends you know or even friends of close relatives. Going to church is good, and you could get a jumpstart in your spiritual life while expanding your network of trusted people.
"A bubble's no reality. You gotta have a look outside." -Eiffel 65

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-08 03:07 ID:a3WSMo5J

You could always try speed dating. Likelihood there is at least one company in your local area that runs speed dating events. The women that show up to the ones in my area are surprisingly nice, but I seem to have extremely bad luck finding matches there.

But social networks are definitely better. You get more credibility if the girl knows your friend, for all the usual reasons of trust.

16 Name: Bored : 2006-09-12 02:09 ID:Heaven

Write down all your hobbies. Then next to each hobby, write down the kind of places you can go which are related to that hobby.

Your average geek's example will look like this:

Video Games -> game stores, video arcades, net cafes
Books -> bookstores, bookstore cafes, libraries
Manga -> comic stores, bookstores, manga cafes
Anime -> video stores, some bookstores and comic stores
Movies -> video stores, ...the cinema sounds like a bad idea though.
Models -> (no point, because I swear to god there are no women interested in building models.)

But whatever you're interested in, at the end, you should have a list of places you need to visit more, including perhaps some which are listed multiple times. Visit those.

Visiting places alone is a bad idea. Drag a friend along and have them force you to approach the women. I find this is the only way I can motivate myself out of the comfort zone.

There is a lot more advice but it's all commonsense from here on and any basic web site about dealing with women will help with even the geeky type of girl.

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