All good but coflicting advice, the majority of it seems to say i should just go for it

as to flirting suggested by >>8 i do know how to flirt, just have never done it with him because he was not the kind of guy i felt instantly attracted to.
also we live in different towns so i dont know when i am next going to see him.

i like what >>11 says about playing games, because i hate game playing which is why i am thinking about just letting him know how i feel...

there was one instance when i was at his house and his baby brother staretd crying into his shoulder, and i said to our other friend 'this is the effect i have on men' (it was a joke) and then he said 'so what am i?'

i am getting very mixed signals from him, is this because he doesnt 'know how to act and react' around me?