I need advice on how to get rid of crushes. I have this crush and it just wont die. I want the feelings to go away, but they just dont. It consumes my mind.
I have had at least 4 crushes and each time I ignored my feelings and with time they went away. This new crush however wont go away. It only gets stronger every time I see this person. I cant stand it.
Oh yeah and if you haven't guessed already I have no interest in pursuing this person, I just want to destroy my feelings for them. Does that count as love advice?
Just remind yourself that the crush you are feeling is equivilant to cocain and that it evolved in us to make sure that we mated and pair bonded. As long as you remember that you would be doing yourself and the other person a diservice by pursuing a relationship or meaningless sex (probably) you will make the right choice. If you are experiencing withdrawl (as with cocain) and are tempted to get into contact with the person, distract yourself with less intoxicating things (in combination if you have to) candy, video games, work, study (even if your not in school). It won't be fun but you can win. Good luck.
Crushes are triggered by your mind. Believe it or not, your conscious mind. That means that if you actively keep searching for her good points, imaginary situations, or the ways in her attractiveness, then you will feed the "incontrollable" crush, ie. stimulate your brain to produce endorphines and what not that will make you lose your rational mind. Basically, you are practically inducing yourself into a hypnosis to produce chemicals that produce the feelings of stress. It gets to a point where it affects your conscious mind, and your ability to think, and take you into depression.
Make a conscious effort to avoid such thoughts, and as >>2 already pointed out, try to regain homeostasis by having a healthy diet and lifestyle that balances out all the nasty chemicals in your body and add good endorphines to your daily menu (excercise is a good way to secrete endorphines. Sex is an even better one. ;P) Trivia: Did you know that your brain secretes a painkiller stronger and more effective than heroin? >>2 The cocaine simile is not very good tho.
Btw, >>1 I assumed you are a guy, so I'm sorry if I said "her". I was overly objective as well. Women should always be addressed in a more subjective way.
Thanks for the advice. I also checked on wikipedia and talked to a psychologist about it. Yeah and if you must know I am a guy and I am talking about a woman. I think I am finally beating the damn crush. For some reason this one has caused more depression then any of my others.
>> I also checked on wikipedia..
cos u can totally trust wiki..i should know, i edit there sometimes.
>>3
Actually, endorphins are natural form of morphine that your body produces, so the heroin anaology is false.
I heard heroin is metabolized into morphine when it goes into your body so its not entirely fake.
>>10
oh you heard that? clearly your information is superiar
>>3
is that stuff on sale somewhere? drugstores etc.? is it legal?
>>8 I didn't make an analogy. I actually meant that the brain secretes a stronger painkiller than heroin.
>>12 If you wanna get high on chemicals produced by your body, it's totally free. You can start by breaking a bone. Your brain will secrete a lot of naturally ocurring painkillers. You can even hallucinate from the pain. Or you can go to your doctor and ask him to prescribe you Vicodin after you break your bone.