>You need to learn to think on your feet. [...] YOu have to learn to spit out information on the spot. Instinct is very useful.
I totally have to agree with your advice.
Everytime I give short advice, I risk being unclear and incomplete, I shall expand what I said.
My advice was more in the lines of what you said:
>Once you realize you have committed to the situation then think about your next move.
Think about the next move, and act quickly, with instinct. Like you said. The problem is that most people do not have this natural "instinct" of what to do on the move. It doesn't mean they can't have it; it just means they have to practice to develop it.
In TokyoJapan22's case, he could have thought in advance what to do and how to react when meeting his childhood friend. He had time to think of her reaction, think of creative ways of how he should approach or talk to her to quickly catch up and enable further contact (in this case, the point of meeting her was to see if they could meet again in a casual setting or get a contact number to do so). Then, he could have practiced, what do I first do when I see her? Hug her? Lift my hand and say hi? How should she greet me? Hug, kiss, etc. and what is the best way to react? Then, after thinking of the possibilities, imagine the best outcome possible. What should I do to get there, etc? This is what I mean by practice. This is what I mean by wash, rinse, repeat. It develops solid automatic responses that ultimately lead to the best outcome possible in practiced scenarios. Yes, experience is irreplaceable. But with this approach, even very little experience could turn to be invaluable and yield improvements that would not happen otherwise.
Therefore, this is what I mean by rinse, wash, repeat:
-Wash: Plan your thoughts creatively. Find and imagine reactions, outcomes, and responses creatively.
-Rinse: Practice, polish, and perfect. In front of the mirror, aloud, what you should say, how you should move, what motions to do. If a trusted friend can help you, better (I even mentioned before to Benson how to effectively kiss a girlfriend with the excuse of practicing).
-Repeat: Simply reenact what you practiced previously. Everything you practiced should become second nature, just like instinct. Since it's simply repeating what you've practiced before, you will act quicker, with fewer thoughts, and knowing what to do and what to expect.
Doing all this results in a very natural outcome, and also gives a better impression when meeting women. To finish, I was not born with natural instincts or experience (maybe a little intelligence); but rather it was practicing beforehand that has made my dates' outcomes more predictable and my reactions more assertive. In the end, you could say I have experience with girls, but you should understand that learning from experience alone will take you more mistakes, missed opportunities, and a bygone youth.
So ok, my advice was bad. Badly written, and badly interpreted. I hope you agree that practice is not bad tho.