Hi. I don't know where to ask this, and I realize that asking primarily virgins isn't the best place, but I hope someone here can help me out.
The problem I'm having is, when I'm having sex, I cum way too quick, and I can't help it. Once I get going, it's like.. 4 minutes max (I don't really know, it could actually be 2 or 10 minutes) before ejaculating. I feel it coming, and I know when it's going to happen, but it's just an inconvenience because I have to change the condom right after that. Of course, I could leave the condom on and keep fucking, but that pretty much defeats the purpose of a condom. Anyways, can anyone help me out? Oh, and it would it have anything to do with me being 15 (fifteen)? Am I not done with puberty yet or something? Thanks.
-Anon.
Time builds with practice but also having a turnoff helps. If you think you are going cum think of something that would 'soften' you up. That should slow things down. Also I heard some exercise that helps, but I don't know what it is.
Jerk off a bit before you go, it helps, but the only way your going to last is with practice.
Yes, there is an exercise, I read about it somewhere on the net.
You just need to "practice" to last longer. You jerk off, but stop right before you'd cum. Wait a little and then continue. Do this 2-3 times and then you can finish it.
Try to keep your pace steady and count the number of "faps" you do before reaching the top, and watch the time too. This helps you to track the development.
After a few weeks you should notice the change. If you can extend your lasting to 10-12 minutes, you should have no problem with your girl either.
Thinking about something asexual like >>2 said can also help.
Anyway, consider yourself lucky that you can experience sex at your age. You could be an ace in a few years. I'm 23 and still a virgin... and I lack of experience very badly. :(
Look, #1, just because you found out that white stuff comes out of your penis when you touch it the right way doesn't qualify you as having had sex. Sorry to break it to you.
Wow You come toooo fast!
mm..you need to know better women´s body, take your time, touch her , feel her, smell her, but don´t get in so fast...you have to be patient... making love and even just having sex is an art....there is a good book called "the multiorgasm man" you should read it... those men can have orgasms without ejeculate...
Secret admirer are you really a virgin??
wow....that is sad ....for me...are you japanese?? -because I can´t teach you.....-
damn if you were in Mexico you were not longer virgin hahaha---
But anyway, I don't think you should worry. As you get older it'll probably start taking longer and longer, until you need viagra. :p
>>4
Haha, I am 23 and a virgin as well, your not alone. No offence but do you think your good looking? I think I am decent but I usualy take confort over looks when it comes to dressing.
>>wow....that is sad ....for me...are you japanese?? -because I can´t teach you.....-
damn if you were in Mexico you were not longer virgin hahaha---
What the hell does this have to do with the subject?
JEWS
>>11
Yea but watch out, that has been known to enlarge the prostate for some people.
Fifteen year olds know nothing about love. That is the problem. You could slowly seduce the woman and undress her and then make love. But 15 year olds don't make love, they have sex. It isn't the same. What 15 year old boy would take the time to get in the mood with a woman.
>>13 I am 15, I am in love. I have not had "sex" or "made love" but we've fooled around a little. This is the peron I will be with forever. I'll be 16 soon but that doesnt matter, love knows no age. It is an amazing feeling to love someone.
Anon,
It's absolutely normal. First, learn how to put on a condom properly. You do not need to change it after ejaculating. Make sure that you leave a small tip of extra rubber at the front, without leaving any air inside. This makes space for the semen to be stored. You need not remove your penis even after ejaculating. At your age (I'm assuming you're young), kisses and caresses could help you erect quickly after ejaculating (a few minutes, am I right?) Your second try will last longer naturally (I won't explain how parasympathetic nervous system works, I don't know myself. Go and read Wikipedia.).
About lasting longer... It depends largely on how you approach the problem. Asking her to stop so you can catch your breath before you ejaculate is a good way. Try to tackle the problem together (I repeat this over and over). Also, learn how to control the muscles near the anus. You can reach orgasm and yet hold ejaculation if you compress the point between your anus and the back of your testicles. Contracting the muscles around that area will hold your ejaculation, and allow you to continue erect even after an orgasm.
I always took off the condom after sex and if I wanted to go again I put on another. Since the condom is full it can break and a broken condom is not good.
This is the OP here, I have a few things to respond to.
>>13
I believe this is true for many, but doesn't pertain to me.
I didn't include this in the first post, but you should know this.
I've had sex with only a few people, but multiple times, and the most recent time was with a girl 7 years older than me. I know all this probably sounds really farfetched, but believe whatever you want to.
Anyways, these times, it's usually 1~2 hours (a little more maybe, a little less maybe, depends, times like these I'm not really interested in watching the time) of hugging, kissing, caressing, and all that good foreplay stuff. I don't think I could have sex with a girl right away, and I doubt it'd be enjoyable at all. I think part of the problem is as I said before I'm going a few hours touching this and that, and by the time I'm about to have sex, I'm just about ready to burst anyway. If I wanted, I could have sex earlier, but that's just not how it turned out.
>>14
In case someone was confused, this isn't me. Also, you aren't in love, lol.
>>16
Of course I know how to put a condom on properly. Keep in mind, if you already cum, and are having sex after, especially with a lot of movement (or if the girl is on top), it's definitely possible for the semen at the top to move down around your penis and possibly leak out. Keep in mind this is just a possibility, and I'd really like to avoid any risks at my own convenience. Anyways, after I ejacalate, I'm still erect.
>>17
I'm really giving out more info than I'd like in this post, but the condoms were (surprise!) Japanese durex. The condom was already tight enough. The length was alright (I tried two other brands before that, to like, test out how it fit, and they just wouldn't fit at all), but the thing was just really tight around my dick.
I guess that's all, I'd rather if people focus on the question, rather than age. Thanks.
Ok, so... You're bursting when going to have sex. Your answer could lie in focus the beginning of the foreplay in getting you to ejaculate partially, and then go on with the rest of the foreplay. Age is relevant, because testosterone level varies greatly between puberty and your 20's. During puberty you could have the same level of testosterone as a 50 year old or a 30 year old. It increases very quickly and reaches its peak at 20.
Even when it comes to sex, TRAINING MAKES PERFECTION. I've said this before, be creative.
Also, >>18, when you put the condom properly, semen will stay at the tip, and should not move down. If it is still a problem I could suggest putting one of those small rubber bands for hair just below the head, around the neck of the penis. If you are still erect after ejaculating, then I do believe you are 15. Your body is in development, and I really don't know what could increase your stamina. You could ask your pediatrician if you can take the blue pill. I would suggest taking maybe half of it. I believe that with your young metabolism, (and assuming you are healthy) it's safe.
Actually, 15 can already be considered medically an adult. So don't go to your pediatrician asking for Viagra. (That sounds weird by itself.) You can go to your doctor, or even ask about it through someone else. Ask about the effects on a younger adult person.
>>20, 15, it's considered adolescence. It is NOT considered adulthood from any standpoint, as puberty is still in its beginning-intermediate phases. Although by this age most people are able to reproduce, their growth cycle has not yet completed, and they are therefore considered adolescent and NOT adult.
>>It is NOT considered adulthood from any standpoint
Do you know what a Bar Mitzvah is?
Yes, 15 can be considered as adult from the medical point of view. You get adult doses for almost any medication. My point was that Viagra has a strong effect on his circulation, and lower body mass conjoined with developing nervous system around genitalia is my reason for suggesting half a pill. He could take the entire pill if he feels there are no physiological problems.
The only thing still developing in a 15 year old is skeleton and genitalia (increase of sexual hormones). Everything else considered, medically can be approached as an adult.
The best age to reproduce for men is not 15 (as spermatozoids are not yet completely stable and therefore fertility is not at its peak). It's 19-21ish, at the peak of testosterone levels and hormone stability. From a psychological and social standpoint, i agree, he has not reached adulthood.