I have a crush... (11)

1 Name: Liat : 2006-09-21 07:37 ID:YhAYA+uO

I'm typically above the whole "crush" thing, I'm 22 and a college student and have had a couple serious relationships in my time. But this guy has me down to acting highschool... I'm very shy and I've known him since last semester (we had a class together then) but I was preoccupied with getting over my last serious relationship that went down the tubes.

I don't have a class with him, but I see him for about 10 minutes twice a week before a class. That's the tricky part. How do I (as a female) make the guy realize that I'd like to get to know him better without coming on too strong? How do I do this with such a small (and sometimes even uncertain) time to work with?

He doesn't use any instant messaging programs it seems, so that's out of the question. He's younger than me (which I actually LOVE) and we have a lot in common (/b/, video games, books, other general interests, sci-fi junk). I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not, but I don't think so.

I'd really like to invite him to go to a weekend festival with me within the next couple months. I'm not an unattractive girl, but I really hate seeming to come on too strong. I think he might just be shy... I dunno.

Sorry for the wall of text, but I'm at a loss. I don't think he realizes that since I've moved back home, I've lost everyone I had here and he just kinda lights up my day.

I just don't like coming on strong or creepy.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-21 08:20 ID:Heaven

Well how do you see him during those ten minutes? Are you guys like waiting for class to start or osmething? IF so, just go like

"So what calss are you here for?" and start a conversation? Try not to look so nervous. Just be casual. Being nervous gives you away.

3 Name: Liat : 2006-09-21 08:45 ID:YhAYA+uO

I know what class he's coming from and we talk every time.

I'm just not good at reading people or getting something like this out at such a fast pace.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-21 09:20 ID:oJ1s9bdM

just ask him if he wants to grab a coffee or something after class

5 Name: Liat : 2006-09-21 15:05 ID:YhAYA+uO

I'm just really worried about coming on too strong or weirding him out if I read things wrong. I'm really not the sort of person to ask someone else out.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-21 22:48 ID:Heaven

Well just asking him to have a drink with you isn't bad. It's kind of like "Let's hang out sometime." Don't say like "Let's go out." Just say what >>4 said.

7 Name: Liat : 2006-09-22 00:31 ID:YhAYA+uO

The complication on this is that I only see him when I'm on the way to somewhere and I have no idea what his schedule is.

Thanks for your replies. Anymore advice is very appreciated. ; ;

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-22 00:51 ID:tDi4xSDz

If you both peruse /b/, just randomly ask him if he would let you stick it in his pooper. Things will go smooth from there, I guaruntee it.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-22 01:13 ID:Heaven

Asking him for coffee works. Open up with a "Hi, how are you?" ask him if he wants to get coffee after class. He will probably say yes and then tell you when he is done with class. Just keep it causal and you will be fine.

10 Name: Liat : 2006-09-22 01:16 ID:YhAYA+uO

Yeah, I think knowing that we're both pretty desensitized to everything is working to my benefit.

I have a plan now. >:D

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-22 12:11 ID:Heaven

Go the plan.

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