How do you break away from someone you know that's bad for you? (14)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-07 13:08 ID:oZ66LnMT

I see this girl often but I know she's not good for me. I find myself stressed out a lot. I'm the type of person that is never stressed and rarely moping around, but I find myself doing that now. I'm sick of it, but it's hard as fuck to resist temptation. She is fucking me up inside but I am allowing her to do it. Some o f the things she does just pisses me off. She whines to me about some guy for nearly a year, then now after a few months, best friends again? Maybe I'm being a jealous bitch, maybe I'm not, but I do know that I want to be done with it and move on. But that's much easier said than done.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-07 14:29 ID:oZ66LnMT

Actually nevermind. I can take care of it.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-07 22:34 ID:oS9O7aPv

Good for you.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-08 07:03 ID:dx2yTIhw

Out of curiosity, what did you do?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-08 13:35 ID:PrLWmSUt

I told her to fuck off. She was fucking me up in the head, never have I been this stressed out. If she wants to be best friends with her ex, fine, but I don't want to hear or be involved in that shit. Thing is her ex was one of my best friends, and I told him I was trying for her and he decided to make a move anyways. Know what, fuck them both.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-08 15:55 ID:dx2yTIhw

Does she seem like she cares about you though? I'm kind of in a similar situation, except I'm the girl and I'm wondering what the guy's going to do. Hopefully he doesn't tell me to fuck off?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-09 13:20 ID:P/1qV9XY

She probably did, not that it matters now. She became good friends again with her ex that treated her like absolute shit, that boggles my mind. How is it even logical that someone would do something like that? If you've noticed, yes, I am bitter. I "lost," I didn't get the girl, but I don't regret what I've done. I think both of them are full of shit and I wish them the worst in whatever they do.

Doing something like that, what does that say about me? We were going good for a long time, but everything changed when she started going to the same school as her ex and seeing him on a daily basis. She made her decision and I know the same thing is just going to happen. If you just heard some of the shit she talked to me about an entire year and a half after the breakup, it just boggles my mind why someone would go back to someone like that.

I don't understand it, and maybe I wasn't in the right about the situation, and maybe I even overreacted, but I do know it was stressing me out big time and that's something I never need. Nothing much you can do besides try to move on. I'll feel like crap for a week because both of them were really good friends, but I'll get over it.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-09 14:17 ID:J8DgmlOy

How did he treat her like shit? If you don't mind my asking. Are you less bitter now? Would you take her back if she begged you to?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-09 17:26 ID:F1COanAY

To put it in short, he basically used her for when he wanted some action. Nothing more. She wanted more, but he blocked her calls, avoided her, etc. She was really hurt by it and it affected her greatly because it was her first real relationship. I was there for her as a friend, I don't and never will expect anything for it. I would have done the same for any of my other friends.

I am actually less bitter now. If being with him makes her happy, then that's cool, but don't expect me to be there again when it all falls down. And I know it will, because I know how this guy is. We were hitting it off really good but when he got in the picture it almost all fell apart, maybe what we had wasn't as strong as I thought it was.

I am not much for begging. No one has to beg to me and I won't beg to them. If she ever wanted to give it another go for me and her, I would strongly consider it, but in the end I would force myself to say no. I know I would get hurt again. If she so easily changes her feelings, who's to say it won't happen again? I am a nice guy, but I don't let people take advantage of that. You can't play with my emotions and expect me to be cool with it.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-16 07:03 ID:7BQX57cl

Just up and leave. Mind games are the shit. Take control of things and do what's right for YOU.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-16 08:13 ID:ewOSUf1y

>>9

Sometimes these relationships bounce a bit before they settle in separation. Think of it like a basketball bouncing to a rest.

On the other hand, she might just end up in a vicious cycle. My wife was like that with an ex for a while. He would cheat on her and she would come back to him. Fortunately, I was the one that broke the cycle for her.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-01 07:22 ID:ZmcHa3If

Well, I am glad you told her off and dropped her. I hope you are so much more calmer and unstressed.

13 Name: Ajikan Blue : 2007-02-02 22:24 ID:9JJmQjjd

Well i got here late but good work, i kind of had the same situation which took me at least 5 months to sort out > <

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-04 08:24 ID:tcGdDQiN

Stop calling. Stop meeting up. Just do it, you idiot. If someone is bad for you STAY AWAY. Why do you keep slamming your hand down on the hot stovetop? Simple: you're a moron, and you think there's nobody else out there for you. You deserve it.

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