Screwed up... (24)

1 Name: (miss half) : 2006-10-18 19:19 ID:oqbZBeCB

Ok, before I get on with the story, I need to ask that anyone reading this keep an open mind, because my problem is centered around soul mates, and past lives, and not everybody believes that these things exist.

Anyway, to the problem:
I have been told that I am an 'old soul', meaning I've been reencarnated several times. In one of these past lives, I'm positive, I met my soul mate. Normally somthing to be happy about. Well.....
Fast foreward to this life. I'm 19 year old girl, and I only just realised that this is the reason that I cant date people....its as if none of them can make me as happy as I was in that past life. I want to find my soul mate. No one else will do. I believe he is living right now, or I wouldent be feeling this tug...I say he, because I'm 75% sure that he's a boy in this life, and I'm pretty sure he is doing through what I am, and maybe, just maybe, he's trying to find me as well...
What do i do? Theres a little over 6 billion people in the world, and I have to find one. You dont know how awful it is, missing someone when youve never met them, never talked to, dont even know that they look like......it really sucks.
So, any advice? (Can you even help me?)

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-18 19:54 ID:Heaven

>I have been told that I am [...]

Don't believe everything that's told to you...

>keep an open mind

No, you. Open-mindedness is not listening to hippies who probably smoke weed when you're not around.

Seriously, that which makes two people want to live with each other for the rest of their lives is the moments they've shared together, their personalities, etc. not because they are "destined to each other by a higher being" or something like that. People "become" soul mates, they aren't that from the beginning.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-18 19:55 ID:ZkOkp4hh

There is no such thing as a "past life". I feel the same way sometimes when I'm lonely, that there's someone out there who is the 100% perfect girl for me and I need to find her, but it's a delusion. This is a psychological trap which you will never be able to break out of if you believe that. If you're constantly worrying whether someone is "the" right guy for you, you will never meet the right guy. Rid yourself of your excess baggage and look for someone new.

4 Name: (miss half) : 2006-10-18 20:17 ID:oqbZBeCB

sigh Ok, I did not come here for critcisms on my personal beliefs. Past life was not the point of my question.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-18 21:21 ID:xXT0EHPQ

There is indeed just one perfect guy for us all...

Unfortunately it's a bit hard to share him between all of us

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-18 23:07 ID:qYdgI910

If he is your soul mate, you will find him; worrying about it just throws a wrench in the whole thing. ;) Don't doubt your inner feeling. Go with the flow. It is my personal opinion, however, that you shouldn't avoid dating altogether - it's a great way to get to know who people really are! Think about what I've said, but don't dwell on it - I'm trying to help you progress!

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-19 05:31 ID:Heaven

God, I'm male and I'm 75% sure my soulmate is a guy. That's even more screwed up than yours!

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-19 06:55 ID:Heaven

>>4

seriously, what did you expect?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-19 20:06 ID:Heaven

Yeah. A realistic advice would be to get over your naiive belief in a soulmate.

Unrealistically, if you're destined to be together, then you shouldn't worry. Things will work out. Just sit back and let fate work things.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-19 20:39 ID:9hKUJeHX

>> I want to find my soul mate. No one else will do.

LOL This kind of attitude leads to the desperate, lonely and depressed life that a lot of people has.
I just don't understand these girls... They just dump ALL guys, no matter how good they are because they're not her "soul mates". They even don't care if they get along very well...
This is pure bullshit. Ok, assume that "soul mates" does exist. But what if your soul mate lives in a native tribe of Africa or something?
This whole soul mate stuff is only another reason for women to dump men. If you get along well, you wouldn't want to dump them because you're not "soul mates". That just doesn't make sense.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-20 00:16 ID:Heaven

>> This whole soul mate stuff is only another reason for women to dump men.

I don't think that's necessarily true. Most people (girls, in your case) believe that a soulmate is someone that completely get along well and everything just clicks and most importantly, they care for each other deeply.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-20 17:25 ID:xXT0EHPQ

Right so, lets think about this shall we?

Your soulmate is one of sveral billion. In the past You claim to have met them. Even if it's a long time in the past, they were still 1 out of many millions, unless we are talking about waaaaaaay back when true love was a guy hitting the girl over the head with a big stick (Isn't it still?) Anyway this leads me to conclude: You have already met your soulmate you lucky bitch, be happy. How many of us out here do you think never will in this or any other fuggin' life. This is the true argument against overpopulation. Heh, just be happy you met them the once, or if you want to do something, try saving the planet from human overexploitation so that you have a chance of meeting them in a later life.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-20 20:23 ID:s0sb3Bao

I'll try and keep an open mind. Your beliefs center around the idea that you have 1 person among all people in the world that you're compatible with. If he is truly your soulmate he will feel the same way. Since you believe in reincarnation I assume you also believe in a higher power or divine authority. I doubt that your creator intends you to be completely miserable for the rest of your existence. A creator will naturally love their creation or they would never bother creating. Have faith that your creator has put you in a position where you will meet your divine soul mate. Try to find hope and be happy.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-20 22:29 ID:xXT0EHPQ

If my creator didn't want me to be miserable why the hell am I posting here on a friday night?

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-20 22:54 ID:Heaven

my soulmate appears to be a dog.. sux even more than >>7..

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-21 02:12 ID:jjSa2XCv

My soulmate is 2 years old. So I'll have to wait another 14 years until I can fuck her, and by then I'll be a dirty, 40 year old man.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-21 14:38 ID:Heaven

My soulmate is an ant... we'll never get to have relations. :(

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-22 07:37 ID:I+GVJJng

squish it so it can come back in a human form sooner

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 03:58 ID:8GoVcJIQ

my advise is: get a grip of reality

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 06:21 ID:I+GVJJng

Then again, what would you do if a beauful girl comes up to you and says, "You.. umm. I think you're my soulmate from a past life. In fact, I'm certain about it, so.... lets consummate our love, now.. please?"

Let's see you say: "get a grip of reality, bitch"

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 10:18 ID:8xw5Dgkz

>>20
Of course he only said that because he isn't directly affected by her. :p

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 10:43 ID:xAR0lJ85

Seriously, if this is what you are worrying about when going into relationships, I don't see how it can work out. Good relationships are hard, and don't happen by accident. You get a long way there by finding someone similar, but you still have to learn a heck of a lot about them. There is no magic.

23 Name: Down and Out : 2006-11-02 22:28 ID:esrLe6aR

>>1 I kind of understand your feeling (and I was also told I'm an old soul too, considering how the person who kind of told me that she 'saw' that my pool of knowledge seems deep, and you dont get this in just a few reincarnations). If what you say is true, and I'm not discarding the possibility of it, that guy from the distant past have become your ideal partner. While in the book of fates you were given the chance to meet and be with him. Things have changed and you are no longer to meet this person. And of course we don't know how long since you met this guy in one of your past life. You could have many reincarnations already. If so then perhaps in all of them you have done much the same as you have done now in searching for The Relationship. I think maybe now is a way fo telling you to let this soulmate go and attempt to find a new person.
If you wanna talk about this more, give me a heads up at ultimatedarknessreborn@gmail.com, coz this aint exactly a place to get sympathy and understanding from. (well, it's true aint it? there's been more ridicule here than understanding).

24 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-11-03 04:07 ID:r7Ct/ern

OP.....I say keep at it! You might sound like an idiot overreacting now but then you'll never what'll happen if you don't search for your soulmate. Life's about taking chances, I myself have done many things in my life I regret but I gained something in return, experience and learned more about myself than I did before. So I say to you OP, go where you please to go. Don't let anything stop you from achieving your goal of true love!

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