Never had a serious relationship. How does a friend become a girlfriend? (23)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 02:07 ID:ruh4o2bP

Let me give you some background. After 18 years, I have finally met a girl who has become a close friend. Neither she nor I have ever been in a relationship. Both of us are insanely shy. Right now, we are great friends and we understand each other, and I think it's fantastic. But the thing is, insofar as "ladders" exist we are both on each other's friend ladders. I am pretty sure that she doesn't want to be my girlfriend, so I have to half-heartedly go looking around with my other acquaintances.

It has only just occurred to me after meeting her that I don't know how friends become a couple. I've watched a lot of anime where the guy just approaches the girl and says, "I love you," but I've never heard anyone actually say that. I am skeptical that anyone could react positively to that. So, I am calling upon the wisdom of 4-chers who have been in a serious, lengthy relationship. How did it start? Were you teasing each other from the beginning, or was there a sudden change in your friendship? When did you know you had a girlfriend (or boyfriend)?

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