I'm bored, so I decided to make a little survey here on 4-ch: How old were you when you lost your virginity?
If you're a virgin, just write that, together with your current age and gender ofcourse.
Me: 17 years old, male and virgin
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You?
>>121
Not really. There have been only 2 men i have actually really fell for. One liked another girl but she didn't like him because he was too "feminine", he wasn't, he was just nerdy. And the second was.... GAY. "bold" and "manly" doesn't work for me.
>>123
Wow. So there are still a few of your kind around?
That's some sort of relief. Guess I'll have to look harder.
Female, 14, virgin
>>122
Same here, I think that'd be major awkward. Besides, I'm practically marriage-phobic.
>>125
Me too... now that I've had one fail on me it has solidified my beliefs that it's just a piece of paper.
I guess in the end you still don't understand what is marriage, if you think it's just a piece of paper. Well,... at least it's a progress, if your previous belief was that marriage was a guarantee of eternal love/enduring relationship.
Actually, it's supposed to be the proof that you're ready to endure hardships and make compromises the day something happens, in order to save your couple, because you judge it's that important. If you don't do that, it'll fail, obviously, and was useless from the start.
Marriage is a legal contract.
>>128
Even if you do that, if the other person doesn't it's still useless.
In any case this is proof of what I was saying. You can promise these things outside of marriage. Marriage does nothing on top of what you already have if you both trust each other in the first place, except adding one piece of paper and making it very painful and paperwork heavy if you do break up later.
>>132
The fact that it's heavy is here to remind you that it's not something to be taken lightly.
21, virgin
19 years old, female. Lost it when I was 16.
>>133
When you're on the way into the marriage, you don't know how heavy the paperwork is. So by the time it gives your so-called reminder, it's a little too late. Like 4-5 years too late, in my case.
>>120
I'm trying to find a girl like you myself. It's the same situation for us guys. except we get attacked by women if we want the same.
female. lost it at 14 and im 16 now. england
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28, male, virgin.
32, male, virgin
15 virgin (but have had sexual relationships.)
>>143 fucked himself with a rusty pipe. it doesnt count as sexual relationship!!
Lost at 20....have had lots of practice with the same girl, actually bruised her pelvis last time, kinda felt bad :p
16, female, virgin (but I had a sexual relationship with a girl)
23, 24 soon. Virgin. Was originally a Christfag who wanted to wait. Probably wouldn't have if I hadn't been in a long-distance relationship and it went sour before we were around each other too often. I thought a lot about my reasons for why I didn't want to have sex, which led to me thinking about what sex means to those who engage in it. As long as I am unaware of what it means to another and as long as I'm unaware of what it would mean to myself, I won't engage in it with a person, in order to avoid any sort of drama.
Furthermore, I often wonder what effect my having sex will have on future partners, especially if I decide to get married in the future.
tl;dr It's a serious issue for me that I have to consider for each situation I'm in.
>>147 To clarify, this doesn't mean I won't have sex, and it doesn't necessarily mean that I won't have sex with someone I only know casually. It means I need to explore things first.
23, male, virgin
i havent even made out with a girl ;_;
16, female, virgin, but guys have been under my bra and I've had my hands in their pants before.
17, male, virgin.
Do I care?
HELL YES I DO.
19 almost 20,male,virgin
I wonder how it feels...
lost it at 20. male
lost it in a change room in a swimming pool when it was closed
19, almost 20, male and virgin.
I think I might just start telling people that I'm waiting until I'm married.
This is embarrasing.
>>149 It's not that great the first few times, really. I think a lot must depend on who the people involved are. (Not saying experience is the key, though I do think that plays a part, but that I think personality and interests/desires have a lot to do with it.)
>>154 Why are you waiting, if not to be married? Something like me in >>147 ? If you just want to get laid, period, I'm sure it cant' be That difficult. Or are you picky about their looks, interests, etc?
>>155 I has a twin? Tell me more.
>>156
I'm reclusive and don't really handle myself very well in any social situations.
Also, I'm not really waiting. I'm just thinking I might start telling people that so that they don't look down on me for being a virgin at this age.
>>156
I'm 17, make and the reason I've been so long without sex (forever) was because of Christian reasons and not wanting to go to hell. Now I'm not too religious any more I've sort of lost site of why I really don't want to have sex.
I'm a little worried about the emotional side of sex really entails and whether I'm ready for it or not. Just got out of an LDR where we basically committed ourself to each other.
I want to lose it, but not just to anyone.
>>154 I'm told that being a virgin at older ages may attract women to you (not sure how true that is), and I have seen several people express respect for those who have kept it. In other words, if you're a "nice guy" or "good guy" type, it could work to your benefit in the long run. (Maybe. I've also heard a bit about girls wanting experience. We need some women here for input.)
But yeah, if you seriously wanted to get laid, being a social recluse isn't your problem. You can learn some very basic social and networking skills, go to some parties, and you won't have great difficulty getting sex if you aren't particularly picky, I imagine. There are a number of willing girls. (Perhaps shooting for younger ages {Read 18-20} will provide you with better chances, as they may be less focused on school.)
>>156 Completely understand your situation. The whole dilemma about what emotional effects will result, thoughts about performance with "that one person" (If you believe in that sort of thing to any degree. Even if it's just the first/next very long-term relationship you have.), their potential response to your past activities (and the variables of how recent or far back they were/are), the general desire for sex, and the potential of emotional connection it can bring.
Sex is no easy topic.
As for the long-distance relationship: Might I advise against those in the future? I've had and seen very terrible endings in the majority of them. If you know each other face to face for a long time before going LDR it's one thing, but if not.. wow the results.
17 year old male: When I was 16 to a 19 year old girl hehe.
20, virgin, same as >>156, but on the verge of eating a shotgun shell over it. I've never even had a girlfriend and as far as I know women don't look at me.
>>But yeah, if you seriously wanted to get laid, being a social recluse isn't your problem.
No, it's exactly the problem.
Speaking as a social recluse myself, it's not like a food preference that you can just overcome with determined exposure. There's no will to change. Sure, you can "learn some very basic social and networking skills" (and in my case, a few steps beyond), but there is no conceivable situation in which you would actually want to apply them. Social situations, when they arise, are obstacles to be overcome so you can get back to your solitary sphere of comfort.
That sphere is where you need to be. Need, not want. People who aren't social recluses can't even begin to imagine what it's like, and shouldn't try to dismiss it as a simple matter of choice.
I don't see what the big deal is if you're a virgin at 20ish years of age. 25+ would raise my eyebrows a bit.
24?
>>162 Tell us about what you think makes you unattractive, as well as your positive points. (Perhaps I'll make a new topic about this.)
>>163 I'm speaking as a social recluse who is slowly making his way into society. Furthermore, you don't have to give up being a recluse in order to get laid, you just have to pick up enough social skills to gather interest, be it from other social recluses, virgins, or whomever.
>> 164 Why is 25 such a big deal? I'll be 24 in a matter of months.
>>Furthermore, you don't have to give up being a recluse in order to get laid, you just have to pick up enough social skills to gather interest, be it from other social recluses, virgins, or whomever.
Good luck finding them, though.
And personally, I don't care about sex, but I wouldn't mind a long-term relationship. That being said, I hate social activities, so my odds of ending up in one are about the same as the odds of a beautiful girl falling out of the sky or emerging from my television set.
Lol all you virgins, sex is not a big deal..my first time was like :" is THAT IT?" Afterwards it gets better, but sex is not life...
>>167
(For some reason I thought of Sadako there.)
Lost that bitch recently!
good lookin.
PS. I been every where but bangin till bout a week o two ago.
Lost that bitch recently!
good lookin.
PS. I been every where but bangin till bout a week o two ago.