How do I break up with my girlfriend who i dont want to speak to anymore? (35)

1 Name: jack_of_spades : 2006-12-05 11:51 ID:QL05JdC+

i want to break up with my girlfriend... I have stretched my patience for so long and i'm so sick of having to hear her complaints about everything i do for her... everytime that we're together, i hear nothing but complaints... im not doing this right, im not making her feel comfortable... everytime im with her, i feel so useless... she makes me feel so bad about myself... Ive stopped talking to her after an argument... that was a few days ago... and now that ive been able to think... my mind is clear... I cant take it anymore... i want to break up... but theres another problem... another reason why i want to break up is because she's always silent when we have a serious discussion... when its about us... its like she has no say... how do i talk to her when she wont answer me?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-05 16:24 ID:Heaven

most ridiculous topic ever I suppose..

why am I replying in this topic anyways? >_<

just go to her and say it's all over.
just walk away unless she wants to hear why.

see? isn;t that hard.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-05 19:10 ID:0rPDLqJ7

if you dont wanna talk to her, just leave her a note or something. or a voicemail. or something like that. most likely she will come to you and ask about it, and you just tell her plain and simple that it is over. easy, done.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-05 19:23 ID:Af4cSL/J

dont leave her a voicemail or note. that is dumb. ask her to meet you at a coffee shop or some quiet PUBLIC place. tell her that it is not working out and you want to end it. and then leave. if you do it in a public place, there is less of a chance that she will go postal.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-05 20:41 ID:Heaven

Why don't you talk any more? This entire period of not talking to each other should be a harbringer of something bad to happen. I would not suggest a note or something like that because that's just being shady. Breaking up with someone is a big event for both parties involved. It should be done in person. So if you want to end the relationship, you're going to have to do something about it. Otherwise only further miscommunication or misinterpretation will continue.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-07 06:06 ID:FRZkg4Qg

don't break up with any one via notes or voice messages. its too cruel.

7 Name: leopard : 2006-12-07 14:57 ID:C37zKtat

hey, my gf and i have been arguing for the last couple of months and i dont think we can work this out.. i find her actions immature. all she cares about is me looking after her all the time. she does not want me hanging around my friends unless she is with me, she asks my friends if i am going out with somebody else, she checks my cell and emails and ask me who the person is.. and she wants me to not go through my career cuz she is scared of me doing that.. and i am kinda tired of it.. i dont want to hurt her but i cant take this anymore..

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 09:13 ID:KIOusQLq

No watter what you say it is going to hurt, there is no painless way to break up with someone. If she were breaking up with you, do you think she would hesitate to think of how it was going to hurt you?

It is very simple, tell her that you no longer desire her or her company and that you see no future for the two of you. It is honest and brief, no lies about trying to be friends because that seldom happens and it only makes it more difficult. Clean breaks are best for both sides.

As a female, that is how I feel and would prefer to be dumped.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 11:26 ID:qlL347W1

Start trying to set her up on dates with others guy.

That'll give her the message.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 11:40 ID:PzQRmZeh

Tell her to fuck off. No need to be nice about it.

11 Name: leopard : 2006-12-11 19:23 ID:C37zKtat

hey guys,
i told my gf that i don't want be with her anymore because what all is happening. she told me that if i leave her she will kill herself. i have no idea what to do now. i didnt want to hurt her to begin with now i will really hurt her if i do.

12 Name: gigi : 2006-12-11 19:31 ID:xQ6i6Fu8

>>11 That is horrible! My friend's boyfriend did the same thing. The "if you leave me I will kill myself" thing. It's awful because you never know if they really will do it.

I say tell her parents or friends about this and break up with her anyway. That way you'll be out of this unhealthy relationship and her friends/family will be watching her for suicide.

I hope that works...I don't envy your situation. >_<

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-11 20:48 ID:KIOusQLq

You should still break up and this is all the more reason to. If she is that unstable it is for the best, but I would also tell someone about how she is talking about killing herself so that they can get her some help.

14 Name: leopard : 2006-12-11 21:45 ID:C37zKtat

i just dont know who to tell. her parents live like 2 hours away and she just moved into this town so she doesn't know a lot of people. just scared if something happened to her, i would never be able to forgive myself.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-12 00:05 ID:KIOusQLq

She won't kill herself, people like that never do. I would be most worried about her becoming obsessed like a stalker. People who make those threats tend to stalk their exes.

16 Name: leopard : 2006-12-12 20:56 ID:C37zKtat

one of my friends' gf said the same thing and when he left her she sliced her wrists, i am scared of her doing that.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-13 07:11 ID:EYS/TIQ5

Crazy ass bitch!

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-13 07:48 ID:FRZkg4Qg

damn , thats a bind. This one goes beyond logic, find an experienced indivisual and consult with or something.

19 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2006-12-13 15:20 ID:zyxhUAUa

So two people? Jack of Spades and Leopard different people?

Frigid Onanoko wondering about problem of >>1 Jack.. How you see this relationship? making her feel comfortable? having serious conversations? part about serious conversation is ambiguous, FO no understand what you mean: She silent but listening or just not really participating?

Yah.. nr>>2 not very nice! NO! you not very nice, you shame!

Sometimes things no work out. You too unclear about situation to properly analyze. Try again, nr>>1, but this time communicate better. board floats on communication!

For Leopard.. Frigid Onanoko now really wanna know - what IS your career??!! FO not hoping your situation gonna happen to self... poor guy, you...

Thinking of solution. have to think through, consider pro, consider con, consider chance of success. Hope to give good advice, cannot guarantee. (of course I can't)

Frigid onanoko.. bye now!!
-good luck you two

20 Name: leopard : 2006-12-13 18:00 ID:C37zKtat

i want to go to the army.. i want to go to a war..

21 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2006-12-15 03:43 ID:zyxhUAUa

Aha. you want to go to a war. It is at war where man frequently finds out what it is in life that wants to protect. The threat of death, the insecurity of it all.. The ulterior goal that you find so shallow after becoming disillusioned with the reasons for the war, the methods of the war,.. The army will make a man out of you, strong - tough, lean - lasting. In the army, as you set out to patrol together, get attacked by insurgents, it is there that you find out the true meaning of friendship, the one that can't be described by words.

At war, that is where you will find what it is that you want to protect: that what you have, that what you love. Nothing more, that is enough.

*??? What? whaaaa!!!! what am saying??! Frigid Onanoko miss the most important part to say first!! YOU IDIOT - Who wants to go to a war?? DREAMBOY!!!

my argument is: Duh! serious. Did you know that to go to war, you have to first make war? and for what reason do you go to war?

OK. Frigid Onanoko back to Love&Romance topic now... FO agree with your girlfriend to try and stop you to go to army. Me thinking she desperate at trying to. Two options for you:

1) You want to go to the army. You really want to go to the army for the reasons: a) yadayada. b) bladibla c) yidiyidi.
Reason a) (yadayada) is the most important, you might not even need the others. BUT! you can defend it with good reasons. When you tell anyone about it, you don't use any '..' in your explanations and definitely not in "i want to go to a war.." or "cuz i just really want to.." if you know what I mean. You need to be convinced about going to the army. If you convince your gf that you absolutely will and want to go to the army, she understands that there is no point in stopping you.

2) Frigid onanoko don't think you able to do that. You could try, but it likely not work out as planned. Then better other option. You not go to army. You go to college instead. FO really advise that. Option 1 is more like tragedy solution.

Me write too much for idiot already. bye now.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-15 07:25 ID:Heaven

war...what is it good for?...absolutely nothing

23 Name: leopard : 2006-12-18 20:24 ID:C37zKtat

well i really dont know if i would go to war, but i really do wanna be in the army..anyways.. my gf yesterday told me that she does not like my friend because they drink and does not want me hanging around them.. its almost like she wants to control me.. i dont know..

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-18 21:14 ID:gZp4fVCQ

>>22
economic strength
the advancement of peaceful technology
improving the quality of life in the victorious countries
increasing the stability of the region and perhaps the world
etc, etc

war is good for lots of things

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-19 06:34 ID:OzPDye9q

>>23

it's so simple. of course she doesn't want you to drink. so, if you don't, make it very clear that you won't.

by reading your posts, it's crystal clear your relationship lacks SPACE + TRUST. now, you can still be closeclose just explain to her you would like her more if she would trust you a bit, respect you a bit more, and even if she doesn't like your friends, remind her they are yours.

if you still like HER, but just don't like how she has been ACTING LATELY, please try talking to her in like, the coolest way ever. wait a bit, and if things still suck well...break it off.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 13:26 ID:Heaven

this thread is lol

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-22 23:57 ID:r8gWN3e+

OP - your writing sucks. Use a period between sentences, not '...'

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-23 01:07 ID:Heaven

...

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-23 08:38 ID:Heaven

>>27

you mean ELLIPSES?

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-23 17:47 ID:Heaven

>>27
Thanks you for bumping this thread with this insightful comment on OP's post.

I hate you.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-28 04:49 ID:Heaven

Seriously wtf >>27

This thread is 3 years old and you are commenting on the ellipses.

32 Name: Jason bray : 2009-09-02 22:10 ID:RD8gZA5I

did i ever say, the reason my girlfriend finished me, was because everytime we had sex, she passed out
i have a 12" penis

ooooooooooooooooooooh yeah

jellyuous?

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-09-05 20:10 ID:Heaven

>>32

I thought you only used your penis one time...

34 Name: Obama Bin Ladam Hussein : 2009-12-25 08:57 ID:jLq5WJId

Yea, my girlfriend is a psycho, too. I just put up with it now because I don't wanna deal with it. Tried breaking up with her in public but she doesn't mind throwing a fit and looking like white-trash. I tried breaking up with her by phone/email/letter but she comes to my house and tracks me down and doesn't let me be until I give in. She pulls the whole "I'll kill myself without you" thing, too. Now I just pretend I'm happy, all my freinds want to throw her on a boat to China, and I am just happy for every second I can get away from her. Now I know what people mean when they say "life sucks". I'm gonna try cheating on her this weekend and then telling her and seeing if she'll break up with me. Keep your fingers crossed!

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-25 13:19 ID:Heaven

>>34
Break up with her and call the cops if she harasses you dumbass. Do you have no pride?

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