Free Coffee (24)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-07 21:26 ID:pkk7Knw+

So last night after I got off work, I decided to get a hot drink at the Caribou Coffee right next door. I ended up getting two free large white chocolate mochas because the lil' Asian cashier girl thought I was cute, and she said that I should come in more often. Serious good karma.

I'm sure I can get the digits quickly (I'm good at that), but I'm wondering where I should ask her out to because I almost always offer to go get a cup of tea at a cafe for the first date. However, in this case that would be very... lame, considering she works at a cafe. I am against going out to eat on the first date, because in my experience it makes the girl think you're trying to buy her approval, soooo I am honestly not sure what to do.

Help me out, Secret Admirers, I'm at a loss!

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-07 21:30 ID:+Q94ywG/

Ask her out to a game of bowling.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-07 23:07 ID:3V5HRiau

The movies, or a play, or the symphony or the ballet, or the opera. There are more options then you think!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 07:50 ID:pkk7Knw+

>>2
A game of bowling? That's actually a cute idea... too bad that our area has like, absolutely no bowling alleys (fuck East Atlanta). I dunno, maybe I can find one.

>>3
Don't you think it would be odd to take a girl out to the OPERA or the SYMPHONY on a first date? That's a good bit over-the-top.

Come now, what's a good way of saying "Say, listen, when do you get off work? I know this great ----------- that we should go to for some stimulating conversation; you seem like an interesting person." (That's usually what gets me the first date)

...Wait, would getting sushi at a trendy little Japanese joint ($10.00 for a full meal) right near our respective workplaces be okay? Would that seem like I was trying to buy her approval?

5 Name: MG : 2006-12-08 09:32 ID:Heaven

coffee is good, but don't mention her work. coffee does not mean work. whatever is more comfortable for you works

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 17:54 ID:nBkJAL9C

Movie is fine...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 19:30 ID:Gm1JerLt

>>4
Just go somewhere where you can both have a sit and enjoy a nice talk. Coffees, restaurants, a not-so-crowded park even.
The Japanese joint sounds like a nice idea, if you're afraid she'll get the idea you're buying her, you can always have lunch with her, but the trendy joint seems to do it, it's not too shabby nor too special to give that impression. Informal places are the key here.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-10 06:23 ID:Heaven

>>East Atlanta

It's over.

9 Name: Severin : 2006-12-20 06:32 ID:pkk7Knw+

Well, got the digits finally (our schedules just haven't crossed this past week), and am kinda leaning towards asking her out to this little pub in another part of town for a drink... what think you?

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 07:30 ID:Heaven

"how bout a little coffee?"

"i hope you clean, bitch"

gta: san andreas has taught you everything you need to know here. go!

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 16:49 ID:w/gEA25S

>>4
>>7

Signed.

A nice meal does not suggest trying to "buy" the affections of someone. In fact, I had never considered that. It sets the tone as a nice (hopefully quiet) atmosphere to get to know the other. I know my boyfriend took me out to an incredibly nice little Italian bistro for our first date. It was very sweet, quiet, and romantic.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 21:19 ID:SW4YUvsK

take her paintballing.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-02 16:11 ID:QhFxc/m5

I have always enjoyed first dates in a park feeding ducks or birds near a pond. Take some fruit for yourselves and a loaf of bread for the birds and find a seat. Very relaxing, romantic and non-threatening :)

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-02 20:43 ID:ZMTqHfVs

Try casually bringing up what she likes to do, then following that up with the date. Like:

"So what are you into, sexy lady?"
"Hmm, well I like video games, anime, and cooking..."
"Cool, me too. Wanna go to the arcade this weekend?"

lol

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-03 04:01 ID:iSLAWFUa

Whatever may be in season. A park, museum or something like that is fine. My gut feeling tells me that I should really just be kind of direct.

"All right, I was going to ask you if you wanted to grab a cup of coffee or something, but you do that all the time. So I was thinking of something completely opposite. So I've decided on a bar. But if that's no good, then we can compromise and have hot chocolate in the park."

Somehow, that's probably wrong because I've never really approached a girl with much success.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-03 07:16 ID:mKQs/vVb

>>15 lol it sounds like you're telling her she's going instead of asking her to

17 Name: fart man : 2007-01-03 10:28 ID:8XhKZxmN

>>1
u should pull ur cock out of ur pants, grab it and swing it hard right in front of the girls face and say...(>>15 quote
"All right, I was going to ask you if you wanted to grab a cup of coffee or something, but you do that all the time. So I was thinking of something completely opposite. So I've decided on a bar. But if that's no good, then we can compromise and have hot chocolate in the park."

18 Name: wandering jack : 2007-01-10 23:21 ID:zrxRGCXB

a bar is nice just if you want it this to be a romantic relationship i would think it would have to be semi private or quiet something that could to the atmosphere. do not to be afraid of taking her somewhere else that may seem not the best idea other then that good luck

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-24 01:53 ID:pkk7Knw+

Went to lunch with her the other day; things went all right, but will definitely need a second date to see what's up. She is DAMN cute though and pretty intelligent, although I get the feeling she's been a stereotypical "good little Asian girl" all her life (high achiever in school and job, but not much socially).

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-24 12:16 ID:Heaven

>intelligent

leave her NOW.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-25 04:28 ID:B+pWYa0L

>>19
hey well.. if you're not into her...

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-25 04:48 ID:0ctmlHWT

Print out and memorise:

You: Hi there.
Her: Hi. awkward silence.
You: Say, I've been coming here for a while, and I was thinking...I would really like to take this relationship further.
Her: Uh..I already said no.
You: Today is opposite day. It must be. No girls have refused me so blatantly before. It makes me want you all the more.
Her: Blush.
You: I will never stop asking until you say yes. Here, I have something for you. Take out letter.
Her: A..love letter?
You: Yes, a love letter.
Her: Swoons from your old fashion courting.
You: I want you to deliver it to this special person. Turn over letter so that her name is showing. Seal it and stamp it for me please.
Her: Licks envelop slowly and provocatively. I'll make sure she gets it. Does it by any chance, have a return address?
You: I won't let you send it back. Please don't dent my pride.
Her: I mean, so that I..she..can return the love back to the sender.
You: Oh sure. In that case the address is: 1 In Your Pants, YOUR HOME, 53X1.
Winkwink
Her: Giggles. Take me to the address after my shift. BlushBlush.
You: Indeed.

23 Name: fart man : 2007-01-25 07:31 ID:8XhKZxmN

>>19
next time u smile smile and smile. not many pple hate a person who smiles a lot. and try to entertain her.

choose the place where u go carefully. dont go to karaoke or shit like that. u shouldnt miss the chance to talk to her because u r singing all the time.

clubing might be a good idea, i gess. u dont have to be such a good dancer, because the idea here isnt matter of how well u dance.
usurally music is on very loud in clubs, and every time u talk to her, u would need to talk close to her ears, which may make her feel comfortable being with u much quicker.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-26 09:02 ID:Heaven

>>23
lol!

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