Problem mentioned above. I never really thought I'd have a crush on teacher. Had some nice and good-looking female teachers before, but this one's special. I just can't get her out of my head, it's becoming quite frustrating as I don't know what should I do.
So basically I'm studying in high school and met this teacher like three years ago when school began. It was nothing then, just thought that something to "look at" when the classes are boring. First year passed. Then at the beginning of the second year, I dunno what struck me, but I'd say that I got a little bit "closer" with her. I mean like just talking in class (and greeting in corridors, looking deep into eyes, blah blah...), but it just felt somehow different. We get along well. I started to really work hard with the subject she's teaching, and actually got my grades up. It took many sleepless night to finish many projects, as I made everything as fine as I could. It's just great feeling when she says that whatever I produce is great and nice to read and all. Of course that's just the way teachers should encourage their students, but you get the point.
And quick forward to present. My last year in school is rushing to it's end. I've been thinking about confessing to her, but what I'm afraid is losing my face in front of her. There once was time when I tried to tell one girl that I'm interested about her and ask would she go out with me, but got rejected. I know I was few years younger than what I'm now, but it kinda scarred me about the topic for some time.
I'm quite shy (seems to be really often the case here), and very emotional. To tell the truth, if I was given a chance to fuck her, or take her out to dinner and whatever romantic, I'd choose the latter. Maybe I'm weird, and that's why it feels like I'm never accepted by anyone.
Okay, got little off the track. What I'm wondering now, is that should I do something about the situation, or just let it go? I don't know for sure if she's dating anyone atm, but at least she's not married. And then there's the age difference; she's bit over 30 and I'm just 18. Now this is starting to seem like Onegai Teacher (w/o the whole alien thing :) ), but would there even be a chance for anything with age difference like that? And of course I've been thinking that would woman that can take care of herself (as in financially), want to date a guy who's still studying?
There's so many questions, but so few answers :/
Still going, has somebody had same kind of situation, and done confessing? If yes, how did it go, and in what way you did it?
And lastly (yes, this will be last for now), would it be weird for me to ask "half-unknown" woman to have dinner with me?
Big thanks for anyone who took time to read my odd story, I appreciate it. And now I'm out.
I agree with
>>30
However, there have been a number of cases concerning female teachers with male students.
While, on the whole, in these cases the teacher has ended up in jail, the student has found the experience as a valued one (teacher introducing student the art of sex).
I believe that in one case the teacher even had the student's baby and, after finishing jail time, got back with the student and got married (happily ever after).
Before doing anything, one must look at the entire picture (however, I imagine it is difficult determining whether one is emotionally adapt enough to handle a relationship with someone in, what is ultimately, a power relationship b/w teacher and student.
Pamela Turner, Debra Lafave, Jaymee Lane Wallace, and Pamela Diehl-Moore are only a few of the teachers within the american education system whom have carried sexual relations with students.
By the way, Rubert Murdoch, the owner of Fox network, is also in a relationship with an Asian half his age.
There seems to be a hypocracy. If ur rich and/or famous it's ok (think, less taboo), while if ur an average joe ur considered a deviant. What's with that?
I beleive the name of the teacher that had a baby to a student was either Rhianna Ellis or, more likely Mary K. Letourneau.
"In 1996 the married elementary-school teacher and mother of four, 34, conceived a child with her former student, Vili Fualaau, then 13. Her marriage ended, and she was sentenced to 7 1/2 years in prison for child rape; a sympathetic judge knocked down the penalty to six months. Once released, she resumed the affair, got pregnant again and was returned to prison to serve the remainder of her 7 1/2 years. Released in 2004, she picked up where she left off with Fualaau, by then 21. Less than a year later, with their two young daughters as flower girls, the unlikely couple exchanged wedding vows in a lavish ceremony at a Washington State winery."
Other famous Don Juan's include Woody Allen (Film director/producer/actor; Lewis Carroll (mathmatician, amatuer photographer, and author of Alice in Wonderland); Marquise de Sade (French Aristorcrat and author of Justine); and Balthus (famous 20th century french painter).
I can't believe you are trying to endorse this. You know, I just give up.
And it was Mary K. Letourneau that got married to her student.
Who are we to infringe of two potential lovebirds possible happiness?
Nos >>1 must be given as much infomation so as they can make a fully informed decision. What comes from their decision/actions are their business, not ours, so i figure.
Sorry, "Who are we to infringe on two potential lovebirds..." I meant to say.
The teacher is UNINTERESTED! We're not condemning their established, functional romance! The guy is pining after a woman that has not shown any more attachment to him than a fairly average teacher-student relationship; academic and encouraging.
>>36
Point taken, however, where would we be if we never tried to reel our BF/GF in? We'd probably be single.
Yeah. But, as we've all said in this thread, being loving and compassionate means NOT PUTTING THE OBJECT OF OUR AFFECTION'S career/livelihood at risk. Have an ounce of consideration.
The woman ain't interested. Give up. You're a kid that was unfocused in high school. Just because she saw some potential in you and encouraged to you to do your best doesn't mean she has some raging, wild passion for your cock. Get over it.
>where would we be if we never tried to reel our BF/GF in?
you need to first need to hook them before you can reel them in. obviously it is nearly impossible to hook a teacher.
i was a nova teacher and wish students hit on me. they were really shy about anything personal and we were told not to try and have personal relationships with students or we'd be fired. bah.
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>>1
I'd choose the latter
this part i dont understand. if i was u, id want to grab her tits and swing them hard even though while we r seeing beautiful stars and saying something very romantic
if you want to confess better to do it outside the school because it would be really awkward to confess in school. Meet her casually for something now that it's the holidays that is if you really want to push through with this.
I'd simply start by asking what she does in her spare time; what r her hobbies; basically find out if she's single, happily married etc.
If u never try, u may regret it for the rest of ur life. U may end up asking yourself in 20 yrs from now, "Would my life be happier if only i got with Miss so-and-so.
well before making confession to her, it might be better if u ask her out in the way that she might take it as a joke. if s
he takes it very seriously and rejects u, then u say"come on, i
was just joking haha", and if she accepts ur offer, u r lucky.
profit??
I used to like my teacher too. I thought I was the only one. Nice to know I'm not.
Yeah, do that. She's most likely older than you, but start a friendship with her. :3
Although..
Isn't dating a teacher illegal? o_o
This is not he is asking a girl out from his class, he is talking about his teacher. You are trying to generalize this situation. Her job is to motivate kids into learning and by being nice to them helps them to learn by golly she will do it. OP just mistook her kindness as legimate feelings toward him. So instead of focusing on how to ask out his teacher, he should work on making female friends so he can ask out a girl his age.
I don't understand how the OP's teacher is just being friendly and "kind" and how Brittany's teacher just wants to "fuck her." At least from what I got from both posts, aren't the teachers acting somewhat the same? The teachers are both obviously friendly with both of the students but I don't think there is a need to stereotype someone just because he is a guy.
>>49 watch south park
slap her face with ur cock
what an interesting situation you've gotten yourself in to.
how did it go?
be careful about things in school but tell her to meet you somewhere and tell her after school hours or you could try easing in to it seeing if she wants to get a bite to eat or something
Just go for it man. Forget what these people are saying. Ok there is an age difference AND the teacher student thing HOWEVER he is about to graduate. There is a teacher at my school who was asked (I live in the south at a private Christian school so I think this would be the best example) by a student on a date in his senior year and they actually went out for a bit after he graduated (she was about 28-29 I believe). People didn't really care about it and no one holds it against her or anything even though it's known. This is a PRIVATE CHRISTIAN SCHOOL where the administration would pretty much kick a teacher out for anything they found "inappropriate" so I think you are safe. I really wouldn't worry about it just go for it. Worst case it doesnt' work out and you are out of school forever in a few months, nothing to worry about.
go for it before you lose it, the rest depends on the say of ur teacher
i agree with >>56. u cant expect a girl to knock on ur door and ask u "do u wanna fuck me?" anway.
lol jesus what the fuck is wrong with u man?
If u don't do anything about it, you'll regret it for the rest of ur life.
There is one thing which I recently realized - don't be afraid to do things because you are afraid of being embarrassed. There are things you can do only once, and never again. If you speak to her, and she rejects you, so what? You will probably never see her again, and sure you will feel stupid, but at least you know that you had the guts to do something like that, and you can go on with confidence that you can speak to any girl, or do anything without being afraid of getting embarrassed. Getting embarrassed isn't that bad; be confident of who you are. However if you don't, you probably will regret it for a long time; you will never know what could of happened. You only have one chance; you will never be in the same situation again, neither will you be the same age again. Go for it, obviously it will be really hard, but trust me, you really don't have much to lose. You get to live life only once, who cares if you make some mistakes, you can have at least have props for trying, which anyone can respect.
GOODLUCK!
masturbate to her first, and see if u still like her or not.
Go for it dude, but maybe do so once you end high school [if you havent already - sorry if I'm being slow v_v].
If you fail, then it's just one on hundreds. If you succeed - Well done!
for me, I have a similar thing, but a- Don't know if it's just me being horny or true feelings and b- No courage whatsoever _|¯|O
>>1 though I don't like the idea of a student dating a teacher I say the day AFTER your graduation buy a bouquet (somehow adding "of flowers sounds redundant) knock on her door and ask her for a date! By the time you graduate you're not her student anymore anyway so I don't see any conflict of interest.
Personally I'd feel weird dating my former teacher, then again I still feel weird working WITH my former teachers.
>>63
Best bet imo. It may feel wierd but at least you'll know if it's actual liking or not.
god ur dumb...just bend her over the desk and take her to hell...don't forget to ask for 100%
lol what the hell? A TEACHER!!?!?!?!
wtf? are you dumb? just knock her out and fuck her
hey,we'r on the same boat man.!
well.u'r a female teacher,mine's a guy.
and he's bloody f*@$ing close to me?
what am i to do??
and he's married. DAMN!
do reply in my thread.
im really stuck in the brain.
Do nothing, he's married. You don't want to be with someone who is unfaithful anyway, and if you do... um... well... you are having a moment of un-wisdom.
Front Row Guy, I read what you think of your teacher, and I pretty much have the same problem. I just have 38 days until the last day of school and I am in love with my teacher. But at my school we have "teams" for each grade to make less students for each class. The teacher I am in love with is on the "white team" and I am on the "red team". though I'm not sure exactly what she thinks of me. When ever she would walk into the class I'm in, she'd walk in and stop for a few seconds and look at me. We would look into each others eyes until one of us looked away. And I'm not just a student who thinks "Wow that teacher is hot! I sure just want to bang that chick!" or like Secret Admirer who said "wtf? are you dumb? just knock her out and fuck her". I actually want an actual relationship. And the chances of that are slim. Having a relationship with a teacher where I live is rare. in the last 10-20 years one student got with a teacher. In Kansas you will hear of student-teacher relationships a lot. In england you will also hear of a lot.
Out of all the student-teacher relations that I've heard, every single one had someone going to jail with a $10,000 fine to pay. In the end some people actually stayed with each other. But they didn't get married, and broke up after a year or so. After that I know of I think two couples that pulled through and got married and stayed married.
And I have a friend who exaggerates a lot. He knows about how I think of my teacher, and other people think I am a stalker. (I do have many characteristics of one....). But my friend said I want to rape my teacher. I do not want to rape anyone in my life! and he said that during lunch and other people heard, which will start a rumor about me for a while. Still I don't know what I should do. With about 40 days left I think she knows, and I know she had a boyfriend who she broke up with about a month or two ago. I am just someone who is deeply in love and doesn't know how to handle things... The next time I would be able to see her would be in a while when and if I found out anything about her by calling her or something. But I don't just want to call her someday and say "you were my friends teacher and I'm in love with you". Like you, what should I do?
Sorry for my long comment...
(I have a teacher fetish, but I do very much love her!)
She's in her late 20's to early 30's, but I don't mind. A lot of people would think thats crazy. I don't see why...If she was 25-40 years older I might see something, but not too big.
sorry for adding things to my comment, but I'd like to have dinner, make out, cuddle, sex..., just be with her, and things like that.
don't feel too bad about this. you're not wierd. believe it or not last year (9th grade) i was in love with my english teacher. he's amazing. i don't want to get into detail but i didn't act on my feelings. i'm pretty much over it except when i see him in the halls or something. it's hard but if you REALLY want to tell her, wait til you graduate and then do it.
i wish you the best of luck<3
I love my friends teacher, and now people think I am insane.
(The kind of insane that I need to go to an insane asylum or get some therapy).
No one who likes their teacher/friends teacher wants to be crazy...like me...
wow you have really a difficult problem i can only wish you to go well....it's up to you to decide if you are going to confess or not..Sorry i haven't got that problems so i can't give you an appropriate advice but Goodluck :)
You hit puberty and are feeling affections for an older woman who you see everyday, it's normal I guess.
But definately not something you should act on.
HAHA DISREGARD THAT, I SUCK COCKS.
(And can't spell 'definitely'.)
Ass creamer,
I've seen that line somewhere on TV or a movie before.
I can't place it just yet, but sage is soooooo lame