Flirty girlfriend, i trust her but it hurts anyway. (47)

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-10 19:10 ID:Heaven

>>18
We're not fighting :-D

>>19
Ah, but I thought I didn't sound like the average girl, from my posts. I definitely think double-standards are stupid. I am not such a hypocrite that I would get upset at others doing things that I'm allowed to. It would not bother me the slightest to see him flirt with others. It would make me feel relieved, actually. He's terribly cute, but he keeps dismissing compliments from others because of his bad selfesteem when it comes to his looks. We implicitly trust each other (we've easily earned such a level of trust from each other after all of these years) and he knows that he's the brightest star on my sky, which is why he doesn't feel he "competes" with others for my attraction. Nor that me being able to feel attracted to others somehow diminishes the attraction I feel to him.

Average couples seem to often be haunted by double standards, and problems with understanding each other, because both of the persons seem to forget that the values and standards they've grown up with are not universal. So the guy/girl expects the other one to behave a certain way, without actually telling them of that "this is how things are done in my world". They also seem to not want to accept that their world is not universal, and that others have different ideas of what the standards, traditions and values are. It doesn't even take different cultures to cause different standards and values, just the lives of two people.
Fear, is another thing that seems terribly prevalent in dating. Including in the way that rejection somehow would imply that they're less worth, rather than that (temporary) partner just not being a good match, as well as fear of that one "isn't good enough" to ever have someone. Or maybe I've just met too many "emo" people lately.. Annoying people who wallow in their self-pity.

(sorry for getting somewhat off topic, >>1,14. Just say the word, and I'll cease to quasi-hijack this thread.)

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