I have a problem and I am a little confused too... maybe one of you can help.
I am a 23 year old male and every relationship I have ever had has been sex based, and have never really been in "love".
Recently I have met someone online on a game, and we have been together for about a month now and I am flying down on Thursday to see her. She is really great and I think this could be really something... but...
She happens to be extremely flirty. She flirts with every other guy she knwos in the game and she loves it. It gets me really jealous mainly because she doesn't want anyone to know we are together, even when I come down there to see her and if we actually do find that this IS something, it sounds like she still doesn't want to tell anyone. There are a couple of guys that she flirts with really really heavily to the point where seemingly joking promises of "coming down there and taking her out on a date" or "taking her to a bar and getting drunk with her" are made to her and she goes with it as with she would like it to happen... they lay it on REALLY thick, and she never tells them to stop or tries to avoid it, she just comes back with even heavier stuff sometimes.
And there is nothing I can do about it but sit there and fume quietly. Recently I went to a family gathering so I missed playing the game when she was on ONE night, when we have seen each other pretty much every other night, and I hear that she got extremely drunk and flirty with all the guys online.
I have approached her on this, and she doesn't think her flirting is a big deal and says she wants to keep her personal life personal when I ask about telling the freaking guys that we are together. Yet she is willing to share everything else personal with everyone when she talks...
I really enjoy being with her, and although I want to trust her I find it really hard to with all this...
One more thing, recently when the topic of cheating came up in a discussion with other people and us, my standpoint was that I can't understand it personally, which I can't, I mean if you are with someone then thats who you want to be with the most, if not, leave them. But her standpoint was that they "just don't want to have nothing in the end if it doesn't work out" and never openly said she didn't understand cheating.
Any advice?