break up with him. u cant live forever with him anyway. i do understand u love him, but u dont want to get punched every time.
i know its difficult to break up with him(because u love him), but u have to. and there r so many better guys all over the world, and u will get better one sooner or later, for sure.
dont forget that "u live for ur own happiness".
Shit.. I hate u st00pid girls. U are all the same... always go after bastards motherfuckers. U actively SEEK suffering and pain, u WANT to be beaten, the more one treats u harshly the more u are bond to him. women r all psychotic, they incite violence in men, thus they r teh real plague of this world.
>>3
Thats one way of looking at it.
>>1
He might be beating you because he doesn't know how to handle his emotions for you. He might be thinking he isn't good enough for you and is losing control over the relationship, blaming himself and wants to hurt himself but goes out on you instead.
But If someone beat me up I would leave that very second and never come back, ever.
>i feel so sad and heartbroken since my parents never treat me this way.
Would it be ok for him to hurt you if your parent treated you the same way?.. I dont get that.
If I was you, I'd tell that motherfucker to GTFO right now and die. There are better men in the world than him.
does it care what he thinks?
dump him.
does it matter*
If he loved you, he wouldn't hit you. Dump him and find true love, because this isn't true love. And once you break up with him, don't take him back, whatever you do! He may say he has "Changed" and "Can't live without you" But its all bullshit. He is not worth your pain in suffering, break up with him, and get rid of all connections from him.
This guy is not worth your time. You deserve better and there is always another "fish in the sea". There is no way the guy loves you, there is no way the guy respects you if he's beating on you. You want a man that is respectful in every way, that treats you like you are the most wonderful thing in the world. The thing is, if he is beating on you then it will get worse. It will not get better, because it's his way of telling you he is in control. You need to get out. You need to call the cops. You need to get him in jail. He shouldn't be beating you and at the same time telling you he loves you. The guy has no confidence in himeself and really wants to control you and make you think that there isn't anything better. There is. You just have to get out and look. He is not going to change and will stay that way. If he loves you like he says he does, he would stop trying to control you, he would stop beating you, he would've never hit you in the first place! Get out. You deserve a lot better. ^_^
>>1
Stop using time as an excuse to stay together. Would you tolerate it if some stranger walked up to you on the street and abused you the way your "boyfriend" does? Wouldn't you call the police and make sure that abuser got what he deserved?
Time is no excuse, if he's an abusive asshole, he is. People need to stop assuming that the guy/girl will change, if they just love them enough. Love is not some sort of magical "cure-it-all".
Leave him. As long as you don't actually avoid guys, there will be plenty of others who can and will love you, that WON'T almost kill you (both physically and mentally) constantly.
Call the police, get a restraining order, get him to be put on an women-abusers help program, forget him and embrace your new and better life.
Leave him immediately. This is a classic abuse case. Girl loves guy, guy beats girl, girl doesn't want to leave guy because she is either of afraid of him hurting her more or the afraid of being alone. Things will not get better if you stay, things will not get better if you try to talk to him.
LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY!!
>>1
I read your post. 5 years huh?
you are in an abusive relationship, get rid of it before it comes a real problem. It doesn't matter how much you like him, it wont work out. so prepare yourself mentally and break your bonds with him and NEVER get back to him. if he doesn't let you or puts presssure on you for breaking up you should seek outside help for it, perhaps your family.
and i am sure you will find someone else that you will love you if you belive in your self a little. just a little is enough.
>>9
well i do totally agree with ur advice, but i gess its difficult for her to do this, since she loves that guy.
>>14 Well she should faze him out I guess, but once she finds a better guy, Im sure she'll get over him.
"until today. i really want to hate him but i'm afraid if there were no guys who wants to love me"
Thats a lie, you know it, I know it, he knows it especially. If you ever want another guy to like you, leave. Leave now before you really get hurt any more. You're being hurt emotionally and physically. Thats NOT a relationship, and there is NO reason to put yourself in danger like this.
You don't have to hate him, you can still love him. But for God's sake get some physical distance between the two of you.
>>1 And I hope you aint having the female mentality that you can fix him up. Seems a lot of girls thinks that way, they think they can fix an abusive bf, why can't they try to fix shy, insecure guys instead? Anyways, as every1 else had sad, make like a fat man's pants and split
No phase out (not faze, learn to spell dumbass), she should shut him out of her life completely.
>>17
There ARE plenty girls who try to fix shy, insecure guys.
But if the insecurity and jealousy persists too much, then it's suffocating.
>>17
[the female mentality that you can fix him up]
that really exist doesnt it? and that never works.
i need help. i don't have many friends to help me, motivate me, or support me. you know, to get rid of a guy who always be with you for five years is not an easy thing to do. i tried many ways before. yes, he is a bad tempered guy. but you know, when he treats me good, i feel like i'm the luckiest girl in the world... i think, dat's how he manage to let me stay with him. Actually, all of my friends and even my parents don't know about this. For them, i am a beautiful, cheerful and a lively girl.I have rock band, i don't smoke and drink, i can cook, i am intelligent, i don't party or clubbing,i know many things about computer, music, books, or even literature... Most of my friends admire me. BUT they don't know when it comes to love, i'm a BIG LOSER. they don't know the pain and grudge that i keep inside me, behind my smile... One more thing about me (that help my bf to take advantage on me), i am easy to forgive and forget. You know, when he beat me, and the second after that he's being kind to me, i will definitely forgive him... and that's so fucking pathetic, rite? I always tell him, how lucky he is to have a cold heart.... i wish i will be as strong as everyone else. Every morning when i wake up, i will tell myself to forget him...but then he will come to my house, treat me nicely as there are nothing is going on. I realize how stupid and foolish i am right now... but what can i do? i hope, somewhere out there, there will be a guy who can love me... and i wish that i will have the gut to leave him FOREVER.
Listen girl, If he continues beating you, you won't be pretty anymore.. you won't be able to play in a band with a broken arm, you won't be able to dance with broken legs. If you stay with a guy that continues to hurt you and beat you then, it will only get worse.
I agree with everyone else. You have to leave this guy. He's bad for you. There are like 3.5 billion other men out there...you'll find plenty of fantastic ones who truly LOVE YOU AND RESPECT YOU. I know it's so hard to leave this type of relationship...but you have to, because the longer you stay in it the harder it will be to leave. Your friends will stand by you when they know the truth. Get as much help as you can and give him his walking papers...but have someone with you when you tell him, just in case he totally snaps.
It's evident that you love getting beaten and abused. You should join a S&M club and become the sex toy for everyone. Just be honest to yourself and accept that you are nothing but a worthless accident when your parents were too stupid to use contraption.
>> 21
I have rock band, i don't smoke and drink, i can cook, i am intelligent, i don't party or clubbing, i know many things about computer, music, books, or even literature...
lol
Say what?
I don't know how someone who is in a rock band neither smoke/drink/party/go clubbing OR know anything about music
>>21
You are cute and sad. :[ Please let me take you away. I will treat you nicely.
>>21
If I were in your position, I would make sure I ditch that fucker in style.
Take revenge...
You know, use your imagination.
I've seen this type of thing happen to innocent women like yourself too many times...
Whatever you do... please... don't let this relationship go any further than it already has.
I wish I could do more for you...
>>21
you DO have the guts to leave him, but right now you keep telling yourself you can't, in spite of that it's all just lies. You're deliberately sabotaging for yourself: you're too afraid of that you'll be all alone if you leave him.
This is not true, especially if you really are what you say you are. You could easily get someone better. However, you keep telling yourself you deserve this, and make sure to stay in the relationship because "that's what you're worth". Why do you hate yourself that much?
>>21, this guys is just toying with your mind as you said. He has you hook line and sinker, time to take the next flight out of hellsville
> but you know, when he treats me good, i feel like i'm the luckiest girl in the world...
Funny, I thought getting the shit kicked out of you meant that the other person didn't like you.
If you don't have any friends, I am sure you have a mother or a family memeber that can help you. Call them and beg for them to save you. Obviously this guy is not good for you and if you don't do anything things can get worse.
The moment has come!! this weekend i will leave him... i feel so delight! i'm going to return to my hometown and live with my family. i'm going to be a lecturer... an english lecturer (although my english is quite bad..lol). i promise, i will never call him, write to him, or let him know what i am doing over there. if i met somebody and get into a serious relationship, my bf will never know about this. i will never tell him. i want to get rid of him, totally. thank you everyone for helping me... Although i don't know who you are, you really help me. He will never change, i always know that...By the way, if anyone wanted to be my friend, 'hit' me at www.myspace.com/iamaloner. THANKS again... love all of you... :*
lol that's some name for your myspace. Anyways, hope you actually not get sucked in again by this ex of yours. His voice is like a Siren's. Make like Odyseus' crewmen and block your ears.
nice way of putting it except i would say if he cant handle his anger then he needs therapy and enough of it to make anyone go bankrupt good luck with lectures
make sure you block him on anything you got.
MSN, MYSPACE etc.
If you won't hear anything about him you'll forget him faster.
GL! ^_^
hire someone to kill him, I am semi-serious, because none who treats a woman like that has any right to live whatsoever.
thank you... :)
Yeah...lets avoid killing people. Congrats to you OP, I am glad to know that we were able to help you.
if i could, i would...