k theres this girl who likes me, we'll call her Amy, but I don't have any interest in a relationship with her or anyone else for that matter. This has happened a couple of times in the past and I have usually just ignored their signals and left it at that.
But this time is a bit more complicated. For one I like Amy as a friend (sounds cliché I know). Second, one of our mutual friends, we'll call her Sophie, seems to be under the illusion that I feel the same way for Amy as Amy does for me and has approached me about it. I wasn't expecting to be approached so directly like that so I ended up just BSing through the convo with non-committal neutral answers to her questions.
A little extra info; I'm 20 and we're all in the same university class. I'm worried that approaching Amy about it will ruin our friendship and/or create awkwardness since we're in the same classes for the next 3 years :/ So any advice?
>>1
O.o Good luck! Sounds as if you'll need it. You could try asking her if she thinks she can still be friends with you, and if she realizes that her self-worth is not reflected by whether or not the object of her desires return those feelings. But, that's sort of rather direct... So, I'm not sure how you'd want to go about it.
Oh that is hard. >____<
There are indirect ways of telling her you want to remain as friends. Checking out other girls while she's around, maybe (make-up if you have to) some crush and tell her about it, etc. Basically get the point across that you don't see her as a potential partner but still value her friendship.
If that doesn't get through, then you would have to be direct. @__@
Not interested? You gay or something?!
>>4
no but I don't feel my life is defined by how many girls I can stick my penis in. Or guys for that matter. It would be a hell of a lot easier if I was gay cos then I could just run the old "I'm gay lol!" excuse
>>5
Then you'd keep getting the following from guys:
"So, no offense but I don't swing that way.. So, you'd better not check me out or else I'll punch your lights out."
"Don't worry, you're not my type."
"Hah. ..heyyy, wait what?! WHY THE HELL NOT?! IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?! ::threatening glare::"
>>5 If some girl is interested in you, it's your luck. I bet many guys here (including myself) would do almost anything to have what you have. I dont think it's everyday the girl is the one who take the initiative to reveal her attraction for a guy. Even if you are not into anything serious, make her your much closer friend, dont ignore her and stuff. Coz one day you may realise how much you could have been with this girl and regret you didnt do anything at all. And I'm talking from experience.