E-love is NOT Mission:Impossible at all (15)

1 Name: NANA : 2007-01-13 08:31 ID:5g/eaume

I've been reading most of the threads in this Love & Romance 'hood, and some of those stated some serious desperation about the good possibilities of making an e-love come true....

So maybe I'll just share this experience of mine.
How I knew, fell in love, met, established a relationship, and finally got engaged with my e-lover.

We met around 2 years ago, via a very massive gaming forum. We got to know each other in some kind of guild, where I used to head the lover's advice section, and he was the vice-guildmaster.

He's a very intense sentai, tokusatsu, Gundam and Super-Robot anime series. He preferred (and still does prefer) to dress up in the daily 'anorak gamer' stuffs.
I'm quite an otaku myself, artbook hunter, Japanophile, and an intensely avid FF lover. I was (and still is) a fashion model, singer in an anime-rock band, and cosplayer.
His favorite Jap actresses are those sentai actresses and seiyuus, while I harbor a strange knack for Dante Sparda.

We share major similarities and differences at the same time.
After developing a very close friendship that in turn led to a budding relationship, we finally decided to meet each other.....6 months after we started falling into an e-love. I actually flew over thousands of miles to meet him, face-to-face. We wanted very badly to make sure, whether we're really into each other,or not.

At first, we were shocked to meet each other, especially him. He was....kinda shell-shocked to see how much I'm into the latest trend of stacky-heeled boots as I'm into cosplaying as Yuffie. But in the end, we got along well, even almost TOO well.
I'm much more experienced in fields of love and romance, since he's never had any GF nor kissed any girl before. But that wasn't a serious trouble at all. We're both very comfortable with each other's presence.
Although for the unknowing and judging public's eye, we surely make a kinda...odd couple.

But ever since our first meeting, we've been visiting each other in turns. Our families have met, and we're freshly engaged now. No wedding plan in sight YET, but both of us will surely think of it a little later. It was a very big, almost crazily risky move that we made, but all of that paid very well in the end.

Instead of boasting myself, what I'm trying to say here is.....for those who pursue the path of e-love, don't be discouraged. Never let those nasty comments put you down so easily. People MIGHT and WILL judge you, but that's because they don't know what you actually feel. If you have all the means to meet each other, don't hold back. You'll never know what you can do if you never have the guts to try. Falling in love means that you're ready to be part of a major gambling contest in life.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 08:50 ID:jBrhDT75

>>1
I proabbly know you from somewhere.

3 Name: NANA : 2007-01-13 08:56 ID:5g/eaume

>>2
????
Please elaborate. But no names and/or other personal details, for discretion and privacy. ^_^

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 10:33 ID:Heaven

>We met around 2 years ago, via a very massive gaming forum. We got to know each other in some kind of guild, where I used to head the lover's advice section, and he was the vice-guildmaster.

If you're going for privacy, this is way too obvious for someone who's been around the Internet more than once. :\

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 12:10 ID:jBrhDT75

>>3
It's probably just a coincidence. Nevermind.

I knew of a couple that sounded pretty much like you two, with the relationship building up the same way (from what I know) and the guy having similar interests.

6 Name: NANA : 2007-01-13 13:23 ID:5g/eaume

>>4
Ooooooops...^_^;
But I guess there are millions of such forums out there, widesperead in the 5 continents. ^_^

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-14 00:54 ID:kuDo8tz7

Even though I don't approve of e-relationships, I think this should be bumped. There haven't been happy stories in 4chlove lately.

8 Name: fart man : 2007-01-15 01:12 ID:uTHeCez9

well, i dont think e-love is mission impossible at all, but why do u have to find a boyfriend or girlfriend on the internet? finding one from pple around u is so much easier and safer(especially for girls). "she" may be a "gay" u never know.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-15 02:20 ID:UessyWnE

so there are anime-rock bands huh

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-15 04:52 ID:NyhUGcno

I do not approve of finding love over the internet. I find it sort of pitiful. My mother met her husband over the internet and it took literally hundreds of dates with various men just to find another man who is as perfectly insecure as she is.

It is not so hard to meet someone in your daily life. We are surrounded by human beings and if you live in a big city there is no escape from them! Is it really so hard to meet a person's eyes, smile, form words and utter them? It is not hard at all, but people are so insecure and self-conscious that they build all these walls around themselves, preventing that initial connection that cannot be had over the internet. Who cares if you get turned down, it is not like there is a dangerously low shortage of men and women. Maybe you are a little embarrassed, but people make themselves feel that way.

It is not impossible, but it does not change the inability to find companionship naturally.

11 Name: NANA : 2007-01-15 06:00 ID:5g/eaume

>>8
I'm not sure why,too. I've dated maybe half a dozen of guys before him, but none of them clicked good enough with me.
I just fell in love so suddenly with my current fiancee. Both of us have lots of friends from the opposite sexes, but we're only 100% comfortable and good when it's just the two of us.

12 Name: NANA : 2007-01-15 06:05 ID:5g/eaume

And I liek how he doesn't try so hard to be someone else when he's with me. He doesn't mind to date me in his otaku daily wardrobe, and I admire that confidence. Not many guys have his strong principles too, that's what attracted me to him the most.

And he never, ever appear vain and pompous. I simply haaaaaaate pompous-acting guys.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-16 19:54 ID:Heaven

But some LIEEEEEK pompous-acting guys.

>only 100% comfortable and good
>clicked good enough
>otaku daily wardrobe

14 Name: fart man : 2007-01-17 08:52 ID:uTHeCez9

>>1
ive just read through >>1. and actually the last bit of her post makes quite sence.
most of guys here say "im quite shy around girls" and do nothing. theyre just asking other shy guys for advice, which is totally waste of effort.

"dont be too shy" is the answer, and u guys already know that.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-17 12:18 ID:Heaven

>>14
Meh, they still need to be told/encouraged/pushed/reminded not to be too shy.

>> theyre just asking other shy guys for advice...

Well, not quite right. There are a lot of girls here who offer advice and more often than not have had experience with relationships.

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