Girlfriend and Best Friend (5)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-31 10:04 ID:IDx3ZqV8

Since 10th grade, I had a crush on one of my best friends. She, who I'll call B, and I were part of a closely linked group of friends always ate lunch together, so everyone knew everyone. My crush on her was the only thing that I kept secret from the group, exempt for my best friend, who I'll call M. So, nobody in the group knew that I liked B except for M, who's been my best friend since the first day of middle school. Since I am notoriously shy, I have never told B how I feel, even though it's been almost two years since we graduated. But around one year ago, something happened that literally floored me. M confessed his own love for B. Now, me and M have been friends for years, and I know he is serious about his feelings, but I still feel a little betrayed that I told him my feelings for B, but he didn't tell me his. What made this almost unbearable is the fact that she accepted his feelings and they have been dating for the last year.

Now, this is where it gets interesting. Their relationship has been going nowhere for the last six months, or so it seems from my perspective. M is always complaining about B not really being interested in a relationship, and B always changes the subject whenever I asked her about M. Even though it's been so long since high school I still have feelings for her, and it looks like their relationship is stagnant, and whenever I think of her my jaw starts to quiver and my chest heats up. But I value my friendship with M, and I don't want anything to happen with that, but I feel that if I don't tell her my head will explode.

So, should I tell her how I feel now or wait until B and M officially break up?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-31 10:33 ID:X4lK+FHg

You should wait until they are officially broken up, even if you feel a little betrayed by your friend. Had you asked her out first, he would probably feel the same as you do now.

3 Name: fart man : 2007-01-31 10:48 ID:bR7FqFDk

i guess u should tell her now. because, u dont exactly know if their relationship really goes nowhere, or though ur perspective is right, u still dont know when they broke up. also, although they break up soon, she may have another boyfriend by then.

dont worry about M, especially when u think they r breaking up sooner or later. also, M is the one who had know ur own love for B, but still confessed to her. he owes u.

so just go for it.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-31 11:22 ID:Heaven

First it was B, then it was M, then W decided she wanted part of the action.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-31 17:45 ID:Heaven

well your friend did a douchebag thing and ask out B even though he knew about your feelings. but he acted when you didnt so you cant be completely mad at him for doing something you were too afraid to do.

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