What should I do in my situation? (9)

1 Name: Kame : 2007-02-04 23:27 ID:vCYfZ/cK

I currently don’t have a girlfriend, but I have always wanted one.

My situation is that I really don’t have any friends at school, but I do have some. I have moved around a lot so I am not good at any language, but I can say English is probably my first language. I actually consider myself not a bad looking guy, in fact, have been complimented about my looks couple times actually. I guess I am shy, but I think I am shy because of my ability to speak languages.

I mean I really don’t know what I should do at this point. I have never really spoken to a girl before 1 on 1. I have, but that was probably class related assignment or other work related. I’m the sort of guy who probably never speaks in class. I also don't know how to carry out a conversation, even with my guy friends besides our common hobbies.

I mean I’m really trying to change, but how? If I were to come in the next day suddenly being very talkative, wouldn’t others think of me as strange? What should I do? I’m really confused. Please help me.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-05 00:08 ID:ynceG96k

Focus on your studies first. Once you get into college, you'll have way more opportunities!

3 Name: Kame : 2007-02-05 01:11 ID:vCYfZ/cK

Well, as of my study, my GPA is final, I got into the college I want, I'm just waiting to finish out hs now.

4 Name: fart man : 2007-02-05 08:58 ID:OuXwfUv/

>If I were to come in the next day suddenly being very talkative, wouldn’t others think of me as strange?

probably yes. but if others would think u r strange or not isnt the issue here. the issue is that u probably cant be so talkative suddenly.

what can u do? i dont know. because i know nobody cant really tell better ways than to just talk.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-06 06:50 ID:yEtOZtIa

Search for someone who shares an interest (anything) with you and talk to them. Eventually you'll get to talk more to people that person hangs around with, and you're on your way. Not that easy, but efficient enough.
If you can't find anybody that shares any interest with you, just be attentive for what they like/talk about and read about that. Be open.

6 Name: fart man : 2007-02-06 15:23 ID:OuXwfUv/

>>5
i guess the last bit "be open" is the hardest part for him.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-06 16:08 ID:Heaven

wait til college, until then just try to start getting use to social situations where you can talk to a girl and be able to get what you want ie. a date.

8 Name: V3 Rider : 2007-02-06 18:32 ID:JIbPyjK9

You don't really need to wait til college, just find a girl who has similiar intrests as you and start talking to them from there, and don't hurry things either, start off with them as a friend, then a close friend, and so on. Also if your too shy, try talking to a girl you know in text, like on myspace or something. Sometimes its easier to say things when typing then saying it to a person, especially when your shy.

9 Name: fart man : 2007-02-06 18:57 ID:OuXwfUv/

the thing is uve got to get over ur shyness by urself. nobody can talk to the girl for u.

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