Online role playing & cyber sex (14)

1 Name: keyboard : 2007-02-25 12:40 ID:PE8pgIuR

Does online role playing romance considered an act of cheating on your real life partner?

Is role playing cyber sex considered cheating?

My story (more like circumstance) is that I have been role playing with online friends/randoms for three years. They're mostly female and I feel no attachment to them other than for the purpose of rping and chatting. It can be heterosexual or homosexual relationships but it doesn't change the way I feel about my boyfriend. The rating has gone as far as highly graphic and I actually had learnt more from these experiences to contribute to my sex life.

Anyways, I consider rping like an interactive story and role playing cyber sex something similar to porn. But from time to time I feel guilty nonetheless so I want to know Anonymous' opinion.

2 Name: Seduced : 2007-02-25 14:51 ID:k/Ac4sWe

What would you think if your partner did the same thing? I would say that you should atleast tell you boyfriend about it, or atleast try to rp with him ^^

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-25 19:30 ID:1IVWyAMo

Ok, I'll tell you a story that happened not to me, but to close friends who happened to live together. They both play MMORPGs, and they even played the same game, on the same server. One day, male friend started RPing with a girl online, romance and stuff. (the RL couple already had 2 of their characters married). When it went as far as (remember, it's a game, roleplay, etc) as marrying one of his characters to one of this girl's, drama ensued. So he ditched the online girl, and everything went back to normal.

Few months later, female friend did the same thing. Except it went too far, she doesn't want to let go of her online friend, who takes now more of her time than her RL boyfriend (who after some time of this treatment became her ex, afaik).

What I'm trying to tell you is, okay, 'roleplaying' is fine, cybering is like the porns of roleplay, ok. But understand that not everyone sees the thing in the same way. Your boyfriend might not take that lightly at all if he finds out - that happens to people who know the thing, so if he doesn't even understand what what you are doing means... I don't think you want that.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-25 20:53 ID:sN+f8XWq

I play FFXI and there are actually several real bonuses to "getting married" (basically a few good items.) My best friend is even married in-game (for the items.)
I on the other hand choose not to get "married" because I am completely faithful to my girlfriend. The same goes for cybering. If you are faithful, you will not do it.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-26 07:09 ID:ymUmhfjY

Yes. Cybering is considered cheating. You are exchanging love/lust in some kind of form.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-26 13:22 ID:0KjIpPZd

For me it is being unloyal. I wouldn't accept if my boyfriend would do it.

7 Name: densha : 2007-02-26 14:23 ID:ZjHfEGXo

its ok. i've written everything down on BBS.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-27 05:45 ID:l2BgsrWR

Cybering is cheating.

I ceased cybering when I committed to someone.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-11 08:50 ID:LkfcCcf4

Hmm.... I guess I'd have to be monogamous to really weigh in on this.

However, I have this piece of advice: The best person to ask, is not on this forum. (Unless you're boyfriend is on this forum, and if that is the case, and you know it, this post might be passive-aggressive anyhow. I ramble.)

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-11 15:25 ID:4mkwyzuf

>>1

Let me add to this; Cybering is cheating. IMO, even imagening sex with someone else is cheating.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-12 17:37 ID:dlOrdQRl

For me, roleplaying sex and stuff is okay if you're playing actual characters and all. But if you're cybering and, well, being yourself throughout the thing, then it's cheating... That's how I feel about it.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-13 08:00 ID:Heaven

ITT whatever...

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-13 19:15 ID:29rzzSIh

It's only cheating if your signifigant other isn't also joining you in the cybering.

Cybering with some random person online while getting a blowjob or getting laid is great---especially if you two share the keyboard while cybering.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-28 11:08 ID:Heaven

>>1
Whether or not it's cheating completely and utterly depends on if you and your partner agreed on that it is or is not.
Some couples have open relationships, some consider emotional relationships cheating but not emotionless sex as cheating. Some consider emotional attachments as not cheating, but count sex as cheating, etc.
A relationship is a contract between you and your partner. It's not a standar 'one size fits all' deal, but highly variable depending on both the partners in the relationship.

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