having your first crush? (23)

1 Name: anonymous : 2007-03-04 05:32 ID:HMkNb7Uq

hello,4ch-ians, i started this thread for people to talk about their first crush, and maybe if we give each other advice, we can make their relationship work! (^^)

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-04 07:59 ID:QNzt0zWv

Well, If you wanna know about my first crush, I'll tell you. I think I was around 10-12 when I first saw this girl in Church, Long gorgeous hair, Beautiful face, nice legs(Honestly, I thinks it's because of those legs that I find girls in stockings/pantyhose hotter than most). Sadly, back then, I had no backbone, and all I could do was look from afar. I'd like to think that if I was ever to meet her again, I'd atleast be able to say hi. But ah well. Chances are, she may not be the type of girl I wanna date anyway.

3 Name: Jooge : 2007-03-04 08:51 ID:hUvorLyx

Hah , you wanna hear mine? I kinda kept this one for my self, feel like I'm a weak peace of shit for spitting it all out in an anonymous board like this.

The neighbor who was a relative had two girls around my age. We grew up together, getting along pretty well, we played games and stuff and went to each other's house whenever possible, one was two years older, other two years younger, I liked the younger one better, she had short hair, really long eyelashes, pointy chin and a really cute smile. So I was 8 or 9 when they moved away to another part of the town and I couldn't play with them every day anymore, but we saw each other from time to time when visiting the relatives. So, yeah, by the time I was 11-12 I was beginning to develop a crush, you know, like getting clumsy and messing up every time we saw each other. At the time I had no idea what a girlfriend, or relation ships or sex is about, I was completely clueless.

Some time later I went to their house with the rest of the family, for some reason I messed around for a little while in the front lawn, and then went inside. I went in, from the second floor she calls me with a cheerful voice: <my name>, Hi! . I look up and see her up there near the stairs, looking at me with a weird smile, top half naked with wet hair (or maybe gelled her), and her best friend standing beside her. I answer hello and for some reason I didn't know at the time, I looked away. Her best friend whispers in her ear, and I hear her say something along the lines: "how pathetic" in return. Then both laugh and go back. Confused, I leave to join my parents.

There is more, i meet them later and shit happens again and stuff, but its too much writing.

4 Name: Nibbles : 2007-03-04 10:17 ID:HlPmWXYy

>>3 Knowing me I would have done the same, I was always a shy guy around that age, but apart of me thinks I would have went up the stairs and asked if she needed any help drying off or getting dressed. My first crush I was seven, I met this girl at school and I inviter her over one day after school to play at my house, we were in my room and I happened to had played Monopoly the night before with my sisters and the game was still out and I came up with the idea that I would buy this girl and she would be my gf so we agreed, I bought her then she bought me. She asked me now that I owned her what was I gonna do and I said "I think I'm gonna kiss you" and then I said "what about you?" and she said "I think im gonna kiss you too." The kiss was beautiful and it lasted atleast ten seconds and we both pulled away slowly and looked at each other and smiled, 2 days later her mom said they were moving and I never saw her again.

5 Name: Kira : 2007-03-05 09:35 ID:ge4J+zsL

My first crush was the first person that went out with in grade 7. Yeah it was mutual except we couldn't do much because her parent didn't allowed dating. But still it was good... We are still good friends now. (Yeah we broke up after a yr or something.)

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-05 18:08 ID:Heaven

>>4
For half a second I believed this was actually finishing a la Bel-Air. Gee.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-24 08:16 ID:z/NALJi/

I had my first crush in Kindergarten. She was this sporty girl who I always felt the presence of and would always stare at her from across the room but avoid all contact with her unless she talked to me.

Fast forward to 15 years later and now we're friends, she's a hot lesbian, and I still react similarly to girls I have a crush on.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-24 08:54 ID:XPaE0TlP

My first crush was when I was 11. He was blue eyed, blond, smart, kind, sporty, popular and basically well liked by everyone. He was different to any other guy in my year in that he was courteous to everyone. I on the other hand was the small, quiet and nerdy asian girl. He was basically out of my league to say the least. During our dancing lessons, he used to tell me about how his mother always said I looked like a porcelain doll. (I have an amazing effect on mothers, which is still the case years later.) Anyway, I didn't quite know how to take the compliment and was kind of speechless, but a bit warm inside. To cut a long story short, I fell for him pretty hard, only to find that he liked some other blond, blue-eyed girl who had a horrible personality.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-24 19:11 ID:z/NALJi/

>>8 Aw. Minus the ending, that was a cute story.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-24 20:08 ID:Heaven

My first real crush happened in the seventh grade. I fell hard for an artsy type in eighth grade, who always wore striped thigh-high stockings (seriously). I remember a conversation on the phone where she told me that the sexiest panty color was red (on her at least). It never went anywhere because I was too chicken at the time. I called her sn**kp**k, because she let me look up her skirt in class. I told everyone and she cried, her friend called me an asshole. I remember going to a party years later and seeing her jump happily into her boyfriends arms to kiss him because he was so tall. It broke my heart. I still have her picture (that she gave to my best friend at the time who inturn gave to me).

11 Name: Mari : 2007-03-24 22:06 ID:3khcP+Yh

Ah, mine was in 1st grade. I was the typical cute little schoolgirl that you would see in Japan-- Only this whole story happened in Mexico. I was a little otaku. Watching card captor Sakura with my best friends on Saturday, then going to the supermarket to literally sit on top of the arcade machines to play Vampire Saviour. Anyways, at the time my self esteem was horribly low. I felt like I was the ugly different girl in my class since all the other girls were brown-skinned, beautiful straight black hair and brown eyes, just like Mexican girls are supposed to be, but I was a pale girl, olive green eyes, and light brown curly hair tied in a ponytail. It got to the point where I'd sit during lunchtime, crying and sobbing all over my uniform while trying to eat the sandwich my mom had made me, and one boy, named Alex, with this movie-star smile would sometimes sit next to me, asking what was wrong.

I'd just shake my head and say it was nothing. And he'd smile, and would tell me that whatever it was, that I should stop crying.

It seemed another girl had the same problem. We felt horrible, and one day, a teacher decided to make a speech about what we were going through. And that day, Alex stood up, and said

"I dont see why they're sad. They're both beautiful."

Of course, as a 1st grader, he didn't mean it, but from that day on, I felt way better about myself. I daydreamed about him.. It was amazing. :3

But then the last day of school of 2nd grade, just when I was going to move to the United States, I wanted to tell him my feelings..

But he was already gone. I never saw him after that. D: >

12 Name: Newoz : 2007-03-25 04:44 ID:Heaven

>>11 Oh god, such innocence! (SOB!};_;
I like how Sakura speaks like in the spanish version of Card Captors. I watched it too a loooong time ago (and probably in the same channel as you did (hey paisana!!Canal 5!!!). Too bad that channel doesn't feature any good animes anymore -- Back then, I still pondered about the yuri inside that series ..

I don't remember having a real, powerful, first crush; mostly because they were spontaneous and rather impossible. And, at the same time, I used to have this no-love mind during my puberty. I would think that love was just a distractor and a pain causer. Well, it is in fact, but I just never knew what it really was, its essence and form. Until I was 15 years old my real REAL crush started. When it was all over, I was "Oh god, I just can't believe I did that". I ended up dumping her. She got soo depressed afterwards. I was also sad, but never understood all her suffering.

We were what you would call a couple, but we were fighting so much. She was desperate for me to ask her to be my gf. But I refused everytime, December, Feb-14, etc. I loved her, but just hated the girl/boyfriend idea back then. I used to think that the novio/novia(bf/gf) thing in mexican society was just rubbish, as if society was the one who enabled it and/or rejected it, and that having a girl/boyfriend was just like a disposable item.

As time went along, I was growing tired of having the absolute responsiblity of asking her to become my girlfriend (goddamn stereotypes). She would just seduce me, but never make a move. The school year ended. I didn't speak to her the whole summer vacation. And when I saw her once again, I broke her heart into dust. More details of my first crush at: http://meta-w.blogspot.com/2007/02/4-chnet-post-1_02.html

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 05:10 ID:z/NALJi/

This thread is too cute

14 Name: laaaa : 2007-03-25 05:22 ID:t2sWhdbs

ah, i remember my first crush so well. i believe it was all through 1-3rd grade that i had a crush on her xD yea, long time for a little kid to hold a crush 'eh?
well yea, my best friend also had a crush on her, so we'd always be talking about her and how wonderful she was. Hell, i remember i'd go over to his house, pretend a stuffed animal was her, as a princes and we were her protecters throwing pillow's at eachother pretending that we were fight monster's and protecting her! (haha, to much Power Ranger's i think)
And then i remember it so clearly, it was during PE, we were outside in line, me and my friend were talking about her, one of her friends then was like "OOOOH! (name here) likes (name here)!!!!" and then, not knowing what i was doing i shouted "I DONT LIKE (name) I LOVE (name)!!!!" didnt take long for that to spread through the rest of the school xD
But then, 4th grade, she moved back to mexico, and my best friend moved to florida, leaving me on the west coast. still keep in touch with both =]

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 05:35 ID:LQdU0nPc

Back, long before I became as bitter, cynical and misanthropic as I am today, I was a high school student. I was in Advanced Placement Biology and sat near a girl that I had apparently had a chemistry class before with, as well as apparently gone to middle school with. It wasn't so much the way she looked, which was average, so much as her personality. Her personality was down to earth, but also funny and beautiful. It's hard to describe. After talking with her a lot, I could feel my heart jump every time I heard her name or saw her. But I never could find a way to tell her how I felt. I don't know, I always figured she'd reject me anyways; I figured it would be best to live in that middle area where you don't know, and you can always pretend there's a possibility they feel the same way, even if deep down you know they don't.

I don't know what happened, but somewhere along the way she began to change. Her personality, the thing that I loved about her the most, simply died at some point. The kindness and compassion, the intelligence...it all began to fade. She began wearing heavier makeup and became shallow, to fit in with the other girls...I don't know if she hid her personality to fit in, or if she killed it altogether. In any case, as was fitting of her new identity, she wouldn't even acknowledge my existence, As far as I know, she's off in UCSD I think, but as far as I know, my first crush is dead.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 08:29 ID:UaIruWVS

My first crush was on my older brother's best friend. I don't know why I was taken with him, as he was a very unattractive and cold person. After a couple of years he had told me that he liked me, but months after that he knocked up some fat hag, had two kids with her, then married her.

I liked him for a few years after that but now I am indifferent and I feel nothing for him. When he used to come around the house I used to be so excited to see him, but now I don't even bother to greet him. Maybe I am a little bitter and I admit that I smile knowing that he is unhappy with his relationship.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 09:43 ID:CtZIzQXk

Well since elementary school I had crushes but when I look back I never had a crush like my last one and is worth telling than a my neighbor in Kindergarden who moved away that year. She was also my first heartbreak, because I asked her to my 6th birthday party but she told me she couldn’t come because she would be gone by then.

On more related news, my crush lets call her Jen, came in sophomore year of high school. Well, actually we meet each other before that, but we never had a conversation longer than "Hello." But our 'relationship' began on the first day of school, when I walked in the Spanish class and say next to my friend. And to the left of him was Jen since they were friends too. I can’t remember what I said to her the first day, I probably didn’t say anything. I never knew that for the next few years she would a huge part of my life.

But as time went on, I noticed how wonderful she was. She had a bubbly personality: very talkative, funny, smart and extremely kind and caring. In essence, she was the girl next girl, nice and cute. We usually talked only talked in that class, and occasionally talked in outside of class like at lunch or just after school waiting for the bus. She had an AIM, but was never on because her father was always on the computer and we would never call each other because my parents are Indian, they are against dating completely. Plus I was too shy to get her phone number or call her.

I think within 3 months of meeting her, I was hooked. And about that time, I was better friends with her than my friend who introduced us. Probably not the case, since I am looking back from a biased perspective. But some how our personalities clicked and I could not have been happier. Back then I though teen movies could happen, and I knew that it was going happen with me and her.

However, she had a boyfriend much to my disappointment, and of course it was another one of my friends. I was actually shocked that she knew him in the first place. I mean he was a cool guy, but someone you wouldn’t want to bring home to your parents. He kept on getting in trouble, grades were never good, though he was extremely smart. But she was crazy about him. I was her friend and I thought by being the nice guy I eventually get her to like me. They dated for like a month maybe more I can’t remeber, but she was crazy for him for a while afterwards, I believe then even got back together for a bit. And even now I feel bad that I may have helped broken them up, just by telling her that he isn’t the type of person you should go out with, which is a honest answer and others would agree. But looking in back, I was a huge dick for doing that to my friend but in my defense, I though she could better, if not me certainly someone else,;he is a heavy drug user now.

But that was the cycle of our friendship: she would get a fling, ask me for advice, I would give her my honest answer, they date for a bit, and they broke up. What I didn’t know and failed to recognize was she would date everyone but me. I thought that one day she would find out she loved me and after a series of crazy events where I saved her or something, confess her love for me (a symptom of limerence). But that never happened. She would date a guy, tell me about him and then dump him for some superficial reason (she was a real superficial person but did a good job at hiding it or I was too dumb to recognize it).

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 09:44 ID:CtZIzQXk

Junior year, we were in 2 classes together and shared 2 others but had the class at different times. And also what happened is that she joined one of my clubs an academic club. The previous year, I would tell her about it the club and also her English teacher also the coach of the team recommended her to join it. Back then I thought she joined it for me first and then because of the coach, but it was probably the other way around. During that year, my crush hit a higher gear as well as our friendship did too. I think at that point we became really good friends and she became “the best friend I love,” but the dating cycle continued. Okay, when I say she dated a lot of guys, it was not like she dated a different guy every week, but she would have like 4 or 5 boyfriends a year, a lot but it was all innocent. I remember one guy she dated for two weeks was an another Indian, and he was a South Indian, if you know South Indians they are really dark. And they broke up, one of the reasons was the fact he was really dark. I can say that late junior year and the first part of senior year was when were the closest. I remember in Physics she would write all over my notebooks. And on yearbook signing day, she wrote a lengthy post plus randomly drew in my yearbook.

Junior year, our academic team won the state competition and we were invited to nationals. Aside for the fact that was an amazingly fun trip we enjoyed every minute of it, I learned two very important things. First, was my friend/teammate Tyler, one of the coolest guys I have ever met recently broke up with his girlfriend and also his prom date (prom was a like week away). Second, was that Jen liked him and would strategically walk behind us guys so she can look at you know what of his. Me, being the friend decided to set them up and got Tyler to ask her out to prom. And for the rest of the year they dated. Over summer they broke up because he just stopped talking to her. He actually went on a trip to Europe we was online a few times and he asked me to even tell her a message so she didn’t feel he forgot her. But after the trip, still having not spoken to her since the end of school, went to college and never spoke since.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 09:45 ID:CtZIzQXk

Senior year, we only shared one class, of course it was Spanish. That Spanish teacher is the greatest teacher ever. She was like a universal grandma, very nice (Michael Jordan gave her a kiss because she was that nice) and very wise. One of the things she was proud was how she identified couples and was able to set them up. She predicted one of my buddies and this girl who he was really good friends with to marry, so far they are only dating but it is obvious they will marry. She also predicted another couple back in the day she was invited to their wedding. She would usually sit the couple next to each other and hope that they will grow close, plus she loves seeing how they interact to rid her boredom of the daily teaching. After about 2 weeks into the class, my permanent partner was her, even though she would make us change seats every month. My friend in the class, use to fix the teacher’s computer during lunch and it became a habit of him to just in the class with her during lunch to talk, again she was really nice. And I didn’t find this out until after high school but she thought Jen and I would be a nice couple. But it never happened. She actually had a boyfriend that she kept all year. I never really liked him because he was an emo kid, but I didn’t like emo kids. But nevertheless we were friends and did the stuff we did before and life went on but toward the end of that year, we slowly started drift apart and around that time, the thought that I would never be with her actually crossed my mind, though I denied it. That year’s yearbook signing, her post was nothing compared to last year’s. Plus I started to hang out more and more with a group of friends and she started to hang out more of her friends We decided to go to the same college, though her going there was a reason of me going there, I was smart enough to know that I should not jeopardize my future over a girl, I am Indian, I should study a lot and if I need a girl my Mom can just import one from the motherland

In college, we started to head in completely directions. My major was time consuming and I would spend nights studying in my room or library. Her major was relatively easy and she would find time to go out and party, drink, flirt, etc. And I remember in high school she told me she didn’t like to drink, ask her now and she will pull out a bottle of Absolute Vodka. Also she took up smoking, something I never expected her to do. I remember in the academic club I told the group that if we win states that we should all go smoke a victory cigar and she then lectures me about how bad smoking was. That first semester, outside of her parents’ control, she shed her old life and started a new one with a bang. She was turning into someone new who I was not attracted to. Everything that I liked about her was abandoned in college. I started to stop liking her but a feeling of hope was still there. But what truly ended it was the fact we planned to meet each other for lunch every day. But she would then stand me up, and to the point where we didn’t have lunch for 2 weeks and the only explanation she would tell me online later would be “Sorry, I’ll make it up later” By then, I told myself enough of this shit, get out while you have some dignity left. It was painful to trying convince myself that she is not good for me and I should move on. Eventually I did, and though Jen and I occasionally still talk, I hardly see her and the only thing that really exist between us is a memory of a friendship. I really cannot look back at high school with her beginning in it.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 12:32 ID:Heaven

>>17>>18>>19
Holy, that's some romance novel you got there.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 15:51 ID:Heaven

This should have ended with Bel Air.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 20:53 ID:Heaven

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-28 16:17 ID:TYOaCVx5

>>19
I had a similar experience. I know the girl I liked is no longer the same now that she's in university. She's gotten a lot...stupider I guess would be a way of putting it. I don't know if it's an act because it gets her more attention or whatever but indeed she's not the same. However...I don't know, it's hard to just let go.

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