I've never had a girlfriend in my life. I've asked lots of girls out, but none of them have ever said yes. Recently I met a girl who really likes me. There's just one problem... She's 12 years old. I'm not usually attracted to young girls, but she's the first girl who has ever shown any interest in me. I'm waiting until I get married (if I ever do) to have sex, so we wouldn't be doing anything illegal... My question is this: should I give up what could be my only chance to ever have a girlfriend because people might think I'm a pedophile, or should I go out with her and not worry about what people might think?
how old are you? and where do you live? we need more info because dating a 12 year old might be illegal where you are
>>2
I'm 21.
I've already checked the laws here, as long as I don't have sex with her it would be legal.
yeah...by dating a girl who is 12 years old and you being 21, people will think you are having sex with her. and even if they cannot find any evidence, you will be considered a sex offender. my advice, stick with girls around your own age, because she is just a little girl and doesnt know better.
To be honest, I used to date alot of old guys when I was 12, too.
What she feels for you isn't love, to be honest.
She's an impressionable young girl, so when you tell her loveydovey stuff, she'll get all excited and all, and say it back, but she has no idea what she's actually talking about.
Just drop it. It'll make you seem like a pedophile too, and it'll make her seem like a whore. :/
>>1 just think about it , when you where 12, did you knew what the fuck goes on in this world? Give the kid a break and go get a woman for your self. This is not even a chance, its just you fooling yourself.
From the perspective of others, you WILL be looked as a pedophile and a sex offender which will end up with you in jail. Also, if you only have not met this girl in person, its a trap.
Yeah... if this is online, consider yourself already on the FBI watch list. If you are sexually advanced upon by anyone claiming to be underaged online, its almost certainly the police.
>>6-8
I've actually never talked to her online, only in person.
> even if they cannot find any evidence, you will be considered a sex offender.
What can anyone do about it without any evidence?
> my advice, stick with girls around your own age, because she is just a little girl and doesnt know better.
That would be great advice if I could find a girl around my own age who likes me.
> and it'll make her seem like a whore.
People already think she's a whore, and she doesn't seem to care.
> just think about it , when you where 12, did you knew what the fuck goes on in this world?
No, I didn't. I still don't. She actually knows more about that than I do. Maybe that's why girls my age don't like me...
> you WILL be looked as a pedophile and a sex offender which will end up with you in jail.
I doubt that. What would they put me in jail for?
oookay...
1st - yes, you will be absolutely regarded as a pedophile... That's... kinda the definition of the word, even if you're attracted to her personality or whatnot... The very word describes someone with an unhealthy relationship with a child...
2nd - It may sound like she likes you, but like anyone that age, she's still learning worldly knowledge, and she doesn't mean what she says to you in the same way you mean what you say to her... Don't fool yourself into thinking she understands & comprehends everything that her words mean...
3rd - Think about down the road... Once she realizes (again, a symbol of how little she comprehends everything at her age) how... abnormal such a relationship is, you'll be lucky if she just dislikes you for taking advantage of her... If you're not lucky, you'll be accused of corrupting a minor, at the least...
4th - Even if you weren't accused of anything in "3rd" item above, how exactly does she explain to her friends about the "man" that she sees after school?? Don't you think her friends are quickly going to tell the school councilors, her parents, principals, etc??
One thing's for certain, if you continue this kind of thing, you will be lucky if the only thing her parents put on you is a restraining order!
>What can anyone do about it without any evidence?
Let see, Michael Jackson was aquitted of sex related charges, but do you think parents are lining up to bring their kids him? This is such a taboo crime that they don't have to prove shit and society will hate you.
>That would be great advice if I could find a girl around my own age who likes me.
Nigga, get out of your mom's basement and find yourself a girl. Damnit, Match.com, or hire a dating service so they can set you up.
>People already think she's a whore, and she doesn't seem to care.
If she thinks she is a whore then she is and after you pound her pussy, because both of you think she is a whore, then a big black dude will be pounding your asshole.
>No, I didn't. I still don't. She actually knows more about that than I do. Maybe that's why girls my age don't like me...
Yeah of course girls don't like you, you are fucking retarded if a 12 year old is smarter than you.
>I doubt that. What would they put me in jail for?
Having sex with a minor, they don't have to get shit from her because she is "confused" and didn't know better and repressing all of her memories and shit like that.
It looks like you are adamant about going out with her. And if you still find excuses about doing it, they are a loser who is too lazy to clean up his act so he can go out with girls his age. Also you are a sicko to only limit yourself to a 12 year old girl.
> Let see, Michael Jackson was aquitted of sex related charges, but do you think parents are lining up to bring their kids him? This is such a taboo crime that they don't have to prove shit and society will hate you.
Parent's aren't lining up to bring their kids to me anyway. I'd like it to stay that way.
> If she thinks she is a whore then she is and after you pound her pussy, because both of you think she is a whore, then a big black dude will be pounding your asshole.
I didn't say that she thinks she is. Other people think she is, and she doesn't seem to care what they think.
Also, I'm not going to "pound her pussy." Read my first post again.
> Yeah of course girls don't like you, you are fucking retarded if a 12 year old is smarter than you.
I didn't say that she's smarter than me, just that she knows more about what goes on in the world than I do.
> Having sex with a minor, they don't have to get shit from her because she is "confused" and didn't know better and repressing all of her memories and shit like that.
Except that I wouldn't have sex with her. It's pretty hard to prove that someone committed a crime when the crime in question never happened.
> Also you are a sicko to only limit yourself to a 12 year old girl.
I'm not limiting myself. Like I said in my first post, I've tried asking other girls out. Most of them have been older than me.
This topic seriously scrape border of the permissible. FO not sure which side of border it coming from.
Gonna not make further comment on topic, it always will be not adequate.
Frigid Onanoko fail..... snif :(
dude, dating a 12 year old would not be accepted in this community, over the internet, and it will not be accepted in the real world EVER, and its nothing you can hide forever.
Don't waste key stroke and reply to me, I'm tired of this shit , do what you wanna do, I said enough.
> That would be great advice if I could find a girl around my own age who likes me.
Get over your whiny ass.
IT's pretty pathetic to retort when you are the one trying to get advice. The sound advice is that you, a 21 year old dating a 12 year old, is morally wrong, distasteful and summing it up: you are just plain desperate.
Read your first post all over again... and tell me that you aren't just desperate to be in a relationship... any relationship that happens to come your way. That, my friend... is pathetic... for someone your age to sink that low, you should know better. If you still don't know which path to choose after reading all these messages, you need to seek professional help because your thought path is definitely beyond unhealthy.
It doesn't matter how she feels about having a relationship with you. It's just not going to happen. You should have more restraint than being stupid with your reasoning.
Like >>12 said, go register on a dating service and don't prey on the underaged girls.
>>17
Why should I register on a dating service when I already know that no girl my age wants to date a guy who won't have sex with her?
I'm currently training and brainwashing an 8 year old girl to be my future wife, i'm 22. Good luck dude, young girls will be the BOMB in our FUTURE. LOL!
>>18
It would be an insult to retarded people to call you retarded if you honestly think that no girl your age wants to date a guy who won't have sex with her. If you won't as much as even hug a chick, then you're going to have big problems. But nevertheless there are a few who'll save all body-contact to when they get married so even in that case you can find someone. If it's just sex you don't want to have yet, then that's hardly a reason for girls not to want you. One of my friends (22 years) who keeps having chicks fighting over him doesn't want to have sex outside of serious, longterm relationships - and everyone knows. He huggles, cuddles chicks and spends time with them, is kind, etc. They think it's a breath of fresh air to have a handsome guy who isn't out to just fuck them, or use romance as a way of getting laid, but uses romance for the sake of romance itself. They also feel safe knowing that they can have no strings attached compassion and flirting without winding up getting pressured into more. However, getting what they might feel is a demo for how he is as a boyfriend usually makes them fall head over heels for him. He's too picky about longterm life-partners though. I can't decide if he's a lucky bastard or if I should pity him.
OP, to me it sounds as if you're desperately trying to justify this pedophile relationship with her. I've known plenty of highly intelligent girls that hadn't even hit puberty, in my life. They lack important life-experience, however. The younger you are, the more limited to your own life-experience you are. This does not belong in a relationship with someone who's supposed to know better than that.
>>19
I hope you're trolling and not actually that fucking retarded.
>>20
How many of those girls would want to be in a serious long-term relationship without sex? Probably none.
>>22
Platonic love is rare but still exists. And even if it didn't, that doesn't mean you can use your status - whatever it is, you have a status in her eyes just because of your age - to influence her. She hasn't enough experience, as many said before. She hasn't the point of view of a mature adult, and that, no matter how intelligent she is.
Holy fuck I want to bitch slap you so hard right now.
>Why should I register on a dating service when I already know that no girl my age wants to date a guy who won't have sex with her?
Have you met every single fucking girl around your age on the planet? No you met 3 girls who thought you were a little creepy and you thought it was game over for you. I am serious when I say go to a dating service, like one where you meet someone in person so they can coach your social skills because I doubt you have any.
>How many of those girls would want to be in a serious long-term relationship without sex? Probably none.
Date a really religious girl, and I am 99.9% sure that they will not have sex with you until you marry and if you don't want to have sex then don't get married. Honestly though, what man does not want to have sex? Men want sex. Unless you don't have any testicles, you want sex.
There are really simple answers to all of your excuses for dating the little girl. You just don't want to make the effort because you are a pedophile and deserve to rot in jail.