Question for you all, but it requires a bit of backstory.
I never started dating at all and was nothing more than an antisocial geek until when I was 16, I started playing the guitar and singing in front of people in the church, later I ended up leading a band in the same setting. There did not seem to be a period of time longer than 2 months when I was not dating someone. This continued unit I was about half way though college and my studies and work kept me from having time to do this anymore. In college I then dated a girl for two years (who was a bit of an otaku, actually) and then realized that she wasnt the one, so I had to break up with her.
Now, about a yearand a half after that, I am 23, and it seems that nothing seems to happen anymore. I still like playing guitar, and love to sing, but am reluctant to go back to performance in front of others because I do not want to get female attention for that reason alone, and I also don't trust that I would not be playing for the wrong reasons.
I guess it kinda would make me feel cheap, I want someone to like me for who I am because later down the road, I might not want to play anymore, and at that point, what they were attracted to might not be there anymore.
I guess my question after all of this is:
Am I sane in my decision to not play in an effort to find a genuine relationship? Or is "bait and switch" just acceptable and necessary?
Also, what the hell is it with girls and music?
I think it's because girls realize you have a talent and you can express it at your full potential, and that's great. A lot of girls are drawn to guys who have a talent they can express, whether it be in church or in you garage with your band. Music is big these days. Almost every person I know to be in a local band or garage band has a girlfriend. Music and talent attracts girls to guys and vice versa (Guys to some girls).
Sure some girls like to feel and look important, but I know a lot of people who were in a band and not anymore, and they're still together with his or her gf/bf.
Yeah I agree with >>3. Talent.
It's natural instinct that girls are drawn to guys with a strength in a particular field. They seem so in control and confident. Also, it's a challenge to win the heart of a musician or artist I reckon. Because their thinking is so alternative and deep, and you wanna share a part of their own little world.