This thread stinks generalizations that have been reduced to useless caricatures.

>So if we are nice, we're gay. If we're not then they don't like us...

I know plenty of sane and cool chicks who would love having a nice guy. Nice doesn't imply spineless, though. I've also met too many (any amount above zero is too many) women who've been taught to equate emotional abuse with love, and thus they keep hooking up with jerks and abusive partners.