Need some help with a seemingly shy girl. (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 05:04 ID:cvkGcYGj

I could give you the whole story about how we met up, but I won't. It's long, it's boring, it's unnecessary. I'm going to get straight to the point.

There's this girl I'm into, and hell, she is into me as well. She even said she liked me (more than a friend) on a few occasions and that has to mean something, even if it was through AIM. We hang out often with the other people in my group of friends, and that's when I try to get closer to her. You know, talking to her more, touching her, but the thing is, I'm not getting any reaction. She doesn't show interest or disinterest in my attempts to break the ice. I talk to her daily and yeah, we have good conversations, but I'm always the one making the phone calls, asking the questions, etc. In order words, if I didn't say anything, there would be complete silence.

It's so one sided it's ridiculous. Today when our group hung out, I didn't say a word. I wanted to see if she would say something to me. You know, maybe a hello or anything from her vocally. The only thing she said was bye when she was leaving.

She told me a few days ago through text that she had been in only one relationship and that was with a guy she didn't like. Could this be the reason she's acting like a zombie? That she doesn't KNOW how to open up? I remember before my first relationship, I was anti-touchy because I didn't understand it. Why? But after my first relationship, I realized because it felt good to cuddle with someone. So I ask you this, do you think she is acting unresponsive because that's the way she is, or because she's a shy girl who's never been in a intimate relationship before? Should I keep trying and maybe one day she will show me that she likes me instead of just telling me?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 05:12 ID:EAVNHWCx

c) put it in

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 05:13 ID:NsE2qr89

If she says she's into you (and not yanking your crank) then you're already gold. Be the man. Drive the car. Take her out on dates - just you and her. Talk to her, get to know her.

She might just be embarrassed if you're hanging out with other people.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 08:23 ID:pxRcGOLh

There's a possibility that she's naturally taciturn. Is she normally quiet with other people unless they initiate the conversations?

Also what >>3 said. She might be more comfortable if it were just you and her.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 09:38 ID:iF4tIj4Q

just ask her what the hell she wants

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 13:28 ID:USNcCFQb

She's probably doing that because she's hell insecure. She doesn't want to appear desperate or clingy by showing you affection.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 16:20 ID:+a3mIUE2

Thanks for the responses guys. I'll reply when I get back from work tonight.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-25 17:15 ID:ch1rBsGK

Actually guys, I just called off. I need a break from that place.

"If she says she's into you (and not yanking your crank) then you're already gold. Be the man. Drive the car. Take her out on dates - just you and her. Talk to her, get to know her."

Yeah, I plan to do just that. I need to get her alone.

"There's a possibility that she's naturally taciturn. Is she normally quiet with other people unless they initiate the conversations?"

Yeah, she is normally quiet unless someone says something to her. That describes her exactly.

"She's probably doing that because she's hell insecure. She doesn't want to appear desperate or clingy by showing you affection."

That's what I was thinking. I'm hoping to get her to open up more by showing her affection so one day she'll be comfortable showing it to me.

So thanks for the help guys. I just need to keep doing what I'm doing. Hopefully it will work out. If not, there are other girls out there and at least I can say I tried.

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