This is for all the women out there on this board. Hopefully some normal women.
I am probably the most normal any anime/internet junkie is ever going to get. Good physique, motivated in life, ambitious, socially well-spoken and connected. On average (during the school semester) I get approached by one or two women a week. A different girl is over my house every day of the week, and I choose which ones I want to have sex with.
They know this, they know me. They know it's not a relationship. They even know each other. I'm unfortunately not graceful enough to have threesomes except on special occasions. I also have to move the mountains while writing a fourteen page report on windex in order to have one.
Now... I'll reveal another part of me I haven't really told anyone. I know girls, talk to them pretty deeply and I really love it. I like more than the sex, I just like being with someone. Honestly speaking, regardless of all the women I know, I've never dated, never had a girlfriend, a relationship, and I'm still too scared to approach any girl individually. I just let myself get approached.
As it stands, I'm actually setting myself up for that.
I'm not getting any younger. Any one of the girls I'm currently with would love to be my exclusive girlfriend. The thing is, I really don't like any of the girls I'm with. I mean, they're fun, and exciting. But they really don't know the first thing about me. I'm looking for someone who spends more time ONline than someone to go skiing with.
So my question is, what is the most romantic way to say "I want to stop having sex with you, I'm still heterosexual, but I've got to move on with my life and you do too... So I never want to hear or see you again" And how do I say that to six different girls...
Now take note, I also want a backup plan if I ever want to go back... Like... I want to move on as long as moving on is better than the life I've got now. So the entire Blunt "Go the fuck away" is completely out of the question. If being with one girl I can really connect with is bogus I'd like to be able to go back.
I know I'm being selfish with this, but really, I just want this transition in my life to be as smooth as possible.
You lucky son of a bitch
you should just tell them it's over. truth is the best remedy, etc.
there's no smoothness here for you, and it's not like you won't be able to find other girls to sex other than these six you've got now.
i mean, just take a chance with la dating pool and you can always go back to sexxin up hot chicks if you're half as loverly as you say you are.
No seriously, I don't think I'm a quarter as Loverly as I'm making myself out to be...
Wel... Maybe a quarter...
Honestly speaking though, I'm still afraid of approaching individual girls. And just because I get approached by girls every week doesn't mean that I can get laid whenever I want. This is a lot to give up.
I consider myself lucky.
"You lucky son of a bitch"
For some reason these girls just take everything I do as something great and all my dumb jokes are funny to them. They see my aspirations as some world changing thing and my ideas are all interesting conversations. Do I believe they are? No. I do not.
Which I can only draw the conclusions that I'm either really intelligent, are these girls are really dumb. I can't decide which one that is.
And that's not the only thing. What if I end up in a relationship. MY FIRST relationship. And it turns out to be a disaster and that rapes my ego and changes my heart? I may not know a lot about the actual mechanics of attraction. But I DO know that women are not attracted to distrustful losers. Maybe distrustful but aspirant people. But not distrustful losers.
Which is why I like to step back, look at the situation carefully and have a backup plan. Rawr.
>>What if I end up in a relationship. MY FIRST relationship. And it turns out to be a disaster and that rapes my ego and changes my heart?
Well then, that will really really suck but you'll just have to deal with it. You'll hava to keep this( >>women are not attracted to distrustful losers ) in mind if your one time relationship doesn't work out.
but this isn't one of those fucking magical plush machines where you always get a prize the first time. This will take time and effort and hopefully it won't hurt too bad. But in the end I'm sure it's worth it.
How about you shut the fuck up and get your ego stroking at another place? Nobody cares about you here.
>>Well then, that will really really suck but you'll just have to deal with it.
My dear I believe you've proverbially popped me in the forehead...
...ow. Yes'm...
Oh no, my ego! LoL... Calm down, kind sir or madame.
Shut up, bitch.
Everybody is good-looking and a bitchmagnet on the net. Try to post your shit without those lies and at a place where people care.
I'm wounded sir. Are there no good looking people on the interweb super highway? Besides, I really don't think that looks has anything to do with attracting girls. I don't find myself all that appealing to look at.
And wait? Good looking people aren't allowed to use the internet? Whu?
LoL. You must be THIS ugly to have use of the internets!
http://www.ebaumsworld.com/2006/09/real-ugly-face.jpg
PS... That's my future giirrrlfriend. We're going to live together forever and ever.
Really. And someone who has a lot of girls around them is completely full of self-esteem? I'll be the first to say that I'm not really all that confident. In fact, I think I write that in my OP.
And Proper Etiquette. ...I don't think I ever came across as... Etiquette...-able...
...I 'could' be amerikan. LoL.
I'm going to go do important things now. Like "FUCK ALL THE WIMMENZ I HAVE" ...And Stuff
Actually, this morning I'm going to be designing all day. (Sucks to be me) Blargh.
TTFN http://www.alexross.com/Tata300240.jpg (Ta ta for now)
Website design. If you want to see, AIM me at nitetakesqueen or nitetakesqueen@gmail.com
It is good that the moderators are controlling the spam posts. HOwever, they are getting a little too trigger happy and deleting posts that helps clarifies some arguements in threads.
But what I can gather is that some people find it hard to believe that someone who can claim to sleep with any girl he wants is having problems with finding a girl to have a relationship with. And I find this hard to believe as well.
I think the biggest problem I take from this is the fact girls approach you. >>2 is right, you are a lucky son of a bitch. Girls rarely approach guys, this is what I have told, seen and experienced. Very rarely girls will approach guys and then you are sleeping with them by the week's end. I don't know what you do but you must share your secret.
As for your problem. Do what you usually do. The only difference I see with the casual hookup and the long term relationship is the time spent together. So instead of sleeping with a girl, try to spend more time talking with her, spending time with her. You said you just like talking more than sex, then just talk with her. And as for finding the right girl, since so many approach you, then just pick out the ones you like and then "interview" them until you find the right one.
>But what I can gather is that some people find it hard to believe that someone who can claim to sleep with any girl he wants is having problems with finding a girl to have a relationship with. And I find this hard to believe as well.
i don't. i have no problems imagining that scenario, which worries me.
