Being Sexy (39)

1 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-29 21:00 ID:04yIBO1j

This is for all the women out there on this board. Hopefully some normal women.

I am probably the most normal any anime/internet junkie is ever going to get. Good physique, motivated in life, ambitious, socially well-spoken and connected. On average (during the school semester) I get approached by one or two women a week. A different girl is over my house every day of the week, and I choose which ones I want to have sex with.

They know this, they know me. They know it's not a relationship. They even know each other. I'm unfortunately not graceful enough to have threesomes except on special occasions. I also have to move the mountains while writing a fourteen page report on windex in order to have one.

Now... I'll reveal another part of me I haven't really told anyone. I know girls, talk to them pretty deeply and I really love it. I like more than the sex, I just like being with someone. Honestly speaking, regardless of all the women I know, I've never dated, never had a girlfriend, a relationship, and I'm still too scared to approach any girl individually. I just let myself get approached.

As it stands, I'm actually setting myself up for that.

I'm not getting any younger. Any one of the girls I'm currently with would love to be my exclusive girlfriend. The thing is, I really don't like any of the girls I'm with. I mean, they're fun, and exciting. But they really don't know the first thing about me. I'm looking for someone who spends more time ONline than someone to go skiing with.

So my question is, what is the most romantic way to say "I want to stop having sex with you, I'm still heterosexual, but I've got to move on with my life and you do too... So I never want to hear or see you again" And how do I say that to six different girls...

Now take note, I also want a backup plan if I ever want to go back... Like... I want to move on as long as moving on is better than the life I've got now. So the entire Blunt "Go the fuck away" is completely out of the question. If being with one girl I can really connect with is bogus I'd like to be able to go back.

I know I'm being selfish with this, but really, I just want this transition in my life to be as smooth as possible.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-29 22:32 ID:eg5UA3eX

You lucky son of a bitch

3 Name: laika : 2007-05-30 03:36 ID:D7jhxa/w

you should just tell them it's over. truth is the best remedy, etc.
there's no smoothness here for you, and it's not like you won't be able to find other girls to sex other than these six you've got now.
i mean, just take a chance with la dating pool and you can always go back to sexxin up hot chicks if you're half as loverly as you say you are.

4 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:13 ID:04yIBO1j

No seriously, I don't think I'm a quarter as Loverly as I'm making myself out to be...

Wel... Maybe a quarter...

Honestly speaking though, I'm still afraid of approaching individual girls. And just because I get approached by girls every week doesn't mean that I can get laid whenever I want. This is a lot to give up.

5 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:14 ID:04yIBO1j

I consider myself lucky.

"You lucky son of a bitch"

For some reason these girls just take everything I do as something great and all my dumb jokes are funny to them. They see my aspirations as some world changing thing and my ideas are all interesting conversations. Do I believe they are? No. I do not.

6 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:14 ID:04yIBO1j

Which I can only draw the conclusions that I'm either really intelligent, are these girls are really dumb. I can't decide which one that is.

And that's not the only thing. What if I end up in a relationship. MY FIRST relationship. And it turns out to be a disaster and that rapes my ego and changes my heart? I may not know a lot about the actual mechanics of attraction. But I DO know that women are not attracted to distrustful losers. Maybe distrustful but aspirant people. But not distrustful losers.

Which is why I like to step back, look at the situation carefully and have a backup plan. Rawr.

7 Name: laika : 2007-05-30 14:26 ID:D7jhxa/w

>>6

>>What if I end up in a relationship. MY FIRST relationship. And it turns out to be a disaster and that rapes my ego and changes my heart?

Well then, that will really really suck but you'll just have to deal with it. You'll hava to keep this( >>women are not attracted to distrustful losers ) in mind if your one time relationship doesn't work out.
but this isn't one of those fucking magical plush machines where you always get a prize the first time. This will take time and effort and hopefully it won't hurt too bad. But in the end I'm sure it's worth it.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-30 14:38 ID:Ulu8W9BH

How about you shut the fuck up and get your ego stroking at another place? Nobody cares about you here.

9 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:38 ID:04yIBO1j

>>7

>>Well then, that will really really suck but you'll just have to deal with it.

My dear I believe you've proverbially popped me in the forehead...

...ow. Yes'm...

10 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:39 ID:04yIBO1j

>>8

Oh no, my ego! LoL... Calm down, kind sir or madame.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-30 14:41 ID:Ulu8W9BH

Shut up, bitch.
Everybody is good-looking and a bitchmagnet on the net. Try to post your shit without those lies and at a place where people care.

12 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:46 ID:04yIBO1j

>>11

I'm wounded sir. Are there no good looking people on the interweb super highway? Besides, I really don't think that looks has anything to do with attracting girls. I don't find myself all that appealing to look at.

And wait? Good looking people aren't allowed to use the internet? Whu?

13 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:46 ID:04yIBO1j

>>11

LoL. You must be THIS ugly to have use of the internets!
http://www.ebaumsworld.com/2006/09/real-ugly-face.jpg

14 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:47 ID:04yIBO1j

PS... That's my future giirrrlfriend. We're going to live together forever and ever.

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16 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:52 ID:04yIBO1j

>>15

Really. And someone who has a lot of girls around them is completely full of self-esteem? I'll be the first to say that I'm not really all that confident. In fact, I think I write that in my OP.

And Proper Etiquette. ...I don't think I ever came across as... Etiquette...-able...

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19 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 14:59 ID:04yIBO1j

...I 'could' be amerikan. LoL.

I'm going to go do important things now. Like "FUCK ALL THE WIMMENZ I HAVE" ...And Stuff

Actually, this morning I'm going to be designing all day. (Sucks to be me) Blargh.

TTFN http://www.alexross.com/Tata300240.jpg (Ta ta for now)

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21 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-05-30 17:36 ID:04yIBO1j

>>20

Website design. If you want to see, AIM me at nitetakesqueen or nitetakesqueen@gmail.com

22 Name: laika : 2007-05-30 18:04 ID:D7jhxa/w

>>9
yes well..
there you go, mister.

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25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-31 00:39 ID:Heaven

It is good that the moderators are controlling the spam posts. HOwever, they are getting a little too trigger happy and deleting posts that helps clarifies some arguements in threads.

But what I can gather is that some people find it hard to believe that someone who can claim to sleep with any girl he wants is having problems with finding a girl to have a relationship with. And I find this hard to believe as well.

I think the biggest problem I take from this is the fact girls approach you. >>2 is right, you are a lucky son of a bitch. Girls rarely approach guys, this is what I have told, seen and experienced. Very rarely girls will approach guys and then you are sleeping with them by the week's end. I don't know what you do but you must share your secret.

As for your problem. Do what you usually do. The only difference I see with the casual hookup and the long term relationship is the time spent together. So instead of sleeping with a girl, try to spend more time talking with her, spending time with her. You said you just like talking more than sex, then just talk with her. And as for finding the right girl, since so many approach you, then just pick out the ones you like and then "interview" them until you find the right one.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-31 10:42 ID:Heaven

>But what I can gather is that some people find it hard to believe that someone who can claim to sleep with any girl he wants is having problems with finding a girl to have a relationship with. And I find this hard to believe as well.

i don't. i have no problems imagining that scenario, which worries me.

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29 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-03 23:36 ID:3Jf1fjri

>>25

Alright, let me explain this one. First off, I don't have a problem finding girls who would want a relationship with 'me'. That part was pretty clear.

I'll begin with why I might have a low self confidence. When I was in elementary and junior highschool. I was the fat kid... I was like 60lbs over my weight, I slouched, I pretty much just dressed in whatever my Mom thought was fashionable. I was a fucking loser.

When I hit highschool though, the magic of puberty struck me like nothing I even noticed. I started growing taller, my face, became clearer than it was before puberty. I started fencing and track. And I had dropped myself sixty to seventy lbs. Highschool was hard for me. I didn't know how to deal with people treating me.

And it was still difficult for me to understand and relate to people, I had an IQ of 130, which is pretty average to 4-ch I think. But I went to Brooklyn Technical Highschool. Even if they were intelligent, it wasn't a school of class. I actually ran away from good looking people because they were the people who used to make fun of me in elementary. It took me years to get over the fact that I wasn't bad looking. I still feel that way sometimes.

After Highschool, I began taking things a little more offensively. I finally figured out that "hey, I can have EVERYTHING i ever wanted! i can have friends, i can go do things, i don't have to be afraid of being made fun of. i can make fun of people if i wanted to". A lot of things happen when people see you differently. People didn't see me as some freak who didn't talk to anyone.

And in college, I had every single opportunity to change how people saw me. Completely new class, with new people. I had a choice to make. Were people going to see me as this nobody? Or were they going to see something worth being with?

So I planned. I'll admit it. I planned being cool. I studied being popular. I even have dry erase board plots on what to say and what to do, and how I would treat people. I studied sociology.

On the first day in College. Everyone knew me. That's no exaggeration. It was hard for me. Like jumping out of a plane, doing things I never would have DREAMED of doing. I put on this show of a person who was too cool that he didn't CARE about how he was seen. And in the end. That was what I became.

On the first day of College, I had a top hat on. I greeted anyone who even looked at me. I was dancing on a Cafeteria table with two girls I had just met.

And on the inside? Panic. Total and utter panic. But I pushed. And I continued going on like I was USED to this. Like having girls all over me was NO BIG DEAL. And that's how people remember me by.

I made hundreds of friends. I brought my sketchbook to that school, and it got passed around to everyone on the CAMPUS, and by the time I got it back it was LITTERED in numbers and screennames and little comments on my drawings.

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Do girls look at me and think "OH MY GOD HE'S SO HOT LETS GO TALK TO HIM!" no. They don't think that. You know why girls approach me?

Because they CAN. It's easier for a girl to approach someone who is RENOWNED for being known. It's easier for girls to approach me because their friend. or their friend of a friend knows me. It's easier for girls to approach me because I've told EVERYONE to talk to me. Even if I don't remember them. It's easier for girls to approach me, because every other person who has has had good reviews about me. Because THATs the person I PORTRAY.

Because every week I have something for everyone to do. And anyone can come along.

Because I'm the center of attention.

30 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-03 23:36 ID:3Jf1fjri

You call that luck? I didn't just wake up and girls were all over me. I made that happen. And do girls just come up to me and say "OH MY GOD LETS HAVE SEX NOW" no... Sometimes they say "OH MY GOD I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU NOW" but you know something? If you say "Lets go here so we can have sex" they'll get flustered and WONT HAVE SEX WITH YOU. They'll just laugh it off like a joke.

Sex is about timing. It's not even about relationships or shit like that. It's about whether the girl feels like you can be trusted and finds you attractive enough and if they're comfortable enough and the time is right. A girl could WANT to have sex with you. But won't, because she's not comfortable with it. I have to say a HUNDRED things with only five to six words. THATS NOT LUCK.

I consider myself lucky to have the girls that I DO have.

And why is it hard for me to find a girl I want to be with?

Because I want a girl who doesn't care about that. But is still valuable herself. I want a girl who finds ME attractive. Not because everyone knows me. Not because other girls find me attractive. Not because I have a future. Not because I get straight A's -Except I got a B+ this semester but that was my fault-. Not because I work out, or have nice hair or anything.

I want a girl who would Love me, even if I were still fat. I want a girl who would Love me, if I were fat and unpopular and STILL had difficulty talking to people.

That's what's so hard.

That's what's difficult. And don't find that hard to believe, because that's what I desire... It's what I'm willing to leave my current WOMEN for. This life that you guys call "Lucky" or simply "Untrue"

If you guys really think it's untrue, hit me up on AIM, give me two months and I could TEACH any of you to get girls. Any of you willing to make changes in your life.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-26 17:25 ID:peQt4RLL

>>29-30

I was inspired very much by this text, and I am also undergoing a similar change in my self-confidence, for example I used to be very paranoid and think people would trick me and make fun of me, but I'm getting better now. =)

Could you please tell more about that first day in college? It would be interesting to know more about what happened, I was thinking of doing something similar when I begin college, although I have one year in high school left.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-26 18:01 ID:Heaven

I can't believe I'm the first to sage this troll.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-26 20:38 ID:xgPYg/ty

'On the first day of College, I had a top hat on. I greeted anyone who even looked at me. I was dancing on a Cafeteria table with two girls I had just met'

I DO NOT recommend doing this on your first day at college for anyone else out there.

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-26 21:52 ID:Heaven

>>31
People will think you're an attention whore, just like the troll that wrote this post.

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-27 01:49 ID:Heaven

>>33
Damn, too late.

36 Name: 31 : 2007-07-27 08:19 ID:peQt4RLL

>>34

I believe that one can be an "attention whore" in a positive way. There are some people who attract attention by being loud and obnoxious, and there are a few who are so nice and outgoing to everyone that people like them.

>>34

There is a small "attention whore" in every one of us, and I wish to free mine from the chains of shyness and insecurity. =)

Like this thread's starter, I also get almost perfect grades (without much effort compared to how much my friends study), and I feel that I could lay more energy on being totally free from bad self-confidence, than just waste my time at the computer and watching the hours fly away.

Although I don't do it explicitly for the sake of "having girls all over me", I feel that it is just a necessary step in my personal self-development. Also, if I get to know more people, my chances of finding someone I like would increase.

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-27 14:33 ID:ddggZWes

I find it amusing that you sleep around so much yet get flustered about having a relationship with one girl. Promiscuity, lol.

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-27 15:34 ID:Heaven

>>36
The latter is not called being an "attention whore"; it's called being "sociable".

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-28 03:54 ID:6+bDf64Q

OP, I wasn't aware that you could study charisma. But let me tell you, doing random, attention seeking things constantly, does not equate to charisma.

> For some reason these girls just take everything I do as something great and all my dumb jokes are funny to them. They see my aspirations as some world changing thing and my ideas are all interesting conversations. Do I believe they are? No. I do not.

Riiight. In the event that you are telling the truth, I think you are giving them too much credit there. Do you really think they give a damn about your "jokes" and "aspirations", let alone comprehend them? They only need one reason to laugh and admire. That's popularity. Let me re-iterate: Popularity does not equal charisma. The most popular guys are quite often the most mind-numbingly boring men I've ever met. And the chances are, the type of girl that you're looking for, is not looking for a guy like you.

But I guess you brought this upon yourself in the first place.
Alas, the sacrifices we make in life. Snort.

No seriously, I don't know why you made this thread in the first place. Exactly what advice are you looking for? You give us a lot of mindless, unnecessary dribble about your supposed background, but all I can gather from these troll-baiting posts is "ZOMG, how DOES i find A special WIMMEN TO love ME?". Typical question. But it's as good as asking "How do I get laid?".

If it's an ordinary girl that you're looking for, well, you could start by burning that top hat. And PERHAPS curbing THE RANDOM shouting could HELP too. I dunno, just a THOUGHT.

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