Shadow of the Prom: Will she love me back!? (61)

1 Name: Spock : 2007-06-04 01:26 ID:BBWPEhb/

Hello minna-san,
Just last Firday I had my Senior Ball. I managed to go there with the girl that I had a big crush on.
キタ━━━━━━(゚∀゚)━━━━━━ !
She wore a beautiful black dress, I can still see here sweet smile when I close my eyes. (^.^)
Sadly though, on Prom night we both had not such a good time, The DJ played mostly rap (which we both hate) and we both do not like to grind. (She is VERY religious and I am very shy IRL). So for almost all of the prom night we waltzed and did the slow dance in the hall away from everyone else. I especially loved the slow dance though I couldnt hold her close enough to me. When she was in my arms everything felt good and for the 1st time in half an year I was happy (although this quickly ended after a noticed that I was starting to get an erection O.o" I was terrified so I pulled back I bit and re adjusted my pants till it faded a short bit latter, I don't think she noticed though). (=~=;;;;;)

After the ball we rode over to the Senior Daze (an after party to make a drug/alcohol free event). It was actually more fun than the prom it's self. We both got balloon hats and I made her sing "Birdhouse in your Soul" by TMBG and in revenge she made me sing a song called "California Dreaming" with her.
Around 1:20 AM I called for my dad to pick us up, when he got there I had him play a waltz over the CD player thus we did our 'last waltz'.
When we arrived at her house I finally decided to ask her what I wanted to tell her for so long.
ME: u-u-u-Um, Carolyn?
Her: Yes?
ME: Uh, may I um, ask you a question?
Her: <smiles> sure (^-^*)
ME: Would you, um, ever consider, mabie going out with me some time? (._.)"
Her: mabie
Me:I dont need any decision right now, Just take as long as you need... goodnight
Her: sweetdreams <looks at me, smiles then closes the door)
Me: Sweetdreams

With that said, tomorrow I will be seeing her and I am really panicking!!!
I need some advise on where to go from now and something to calm my nerves (mabie a small cup of hot ume sake?)

I wish to be the next Densha Otoko! But I am very fugly and have no luck :(
However, I burned the Densha Otoko TV sonto DVD for her, I hope it will help my chances

                                         _  _
~Spock .\\//
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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-04 20:37 ID:KM4wh7CD

First of all congrats on going to the prom with a girl you really like. That is a real big step.

But please don't think you will be the next Densha. Don't live in the fantasy that it will all end happily ever after, this is real life it can end pretty badly.

But you don't need to fret or worry about this. Don't be afraid to ask her out or even ask her permission to ask her out. When she said "maybe" (learn to spell) you should have given her an offer instead of backing down and then run away. You should have closed the deal and asked her out for something.

But all is not lost. Monday call her and ask her for some coffee. Just ask her for sometime in the afternoon. No pressure on her and you. If it goes well, ask her out for Saturday. When you ask her out, try to limit your conversation so that you ask her out and that is about it. If she really wants to talk or vice versa, just save it for the "date" so you can have something to talk about on the "date."

Goodluck and live long and prosper...

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14 Name: Spock : 2007-06-05 04:02 ID:BBWPEhb/

Thank you,

Currently, I am doing my best to get close to her currently. However, I already told her that she didn't have to decide ight away so I am currently thinking that it might be best if I give her some time to think about it, although I hope that this weekend I will be able to take her to one of the civil war re-enactments that I am going to this weekend (especially for the dance they will be having).

Currently things haven't been too good for me because:
1) I found out that one of my friends was supposedly raped during the summer and I know the guy too

2) Thanks to my sisters cats (she has 7),I have been cleaning up cat puke and feces almost non-stop. However, I still always smell like cats and that deeply bothers me... sometimes I can even breath in my own house. I would love it if I could invite her over sometime, but not with the way things are now!

3) Last night I was up till 3AM on 4-ch, then at 4AM I was awoken because the fire department came over to by house because one of my sisters idiotic cats pissed on an outlet and it started sparking. Now We have shut off the power in that area (half of my room, all of my sisters room and out bathroom). If that wasn't bad enough, since my sister couldn't have any lights on she lit a candle and fell asleep... her bed caught on fire at 5:30AM so I was woken up again. ;_;

3) I was feeling really upset due to the things listed above(and some others not mentioned) so I called her. No one picked up so I left a message saying that I was having some issues currently and I would really help me if I could ask her some thing, but she never called back :(

well thank you for the advice so far >>3 - >>12-san, I greatly appreciate your help. I will try to work on avoiding wapanese behavior. I look foward to your replies. <(_ _)>

15 Name: sagesagesagesagesagesage : 2007-06-05 04:53 ID:Heaven

yeah...you're a stupid fucking troll

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 15:04 ID:JN9jepSo

...Right. Well, just make sure she's into Civil War re-enactment type things. Have you asked her about it? If she's just gonna be bored the whole time while you're having fun, she might resent you a little. So just...make sure its actually something she wants to do.

Also, if you really want to quit with the wapanesery, stop calling people #-san. I cringe every time I see it.

Also, make sure you don't complain about all the stuff all through your hopefully-future-date. It's okay to mention it briefly to make conversation, but if you spend the whole time going "OMG GIRL-SAN, I SMELL LIKE CAT PUKE AND MAH FRIEND GOT RAPED!" she'll probably pick up her fork and stab your eyes out. Ask her questions about herself and then try to relate to her answers.

Though I have to tell you, the fact that she gave you such a half-assed wishywashy "maybe" answer and now isn't calling you back isn't a good sign. It's possible that she's not really into you like that, but doesn't want to hurt, so is avoiding you. Or maybe she's honestly just busy - who knows. But don't expect to be Densha Jr.

17 Name: sageSAGE : 2007-06-05 16:15 ID:Heaven

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18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 02:52 ID:KM4wh7CD

Spock, take care of the stuff in your life right now, like getting rid of a few cats. Don't worry about her, but keep light contact with her. When things in your life have sorted out then ask her out.

19 Name: sage : 2007-06-06 05:31 ID:Heaven

i hate this so much

20 Name: maus : 2007-06-06 08:50 ID:Heaven

As >>12 mentioned,

>But please don't think you will be the next Densha. Don't live in the fantasy that it will all end happily ever after, this is real life it can end pretty badly.

(But don't worry about it. Just don't be so nervous/excited/weak and enjoy your time with her.)

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 10:33 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>19
And I hate you too

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 18:02 ID:Heaven

Why must Love & Romance be beleaguered by these fake wastes of everyone's time?

23 Name: Spock : 2007-06-10 14:19 ID:BBWPEhb/

Update:
Well I just got back from the civil war re-enactment. She greatly enjoyed her time there and even learned how to do the Virginia Reel. It was also really nice because she was cold in her dress during the dance so I got to hold her in my arms :)

When we dropped her off at out house I asked her if she had come to a decision since last time.
She said that it would be hard with me going to collage and her in High school and that she wasn't sure if she had the time for a boyfriend and that it might be better for her if we were friends.
I told her that I was going to a local collage and wont moving so I wouldn't even be leaving my house. Also, I promised her that I would not get in the way of her studies and asked that she give me a chance to which she replied she would give me a chance.

So my question is this, I am dangerously close to being permanently moved into the 'Friend Zone'. What should I make sure to do on our 1st real date (seeing the movie pirates 3) to avoid going to the 'Friend zone'?

Thank you, those of you who actually helped.

                                 _  _
~Spock .\\//
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24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 03:00 ID:PfS0e0l7

stick it in her

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 03:05 ID:KM4wh7CD

Yeah, you are slowly falling into the friend zone. You begged her to give you a chance, and it seems like she is giving you one out of pity. She is a nice girl and won't do anything to hurt you, but if she doesn't like you, then there is nothing you can do about it. Just want to warn you.

As for a date, avoid the movie (Pirates 3 wasn't that good). Just one afternoon, head out to a coffee shop and just chill and talk with her. Ig the weather is nice, take a walk in the park. Just keep it nice and simple and most importantly FUN.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 03:53 ID:Heaven

>>23
What she said was pretty much a nice version of, no it's not going to work out.

27 Name: Spock : 2007-06-11 16:24 ID:+XJItM3b

Yeah, It does seem that way >>25, >>26. But as sad as it is I pray that things will work out for the better. It may be next to none but it is still a chance, right?

>>25 and as for the movie she was actually the one who had the idea of going to see it (It will be her 2nd time seeing it)

also, I dont know if this makes any difference but I got this e-mail the next day.
"Thank you very much. Don't we look good? Also thank you for asking me to go to the reenactment. That was fun.

                       ~Carolyn"
                             _  _
~Spock .\\//
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28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 23:58 ID:UCUj0Quw

Don't fool yourself, Spock... you're too easy on her. You need to show you're interested, not focus on being inobtrusive. Give up on this time: just stay friends with her and ask her for advice on what you can do better next time.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 00:12 ID:XQkNM6tw

The way the OP types is pissing me off so much... But I want to believe that not everyone on this board is a troll. But damn, the OP on this thread really pisses me off...

Anyway, Spock, I think she's into you. If she's willing to see a movie she already saw, chances are, she's not going to see the movie. She's going to see you. You're in a pretty good situation right now. Take it to the next level.

30 Name: Spock : 2007-06-14 10:33 ID:BBWPEhb/

Hey,
Well yesterday we saw the Pirates 3 movie. We both greatly enjoyed it.
However, my question is this... During the movie she let me put my arm around her but when I offered my arm while we were walking she declined and told me that I would have to wait till the next re-enactment. (which is sadly about 2 months)
PS - My computer has been acting strangely recently. It has been beeping every few letters and eather types 2 of a letter or none at all... anyone have any idea what this could be?

                         _  _
~Spock .\\//
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31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-14 20:20 ID:WL0nlgFU

Why do I misread the title of this thread EVERY TIME!!!!
as shadow of the pron......

baah

32 Name: Spock : 2007-06-16 01:18 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>31
mmmmmmmm...delicious pron.
I feel happy that I have found such delicious pron such as Haxxxors, nakkidnerds.com and whorecraft <3

33 Name: Spock : 2007-06-16 01:46 ID:BBWPEhb/

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 03:06 ID:Heaven

you can't be fucking serious.
this troll has gone on long enough
shoo fly, don't bother me

35 Name: Spock : 2007-06-16 04:16 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>34

Goddam it, I'm not a fucking troll.
You ask me to be less otaku-ish, I do so.
You ask me to avoid mention of my TV hero Densha, I do so
seriously, advice, not to troll. If I wanted to troll I would just do so on niggertits like you

                 _  _
~Spock .\\//
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36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 05:50 ID:Heaven

oh woah you made a cuss, i totally respect you now
gtfo and take your disgusting jay naylor mouse girl jesus jenny with you.
you're absolutely pitiful.

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 05:59 ID:KM4wh7CD

Some how I expected you to look like that

And she is not that bad either

38 Name: ... : 2007-06-16 13:20 ID:IKJJt8lF

I LOL'ed

39 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-06-16 15:43 ID:WL0nlgFU

.. That's one awesome dad..

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-16 20:39 ID:Heaven

you are much older then I thought

41 Name: Spock : 2007-06-17 17:18 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>40
...I'm 17

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-18 14:48 ID:Heaven

grow some hair, rid of the beard and glasses, come back. what the hell is up with that face...

43 Name: Spock : 2007-06-19 01:12 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>42
It's period for the 1860's and I <3 glasses.

44 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-19 01:45 ID:Heaven

Well the glasses and beard doesn't help with your look. And I'm sure some Rebels shaved.

45 Name: Spock : 2007-06-19 02:32 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>44
I'm a Federal, also I asked her if I should shave it or keep it and she told me to keep it. In addition she isn't really one to lie to make others feel better

46 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-19 05:33 ID:WL0nlgFU

what on earth is a federal. plz explain to all those not actually from the US of A

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-19 07:53 ID:Heaven

A fed? On here?

48 Name: Spock : 2007-06-19 14:09 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>46
During the American Civil War their were two opposing sides. The Rebellious Confederacy and the Federal Army.
The Federal army was from the northern parts of the US (mostly) and fought to preserve the union.
If you are interested in learning more about this I recommend that you check out the wiki on it... it's very well done :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_civil_war

49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-19 18:57 ID:Heaven

god, i actually can't hate you anymore.
you're so....so stupid.

50 Name: Spock : 2007-06-19 21:10 ID:BBWPEhb/

>>49
I <3 you too

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-19 22:07 ID:Heaven

>>50 sorry to break it down to you, but you look AWFUL, one the ugliest things I have seen. your head is off, your face is embarrassing to look at and you stand like a clown.IT might seem normal to you and people who you knew, but its just not fair to other people to look like that without even trying to fix it. listen to other's advise on your outlook, and do the same about your attitude. TAKE others ADVISE and stop pretending to be liberal when you are actually self centered.

52 Name: Spock : 2007-06-19 23:48 ID:BBWPEhb/

<3

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-21 00:43 ID:4a3osK1N

Hey, the people at my arcade got a huge laugh out of this shit. Nice job.

My coworker hopes you die in a fire.

54 Name: Spock : 2007-06-21 17:51 ID:BBWPEhb/

55 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-22 15:52 ID:vDV+rOjy

>>33

You're at least as attractive, physically, as that girl. Probably in a higher category, actually.

There's something off about your face though. I'm not sure if it's the facial hair or your expression. Try smiling with your mouth more open.

And while I doubt it'll attract the girls, I must salute your facial hair. Very gar.

56 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-22 17:27 ID:02mXmVQX

there's not really anything physically wrong with you. well, other than the facial hair. of course, that could potentially be a conversation starter... but mainly with guys, or the occasional fat chick. still, the potential is there.

57 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-22 18:48 ID:Heaven

are you kidding me?
this dude is disgusting.
period.

58 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-22 22:35 ID:Heaven

Wooooooh, nice <3

59 Name: Spock : 2007-06-30 21:24 ID:BBWPEhb/

Well it certainly has been a while, eh?

well to sum things up a while ago I found out from her friends the reason why she didn't agree when I asked he out in the past.. religion. As a non-christain she thought that he family wouldn't take the news too well.

I wound up going to her church for this big conversion thing. While I am not a Baptist I got to show her that I am open to different faiths. I also talked to her and set up a time where she would in return check out the local Zendo.

So to skip ahead a little bit she decided to give me a go :)
So it seems that in the end everything worked out OK (although I am not sure what her family really thinks of me. Also, I'll probably never have sex for a loooong time, but hey, I don't mind waiting)

also >>55, the reason why I don't smile too much is because my smile is hideous... I have quite an under bite although I should be getting corrective surgery this summer.
And as physical attraction I'm nowhere near as good looking as her. Everything about her (physicaly at least) is perfect.

Thank you >>3, >>4, >>5, >>7 and everyone else who gave me useful information.

PS - Now that everything is over, feel free to go crazy sageing it <3

60 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-02 01:36 ID:Heaven

>Everything about her (physicaly at least) is perfect.

now you're pushing it.

61 Name: Spock : 2007-07-02 07:30 ID:Heaven

Well to me her physical looks are perfect. The only things I might change would to be a bit taller.... and maybe braces too.

One must rember, I have a geek/nerd fetish <3

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